Had a F**k buddy. This girl and I had been friends for about a year. We were at a bar one night and she was telling me how hard it was to find someone to just hangout with. She said that she wasn't necessarliy looking for a relationship but really looking for someone to fool around with or have sex. Well, I had a few drinks so I offered my services. We had a verbal agreement that there would be no attachement because I was moving in a couple months. Mistake. She got attached. After I moved she asked me if we could continue some sort of relationship. Which I didn't really know if she was thinking on moving with me or not. Either way, I refused. I felt really bad about it, but we had a deal, I didn't let myself get attached. She understood. But there is no way I could ever do this again, I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. We're still friends and talk often but I still feel kind of weird about the whole situation. Bottom line: I do not claim to understand women. But, at 28 yrs old, the only thing I do know is that men are much less emotional.

Right now I have a Friend With Benefits, but as a virgin I'm not sure if it'll turn into a Fuck Buddy situation. I may change this decision later on depending on how I feel about it, but for the moment it's pretty much everything but fucking.

The emotional thing is pretty hard to do, but possible. Just keep yourself objective, make sure communication is clear, and make sure you and your partner are on the same level.

I tried this sort of relationship when I was a junior in high school, before I'd ever had a serious girlfriend. It was a relatively long-distance thing, we thought we'd just get together and do what we felt whenever one was in the other's town. It didn't work. I'm just too damn attractive, I guess. She was completely attached to me by round 2 and I had to cut it off because I didn't want a girlfriend, much less one that lived far away.

Of course, now that I'm with a woman I love exclusively and is very good about taking care of me, I don't need or want any 'friends with benefits'. I think that any sort of sexual act carries emotions with it that can't be ignored. I'm not trying it again.

Yeah i have 1 fuck buddy right now that i bang constantly, and a couple that just when they want can come over and get some. But yeah theyre around... friends that fuck are amazing.

My suspicion, and this thread seems to support it, is that many more guys than gals are willing to consider another as a FB.

I don't think that it's just a social stigma thing, that is, girls not wanting to be perceived as "that kind of girl."

I believe that it gets down a lot closer to the chemical makeup of the sexes. On the whole, guys do not have as strong of an urge to make a permanent bond as girls do. Be it the primal need to care for offspring, or what ever, it's there.

Likewise, guys, on the whole, are a lot more interested in casual and non comitial relationships.

The results are the same as they have always been, Guys feign more commitment than they actually feel, girls sometimes pretend to have less interest in a relationship than is really there.

But to answer your question, yes, they do exist but more often in the mind of the guy. You find very few girls who explain a guy as “oh, he’s just a guy that I sleep with sometimes.”

in my experience w/ several f*ck buddies it seems at some point after you have been buddies for a while one of you wants it to be more(in my experience it has been the girl) and that usually messes it up.

the best f*ck buddy i ever had was dating a guy who took her out to dinner and bought her flowers but didn't bang her right so she would come visit me :thumbsup: (maybe that isn't a f*ck buddy but it was great)

Sure seem to be Urban Legend in my case...I can't seem to find one. However, if there are any women in the SF Bay Area that would like to change that....

;)

But seriously, I know they do exsist, because I have several close friends in situations like that. They enjoy the non-commitment aspect of it.

I have a fuck buddy. Its a very sexually free relationship,because its only about sex. So its quite dirty. we only meet because we fancy each other, no other reason. it really adds a lot to the sex. when he is doing things to me its because it turns him on, not because he loves me or wants to please me, and that makes me very horny. i feel more powerful after being with him,as though i am free to articulate what turns me on and express my horniness.

Anyone interested in fuck buddying as a replacement for monogamy should read "The Ethical Slut" by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt. It's a good read, even if you don't abandon monogamy.

For buddies who fuck
 

Yeah they exist, but they usually have sentimental attatchment wheather they say so or not. Its usually hard to get more than one cause they become jealouse of each other. A friend of mine went out of town for a week and his fuck buddy ended up screwing the first guy that came along.

My best friend is a woman. We used to work together so dating/sex was out of the question, although I have always found her attractive. However, we no longer work together and are both between relationships. I think we both realize that we are not meant to date one another, but it is very hard to spend time together without me thinking of suggesting the fuck buddy scenario.

I know deep down that it would screw everything up friendship wise, but it is increasingly harder to keep my mind from going there. I think if we were'nt such good friends, the fuck buddy scenario would work.

to me ftf means people that have sex without the ups and downs of a relationship: strickly sex. So yeah they do exist. I used have some girls around the college like that until i met my gf and now honestly i regret it.

Shoot.. I had about 8 fuck buddies in college. 3 of em lived together and would randomly show up together. I can't tell you the number of classes I missed because fuck buddies would show up, the number of times I would wake up with a woman in my bed when I went to bed alone....

GOD DAMN I miss college.

Yep, they exist. I had a few while I was in college. Absolutely no desire for them to get in a relationship, it was purely about sex. And no, I am not assuming that they didn't want anything more.

Perfect example, I met this girl at a party who was a friend of a friend. She was a salesperson for somebody (I can't remember who) and she lived in an apartment with another woman who was a city cop. Well, we went back to her apartment to imbibe a little more and ended up on the floor playing cards with her roommate.

After about an hour of playing cards, she looked at me and asked if I would like to join them, as she was really horny and wanted to fuck her roommate.

Never has a decision been made as rapidly as that one. What followed was a good year of no holds barred sex, with absolutely no expectation of a relationship. It got to the point that she gave me a key to the apartment and I could stop over whenever. If either were home (or better yet if they both were) fun times were to be had by all.

The only thing that stopped it was I got engaged.

Damn it.....

Yep...
 

Two for me in college.

Lived in a frat house, one gal was a local & stopped out to just basically hang out regularly. Got to know each other & just started having sex when our paths crossed. There was no talk of anything beyond the few minutes to few hours we shared depending on the night.

Another one in college was a bartendress at the local watering hole my roomate & I frequented (they had 250 kinds of imported beer, when you drank them all you got a purple t-shirt that said "Hall Of Foam", a simple college conquest. At $3 per beer in 1990, I could have come up with better attire than a $7 t-shrit, oh well). Used to get together occasionally after class or work. Went in one night for the usual thing (beer & a burger, hoping for the usual thing afterwards), she introduced me to her fiancee' who was sitting next to me. I never talked to her after that, so I don't know if he knew what was going on or not...

Yes they do exist. As I call them Friends with Benefits. Mine has been going on over a year. Thank God they exist!!!

they definately exist.
neither of us wanted a relationship, and we are close friends so its a sweet deal.

You must be aware of the not so hidden danger of having a FB. I had one in university. We we just good friends who fooled around from time to time....
Next think I know we're married.
At least this way it started with friendship, the sex just sealed the deal.

Just an observation:

FB works well as an acronym for Fuck Buddy and Friend with Benefits!

good thread all. I've had a couple, and it was just great. I was single, she had a boyfriend so I felt a bit guilty for a while since he seems like a nice guy.

Cheers,
Phil

I have never been that lucky to have one but sure sounds interesting

I know that this does happen and is not a urban legand Because my buddy had several. I drive drop him off then go chill and come back and pick him up

that sounds kind of like a bum deal there viper.
you drop him off wait around and then pick him up when hes done?
try and get in on some of those :o

yes, they do exist....
a friend that ive had for...well, 5 or so years, hooked up a few weekends ago. i had recently broken up with my g/f and i called her up and wanted to go hang out. hanging out turned into drinking and then you know the rest.

I was in high school and I had sex for the first time with an attractive and *very* busty clarinetist who was also a junior. We were together at the time, but after a while the relationship part just sort of fizzled. Having now been initiated into the club, as it were, I was naturally anxious to find any further opportunities to have sex, and it turned out (though I don't quite remember how we came to this arrangement) that she was agreeable to hooking up on a regular basis. She taught me quite a lot about fucking, needless to say, and I don't think I've quite found a pair of breasts that matched up (down?) to those since.

At our 10-year reunion a couple years back I did run into her. She was married, and we made some small talk. It was not uncomfortable, but oh did it bring back the memories.

I had the best fuck buddy for the longest time. Then she fell in love (and 6 months later I fell in love) and we ended up getting married. I can't wait to have to answer a kids question about how mommy and daddy met....

Well you see, mommy lived in the dorm next to daddy's and she would come over twice a day for sex - which suited daddy fine because he was dating another girl already who wouldn't put out...

I really dont think they exist without one of the two parties eventually going crazy. Thus is my experience at least. No matter how much the "no-strings" aspect is spoken about, in the two experiences i've had the girl has gotten attached more so than agreed upon and the whole thing has blown up in my face.

Fuck buddies definately do exist, my roommate has a girl whom he sleeps with frequently (almost nightly), but doesn't spend the night with. They will get together for a fuck and then he will come back to his room and she stays in hers. She often doesn't come around and they rarely acknowledge each other if they pass in the halls. She isn't a friend whom he sleeps with, they just enjoy each other sexually. They hook up with other people in bars, but both are currently single. However, they seek out other people to have a relationships with. I'm not saying that this situation would continue if they met someone else, but for the time being they seem happy with it.

I have one!!! And it's nice because he knows all the right buttons to push but there's nothing else to worry about, no emotions involved, no weirdness. And we're good friends on top of it. We're quite able to keep it all separated which I think is rather nice. The worst part of it is that we don't have sex nearly often enough for my tastes. Once a week just doesn't cut the mustard.

It can be done, but it has to be understood that there has to be NO feelings involved. Its just sex, thats it

i would say now... fuck buddies are few and far in between. i had a fuck buddy for a while before i got serious with another girl. we would meet once or a couple times a week just for sex...there were no emotional attachments. i'd still say there are few women that go for that

Fuck buddies most certainly exist
 

I have one right now..I go out and do my thing with my friends..if I get home early enough, I'll give her a call and she comes over. Sometimes we go out togeather with a group of friends..*shrugs* we're friends..that have sex.. It feels good, it's nice to have someone to sleep with (I mean both senses of the word) without ANY of the relationship pressure.

Fuck buddies do exist, atleast for a little while. My personal experience has always been that after a while, weeks or months, girls start getting attached and possessivenss/jealousy rear their ugly heads, ruining what was a great relationship. I once maintained this type of relationship for almost a year with a 'friend.'

I had one for a very short time while in college... it was great.

Fuck buddies do exist. BUT something always screws up and ruins it. It no one fault, but eventually you start to, I guess, fall in love. I have never had a fuck buddy, but I know a girl that had one for a while. Until he started a rumor about her.

I currently have a "fuck buddie". We've known each other for about 5 yrs. Been FB's for about 4yrs. The few people that I've told about it say it's too good to be true. She calls me once in awhile. "hey I need some. Can you come over?" kind of thing. I sometimes see her twice a week or as little as once in 3-4 months. She's really busy with a home business and has no time for "outside activities". I go to her house, do the deed and I get the heck out. I sometimes don't even get a kiss :(

I've had a couple of them in the past. The arrangements usually end when either of us lands a serious relationship/engagement. Usually that's learned when making a booty call - so you end up more frustrated than ever.
One ex-fuck buddy called me a couple of months after she got married. I had to turn her down- I didn't like the idea of treading on marriage. It wasn't easy because we had a long history before she got hitched-up.

A word of advice about maintaining a FB status. Sometimes it's not wise ask too much about their personal life (assuming you both are in different social circles). Such involvement treads dangerously close to BF/GF territory. Unless you are willing to cope with the responsibility of a committed relationship just respect their privacy.
e.g. If they've just had a major breakup or tragedy and called you for sex don't encumber the encounter by asking her to elaborate more on her situation. Just be there and be what she wants you to be. Believe me, you'd want the same courtesy if you had to call her for any reason.

yeah i think they exist...but use caution. The last thing you want to hear..."we need to talk"

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Yes, I had a few in college. All friends that end up taking care of things after hours, then F-ing was only a phone call away. They all started out nice, then after a while the girl would always want more. That's when I would bow out. The friendship would suffer, but not too bad. 1 was all good and we are still friends (just friends as I'm married now) today. Man, I miss college! *tear

I think the biggest problem I face with mine is that I think he thinks I want more sometimes, which is not true. Any time I express any kind of affection for him--we're very good friends--I think he misconstrues it as being romantic interest, which it isn't. It's also very hard to let someone know you don't have romantic feelings for them. It just seems awkward.

Yeah. That's why FBs seem to work out best if it's someone from a different social circle. One FB of mine worked at the register of a confectionary shop. We had a one-night thing, and then settled into a FB arrangement. Then, one evening, she confessed that she used to be much better at giving head. Well, I made the mistake of asking the story behind that statement. I learned that she once had an abusive BF who smacked her so hard he broke her jaw. She was hospitalized with her jaw wired shut and still has some loss of sensation in part of her mouth and face. That was more detail than I needed to hear and it introduced the weight of emotional responsibility to our meetings. That weight worked against the convenience of having a FB to begin with. We still fucked but it wasn't the same.

Fuck buddies existed for me before I got married...haha!

Really, I knew one in my early 20s - actually from 19 to 21. That was rare. I don't know if she really qualified as a fuck buddy because she was my girlfriend's best friend. Honestly, she propositioned me for casual sex and at the time, I was 19, I thought I'd regret it if I did do it and I'd regret it if I didn't do it. Now, looking back, I realize that there were many more hot women after that one and the greater regret was losing the woman I loved(eventually after I was caught).

After that I didn't know any fuck buddies until my later 20s. Then I found them quite often. Sometimes they were married, oftentimes they were about to get a divorce. Anyway, the casual sex thing did fulfill a need I had for quite awhile because I had just exited a marriage. At that time I viewed women as tools to fulfill my needs and thats all I needed. Finally I met my current and final wife and I'm happy and fulfilled. However, it wasn't sex that made us true...it was our personality and chemistry.

I know so many guys that marry the first woman they fuck. If only they could enjoy fuck-buddies, than they could wait for the right match to come along. Believe me, the fuck buddies are out there.