Miss Mango

I've never taken someone elses virginity. I locked up and wouldn't do it when I had the chance to.

Willravel

I've taken several. As a dude, the trick is:
1) Lube: you'll need lubrication in order to relieve some of the pain that she'll probably feel.
2) GO SLOW: unless you get the order from her to go faster, you must take your time in order to make the encounter as comfortable as possible for her.
3) Try to go at less than 100%: I can't speak for anyone else, but after my first virgin, I figured out that going at 100% erect was too much. Its not easy, but trying to find a balance between full ahead and half mast is a good place for her.

Remember, the first few times will require delicacy and healing time. Warming up with oral can be quite helpful to get her own natural lubrication system going.

So far as advice for women deflowering men? He'll go off fast and be ready for round 2 very quickly, so don't just leave after the 15 second first time.

Charlatan

Yes.

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The_Jazz

If the virgin was me, does it count?

No.

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blahblah454

I lost my virginity to a virgin, it was pretty boring for all parties involved..... the first few times anyways

Esoteric

Yep, my then GF in Sophomore year of High School.

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World's King

Yeah... I lost mine to a virgin.


A few years ago I met this really nice girl. Virgin. We went out a few times. After a few drinks we were hanging out at her place listening to Johnny Cash and stuff happened...

I called later that next day when I got off of work. No answer. She called me back three days later and said, "I"m sorry, I didn't realize you thought we were dating. I just needed a guy to sleep with me so I could get it out of the way."

Yeah... I got played by a virgin.

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Daniel_

17 years old. She and I were both virgins.

It was crap.

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absorbentishe

Yup, both of our firsts were the same time. Can't speak for her, but it only lasted about 3 minutes, and I didn't do anything she didn't approve of.

soma

hehe.
Good story.

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match000

mm wrong. i was so nervous about performance the 1st and 2nd times that I was a full mast for a good 20-30 mins and not until the 3rd time did the canons fire..

MrFriendly

Soma, your avatar kicks more ass than a machine designed to kick asses, I like your work :-)

As for the thread, I lost my virginity to another virgin. We'd both been going out for a while and felt very strongly about eachother, and had experimented a hell of a lot before hand, so it wasn't a very awkward experience at all.

All though it did hurt her quite a bit the first time, but I think after about our thrid time trying it she would go off like a cut snake in the sack

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FallenAvatar

Can't say I've ever done it. I don't think I'd have a problem doing it. It might be awkward for a bit but I could realize to just take it slow.

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KellyC

We were both virgins.Virgins and clueless as fuck. It was awkward and messy and there were lots of blood from both of us. I was paranoid as hell in the 72 hours after that. Silly o' fun times now that I think about it.

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mirevolver

Does masturbating when I was a virgin count? If not, then no.

I was in a similar situation. I was nervous my first time that I went for nearly 40 minutes with no results.

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arctic cat

i lost my virginity to a virgin too. i knew him from school, he was in my year and i had a crush on him about 2-3 years before we started seeing each other. so after being with him for a while i knew i wanted him to be my first. it was quite awkward to begin with because his penis wouldn't go in, but we soon got there. it lasted about 2-3 minutes, it was exciting at the time because it was a new experience, but looking back now, it was really boring. i bled and it hurt everytime i sat down anywhere for about a day after that happened

Marshun

My first time was also with a virgin, we were both 16 and had been seeing each other for about 3 months or so. We both decided that we wanted to and waited for the most convenient time (ie her parents to go out!). It did hurt for both of us the first couple of times.

Oddly enough I've been seeing a girl recently who is a virgin and despite her advances on me, a virgin she remains. However she insist she wants to change this and to be absolutely honest I'm scared as I don't want to hurt her.

MrFriendly

Physically or emotionally?

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Destrox

We were both virgins, first time lasted shorter than a good burp. Yep it sucked.

Its all good now though.

I keep reading some of ya'll with blood issues? Soooo glad I didnt have that with her, for back then I had white sheets.

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abaya

Well actually, I guess I have had sex with a virgin... my husband (who was my boyfriend at the time)! But I had only had sex once before, and hadn't been conscious enough to remember it, so it was basically both our first times, together (age 24). It was fantastic... hours and hours of exploring and foreplay, and then penetration... I didn't hurt or bleed, neither did he, though he did come a little fast. That changed quickly, though.

For those of you who bled... I can see that happened on the woman's side, but how does the guy end up bleeding??? Please explain!

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slimshaydee

Yes and it took me about 10 minutes and 3 times of going limp to try and get it in her, and when I did I could barely get half of it in. It's something I never want to do again, I hated hurting the poor girl and it killed my libido for a while after that.

Willravel

Defense mechanism?

snowy

No, never had a virgin, but two of the guys I had sex with were damn near close to virgins. One had only had sex a couple of times with his previous girlfriend, and the other had some really odd ideas of how sex should be from his ex (evidently she wanted hours of pounding, no thanks).

Even non-virgins require training.

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Destrox

Will, thank you for the morning laugh of the day.

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elydian

I didn't actually finish at all my first time. Second time was the polar opposite.

And OT, yes, I've deflowered someone, and had to wash a fair amount of blood out of a set of pants, afterwards.

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Sultana

OMFG--That's the Best Evar!

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hambone

My wife and I were virgins on our wedding night.

While it was a bit uncomfortable for her of course, no blood or any of that and it definitely didn't suck.

We were very aware that it wouldn't be great the first time, but we took that and ran with it and just had fun.

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calibrich

It was about as awkward as I expected when I took my ex's virginity. I just wanted it to be as good as possible for her. It was a bit uncomfortable for her for a while understandably, but it got better after I found the right position. Ended up doing the (her on her back and me on my side and perpendicular to her with her legs over my side) It worked really well for us. I kept asking if she was ok and stuff like that to calm her and she enjoyed it after relaxing after a while. The second time we did it was a much better for her and no bleeding this time, woo woo. Too bad thats the only two chance I got with her.

Konichiwaneko

Yes, good old Candice back in 2003. We did a lot of foreplay the first few weeks leading until, but one day she just wanted too.

I miss her, but tell you the truth she was a great virgin. It hurt yes, but emotionally she handled it better than most people. We were together for about 6 months.

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Both

MrFriendly

It's a pretty fair call. I guess I was on a level playing field. But now? now I'm I wouldn't take a womans virginity unless I had some serious feeling about her.

I'm a hardened bitter man, there's little I'm willing to go through unless I really thing it's worth it. But that's ok, I'm also a hopeless romantic.

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xepherys

Twice, my first two long-term relationships.

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wolf

Yes, my wife and I were both virgins.

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KellyC

I'm not circumcised, up to that point I've never pull the foreskin all the way back before. So when I did it, the foreskin was pulled and the piece of skin at the bottom of penis head ripped, thus I bled. I didn't even realize it until I got home and I thought to myself, "Am I circumcised now?"

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Ourcrazymodern?

This thread is unusually wild.

Are there really tribesmen in New Guinea who macerate their penises with crab claws in order to bleed and not be inferior to the women?

On a lighter note, and more to the point: Of course; we were all young once.

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fightnight

My first time was with a virgin.... so that's a double whammy.

tenniels

I've never been with a virgin. I was the virgin once (obviously as we all were) and I think it was good because I had started masturbating before I ever actually had "intercourse" and it made things easier and a lot more enjoyable.

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Porkchop

Yes me and the girl were virgins. It was virtually impossible first time, i thought i would have to be circumcised. After an embarresing trip to the docs, he said you fine. We were both nervous he said. So after a bit of foreplay etc the next time, although still crap we managed it.

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Caitlain

My first time was with a boy - we were both virgins, so I guess that counts. I've taken several girls' lez V-cards, though.

JStrider

My first time was with a virgin... she bled, and cried, it wasn't very good, but we tried again and it got better after a few tries.

and my second long term girlfriend was also a virgin before me, was kinda fun being the teacher.

dunno if I would be too gung ho about taking a girls virginity now... seems to create a lot of issues...

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