biznatch

I'm young and still have much to learn, but as my marriage is coming to an end, I'm starting to wonder if there's a point to marriage.
Divorce creates the most depressing, scary, disgusting feeling in my stomach, and I've been in this unhealthy mindset/emotional state for a while now.
I don't know if I want to marry again, at this point (granted, anything relationship-wise is the furthest thing from my mind at this point). Let's just say the legal marriage thing (at a courthouse) just seems to complicate life. I just want to be free, to be myself again, alone. To get away. And now I've signed this piece of paper, and I can't; not for a while, anyway, not until this whole process is over. If it's gonna be contested, it'll be even harder.

My parents got married about 7 years after their first child, and they're happy together. It's beautiful to see. So maybe, after an eventual long term relationship with a future SO, I'll start to see the benefits.

Currently, though, my thoughts on relationships is that the law should play no part in them. It should only be about love. And, like ngdawg said, it shouldn't be limited to a specific number of people. That's just a weird societal convention.

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Daniel_

Many in favour of marriage see it as a way of forcing you to look past trivial "bumps in the road" (or whatever other cliche you favour), and to work on the relationship longer term.

All I can really say is that when I first married it was "the right thing to do" but my heart wasn't in it, and the choice of wife owed more to comfort and familiarity than love - we were not suited, but had been together since we were 17, and it seems like marriage was right for us.

After her infidelity and our divorce, I met and proposed to my current wife, and I have to say that in the proposal and in the preparation for the wedding i actually felt like I wanted to do it and was excited in a way I hadn't been before.

I have no way of knowing if this will be "forever", but at the moment (over three years in) I feel more committed to my marriage than I did the first time on day one.

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