I've never been with a virgin, I seem to go after older guys. I'd kind of wonder if he were in his 30's and still a virgin! There is this one guy though that keeps calling me and wanting me, he's 26 and still a virgin, he kind of scares me. Really are there that many people in their mid 20's who are still virgins?

At university I took my first man-cherry. :p
He was 21-ish and I was stunned that he was still a virgin. Good looking, ex pro-athlete, nice guy, etc. and I hadn't been a virgin since the age of 15.
He lasted somewhere under a minute and then I asked the fatefull question "So... did you lose it or did you come early?"
*slaps forehead* I could have just asked "So what level of pathetic are you?"
But with a bit of ego-stroking he was soon up for round 2, which was on par with my previous partner! The virgin ended up being a keen learner and a very generous lover for the most part.

My husband and I (back when we were just dating and started having sex) were 24 when we lost ours... so yes, people like us exist. I knew plenty of other people like us, at our age and older, and I don't find it that weird.

ok the guy im with now is a virgin and i feel kinda weird taking his "V" card like that cause im not one! i know what he knows but its still a little weird to me. most of the other guys ive dated have been well qualified but i dont know its kinda nerve racking. any advice?

I had one virgin - she didn't tell me (or that she still wanted to wait) until an hour or two into our first session of hot naked foreplay. I don't think I've ever had a more painful case of blue balls as I did that day.

After a while I convinced her to try sex and see if she was ready, and after going in all the way she was confused why she wasn't bleeding or in horrifying pain. She ended up reading the internet for an hour and discovered that hymens are hardly an absolute. Things were pretty good after that...

Once - in college. I was 19; she was 16.
She had an impenetrable hymen - We tried 3 or 4 times to pop it, but with no luck. Perhaps I wasn't pushing hard enough, but I didn't want to hurt her. Right about that time I went home for the summer, and the plan was for her to see a doctor about it.

Long story short, we never really got back together that fall.

Interesting follow up, though - 12 years later, I ran into her in a bar. She ran up to me and gave me a great big hug, and whispered into my ear, "Don't we have some unfinished business to attend to!!??"

Unfortunately, she was (unhappily) married. Don't think I wasn't tempted, but . . . I didn't.

Anyway, close but no cigar - not once but twice!

Yeah, and then she decided that she liked it and cheated on me several other times with other guys. Woo hoo, yay, virgin experience...

No, and no. My first time was a 2 night stand, and I'm pretty sure she was experienced. My only other partner is my wife, for the last almost 20 years, and she had had one prior partner.

I don't feel like I missed out on anything.

i have and word of advice: the bitches go crazy afterwards. Not kidding. it's almost a requirement. run for the hills if you do. if you're lucky they'll become a nympho.

I've deflowered 2 (both exes)

I've deflowered one virgin. I didn't know until afterwards a she'd been trying to act cooler than she was kinda thing to pull me.

Probably just as well I didn't know during as it might have put me off my stride thinking about it.

that sounds familiar...

although i'm still with that girl and the sex nowadays sometimes leaves me bleeding...

it's fucken awesome!

My wife and I were both first timers. Didn't last very long the first few times, the usual performance anxiety. Little did I know that anxiety would strike much more importantly later in life. No bleeding or any problems at all, probably due to the many times we did everything else but do the deed. Actually one day she was going at it rough with a vibe and bled a decent amount. Good times!

As my own and hers devirginisation event is fast approaching, hopefully I will be able to add something positive and earth shattering about it.:thumbsup:

Unless she has an "impenetrable hymen" or worse, I won't be able to start without finishing it before I get started, or.....:paranoid:

I think that the first one I had sex with have had sex with a virgin.

Technically, my first time was also with a virgin. But we'd both done everything but... (with other people). And she'd already broken her hymen while masturbating with a hot dog. We did it on and off on a regular basis for about six months or so, and in retrospect, I realize it was never all that great (of course we were both only 13, so...).

I would never have sex with a virgin now. In part that's because I'm 34, and most people lose it between 15 and 20, which would make me more than a little creepy if I were interested. Or you've got the occasional 25 year old virgin or even older, which would make them a little creepy to me (only reasons I can think of to be a virgin at 25+ are either religious fundamentalism or crippling psychoemotional issues).

Also, I teach for a living. I'm damned if I'll do it in the bedroom when I get home....

My high school boyfriend and I were both virgins the first time we had sex. I haven't had sex with a virgin since.

Yeah, we were both virgins. My current guy had many partners before me however.

2. Both times it actually wasn't that bad. With one of them there were condom issues, but that was resolved and it went swimmingly from there. Some of these stories are making me really grateful for it not being traumatic.

On the Never Have I Ever game (nnnever.com), there is a question "Never have I ever had sex with a virgin", and 38% of people have voted "done that". So by deduction, 62% of people have never been with another virgin...

to the thread title: yes and yes...

My first girlfriend was not and I was. She was really awesome about it, and we always had a great time. I have really fond memories of that experience because she was so cool about it.

My second girlfriend was. It took about 6 months to get her to try it. After she overcame the guilt of the act, we were together for another 4 years. We always had a great time too.

Yep, that about sums up my first few times.

What do you mean by this?

I came really close to deflowering a boy. We were both 28. He was waiting until marriage, but not because he was religious. He was the result of his mother getting knocked up, his father marrying her because "it was the right thing to do," and then the parents ended up hating each other after kid 3 and had a nasty divorce. He blamed himself for that, and didn't want to chance it in his own adult life.

I think by the time we started hanging out, he was coming to terms with his parents' relationship. He wanted me to be his first. I couldn't do it. Too much going on in that head of his.

Another double-virgin comedy of errors, I mentioned in detail how everything more or less went wrong in the sex disasters thread.

Summary: Multiple tries, condom was too small (didnt realise till post-breakup), erection problems, pain, although when we finally got the piston turning in the cylinder properly she said she was enjoying it.

I don't think I'd have a problem really with having sex with a virgin again... as long as I'm wearing the right size condom. Small tight girl plus small tight condom equals zero blood circulation, meaning no sensation beyond "ow".

She told me she was a virgin...

No, although my current partner hadn't gone beyond the olde five minutes of missionary... every single time...

Or does giving her her first non-solo orgasm count? :D

Fortunately for me, my first time was with a non virgin. She was a senior in high school and I was a sophmore. It was AWESOME. She knew enough to know that I wold pop really quickly, so she blew me to get that first one out of the way, and made a great show of swallowing every drop. She rode me until I was sore every chance she got that school year and through the summer until she went to college.

I was lucky in college that my girlfriend and i went to the same college, and as she was very open to new things, she asked me to deflower her roommate, who she was also having sex with. She had such a good experience when i took her virginity that she wanted her roommate to have the same good time. I did the roommate with my girlfriend there and while she did bleed a bit, we made her feel wonderful before she was through.

Between my girlfriend and her roommate, I got an incredible amount of virgin referral sex throughout my four years of college. It seemed that every time i took a virgin, she would set me up with a friend or two that was also a virgin. My girlfriend and I lost count when i took virgin number 100 in my junior year. It was sorta like a service that we had going. Between the two of us, a virgin was promised a good experience fo their first time.

Amazes the luck some people have...it's something I'll probably never experience!

I've never heard it called that before...

And apart from my own deflowering to a fellow virgin, I think I've had two virgins. It was enjoyable in two of three cases mutually. I like to think of myself as a gentle yet capable lover of virgins.

My s.o. was not, I was, and I was actually glad she was a nympho who knew how to fuck. She'd not been with but a few guys before, but had watched porn growing up and somehow figured out how to seriously suck dick. damn. for a guy going at it for the first time the whole experience was absolutely mind blowing. I think I could be with a virgin at this point, because I have learned patience and listen well.

only once, it was pretty much as described above. I'd like to say, though, that we make way too big of a deal out of virginity. what difference does it make anyway, i didn't become some different person after the first time. the only time sex actually changed who i was/am as a person was when she got pregnant.

My first was this 19 year old, the daughter of my dad's room mate, I was 17 at the time, she was not a virgin. When I was 18 I had a 17 year old girlfriend who was a virgin, that was the first time with a virgin. When I was 22 I was with a 19 year old virgin, that was the second and last time with a virgin. And also the last time with a younger woman. Good times. Not really any fun though. Sex is better when the person you're having it with is not a virgin.

Well, I lost mine w/my high school gf, we were both virgins, I 17, she 15. We had gone on a ski trip together (a HS ski trip that turned out NOT TO HAVE ANY CHAPERONES, lol) where we shared a room. But we shared it with 2 of her friends, so we turned out not to have any proper opportunity. So we shacked up in my 3rd floor bedroom one afternoon the next weekend. We took it really slow, it took forever, literally hours, to work through the foreplay and I went real slow with the entry. I don't remember having erection problems. We didn't really have "sex" as I came to know sex later -- it was more of a welcome party we threw for her uterus, with my member as the new guest that she had to get used to. I think there was a little blood, and I'm not sure she enjoyed it that much. I enjoyed it emotionally, but it was unmemorable physically. It was something we had to do, to get to the good stuff which came later.

I did, I believe, become a different girl's first later on --- I worked on a cruise ship for a while, and there was this younger lady on board for one of the cruises, and we spent a lot of time together, and eventually ended up doing the horizontal mambo. I Clueless (that's me, sorta like I Claudius) didn't figure out that her virginity was in the equation til later, piecing the signs together that a)she was on a mission, clearly wanted to git 'er done, and b)how tight she was. I didn't hurt her too much, I don't think - I'm not huge nor particularly rough. And... she never contacted me again. Like one of the early posters, I tink I got played....