21 and no libido? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

glooper23 · 06-26-2007, 05:20 PM

I'm 21 years old, and I have a problem. Before I explain - I know doctors and psychologists can help me a lot more than you can. Doctors are out of the question at the moment, and my psychiatric life is filled with other matters at the moment. I figure I'd vent and see if anyone else has dealt with this.

For reasons I'm trying to find, my ability to feel "horny" is gone. I can't think of a better way to explain it other than that. I masturbate about as regularly as I ever have.. on average it's about 5 times a week. Since January, I have been under a lot of stress that has also taken away my interest in many things. I'm really hoping this problem is due to the stress, because it's starting to bother me a lot. Whenever I see a provocative video or female image, I'm hardly phased. That is, I mentally don't get anything from it, but I can still work myself up to an erection and, ultimately, orgasm. When I take a week off from masturbating, I physically feel horny, but I still am not mentally attracted. Watching good porn used to get me going immediately.. even thinking about it or past girlfriends. Now, nothing works. I've tried all sorts of porn to see if something would get me going, and it's not doing anything.

I haven't felt any sharp pains in my groin area, though I have felt a little discomfort coming from my testicle area. It's not enough to get myself to a doctor, but I've noticed it. I also have noticed that I will frequently go to the bathroom. There are times when (I drink a ton of water) I will go to the bathroom 10+ times a day, though it's not always like that. I was considering that maybe my prostate is enlarged, so that's something I should talk to a doctor about.

Regardless, I'm so confused.. I feel like nothing turns me on.. if a girl walked in here and started flirting with me, I would get an erection and be able to have sex. But, the feeling is definitely not the same, anymore. The whole thing feels dulled.. much like with the rest of my life. I have been severely depressed before, however, and this was never an issue. This only became a problem a month ago, so I need to figure out what's up.

Does anyone have an opinion or advice? I struggle to go without masturbating longer than a week, so I'm not sure if that's considered an addiction or what. By the time I stretch it out that long, I become very physically horny, though the sexual images hardly turn me on.

Plan9 · 06-27-2007, 02:40 AM

It's okay, bro. (pats ya on the back)

I'm not much older and I have a smooth spot like a Ken doll.

...

In all seriousness? You need a doctor. It's call pre-empt, man.

MrFriendly · 06-27-2007, 09:24 PM

You're all good mate.

I'd be willing to bet that what you're experiencing is purely mental.

I went through something similar last year and basically became asexual for about 6 months. I think there was even a period of about a month when I didn't even masturbate.

It was mainly down to stress, a very nasty bout of depression, and basically just a lot of shit going down.

Don't let the fact that you're not getting aroused freak you out though. Just deal with the shit in your life that needs your urgent attention, and once you starting dealing with what ever issues you might have, you'll find it will come back.............in my case it came back with vengeance

Take it easy dude, I hope you find your mojo again soon :-)

Plan9 · 06-28-2007, 07:15 AM

I'd just be worried if my crotchbat didn't always hop around like a kangaroo.

Even in the midst of a combat deployment and horrible divorce... that thing wouldn't stop. I was so depressed I didn't want to eat, but I'd still wake up with a rock hard all-good female-injection device just groaning to go.

MrFriendly · 06-28-2007, 01:43 PM

Crompsin, a stressed mind will manifest itself in all sorts of weird and wonderful ways, and it will affect each person differently.

I have a buggered thyroid, so my hormones are up shit creek at the best of times (believe me, this alone does interesting things). So I'm starting to loose a grip on things the first thing to happen is my libido goes MIA.

glooper23 · 06-28-2007, 01:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrFriendly

Crompsin, a stressed mind will manifest itself in all sorts of weird and wonderful ways, and it will affect each person differently.

I have a buggered thyroid, so my hormones are up shit creek at the best of times (believe me, this alone does interesting things). So I'm starting to loose a grip on things the first thing to happen is my libido goes MIA.

Thanks, man.

mandy · 06-29-2007, 12:41 AM

i, sadly have had bouts of libido loss from time to time. when i'm just not interested in any way shape or form of sexual activity.

sadly, it has taken it's toll on both healer and I because both of us love sex so much...well we love eachother so much too so that makes it like infinity times better.

i cant really offer you any more help than the other guys have already offered you but i just wanted you to know that I, as a girl, also share your difficulty as well as many other women i'm sure, and men.

so, you are definitely not alone in this.

06-26-2007, 05:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
glooper23 Banned	21 and no libido? I'm 21 years old, and I have a problem. Before I explain - I know doctors and psychologists can help me a lot more than you can. Doctors are out of the question at the moment, and my psychiatric life is filled with other matters at the moment. I figure I'd vent and see if anyone else has dealt with this. For reasons I'm trying to find, my ability to feel "horny" is gone. I can't think of a better way to explain it other than that. I masturbate about as regularly as I ever have.. on average it's about 5 times a week. Since January, I have been under a lot of stress that has also taken away my interest in many things. I'm really hoping this problem is due to the stress, because it's starting to bother me a lot. Whenever I see a provocative video or female image, I'm hardly phased. That is, I mentally don't get anything from it, but I can still work myself up to an erection and, ultimately, orgasm. When I take a week off from masturbating, I physically feel horny, but I still am not mentally attracted. Watching good porn used to get me going immediately.. even thinking about it or past girlfriends. Now, nothing works. I've tried all sorts of porn to see if something would get me going, and it's not doing anything. I haven't felt any sharp pains in my groin area, though I have felt a little discomfort coming from my testicle area. It's not enough to get myself to a doctor, but I've noticed it. I also have noticed that I will frequently go to the bathroom. There are times when (I drink a ton of water) I will go to the bathroom 10+ times a day, though it's not always like that. I was considering that maybe my prostate is enlarged, so that's something I should talk to a doctor about. Regardless, I'm so confused.. I feel like nothing turns me on.. if a girl walked in here and started flirting with me, I would get an erection and be able to have sex. But, the feeling is definitely not the same, anymore. The whole thing feels dulled.. much like with the rest of my life. I have been severely depressed before, however, and this was never an issue. This only became a problem a month ago, so I need to figure out what's up. Does anyone have an opinion or advice? I struggle to go without masturbating longer than a week, so I'm not sure if that's considered an addiction or what. By the time I stretch it out that long, I become very physically horny, though the sexual images hardly turn me on.

06-27-2007, 02:40 AM	#2 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	It's okay, bro. (pats ya on the back) I'm not much older and I have a smooth spot like a Ken doll. ... In all seriousness? You need a doctor. It's call pre-empt, man. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

06-27-2007, 09:24 PM	#3 (permalink)
MrFriendly Psycho Location: Australia	You're all good mate. I'd be willing to bet that what you're experiencing is purely mental. I went through something similar last year and basically became asexual for about 6 months. I think there was even a period of about a month when I didn't even masturbate. It was mainly down to stress, a very nasty bout of depression, and basically just a lot of shit going down. Don't let the fact that you're not getting aroused freak you out though. Just deal with the shit in your life that needs your urgent attention, and once you starting dealing with what ever issues you might have, you'll find it will come back.............in my case it came back with vengeance Take it easy dude, I hope you find your mojo again soon :-) __________________ You are not a slave

06-28-2007, 07:15 AM	#4 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	I'd just be worried if my crotchbat didn't always hop around like a kangaroo. Even in the midst of a combat deployment and horrible divorce... that thing wouldn't stop. I was so depressed I didn't want to eat, but I'd still wake up with a rock hard all-good female-injection device just groaning to go. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

06-28-2007, 01:43 PM	#5 (permalink)
MrFriendly Psycho Location: Australia	Crompsin, a stressed mind will manifest itself in all sorts of weird and wonderful ways, and it will affect each person differently. I have a buggered thyroid, so my hormones are up shit creek at the best of times (believe me, this alone does interesting things). So I'm starting to loose a grip on things the first thing to happen is my libido goes MIA. __________________ You are not a slave

06-29-2007, 12:41 AM	#7 (permalink)
mandy Addict Location: Port Elizabeth, South Africa	i, sadly have had bouts of libido loss from time to time. when i'm just not interested in any way shape or form of sexual activity. sadly, it has taken it's toll on both healer and I because both of us love sex so much...well we love eachother so much too so that makes it like infinity times better. i cant really offer you any more help than the other guys have already offered you but i just wanted you to know that I, as a girl, also share your difficulty as well as many other women i'm sure, and men. so, you are definitely not alone in this. __________________ The Imagination equips us to see a reality we have yet to create