Have you ever had sex with a virgin? Ever someone's first?
I've never taken someone elses virginity. I locked up and wouldn't do it when I had the chance to.
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I've taken several. As a dude, the trick is:
1) Lube: you'll need lubrication in order to relieve some of the pain that she'll probably feel. 2) GO SLOW: unless you get the order from her to go faster, you must take your time in order to make the encounter as comfortable as possible for her. 3) Try to go at less than 100%: I can't speak for anyone else, but after my first virgin, I figured out that going at 100% erect was too much. Its not easy, but trying to find a balance between full ahead and half mast is a good place for her. Remember, the first few times will require delicacy and healing time. Warming up with oral can be quite helpful to get her own natural lubrication system going. So far as advice for women deflowering men? He'll go off fast and be ready for round 2 very quickly, so don't just leave after the 15 second first time. |
Yes.
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If the virgin was me, does it count?
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I lost my virginity to a virgin, it was pretty boring for all parties involved..... the first few times anyways
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Yep, my then GF in Sophomore year of High School.
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Yeah... I lost mine to a virgin.
A few years ago I met this really nice girl. Virgin. We went out a few times. After a few drinks we were hanging out at her place listening to Johnny Cash and stuff happened... I called later that next day when I got off of work. No answer. She called me back three days later and said, "I"m sorry, I didn't realize you thought we were dating. I just needed a guy to sleep with me so I could get it out of the way." Yeah... I got played by a virgin. |
17 years old. She and I were both virgins.
It was crap. |
Yup, both of our firsts were the same time. Can't speak for her, but it only lasted about 3 minutes, and I didn't do anything she didn't approve of.
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As for the thread, I lost my virginity to another virgin. We'd both been going out for a while and felt very strongly about eachother, and had experimented a hell of a lot before hand, so it wasn't a very awkward experience at all. All though it did hurt her quite a bit the first time, but I think after about our thrid time trying it she would go off like a cut snake in the sack :D |
Can't say I've ever done it. I don't think I'd have a problem doing it. It might be awkward for a bit but I could realize to just take it slow.
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We were both virgins.Virgins and clueless as fuck. It was awkward and messy and there were lots of blood from both of us. I was paranoid as hell in the 72 hours after that. Silly o' fun times now that I think about it.
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Does masturbating when I was a virgin count? If not, then no.
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i lost my virginity to a virgin too. i knew him from school, he was in my year and i had a crush on him about 2-3 years before we started seeing each other. so after being with him for a while i knew i wanted him to be my first. it was quite awkward to begin with because his penis wouldn't go in, but we soon got there. it lasted about 2-3 minutes, it was exciting at the time because it was a new experience, but looking back now, it was really boring. i bled and it hurt everytime i sat down anywhere for about a day after that happened
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My first time was also with a virgin, we were both 16 and had been seeing each other for about 3 months or so. We both decided that we wanted to and waited for the most convenient time (ie her parents to go out!). It did hurt for both of us the first couple of times.
Oddly enough I've been seeing a girl recently who is a virgin and despite her advances on me, a virgin she remains. However she insist she wants to change this and to be absolutely honest I'm scared as I don't want to hurt her. |
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We were both virgins, first time lasted shorter than a good burp. Yep it sucked. :)
Its all good now though. I keep reading some of ya'll with blood issues? Soooo glad I didnt have that with her, for back then I had white sheets. |
Well actually, I guess I have had sex with a virgin... my husband (who was my boyfriend at the time)! But I had only had sex once before, and hadn't been conscious enough to remember it, so it was basically both our first times, together (age 24). It was fantastic... hours and hours of exploring and foreplay, and then penetration... I didn't hurt or bleed, neither did he, though he did come a little fast. That changed quickly, though. :D
For those of you who bled... I can see that happened on the woman's side, but how does the guy end up bleeding??? :confused: Please explain! |
Yes and it took me about 10 minutes and 3 times of going limp to try and get it in her, and when I did I could barely get half of it in. It's something I never want to do again, I hated hurting the poor girl and it killed my libido for a while after that.
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Defense mechanism? |
No, never had a virgin, but two of the guys I had sex with were damn near close to virgins. One had only had sex a couple of times with his previous girlfriend, and the other had some really odd ideas of how sex should be from his ex (evidently she wanted hours of pounding, no thanks).
Even non-virgins require training. |
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And OT, yes, I've deflowered someone, and had to wash a fair amount of blood out of a set of pants, afterwards. |
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My wife and I were virgins on our wedding night.
While it was a bit uncomfortable for her of course, no blood or any of that and it definitely didn't suck. We were very aware that it wouldn't be great the first time, but we took that and ran with it and just had fun. |
It was about as awkward as I expected when I took my ex's virginity. I just wanted it to be as good as possible for her. It was a bit uncomfortable for her for a while understandably, but it got better after I found the right position. Ended up doing the (her on her back and me on my side and perpendicular to her with her legs over my side) It worked really well for us. I kept asking if she was ok and stuff like that to calm her and she enjoyed it after relaxing after a while. The second time we did it was a much better for her and no bleeding this time, woo woo. Too bad thats the only two chance I got with her.
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Yes, good old Candice back in 2003. We did a lot of foreplay the first few weeks leading until, but one day she just wanted too.
I miss her, but tell you the truth she was a great virgin. It hurt yes, but emotionally she handled it better than most people. We were together for about 6 months. |
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I'm a hardened bitter man, there's little I'm willing to go through unless I really thing it's worth it. But that's ok, I'm also a hopeless romantic. |
Twice, my first two long-term relationships.
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Yes, my wife and I were both virgins.
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I'm not circumcised, up to that point I've never pull the foreskin all the way back before. So when I did it, the foreskin was pulled and the piece of skin at the bottom of penis head ripped, thus I bled. I didn't even realize it until I got home and I thought to myself, "Am I circumcised now?" |
This thread is unusually wild.
Are there really tribesmen in New Guinea who macerate their penises with crab claws in order to bleed and not be inferior to the women? On a lighter note, and more to the point: Of course; we were all young once. |
My first time was with a virgin.... so that's a double whammy.
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I've never been with a virgin. I was the virgin once (obviously as we all were) and I think it was good because I had started masturbating before I ever actually had "intercourse" and it made things easier and a lot more enjoyable.
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Yes me and the girl were virgins. It was virtually impossible first time, i thought i would have to be circumcised. After an embarresing trip to the docs, he said you fine. We were both nervous he said. So after a bit of foreplay etc the next time, although still crap we managed it.
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My first time was with a boy - we were both virgins, so I guess that counts. I've taken several girls' lez V-cards, though.
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My first time was with a virgin... she bled, and cried, it wasn't very good, but we tried again and it got better after a few tries.
and my second long term girlfriend was also a virgin before me, was kinda fun being the teacher. dunno if I would be too gung ho about taking a girls virginity now... seems to create a lot of issues... |
I've never been with a virgin, I seem to go after older guys. I'd kind of wonder if he were in his 30's and still a virgin! There is this one guy though that keeps calling me and wanting me, he's 26 and still a virgin, he kind of scares me. Really are there that many people in their mid 20's who are still virgins?
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At university I took my first man-cherry. :p
He was 21-ish and I was stunned that he was still a virgin. Good looking, ex pro-athlete, nice guy, etc. and I hadn't been a virgin since the age of 15. He lasted somewhere under a minute and then I asked the fatefull question "So... did you lose it or did you come early?" *slaps forehead* I could have just asked "So what level of pathetic are you?" But with a bit of ego-stroking he was soon up for round 2, which was on par with my previous partner! The virgin ended up being a keen learner and a very generous lover for the most part. |
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ok the guy im with now is a virgin and i feel kinda weird taking his "V" card like that cause im not one! i know what he knows but its still a little weird to me. most of the other guys ive dated have been well qualified but i dont know its kinda nerve racking. any advice?
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I had one virgin - she didn't tell me (or that she still wanted to wait) until an hour or two into our first session of hot naked foreplay. I don't think I've ever had a more painful case of blue balls as I did that day.
After a while I convinced her to try sex and see if she was ready, and after going in all the way she was confused why she wasn't bleeding or in horrifying pain. She ended up reading the internet for an hour and discovered that hymens are hardly an absolute. Things were pretty good after that... |
Once - in college. I was 19; she was 16.
She had an impenetrable hymen - We tried 3 or 4 times to pop it, but with no luck. Perhaps I wasn't pushing hard enough, but I didn't want to hurt her. Right about that time I went home for the summer, and the plan was for her to see a doctor about it. Long story short, we never really got back together that fall. Interesting follow up, though - 12 years later, I ran into her in a bar. She ran up to me and gave me a great big hug, and whispered into my ear, "Don't we have some unfinished business to attend to!!??" Unfortunately, she was (unhappily) married. Don't think I wasn't tempted, but . . . I didn't. Anyway, close but no cigar - not once but twice! |
Yeah, and then she decided that she liked it and cheated on me several other times with other guys. Woo hoo, yay, virgin experience...
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No, and no. My first time was a 2 night stand, and I'm pretty sure she was experienced. My only other partner is my wife, for the last almost 20 years, and she had had one prior partner.
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i have and word of advice: the bitches go crazy afterwards. Not kidding. it's almost a requirement. run for the hills if you do. if you're lucky they'll become a nympho.
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I've deflowered 2 (both exes)
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I've deflowered one virgin. I didn't know until afterwards a she'd been trying to act cooler than she was kinda thing to pull me.
Probably just as well I didn't know during as it might have put me off my stride thinking about it. |
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although i'm still with that girl and the sex nowadays sometimes leaves me bleeding... it's fucken awesome! |
My wife and I were both first timers. Didn't last very long the first few times, the usual performance anxiety. Little did I know that anxiety would strike much more importantly later in life. No bleeding or any problems at all, probably due to the many times we did everything else but do the deed. Actually one day she was going at it rough with a vibe and bled a decent amount. Good times!
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As my own and hers devirginisation event is fast approaching, hopefully I will be able to add something positive and earth shattering about it.:thumbsup:
Unless she has an "impenetrable hymen" or worse, I won't be able to start without finishing it before I get started, or.....:paranoid: |
I think that the first one I had sex with have had sex with a virgin.
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Technically, my first time was also with a virgin. But we'd both done everything but... (with other people). And she'd already broken her hymen while masturbating with a hot dog. We did it on and off on a regular basis for about six months or so, and in retrospect, I realize it was never all that great (of course we were both only 13, so...).
I would never have sex with a virgin now. In part that's because I'm 34, and most people lose it between 15 and 20, which would make me more than a little creepy if I were interested. Or you've got the occasional 25 year old virgin or even older, which would make them a little creepy to me (only reasons I can think of to be a virgin at 25+ are either religious fundamentalism or crippling psychoemotional issues). Also, I teach for a living. I'm damned if I'll do it in the bedroom when I get home.... |
My high school boyfriend and I were both virgins the first time we had sex. I haven't had sex with a virgin since.
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Yeah, we were both virgins. My current guy had many partners before me however.
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2. Both times it actually wasn't that bad. With one of them there were condom issues, but that was resolved and it went swimmingly from there. Some of these stories are making me really grateful for it not being traumatic.
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On the Never Have I Ever game (nnnever.com), there is a question "Never have I ever had sex with a virgin", and 38% of people have voted "done that". So by deduction, 62% of people have never been with another virgin...
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to the thread title: yes and yes...
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My first girlfriend was not and I was. She was really awesome about it, and we always had a great time. I have really fond memories of that experience because she was so cool about it.
My second girlfriend was. It took about 6 months to get her to try it. After she overcame the guilt of the act, we were together for another 4 years. We always had a great time too. |
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Yep, that about sums up my first few times. |
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I came really close to deflowering a boy. We were both 28. He was waiting until marriage, but not because he was religious. He was the result of his mother getting knocked up, his father marrying her because "it was the right thing to do," and then the parents ended up hating each other after kid 3 and had a nasty divorce. He blamed himself for that, and didn't want to chance it in his own adult life.
I think by the time we started hanging out, he was coming to terms with his parents' relationship. He wanted me to be his first. I couldn't do it. Too much going on in that head of his. |
Another double-virgin comedy of errors, I mentioned in detail how everything more or less went wrong in the sex disasters thread.
Summary: Multiple tries, condom was too small (didnt realise till post-breakup), erection problems, pain, although when we finally got the piston turning in the cylinder properly she said she was enjoying it. I don't think I'd have a problem really with having sex with a virgin again... as long as I'm wearing the right size condom. Small tight girl plus small tight condom equals zero blood circulation, meaning no sensation beyond "ow". |
She told me she was a virgin...
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No, although my current partner hadn't gone beyond the olde five minutes of missionary... every single time...
Or does giving her her first non-solo orgasm count? :D |
Fortunately for me, my first time was with a non virgin. She was a senior in high school and I was a sophmore. It was AWESOME. She knew enough to know that I wold pop really quickly, so she blew me to get that first one out of the way, and made a great show of swallowing every drop. She rode me until I was sore every chance she got that school year and through the summer until she went to college.
I was lucky in college that my girlfriend and i went to the same college, and as she was very open to new things, she asked me to deflower her roommate, who she was also having sex with. She had such a good experience when i took her virginity that she wanted her roommate to have the same good time. I did the roommate with my girlfriend there and while she did bleed a bit, we made her feel wonderful before she was through. Between my girlfriend and her roommate, I got an incredible amount of virgin referral sex throughout my four years of college. It seemed that every time i took a virgin, she would set me up with a friend or two that was also a virgin. My girlfriend and I lost count when i took virgin number 100 in my junior year. It was sorta like a service that we had going. Between the two of us, a virgin was promised a good experience fo their first time. |
Amazes the luck some people have...it's something I'll probably never experience!
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And apart from my own deflowering to a fellow virgin, I think I've had two virgins. It was enjoyable in two of three cases mutually. I like to think of myself as a gentle yet capable lover of virgins. |
My s.o. was not, I was, and I was actually glad she was a nympho who knew how to fuck. She'd not been with but a few guys before, but had watched porn growing up and somehow figured out how to seriously suck dick. damn. for a guy going at it for the first time the whole experience was absolutely mind blowing. I think I could be with a virgin at this point, because I have learned patience and listen well.
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only once, it was pretty much as described above. I'd like to say, though, that we make way too big of a deal out of virginity. what difference does it make anyway, i didn't become some different person after the first time. the only time sex actually changed who i was/am as a person was when she got pregnant.
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My first was this 19 year old, the daughter of my dad's room mate, I was 17 at the time, she was not a virgin. When I was 18 I had a 17 year old girlfriend who was a virgin, that was the first time with a virgin. When I was 22 I was with a 19 year old virgin, that was the second and last time with a virgin. And also the last time with a younger woman. Good times. Not really any fun though. Sex is better when the person you're having it with is not a virgin.
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Well, I lost mine w/my high school gf, we were both virgins, I 17, she 15. We had gone on a ski trip together (a HS ski trip that turned out NOT TO HAVE ANY CHAPERONES, lol) where we shared a room. But we shared it with 2 of her friends, so we turned out not to have any proper opportunity. So we shacked up in my 3rd floor bedroom one afternoon the next weekend. We took it really slow, it took forever, literally hours, to work through the foreplay and I went real slow with the entry. I don't remember having erection problems. We didn't really have "sex" as I came to know sex later -- it was more of a welcome party we threw for her uterus, with my member as the new guest that she had to get used to. I think there was a little blood, and I'm not sure she enjoyed it that much. I enjoyed it emotionally, but it was unmemorable physically. It was something we had to do, to get to the good stuff which came later.
I did, I believe, become a different girl's first later on --- I worked on a cruise ship for a while, and there was this younger lady on board for one of the cruises, and we spent a lot of time together, and eventually ended up doing the horizontal mambo. I Clueless (that's me, sorta like I Claudius) didn't figure out that her virginity was in the equation til later, piecing the signs together that a)she was on a mission, clearly wanted to git 'er done, and b)how tight she was. I didn't hurt her too much, I don't think - I'm not huge nor particularly rough. And... she never contacted me again. Like one of the early posters, I tink I got played.... |
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