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FallenAvatar · 05-03-2007, 11:38 PM

So I'm curious what everyone thinks about this. I recently started getting envolved with a friend whom just got out of a relationships. We're both really into sex. We decided to explore a friendship with benefits sort of relationship. We've been going on with this for about a month yet I've noticed that feelings are getting attached from both sides. She actually asked me about that tonight, not jokingly. She was completely serious with a straight face she asked, "you're catching feeling aren't you". I couldn't deny it and said maybe and then later agreed. The problem is I can tell that she's catching these feelings to yet she's trying to deny them. In any normal situation when someone starts catching feelings it is time to break away from it before someone really gets hurt.

My little conundrum is that I don't really know what to do. I realize that it is too early to look for a relationship with her. I don't want to be a rebound. I don't want to just step in and be fun. I quess I'm questioning what I should do with this situation. She keeps denying feelings but I know they are there. She constantly wants to spend time with me and blows my phone up all day long. I noticed shortly after we started sleeping together that she gets increasingly more intimate. She looks to cuddle and enjoy the previous events while spending time together and talking. In any normal FWB situation one party would just leave.

Anyway I'm just curious what people think about this. I'm pretty sure I'm just going to give her time and sit here and enjoy myself and see what the situation leads to.

Prince · 05-03-2007, 11:55 PM

As long as you are both on the same page, and know what's at stake, have fun. I hope this doesn't have an adverse effect on your friendship though, should you find that it won't work out long-term for one reason or another.

FallenAvatar · 05-04-2007, 12:04 AM

Yea I realize that for sure. We talked about this way before we even did anything, but as we started getting closer things started getting out there. Lets put it this way; if her and I walk into a room together you can just feel the sexual tension in the air. We get along very well, we can talk about almost anything, we have similar interests... and the sex is... well amazing. So I'm trying to play it by ear. I don't wish to lose her friendship, but down the line I may like to explore deeper options.

05-03-2007, 11:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
FallenAvatar Psycho	FWB So I'm curious what everyone thinks about this. I recently started getting envolved with a friend whom just got out of a relationships. We're both really into sex. We decided to explore a friendship with benefits sort of relationship. We've been going on with this for about a month yet I've noticed that feelings are getting attached from both sides. She actually asked me about that tonight, not jokingly. She was completely serious with a straight face she asked, "you're catching feeling aren't you". I couldn't deny it and said maybe and then later agreed. The problem is I can tell that she's catching these feelings to yet she's trying to deny them. In any normal situation when someone starts catching feelings it is time to break away from it before someone really gets hurt. My little conundrum is that I don't really know what to do. I realize that it is too early to look for a relationship with her. I don't want to be a rebound. I don't want to just step in and be fun. I quess I'm questioning what I should do with this situation. She keeps denying feelings but I know they are there. She constantly wants to spend time with me and blows my phone up all day long. I noticed shortly after we started sleeping together that she gets increasingly more intimate. She looks to cuddle and enjoy the previous events while spending time together and talking. In any normal FWB situation one party would just leave. Anyway I'm just curious what people think about this. I'm pretty sure I'm just going to give her time and sit here and enjoy myself and see what the situation leads to. __________________ Fetch me the spirit, the son and the father, Tell them their pillar of faith has ascended.

05-03-2007, 11:55 PM	#2 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	As long as you are both on the same page, and know what's at stake, have fun. I hope this doesn't have an adverse effect on your friendship though, should you find that it won't work out long-term for one reason or another. __________________ Who is John Galt?

05-04-2007, 12:04 AM	#3 (permalink)
FallenAvatar Psycho	Yea I realize that for sure. We talked about this way before we even did anything, but as we started getting closer things started getting out there. Lets put it this way; if her and I walk into a room together you can just feel the sexual tension in the air. We get along very well, we can talk about almost anything, we have similar interests... and the sex is... well amazing. So I'm trying to play it by ear. I don't wish to lose her friendship, but down the line I may like to explore deeper options. __________________ Fetch me the spirit, the son and the father, Tell them their pillar of faith has ascended.