Anal Sex - Male Desire it - Yes or no
 

I am very curious to know other male attitudes towards anal sex with women.

Specifically, do you as a normal heterosexual male desire anal sex or not? (I.e. to penetrate a woman)

The reason I ask is because I enjoy anal sex from time to time with a woman. I view it as a bit of a kink, there is something a bit nasty about it, however, I consider it a fairly normal male desire.

A woman that I was recently dating seemed to feel that my desire for anal sex was definitely a minority position among the general male population. She seemed to feel that only a small percentage of men out there desire to penetrate their woman's peach. My position was (and is) that most men at least desire anal sex from time to time to down right live for it.

Hence my totally scientific poll here.

I would like to know how many men on here desire anal sex, and how many don't desire it, and how many are disgusted by it and would never do it.

Women, feel free to pipe in, I'll set up some questions for you too.

Clarification, the poll is set up - male giving, female receiving. Pegging would be another poll - coming soon to a channel near you.

I like it.


I dated a girl that was way into it. That got me way in to it. My girlfriend now hates it. So I don't much care anymore.

Im assuming the female choices are for women who want it, not women who give it so there is no option for me (unless Im wrong)

My hubby loves loves loves it and I love to do it to him (I have my own strap on for just such occasions)

I've never really considered it, and I don't think the idea is very appealing to me.
(note: I'm not turned off by the idea, it just isn't a specific turn on for me)

If my SO wanted to try it, I wouldn't say no. But it has never been brought up...

Edit: Like Shanifaye said, I assumed by the wording of your question that you meant anal sex as man-to-woman. Whereas the other way around is also possible, and my thoughts lie a little bit more on the adventureous side there ;)

The poll is set up for male giving, female receiving. (Just for the sake of being consistent.)

The poll is not set up for those females who enjoy pegging. Another day perhaps.

I do enjoy pegging as well, but that would put this poor woman that I know completely over the top I am afraid. (As would some of my other sexual desires I am sure.)

I have clarified, thanks for pointing that out. The poll is strictly female receiving, so the options would be for you - do you enjoy receiving anal or not. In so many words.

I did it on several occasions with an ex. She enjoyed it on occasion and I enjoyed it on occasion. Brought a bit of variety into the act. I wouldn't want anal sex every time, but the occasional treat is great.

I picked "I am male, have never made it a part of my sex life, but would if she asked."

I'm not a fan of anal intercourse. I'll do it for her pleasure if she asks, but I would never initiate it as I find it a bit disgusting, personally. It's just not my cup of tea. Nothing even comes close to vaginal intercourse.

Not judging you, however, if you have never done it, how would you know what it felt like to be able to make the comparison to vaginal sex that "nothing even comes close"???

I totally understand your position as it's not for everyone for sure.

As to the feeling, it's different, more like the initial penetration is extremely different, however, the ultimate sensations are fairly similar (i.e. vaginal / anal).

It's a different process, different penetration and hugely kinky.

I always figure there is a perfectly good vagina in that general vicinity anyway so... I've just never been a fan of it. I don't find it disgusting, just not the better of the available bodily orifices.

I didn't mean to suggest that I hadn't done it. I have. I just didn't find it pleasurable. I have never made it a part of my sex life. She has, on occasion, made it a part of my sex life.

A bit of a story...


A few years ago a friend of mine called at me at like 4 am. He sounded... confused.


He had met a girl in bar. Nice girl. They got a little tipsy. Went back to her place. Fucked. He said that she got on her hands and knees, grabbed his cock and slid it in. He pumped away for a little bit. Thinking to himself that it felt a little different. He looked down... yeah... she put it in her ass. Didn't ask. Just did it. That's not the worse part. He continued to fuck her all the while thinking to himself that she must of really like anal if he was able to get in without a condom or lube. After thinking about this... he pulled out, jerk off onto her ass and left.

It's like Mark Twain....

Me?

I enjoyed the vulgarity, and thought a little joshing around might make people more comfortable. These types of threads are often about brutal honesty, dealing with taboos and such. No offense was intended, I hope you know.

I wasn't offended. I was just wondering if you were calling me Mark Twain. Which in my book is a compliment.

I had a friend that picked up a woman in a bar, and had much the same experience as WK's friend. It turns out that she was a professional dancer (ballet) and very rarely had vaginal sex. She didn't want to risk pregnancy at all.

I was told by another dancer that this is pretty common amongst dancers.

I've gotta meet me a dancer...

Me likey.

I you asked me a few months ago, I would have voted for #3, Take it or leave it. But the last time me and Mrs. Coaster did anal, it was WAY better than the previous times. Now I find myself craving it from time to time, but rarely push her to do it. I'll only push for it when I can tell she's in a particularly good mood.

Hmmm...

The woman that provided the "best-sex-in-my-life-ever" really enjoyed it. Made a finger in her secondary access point a real priority during just about any sex go-'round. Absolutely loved to be on riding on top with a finger in the backdoor pushing down onto the male thrusting component.

She could orgasm from finger play in there alone. A rare find.

I suppose the biggest part of any other-than-Amish sex play is just being 100% comfortable with your body, trusting your partner completely, and tingling those nerves in new and different ways.

I miss that stuff. The touching of the other person.

Thought about it, having heard stories from other guys about it that made it sound intriguing. But in reality, it'll probably never happen for me unless I find myself suddenly single in the future.

the right gal, the right situation, you bet!

Definitely nice from time to time. Not all the time though, just something too enticing about a warm, wet vagina to make me look elsewhere.

A friend of mine had sex with an 18 year old. She's "saving her virginity". Yes, she had him fuck her ass. He was also the first person to do so. Apparently, she loved it. A lot. That was about a year ago. He's still bragging. I hate him for it, based on principle alone. I mean... that's just awesome.

Analog... I hate your friend too. Let him know.

Thanks

I had a girlfriend a long time ago that LOVED it and insisted on it at least every couple of weeks. It never did much for me once I got over the whole "taboo" thing after a couple of months. The sensations aren't as intense as the traditional method, at least for me.

Yeah, the feeling ain't any better than traditional, but its "final frontier/ALL the way" status is pretty attractive.

It's something you have to earn. :D

My current SO and I have anal sex from time to time. It's not really a regular part of our repertoire but we do it once in a while when I'm really relaxed. If I'm not really relaxed (read: really drunk or high) it's not very comfortable to me and I'm unable to enjoy it...but if I'm relaxed, it's all right. It doesn't give me the big O, though, which is odd because most other things do.

To be honest, it's a bit of a turnoff for me. It's all hyped up but in the end it's my most treasured body part into the orifice where she stores her poop.. Not a turnon at all.
Though if SHE wished it I would go along with it if she actually enjoyed it.

The only reason I like butt sex is because I don't have to wear a condom.

When my wife and I were dating...we tried it but I was only able to put the head in because she was so uncomfortable so we didn't try it again. I secretly wanted it again since I had never had sex without a condom and it felt pretty nice just getting the head in. She started birth control and the urge to stick it in her caboose disappeared.

She has been off of birth control for the past couple of years and again the buttsex urges came back....she finally decided to try it again and loved it. Actually asking for it 3 nights in a row. Which was damn nice....it felt nice not having to use a condom. But now she is starting birth control again, and again, the urge for me to give it to her in da butt is gone.

I hate him also. Bastard. :orly:

There wasn't a "I'm a man, and want it, but SO won't", so I couldn't really check one. That's what I want to try, and try and try, but the access is denied.

I like penis-in-vagina sex. Anal doesn't do anything for me.

Then again, I've never had sex of any kind so don't mind me.

I'll try anything at least twice :P

That Mutual Feeling
 

(imagines the scene as it plays out later this weekend)

:::: sweaty couple flops on bed after long bout of backdoor pounding ::::

Mr. Friendly: "Whew... yeah. So, was it good for you?"

Girl McGirl: "Eh... not really. Not my thing."

Mr. Friendly "Well, hell... we'll just have to keep trying until you get it right!"

(Letterman style drum crash)

It is not about the actual feeling of the sex, it is all in the head (the one on top of the shoulders).
I believe that there are two main reasons that men want anal sex.
- It is taboo - Maybe not as much in society as it used to be but in private in the bedroom it still may be taboo. Extending the limits, doing new things is exciting.
- It tells you that she is really into sex. Nothing is more exciting them a girl who really wants it. Taking it anally tells me (I don't know if you get the same message) that she is really into it. Who would have sex this way if they did not want it.

What is even more exciting is if she asks for it (see the 18 year old above).

Sex is a head game.

I hadn't thought of it this way, but you are absolutely correct.

It implies that she's really into it - a very sexually adventurous woman and I do crave that. I love a sexually creative woman and it truly turns me on to have a woman suggest various sexual things as opposed to me all the time.

Nothing worse than grovelling for a peach and repeatedly being told NO.

Now, I take issue with the idea that a woman who doesn't want/or get turned on by the thought of anal sex isn't into sex. Is that the only sex act on the table here?
Do not judge a woman's sexual desire by the acts she will or will not perform.

That's my two cents, thank you gentlemen.

I'm female and voted for the "I am female and I'd do it only to please my man, but hope he wouldn't ask" option. I have had anal sex once, and it was not really something I remember a whole lot about as I was completely inebrieated that night. I was very sore the next day. It's not something I want to do again. For some reason it just doesn't turn me on although I'm not judgemental about it. I may consider trying it again with someone, but would just prefer not to ever again. I've had a finger in there and whatnot and had no pleasure whatsoever, so I think I'm just not turned on by the bum stuff.

*edit* I think it's funny that that girl was saving herself, but would have anal sex. To me, when you do that, it's like, sex you know? I don't get how people convince themselves they are remaining say "pure" but still doing stuff that is on the same level as sex. But still, I guess it worked out well for your friend there haha.

It's not taboo to me, just something I have no desire for. To me if I want to fuck an ass I'll turn gay..... which I have no plans and I really don't foresee it ever happening sooooooo. Plus if I go there I have to let her go there on me and welllll my ass is one way OUT.

None of the choices in the poll fit me so I have not placed a vote there.

While in college an older male (I was a freshman at 18 and he was a graduate student who had been a teacher of mine in high school) seduced me one night when I was drunk, lubed up his ass and did me while he jerked off. I didn't touch him, I didn't even move, but I let him have his way with me. While I did enjoy it, the next morning in the dorm cafeteria line for breakfast I told him once was enough for me. My one and only same sex episode in my life. That was 40 years ago, not likely to happen now.

That same former teacher of mine married a female gym teacher about a year later, I have always wondered how that worked out! LOL

I was married twice in later years. While I kind of dabbled with anal with both of them, it just didn't seem right and we never completed "the act" if you know what I mean. Those two wives were when I was between 19 and 31.

When I was 33 I hooked up with an old female friend who was very heavy into anal. At first I obliged her, it was good a few times, but after a time I got tired of getting up to wash the shit off of my dick. We kind of dated off and on for about 15 years, the last time she asked me to fuck her in the ass, I had to decline.

Oh, one side note...

That single espisode way back in 1966 now precludes me from giving blood. Might have AIDS? I don't think so!

I gave a lot of blood during the Viet Nam thing that we dare not call a war. I'm sorry I can't still give more.

You turned what I said around in a way I did not say.

I said that I feel that when a woman wants anal sex it shows me she is really into sex.
I did not say that a woman who does not want anal sex shows me that she is not into anal sex.

Do you see what I mean about turning around what I said into something I did not say?

There are plenty of other ways to that show that you really love sex but this thread is talking about anal sex.

I agree you should not judge a woman's sexual desire by the acts she will not perform.
But the ones she will perform?

Actually what I said was really referring to how I (in my head) imagine a woman's sexual desire to be should she be the one asking for anal sex.

As I mentioned sex is a head game. What I believe or imagine makes sex better or worse.

Yes, my situation exactly.

On another note, the only time I tried it I ended up getting mud on my helmut, which was a big turn off. My girl absolutely loved it, but she didn't see the poop on my scoop. Anyone else had this unfortunate experience? How can it be avoided?

Well, sorry to be frank, but it's an asshole. Shit comes out of it. Shit is stored up inside it. I see no solutions other than for you to wear a condom (which I ask my husband to do anyway), or ask your girl to take a dump and/or give her an enema beforehand. Even then, though, shit still happens. Comes with the territory.

A dump and then an enema are probably your best bet in my experience....but like it has been said...it sometimes can still leave a little poop on your rod.

I agree with that. I've been told no more than once. Eventually I was told "hell no" and left it at that. Though recently it's been brought to my attention that I may be graced with such a gift. We shall see... :p

I'm a woman... and i chose "into it from time to time"...because well, I am! It's not like my bf and I do it all the time, but every once in awhile we get a wild hair up our ass...HA!... and go for it. I've never found it enjoyable in any other relationship other than my current one... and that's probably due to the fact that in all previous relationships where we had anal, I'd never used lube!!!! Just spit...which works for awhile but dries up pretty quickly. So the lube definitely makes it more enjoyable. Sometimes it feels good...most of the time, I'm touching myself while he is going at it and that helps..... but I think it's more the idea of him really enjoying it that makes me enjoy it. Knowing that he's getting incredibly turned on by my body, makes it alllll worthwhile. Same as getting the ol' boob sex. It doesn't necessarily physically feel good, but it turns me on like nothin else knowing that he's immensely enjoying himself.

I'm a male and have no desire to try it. I dunno'... But the idea of sticking my dick in her ass just doesn't do anything for me.

I am signing up for a ballet class.

Umm... I voted for the first option, though I'm a virgin. I was surprised to learn that most women find it to be the most unconventional thing. To me, it's less degrading than oral. Now that's shocking. I would never ask a woman to do that for me. That's just my unique self. It just doesn't seem right. A guy should kneel before a woman, not the other way around

No.

I disagree. :)

I agree with your disagreement.

I agree with the disagreement with the corollary that no one should kneel before someone else in a metaphorical sense. Placing lovers on pedestals means that you don't deal with them as a living breathing person. Kneeling should be saved for blowjobs.

And Cunnilingus, and fingering... :bowdown: :D

and the #1 answer...


I AM A MAN AND I LIKE VARIETY~!

I was curious about it for a while, then did it and saw it was no big deal and not significantly different from vaginal. I don't think about it much anymore.

Your friend, the dude with the chick who's saving her virginity, let him know I hate him very, vwery much!:orly:

there is absolutely no waaay.. i have enough fun with "normal" sex, why should i walk on the brown side of life?
i think it's disgusting.. who ever wants to do it, i don't care, but for myself nothing can make me do that ^^

An interesting spread of responses to the poll itself.

1. There are far fewer women responding, however, the numbers are pretty much spread across the possible answers. From this, it probably comes down to luck if you find a woman who is into anal.

2. Only a small percentage of males are turned off by anal, however, there is a more significant number who are in the category of only if she wanted it. I.e. they are not opposed, but would not seek it.

I am actually surprised at the high number of males who responded in the afirmative to this option. I wonder why these men are so wishy washy on the topic? I didn't expect so many to align themselves with this option frankly. I am wondering if those who picked this option are more thinking that they would go for it only if green lighted by the female?

3. The largest percentage of males either actively seek, or from time to time seek it out.

All in all, however, my original assertion to my female friend that most men are into anal sex would seem to hold water. She would more than likely meet a man who would at least request anal sex with her.

i'm not going to read everyone else's replies, so excuse me if i'm repeating...

as a female, i started out just putting up w/ it, as long as there was enough lube. ie, A LOT. now, i've come to enjoy it, and the fact that my boyfriend likes it so much makes the slight discomfort that may occur, well worth it.
to answer your question about guys benig into it though, i've come across about a 50/50 match up. just depends on the guy, i guess :)

Huh, funny this just came up again... ding, ding!! Just had anal sex and it was great. :thumbsup: Big promo for Maximus lube! Does it every time (along with a bottle of wine). :D Bad weather in Iceland = good weather in the bedroom. :) My husband definitely likes it, and so do I.

I have no desire to penetrate a woman anally. My position on this is somewhere between:

I am male, have never made it a part of my sex life, but would if she asked.

and

I am male and there is no way I am going in the back door ever.

I did once have a girlfriend who brought up the subject indirectly, but I didn't really want to do that, and didn't with her. I suspect though that with the right approach the right woman may be able to convince me to do so.

i put my foot down and say no. an anus is an anus, regardless who it belongs to...i don't do it with a man, i don't do it with woman. :no: :no: :no:

A mouth is a mouth, too.

And everybody likes oral.

True, but there's no feces in a person's mouth. At least not under normal conditions.

In my current relationship, I was the first person to bring up the subject and at first he didn't think he would be into it. But our talking about it, especially my telling him how I would feel about it, sort of turned things around for him. Now we do it fairly regularly and he loves it. We both do. I agree that much of the attraction (and repulsion) to it is psychological. Although orgasms (for women) while having anal sex are incredibly intense.

ew.

I don't really get how women get orgasms having anal.. cuz doesn't it hurt like hell? and that area wasn't really evolved to give any sort of sexual or pleasure feeling, was it?

No, when I am aroused and well-lubed it is only slightly painful when his penis is first inserted (getting the head past the sphincter)...after that it feels quite pleasurable actually. But it is probably different for many women. Like I said, I think a large part of it is psychological.

And the orgasms come from receiving clitoral stimulation while being anally penetrated.

Writing that last sentence made me horny.

Reading it did the same thing to me.

Yep... that is exactly what happens for me, too. A little vibe on the front side, cock up the backside... damn, those are effin' HOT orgasms. :thumbsup:

Or being penetrated with a vibrator in the other hole. :crazy:

I... need to go take care of something now...

You know, I don't even own a vibrator. Never had much use for them...but I'm getting some ideas. :suave:

Exactly my point, that's why oral can't be compared to anal. There's no "ick there's shit on my dick", factor with oral.

So I'm guessing analingus and ass-to-mouth aren't turn ons for you then.:lol:

I've only ever done anal once. I really enjoyed it, since then I have had problems finding a guy that's open to the idea actually, asked both about it and got a flat out "nope not interested".

Pain wise I imagine it's kindof like if you go without sex for a long time the first few can be a little painful while your muscles relax / stretch.

I think that those are gross as well. :cringe: Not something I would do, but to each their own.

Oh, honey... get to your local female-owned sex shop and buy one now!!! I recommend the Laya for ergonomic use during intercourse. :thumbsup:

I should also add that pseudo-DP (double penetration) is a lot of fun, as well. Imagine: a real cock up one hole, a nice dildo up the other, and maybe a vibe on the front as well. It's insane... feels so good. I tend to like the real cock in my ass and the dildo in my pussy, but whatever works for you. :D

(bans himself from this thread)

This thread has become awesome.

That's over the top, even for me....

I've seen the videos, and it usually makes me go, ugh...

I like analingus...both giving and receiving.

I'm afraid I don't know what ass-to-mouth is. :shy:

Doing your girlfriend anally, then without washing off your dick, having her give you a blowjob.

in porn, they make anal look so clean.

i'm assuming that if u dont really clean it up inside, it can get really messy.. ?

how do u go about cleaning it up.. without making it awkward for u and the girl.

I like it from time to time. For me it's better as a change of pace rather than being the norm.

This thread makes my peepee go boing!

My girl wants to do it, just waiting for the right well-lubed oppurtunity.

I've never done an enema before anal sex and mess has never been much of a problem. As long as you are "regular" there really isn't a lot of fecal matter in that, uh, area (for lack of knowing the terminology).

aha...I don't know that I'd enjoy that.

I also don't have enemas before sex, but have never had a problem with it, either. I just don't have anal sex if anything weird is going on with my bowels... and that takes care of it. I know some people prefer to do enemas; it's all personal preference (you can get a little squirter-thingy that will flush the area with water easily... check a good sex store for that).

That ass-to-mouth thing sounds gross and dangerous. It's one thing to be rimming (after a good, soapy hot shower in the region), quite another to be inserting an object into a notoriously shit-filled region and then putting that into someone's mouth. That's just asking for hepatitis or something else.

"Beaver Feaver"

A nasty little bug that you can get from it. I had never heard of Beaver Feaver until last week when I was up in James Bay and another guy was talking about a mutual work acquaintance of ours who was out in God's Country and decided to drink water out of a nice pure stream. Essentially, this little bug can make one pretty sick.

http://www.venturenorth.com/beaver.htm

As far as the enema thing goes, my understanding, and I could be wrong, way wrong, is that the feces are collected further up the large intestine. There are two sphincters. The upper one opens involentarily and the turd moves down the chute to the anus and you get the "I gotta go feeling", and which time you volentarily open the second sphincter and you go.

It's a sort of two step process.

So, my point is that turd is only stored close to the anus at certain times and therefore it is not always filled.

I dunno if that makes it any more clear or not, hell, I am getting confused about the relevance of it just typing it.

Yez, doctor, I think you've got it.

De poop chute immediately inside de butthole is fairly clean unless you are actually pooping. ;)