Guys, what do YOU find sexy in a woman?
 

I was talking to a friend of mine about women and he said that one of the sexiest things a woman can do, is be comfident. So i brought this up with a girl friend of mine and she agreed that sexy isnt a look, it's an attitude. What do you all think? What do women do that make them sexy?

I know that the opinions of sexy vary from person to person, but in general, what makes you look at a woman and go, wow, she's sexy?

It is definitely confidence. As much as I like certain outfits or body types, it all pales in comparison with a woman who just KNOWS she is sexy and makes it very obvious :)

Being attractive is a plus, but intellect would probably be at the top of my list. I want her to kick my ass up and down in a serious conversation, challenging me left and right and making sure that I better have my facts right or she'll lose respect for me. Also, when she brings up the fact that she's a fan of the reverse cowgirl in the middle of dinner with my old boss. Bwaahahah...

I know that this will be a slight generalization, but it my experience the women who believe their the sexiest thing alive can sometimes be the biggest bitches. Personally, I like a modest woman who's believes she beautiful but doesn't feel the need to flaunt it.

Alright, so confidence is importatn, and wit, but do you agree theres a certain line between confidence, knowing your sexy and showing it, and being an egotisctical whore?

For me this means, Giving the eyes, showing your smile, raising one eyebrow, and making it known that you are aware of your sexyness.. NOT Going up to someone and telling them how sexy you are and then getting mad when tehy reject you. That's not sexy, that's major self esteem problems.

Yeah, I can often tell when a woman is trying to be sexy. It's often the case that I don't find them terribly successful. I find that sexy isn't something you do, it's something you are. Although I believe sexiness is tied to physical attractiveness, so much of it is indeed based in confidence (not arrogance) and other mental attributes. I give you an example: the way a woman talks is a big deal. The difference between beautiful and sexy usually becomes strikingly clear when a woman speaks.

Genuinely sexy women don't even need to be aware of it. Actually, I'd say that it's way more sexy if they don't seem to be conscious of it.

Confidence is way up there. A woman who isn't afraid to initiate and is willing to take her fair share of responsibility for the pleasure that you two are about to share is incredibly sexy.

there is nothing sexier than a woman who is smarter than i am.
also, short red hair.

This pretty much nails it for me. It's the little things, rather than overt things, that really make a woman sexy. The winks, the smiles, posture, knowing how to use those things to her advantage ;-)

Looks is part of it, but only a small part.

I think there is nothing sexier than a woman who can be comfortable with herself at all times.

There is also something about a woman's laugh and smile that seem really sexy, not only because it shows that she is relaxed and at ease, but it also conveys to me to take it easy as well, allowing me to want to start a conversation with her all the more.

Not just confidence, but sexual assertiveness in a girl is very sexy to me. Obviously I have to find them attractive to begin with though. ;) And sexual assertiveness means actively seeking out a guy she's into (in this case, me), and not just "sending signals" and dressing scantily and all of that other nonsense.

Hmmm...



When she has her lips wrapped around my cock.

You bastard WK. I only came here to say this!

:rolleyes:

There's something definitely sexy about a woman.... let me see what is it.... hmmm I can't seem to put my finger in it....

It all depends on what you are wanting a specific answer to. are you asking about physically something that makes them sexy, or just overall? I personally find a woman who can look me in the eye without being shy and hold up an intelligent conversation to be sexy in the intellect department...Now as far as physically, it is hard to explain, but I will try.... Picture a woman who has their belly bared....now ever seen the ladies where you can see the tiny little "pockets" on each side of their belly as it goes down into their jeans/pants? It is hard to describe, but that is the best that I can come up with.... now THAT is sexy to me....lol

I think it can be, and I think attactiveness can be as well, but there are other characteristics as well, IMO.

My wife does not think she is sexy. She doesn't wear makeup. She doesn't dress to look sexy. No nail polish or hours doing her hair in the morning. But, she carries this aura of sexyness about her that I can't explain. I'm constantly drawn to her. I just want her all the time. I find all of her movements sexy...the way she walks, the way she sits, the way she eats.

There are women who are prettier and try to act sexier, but I don't consider them to be sexier than my wife.

I don't think there is just one thing... I can find something attractive about almost any woman. If it's the twinkle in her eye, the way she carries herself, etc. I used to work with this woman who wasn't real attractive, but one day, just the way she was talking, and acting, made me look at her differently. Then is went back to normal after that.

A quiet confidence, a warm personality, and a strong sense of morals.

Four things: nice eyes, nice smile, good posture, quick intelligence. Potent, potent combination if all of them are in one woman.

we are people and everyone of us has a own opinion about the world and sex. I see in one woman eyes, breasts, legs, lips. But you can see other so the is so individual for every one i think so

A girl with sholder length blonde hair in a ponytail and in workout clothes. Short shorts and a sports bra are the sexiest thing a girl can wear, imo. :thumbsup:

Fun, friendly, laid back and nice are all positive things. And I like girls who don't mind getting their hands dirty. Whether it be camping in the woods, hiking in the mud, or working on the car it is all good.

Good points, i'm starting to see some similarities...

It's very rare to find a woman who is comfortable in her own skin and who knows what she wants. Hell, it's almost impossible.

One can be confident in their daily undertakings, but extremely fickle and vulnerable when it comes to intimacy. I like a girl who is unstoppable as herself.

When she is across the room before I've met her it's her hair, features, clothes and movement. After I've met her it's her attitude, voice and intelligence

Can I just make an observation here? Several of you have said "intelligence", but yet when we women said the same thing, a guy comes into the conversation and blasts us basically calling us liars.....or at least thats the way I took it.

And the vast majority said confidence..I'd ascertain that bring in two women with equal confidence, one with a flat chest and glasses on her face and the other with large breasts and big made-up eyes and guess who gets the attention.....

so call us liars.. we'll thumb wrestle you for it

Ready, set, go! :thumbsup:

But they're out there, my friend.

*warning* temporary thread hijack *warning*

A couple of years ago I made a commitment to settle for nothing less than exactly that. I had "settled for less" in the past and it just brought me misery.
My ideal woman would be trusting and trustworthy, emotionally generous and perceptive with social grace, unashamedly romantic to the core and unrelentingly passionate with her mate. I have those qualities myself, so it's not inconceivable to think there'd be a woman out there for me.

So I dated around but I didn't screw around. I wasn't looking to just get laid - I got that out of my system years ago. I was committed to complete sincerity and open expression because I was looking for more.

After more than two years of fruitless dating - more than two years of complete celibacy (Yeah, it got really tough) I might have found the woman of my dreams.

We've been together for a few months now so it's still early - but we've covered a lot of territory in that time. It's really bizarre because she was doing the same thing I had been doing ... and we somehow met. Both of us still can't believe what we've found in each other.

For me she's the most complete woman I've ever known ... and she's similarly dumbfounded in me. I've never met anyone else who even comes close to her. Everything about her is beautiful and sexy. I can't begin to describe how deep the compatibility runs - but you can imagine. I'm still smitten and completely in love.

Neither of us is perfect - but so far we're just about perfect for each other. We both love our jobs and we're both successful. Starting this weekend we will be spending the next two weeks in Italy driving through Tuscany.

So don't give up hope.

Work out your neuroses and become a real man. Then go and find yourself a real woman. Good luck!

Good for you! It means you're a lucky man.

Ok, this isn't necessary, but it is sexy, and that's what this thread is about.

A nice voice can be a real turn on for me. It has to be strong and clear. Yeah.

Flat chest and glasses. You mean like her?
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Seriously, though. Let's not fall into the trap of assuming we all think in extremes and absolutes. I personally find women sexy regardless of breast size. And made-up eyes? It depends. Many women put too much gunk on their faces.

Don't underestimate the power of body language, speech, intellect, etc. when it comes to sexiness. Beauty is one thing, sexiness is another. This goes for both men and women.

I may be the odd one out here, but I tend to prefer small to average sized breasts. And glasses can be very sexy. :D

mmmmm.... Mila. :D

I completely agree, especially about the makeup. It's always great to see a woman who can be absolutely gorgeous without even a bit of makeup on.

What do I find to be sexy? How about my wife, fresh out of the shower, dripping wet in her towel, and demanding my cock in her ass.

Let's break down this little scenario into its components:
- committed / loyal
- clean
- confident / horny
- experimental

It's not necessarily the reality of my life--it's just what I find to be sexy.

There is also a big difference between judging beauty based on pure aesthetics (such as photos) and meeting someone in person (or even considering someone for a relationship - I might find someone beautiful but have a relationship with them? Hell no).

I can see where you are coming from on this. However, if I were to list in order what I find attractive, it would first be the ineffable qualities such as "self-confidence" and "attitude" then it would be the elements of physical beauty.

In the end it is a mix of the ineffable, the physical and that other thing called compatibility. Sorry I can't be more specific on this but attractiveness is not easily quantifiable (unless we are talking about her lips wrapped around my cock... in which case I agree with WK).

What I find attractive in a woman:

First and foremost - brains. I love a smart woman who can think for herself. Personality, I dont like girls who are all into themselves and designer shit. I like the outdoorsy type.

Physically: I like a nice round tight ass, small breasts (A or B cup are both great). A sexy toned flat stomach (not a starved stomach). And makeup and smoking are the two biggest turn offs. I can be friends with people who wear lots of makeup and smoke, but date them? not a chance.

On reflection, I'll amend my prior answer to add this: elegant and classy outside, insatiably passionate inside. That combination is........ heady as all hell.

Totally agree on almost every point(the cock thing, not so much-I've seen me in that position :D). I know, personally I'm not the same in person as in photos; the scenario would/should be amended to if they both walked into a room with equal confidence, the one noticed first and foremost would be the latter, but that doesn't mean she won't go home alone.
There are different levels/degrees of confidence and where that confidence comes from. In either gender, one could walk into a room with the confidence that they look good, but if all that comes out of their heads is hot air, well...bleh!
Perhaps the fact that so many said 'confidence' can't really quantify it either; it's one of those 'a-ha!' things-you just know it when it's there. Strength rarely speaks.

I don't know if I can explain this... But I don't think I agree with the confidence theme going here. I prefer the free spirit or the great sense of humor almost as much as anything else.

I guess I don't so much have as much interest in a woman that opens her shirt to show her tits as much as a woman who would be willing to show her tits for a laugh. Does that make sense?

yep! I'm the more 'for a laugh' kind. If you saw me with friends, you'd know :D