Please help! Question about infections - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

LadyBug · 04-08-2007, 01:00 PM

Hi, I'm new here and have searched the forums for a similar topic but can't really find what I'm looking for so I hope I wasn't just missing it, here goes...

I have been with the same guy for 4 years now, on and off, and two weeks ago he broke up with me. Last week he stayed at my house for a five days and on the last day was complaining of a sore penis and that it was red and raw underneath the foreskin. He blamed it on rough sex. Today I spoke to him and he was saying it feels "tingly" and as if there could be an infection. I myself these past few days have also had this feeling. We both had chlamydia a year ago after he cheated on me with another girl so we know what it feels like. I know I haven't been with anyone else and he promises he hasn't either so I'm not sure how an infection could have got there. We both have appointments with the appropriate people next week but I'm really worried that if it is an STI he will blame me for it and never want to see me again. I can't stress to him enough that I'm not lying and really haven't been with anyone else but I don't think he will believe that if it does turn out to be an STI. So I guess my question is; what possibilities are there that it could be if we have both not been with anybody else? I really hope you can help me! Thanks in advance

Elphaba · 04-08-2007, 02:42 PM

Once you have the test results, we might have a better idea of the "how" of things. I know you didn't ask this question, but have you considered the possibility that your boyfriend is lying to you? You have certain knowledge of your fidelity, but sadly, he has cheated on you once before. If the test confirms a new STI, it is he that has some explaining to do.

boink · 04-10-2007, 10:48 PM

Herpes can lay dormant with no visible symptoms for years. many people have it and don't know it. unless you were bolth specificly tested for it before you started seeing eachother, it's dificult to say who gave what to who.

get the test results and make shure they tested for Herpes 1&2

04-08-2007, 01:00 PM	#1 (permalink)
LadyBug Upright	Please help! Question about infections Hi, I'm new here and have searched the forums for a similar topic but can't really find what I'm looking for so I hope I wasn't just missing it, here goes... I have been with the same guy for 4 years now, on and off, and two weeks ago he broke up with me. Last week he stayed at my house for a five days and on the last day was complaining of a sore penis and that it was red and raw underneath the foreskin. He blamed it on rough sex. Today I spoke to him and he was saying it feels "tingly" and as if there could be an infection. I myself these past few days have also had this feeling. We both had chlamydia a year ago after he cheated on me with another girl so we know what it feels like. I know I haven't been with anyone else and he promises he hasn't either so I'm not sure how an infection could have got there. We both have appointments with the appropriate people next week but I'm really worried that if it is an STI he will blame me for it and never want to see me again. I can't stress to him enough that I'm not lying and really haven't been with anyone else but I don't think he will believe that if it does turn out to be an STI. So I guess my question is; what possibilities are there that it could be if we have both not been with anybody else? I really hope you can help me! Thanks in advance

04-08-2007, 02:42 PM	#2 (permalink)
Elphaba Deja Moo Location: Olympic Peninsula, WA	Once you have the test results, we might have a better idea of the "how" of things. I know you didn't ask this question, but have you considered the possibility that your boyfriend is lying to you? You have certain knowledge of your fidelity, but sadly, he has cheated on you once before. If the test confirms a new STI, it is he that has some explaining to do. __________________ "You can't ignore politics, no matter how much you'd like to." Molly Ivins - 1944-2007

04-10-2007, 10:48 PM	#3 (permalink)
boink Addict Location: Seattle	Herpes can lay dormant with no visible symptoms for years. many people have it and don't know it. unless you were bolth specificly tested for it before you started seeing eachother, it's dificult to say who gave what to who. get the test results and make shure they tested for Herpes 1&2