Am I Impotent?
 

Well,
Me and my girlfriend have been going out for, what feels like....ages...and lately we've been getting pretty intimate. I've had a few girlfriends before but we made out or I rubbed their clit. So I'm still a virgin at 18 -_-. My girlfriend is also a virgin and she seems pretty happy when I know what to do to make her feel good. She is 18 also. Lately we have been thinking about having intercourse. But my primary concern is whether I'm impotent or not.

It just doesn't point to the sky, if u know what I mean. It definately does erect. We(My girlfriend and I) would make out and touch each other and my penis would get really hard, but when she starts to give me a handjob after 5 minutes or so, it would die down being slightly less hard but still erected. My girlfriend never touched another person's penis before so she wouldnt know if mine is broke or not. I DO SMOKE! Perhaps that is the issue and lately I've been smoking a bagillion (alot). I enjoy smoking, but if its for sex its definately worth giving up.

1. My question is, to have sex do I need a strong pointing penis like some people in pornos have?

2. Do I need viagra or something because my penis doesnt stay as erected as I would like it to be? I've tried to look on the internet for natural excercises or something. I found "Kegel Excercises" but isnt that for pregnant chicks?

3. Cigarette boxes have "warning may cause impotency" on the box. Is it affecting me?

She's on a trip with family for a week, so I would like to give her a welcome back present :) Please help me with your advice.

Seek advice from your doctor.

sounds like performance anxiety related issues. (think there may be some threads on her about that) Smoking will never help anything healthwise, but as you are young that is unlikely the issue. If you are extremely concerned, see a doctor as jetstream mentioned.

It is amazing how depression and anxiety affects sexual performance. Although I am certain depression is not the case with you.

Here is a stupid question for you? Are you completely turned on by your gf? Is there anything about her physically that could potentially turn you off?

Talking to a doctor would not hurt.

My advice to you, never compare yourself to a porn actor.

Why don't you try to have sex with what you've got, and if it doesn't work, then seek advice.

first time at it after a year long dry spell (prostate infection) i couldn't cum. relax and it will come. you'll be fine, if it doesn't work after the first few tries (over a few nights) talk with your doctor.

Dilbert is on the money mate, just relax about it.

Firstly, if you're not a heavy smoker, try giving it up, it doesn't do you any good anyways. And no, I'm not a preacher, I'm a smoker myself, but I feel soooooooo much better when I'm not smoking. If you are a heavy smoker, maybe think about patches.

Secondly, DO NOT TAKE VIAGRA AT YOUR AGE! apart from being completely unnecessary, it is also a health risk to younger people who have a perfectly healthy sex drive.

I think you guys just need to figure out together what will keep you hard, and have plenty of fun exploring ;)

The chief piece of advise, as Dilbert pointed out, just relax about it dude, I'm sure you're girlfriend will have just as much anxiety about it as you do right now.

my girlfriend isnt hot.....she's pretty attractive to my somewhat high standards. Though she doesnt do anything "sexy", and I talked to her about that and she seems to agree.

I suppose smoking definitely has something to do with my pointer not going to its max. Today I attempted quiting smoking but at the end of the day I was begging for a few drags from my friends smoke. I thought about patches, and nicorette gum, though im not financially wealthy, it should be cheaper than cigarettes and spliffs. Does marijuana also effect intimacy? My non-virgin friend told me when your high you get alot more aroused and sex is alot better.

Well hopefully your girlfriend isn't reading this...that's kind of hurtful.
I wouldn't advise the weed route either, just try to stick with quiting smoking. It's a NASTY habit, and bad for you.

Try watching some porn together and just getting to a relaxed state with one another, should ease the tension.

Good luck!

Everyone wang is different. Yours might not be a "pointing at the sky" model. That's fine. It's not angle so much as firmness that you should be interested in.

I get distracted fairly easily in bed, and I need fairly frequent changes of tempo, position, activity. A five minute hand-job would have me go soft too. My mind starts to wander, next thing you know I'm thinking about that conversation with that client this afternoon, and it's limpsville. Doesn't mean I'm impotent--it just means I need to know myself and do what I have to do to stay "there".

Why are you comparing yourself to pornos? Porn has NOTHING to do with real life. I'd stay as far away from that comparison as possible. You are who you are, and your penis is fine the way it is. Hell, I'd say the less it looks like a porn star's, the better.

Are you also comparing your "not hot" girlfriend to a porn star, btw?

Also, it's already been said here, but I would think any kind of smoking (pot or cigarettes) is not going to "improve" anything for you. If anything, it will decrease your performance.

You won't know if you're impotent until you actually try to have sex, though.

When I first started having sex I had performance anxiety and it made having sex really impossible, but if you just take your time and be save you'll do fine. Asking questions like, "Am I impotent" when you haven't even attempted to have sex is just a back asswards type of logic. Try it. If you get erect or pretty close to erect then try and put it in. Go slowly. If it isn't erect enough try choking up on it and making a small portion more erect with pressure. Go from there.

I would attempt sex before you start seeking medical attention.

Quickie question to the OP - do you have the same issues masturbating, or is this just with your girlfriend?

If you're rubbing them out like the pros, then the problem is most likely a performance-anxiety type thing. If you have the same issues with self-love, then there could be something medically wrong & you should see your Dr.

Sammy