Should I call tomorrow or sunday?
 

I asked a girl for her number a few days ago and asked her out, I said I would call Saturday but since she's always giving me mixed signals I was thinking of waiting until Sunday to make the call and plans to seem non desperate and to sort of play her mixed signals game..What do you guys think?

:) maybe you should study?

That's JUST what I thought when I saw this thread!

No dating for you until you bring those grades up, young man! :lol:

:lol: what?

I totally did not expect that response :D

On to you AfterBurn, if you have not done so already, I would check out this thread. It may just enlighten you yet, and guide you safely.

And we have a thread winner folks.


Based on your other thread and this one, you have a lot of growing up to do. . . I'm assuming you're in college, not high school. . .If so, now might be a very good time to start.

Waiting X-number of days is childish. If you like her call her when you get a chance, or at least wait until you know what your schedule for the week will be so you don't have to last-minute cancel plans.

And there we have it. So long to the whole idea of judging each post based on its own merits and not by what the poster may have said in a completely different forum. Perpetrated by a super mod, no less.

I agree with Seaver. Call her when you said you would.

really? is that part of something I've not read? because if it isn't, I'm happy to read and abide by it.

In fact, most of the times we GET TO KNOW people by connecting threads together and connection of facts, feelings, emotions, and situations, to bring a complete picture of what that individual is.

If there is some rule of sorts that I'm breaking please share it since I'm completely unaware of what point you are trying to make.

Call her when you feel like calling her (as long as it isn't 4:00 am). If she's interested, she'll be fine with it.

Sunday's too early. I say wait until next Friday.

give her a call, say your busy getting your grades up, but would like to get to know her, ask for next weekend.

Call her on Saturday, but tell your Dad you called her on Sunday?

Seriously: both of your questions need the same answer - be honest about your life, to yourself and others. You like this girl - call her as soon as you want her to know that.

Honesty and communication worked for me every time. In contrast dishonesty has always bitten me on the bum.

I can't count the number of "when should I call" threads we've had in the past. :)

There are always the same two camps: "playing games is stupid, just call her." and "wait x days, that's the best idea."

My opinion is the former.

I still wonder why people come here to ask this question. If you are interested call her.

My god, I woke up with the worst hangover in my life one Saturday morning. I called JJ out of the blue first thing to tell him that I wanted to meet him the next morning to talk about getting together. And here we are 8 years later.

You are never going to have a serious relationship as long as you are playing games and over analyzing. Do what you feel is right and move on with your life.

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=113112

I think he means post #32 and all that ensuing crap. But hell, I disagreed with that from day one.

Go do some homework, AfterBurn! :rolleyes:

Hmm... if you told her you'd call on Saturday, then call on Saturday. Simple as that, in my opinion.

I think you should call her on Sunday, so she'll have a chance to find someone who will actually do what he told he he'd do, when he said he'd do it.

What's the confusion? You said you'd call Saturday. So call Saturday. Do what you said you would. Coherence and being attentive are big on my list, I don't know about your girl.

Do what your gut tells you to do and stop overthinking, because overthinking just messes you up.

Bingo! You know what calling her on Sunday when you told her you'd call on Saturday does? Makes her feel like you don't care about her or her feelings. If you want to play the 'give her an inferiority complex' to get a date card go ahead. Plan9's thread is what that whole game is all about, it's not about building an honest, lasting relationship. If you want something serious I hope you called her yesterday. If you just want to play stupid games until she puts out or tells you to 'go to hell', call her today or tomorrow.

//edit: If you want something serious but didn't call her yesterday, call her ASAP and apologize. Don't act like it's not a big deal that you didn't call. How important it was is up to her.

Thank you for putting forward what Carno did not. I make the assumption that he thinks that I subscribe to that same thing as well. I never bothered to read the whole thread I stopped at the very beginning since at that time I had other things pulling at my attention.

Distilled from that thread:
That's the cup that I drink from... Carno and Halx may choose differently for themselves. Personal experience in deepening relationships with people begs for sometimes sips and sometimes deep gulps from that cup.

thank you Carno for saying what you meant (inside joke if you can recall it PM me if you don't get it) and SC for taking the time.

/threadjack

So did you call her like you said you would?