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NoSoup 06-30-2003 09:24 PM

Yes, they do exist.

Mine was a coworker, Emily, that I got along with exceptionally well. She was an incredible person, and we were pretty good friends. After we had been friends for a while, (Not sure exactly how long, probably 6 months) We began sleeping with each other. Neither one of us had any misperception that we would ever be more than friends, and I believe that that is key. That way, no one gets jealous, and if one person decides to date someone, it was a given that we would stop messing around.

However, sex, at least in my mind, is a necessity for a healthy, happy person. Who better to sleep with than someone you trust and get along with? (Providing of course, you are not currently with someone else)

On a sidenote, an interesting situation arose one time when we decided to go on a double date. (Not as dates, we both were set up w/ someone else) Halfway through dinner, we couldn't stand the company anymore and so we left and went to her place. Seeing the look on our dates' face was priceless....

Just thought I would share.

Meridae'n 06-30-2003 11:44 PM

I've had about 5 during the years, mostly when i was at uni. The most notable one was when i put my number into this chick's mobile phone when she was talking to one of my mates. She then text me the next week wanting to know who i was... yada yada yada, 3 weeks later she drove 2 and a half hours to stay with me. Turned out her sister went to the same uni, so she came over about once a month or so... no strings. Too easy. Best things ever...

TIO 07-01-2003 01:59 AM

Yeah, they exist. I have one at the moment. They aren't hard to find around a college, provided you have the right 'tude. There were issues at the start, but it is smooth sailing now.

mindy 07-01-2003 07:36 AM

Oh yeah! They exist and when you think about it, it works out pretty well. You get happy and don't have to worry about the L word... (It works as long as both parties understand that is what is al it is)

Mutant X 07-01-2003 08:57 AM

I have to admit that nearly every single fuck buddy i have ever had has turned out to become someone who became very emotionally attached to me and at some point destroyed the fundamental code of the fuck buddies which is: A fuck buddy is not a boyfriend/girlfriend.

Once this occured, the fuck buddy relationship was always terminated. I've had fuck buddies going all the way back to high school where i would hook up with a girl and totally understand that there was nothing more to it than just the fucking. But as i stated previously, it always ended up crossing over into relationship landing and therefore sabotouging the fuck buddy relationship. They can be fun, but they tend to end on bad terms. At least in my case.

Loup 07-01-2003 01:49 PM

Yes they do.
Been there, done that.
I'm in a serious relationship now where basically I don't need one.

crayzeeredhead 07-18-2003 05:28 PM

ok honesty is the best policy so..............
Yes F*CK buddies do exist i have had several in my late teens, early twenties and recently. But, most of those relationships have a down fall, that being once you start just having sexx with someone and its a long term no commitment thing you could develop feelings for that person and cant cross a line established at the beginnign of the f*ck relationship. even if you both want the same thing!!

GoldenOuroboros 07-18-2003 06:17 PM

Knew a few.. never actually did it.. :)

Donkeypuncher 07-18-2003 06:37 PM

Seems like there have always been one or two available when I've been between relationships. It's someone familiar and safe and lasts until one of us starts dating someone else seriously.

There has always been an understanding at the outset and if anyone else is to be involved, all parties need to be notified so someone can bow out if not comfortable.

As a side note, at least half of the sexual 'adventures' I've been on over the years have happened with a FB... or two... or three (what happens in Vegas... STAYS in Vegas). Without the usual relationship strings, hilarity tends to ensue.

07-18-2003 09:21 PM

Yup - they absolutely exist. I had a few in my late teens, after a long term relationship. Some of the best sex I ever had, but I usually became attached somehow.

I know of a married couple that practices an open marriage. Each of them has 2-3 FTF at any given time.

nulltype 07-18-2003 09:31 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by *Nikki*
I am sure just about any man would be up for a "fuck buddy" situation.

I myself would never do that though. I don't fuck just anybody.

I am begining to suspect that this is really an over-generalization of men. I think the common perception is that the vast majority of men would like such a situation when in actuallity, it may be a majority, but probably not as vast as thought. Meanwhile, women who would like such a situation may be a minority, but not as small a minority as generally thought.

sub zero 07-18-2003 10:57 PM

Of course they exist. I've been asked to been offered fuck buddys several times, but have turned them down. I DID have a g/f at the time.

Mel 07-18-2003 11:12 PM

Yeah, they are anyone who you casually fuck with no strings attatched :P

Gebbinn 07-19-2003 12:24 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by nulltype
I am begining to suspect that this is really an over-generalization of men. I think the common perception is that the vast majority of men would like such a situation when in actuallity, it may be a majority, but probably not as vast as thought. Meanwhile, women who would like such a situation may be a minority, but not as small a minority as generally thought.
Amen to that. Personally, I think it is really a minority on BOTH sides that would actually turn down a FB situation, so long as they are not involved with anyone at the time. IE, if your single and unattatched, MOST people, wether male or female, would be willing to have a FB. Just my opinion. I personally have never in my life had a FB. But then again, I was married for 10 years and would NEVER cheat on my significant other, so for me I have just never looked for one.

hermpes 07-19-2003 05:31 PM

Yeah, they exist. I remember reading an article about them being a big fad in Japan a year or two ago. They were concerned with health risks. But as long as you know who you're having sex with is clean, I don't think you have anything to worry about.

Personally, I have a guy fuck buddy. He's one of my best friends. Basically how it works is when we're both horny we do a little this and that. Although, it's quite hard to get him turned on. (yes, he's a guy...isn't that weird?)

Steve Carozzino 07-19-2003 09:49 PM

When I was 16, I was friends with a 19-year old senior in high school. I was over at her house one day and her parents were at an auto race and her sisters were at work or out with friends and we had nothing better to do. So we were just watching movies and complaining about not having anything better to do. So she suggested that we do it. God damn, to this day I'm very happy that she didn't care about the stupid laws...

Craven Morehead 07-19-2003 10:14 PM

Coincidently a FB from 15 years ago 'found' me on Friday via email. Wow, what a suprise. She lives 150 miles away. Both of us are married, not going to be a repeat, but it sure was a pleasant surprise. Nice memories.

Stinky Pee 07-20-2003 12:59 AM

Many times I prefer to bed those with whom I've known as friends and continue to know as friends. On one hand, I know them well and am comfortable with sleeping with them, and on the other hand, we both know and are explicit on the fact that we are both just friends, but we happen to have great bouts of slap-and-tickle together.

DEI37 07-20-2003 05:43 AM

You bet they do. We've got several, and it's fun!!!

lt.cyx 07-20-2003 09:41 AM

yeah, had 2. both around my age, 21-24. Nice little thing to have.

oh, both were my ex-girlfriends when they become FBs.

nohtazk 07-20-2003 11:00 AM

Yeah, theres this close friend of mine that I fuck from time to time. For the first one and a half years I knew her in High SHcool, we were very close friends -- I mean, we talekd about everything...she was one of the best people to confront with life problems (and she did the same to me). Inside though, we both knew we found eachother attractive, but never came out with the emotions.

Eventually, I invited her over to just hang out (she was the kind of girl that - while hot - could easily be 'one of the guys'), but we ended up trading off oral sex. When we were done, we didnt exactly about it, and continued on. Eventually, we escilated to sex, and got together to fuck like once a month on avarage.

We never date, or do anything else someone in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Infact, before I was going out with my current girlfriend (basicly, when we were just kind of fliting) me and my 'fuck buddy' hooked up a few times (but didnt have sex, because she knew I was about to go out with this chick).

Since I have a GF, we don't do it fuck anymore, but ofcoruse, we're still great firends. I dont think the sex has affected the firendship to much either, expcept that we're a little closer physically when we're hanging out alone (cuddling, hand-holding, etc).

This girl wasnt my only friend whom I fooled around with/fucked. I've had two others, except we never fucked -- just hooked up/oral sexed. So to answer the title: Ofcoruse they exist!

motdakasha 07-20-2003 01:39 PM

I think I'm currently in my 5th or 6th FWB semi-relationship. When it happens, I'm never really sure of what is going on. We both live relatively far and are busy with school and whatnot. So for us, it's a matter of convenience and attraction.

rexcruz 07-21-2003 07:45 AM

Not Legend
 
Yes, They do exist. But I find that women over 30 are more open to the idea of just having sex without any immediate committment. Younger gals definitely seem to want the committment whether they admit it or not. So they really never become true "fuck" buddies. Just girls who fuck in hopes of something more.

leprechaun 07-21-2003 11:37 AM

it is weird that you started this thread I was wondering the same thing about two months ago when I broke up with a long time B/F. I wanted to have sex with someone no strings attached, I quickly foung out that it does exsist. Althought I am new to the whole thing so Im not sure about etiquette........

Lazy Alan 07-21-2003 09:59 PM

They exist... did it in college, the navy, and all the way back in high school

gcrgcr 07-21-2003 10:05 PM

If they exist for me, they exist for
 
anyone... seriously, I had one and it wasn't a likely thing... fun while it lasted... ahh youth... :)

MrFlux 07-21-2003 10:06 PM

Umm... was this post supposed to be a reply to the "Fuck Buddies" thread?

cheerios 07-22-2003 12:48 AM

and now it is. ;)

abelak 07-22-2003 01:45 AM

From my experience it always starts off great and everyone has a great time. But after sometime - emotion seems to creep in and mucks up the water. In the end you wonder if it was all worth it. It's very easy for people to say, "It is just sex." But very hard to keep just sex.

angela146 07-27-2003 08:26 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by gibber71

I was told once that because I choose this lifestyle, I have loose morals. This from a woman who was twice divorced and cheating on her fiance with her boss. Like I said before,whatever floats your boat.

Ah, yes: Somehow it's OK to break a vow of "till death do us part" but having sex with a good friend is immoral.

I have had a few FBs over the years. My husband knows about them and has been part of most of the F'ing.

Actually, I have more "sex buddies", i.e. men and women who I have had varrying kinds of non-penetrating sex with.

Physical pleasure with a friend is a good thing.

Jesus Malverde 07-27-2003 10:53 PM

Hmmm, I suppose I have a fuck buddy right now. But its more like she likes me a hell of a lot more than I like her, so she lets me have sex with her. She's hot, but I'm moving far far away from her soon so I don't want to get involved. Its pretty cool being able to fuck her and not have to pay for her dinner and movies and shit like that hahaha.

The.Lunatic 07-27-2003 11:31 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by blkdmnd
Yep, we're out here. One of mine was in my mid twenties. I was bartending and she was a barfly. She was 36 and had the body of a 19 yo. Never married and horny as hell. I think she may have had aspirations of there being more than what it was but, she never said so. Sex was great. I mean really great. I still think about it 15 years later.
Wow, thats quite the story actually, I do know a kid who would've had a fuck buddy. The bassically came to the conclusion that they were both really horney, and were young, and wanted to try it. Regardless the guy was nervous couldn't get it up and it never happend, however they do exist.

Fuck buddies seems sketchy. I don't even wanna know the statistics of 30 year olds w/ STDs its like 1in3 or 1in4

Being intimint with sombody your in love with, and deeply care for is significantly better than just a casual fuck.

Howver if you get the opertunity wrap your shit and fuck the hell out of her bro :D

anteros 08-01-2003 04:23 PM

I need to find some of these girls.

smaashed 08-01-2003 04:33 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by riptide4070
I've had two fuck buddies. Those situations always mess with my head and heart. Mine don't last long but I have tried.
I hear ya...I had a fuck buddy once. It didn't start out that way, but kinda ended up that way. I don't think I'd do that again. Too much crap to deal with.

collide 08-01-2003 05:08 PM

Yes, they do; particularly in the polyamoury community (or in open relationships).

Katyblu 08-01-2003 06:10 PM

I had 2 FB's in college... With both of them I was friends with them before we had sex. With one of them we were just hanging out bored and drinking or something and just decided to have sex. Mostly we would just hang out and have a good time but occasionally we would have sex. Definitely anytime either of us really needed it we would call each other and "hang out." With me FB had to be friends, I had an emotional bond with them but nothing that went further than friends, it was just having a good time with someone you already enjoy hanging out with.

SoRetarded 08-01-2003 08:00 PM

I was never the "fuck buddy" I was however the "fall back guy" or the "intellectual whore" as some people like to call it. Anyone who shares my pain may want to check out the ladder theory. I can's say I agree with all of it, but there are certainly some nuggets of wisom to be found http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

kel 08-01-2003 10:16 PM

I have one right now...until she finds someone else and get's off my case... that shouldn't take long

lemming 08-02-2003 12:36 AM

yeah they exist..but i think that in most situations there is one of the two that likes the other more than just a "fuck buddy". but thats just from what i have seen=)

Rainmountain 08-02-2003 08:48 AM

This is a great concept, but I am not much good opening up a conversation with a woman about the weather let alone "how do you feel about a little casual sex"?
Oh well, maybe someday a girl will ask me that but I won't hold my breath.:)


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