roxxor

So i just got out of a relationship that dragged on was fairly boring at the end. There is this girl at college that i used to see around all the time and it was obvious we had some sort of connection. We have exchanged smiles and eye contact on more than a few occasions. I never acted on it because i had other things going on. The problem i have now is that i haven't seen her in a week or two. I'm just wondering what you guys think of me just asking her out on facebook out of the blue. Would like to hear from the women.

there isn't many downsides. Ill probably never see her again after this semester anyway and she doesn't really know my friends at all so its not like it will come back to haunt me later.

serlindsipity

why not strike up a conversation on facebook first? perhaps then your chances of her saying yes to an invitation to hang out might be more likely. Most of us will say no to an out of the blue invitation, runs the risk of being labeled as a blind date and those are always disastor....

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pig

send her pictures of your penis first. that's always a good rule.

but other than that, yeah - ease into it. get email addy. then maybe a phone number, etc. you'll get a feel of her interest that way.

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World's King

I'm going with what pigglet said... Random sexual harassment is always a good idea.

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The_Jazz

All chicks LOVE the unsolicited cock pic! Anytime pigglet and World's King agree on how to deal with women, that's the sign to do the exact opposite. They're sort of like George from Seinfeld that way.

Seriously, maybe I'm old fashioned, but I'd start the conversation first, then move on to electronic means. You haven't meantioned that you've talked to her, only that you've exchanged meaningful glances over discussions of Satre and the Third World. Are you sure she knows your name?

Then again, I'm very much the face-to-face kind of guy. Maybe it's the saleman in me.

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dirtyrascal7

You could always "poke" her to start... or send her one of those stupid "gifts". The chicks love that... nothing says "I like you" better than spending $1 on a little icon. lol

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Mister Coaster

Cock photos? How cliche... Bend over and show her yer brownstar, that's the way to woo a stranger in '07.

But seriously, the best pickupline ever is "Hi!" Hust go ahead and strike up a conversation, no harm, no fowl.

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Dilbert1234567

clean up... my keyboard...

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Hektore

Get her number off facebook, and call her up, or wait till you bump into her again, then ask her directly. Most of my girl friends (space intentional) view the email/aim/facebook ask out sub par, and maybe an indicator of the [lack of] fortitude of the fellow asking. Not that all of them think that, but a bunch do. Of course, I spent virtually all of my life in small towns that still put emphasis on face to face communication, maybe other places aren't like that.

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mixedmedia

Worked for me.


I'm serious.

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pig

i hear you mixed; now what if it were one of your daughters

i so considered a crude joke about daughters and email addresses, but decided a mother's wrath wasn't worth the humor

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bluedot

Im no authority.. but i'd say asking a girl out on facebook is not a good idea. I think girls like it when you ask them out in person.

mixedmedia

I can't speak for my daughters. Only for myself.

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biznatch

The sticky thread about asking people out says exactly what I recommend doing. Just be honest, get to know her, ask her out.

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My personal opinion on this matter, the matter at hand being the flirtations with women through the internet, is that I don't agree with doing so with women who one does not know in person first. That is, I find it disagreeable for men/women to randomly message/flirt with someone who is a complete stranger over facebook, as I think it is sleezy and unbefitting.

I think that it is ok to flirt through facebook if one has actually met the person in question.. I take this stance as someone very close to me has been hurt by someone in this manner.

However, that is my opinion, and you may feel free to disagree.

skier

he stated in his original post that he no longer knew where she was in person. I like your "every guy on the internet is an asshole" generalization though.

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mixedmedia

For clarity's sake, I'd just like to make the disclaimer that when I met my current paramour it was on a site where it was considered charming to send a picture of your cock along with the first communication. It wasn't a "dating" site. So my mention of it was kind of a joke.

And I must say, the picture was very charming (mmm-hmm), but it was the words that started to flow into my mailbox soon thereafter that got me hooked.

Try writing to her. Something that expresses your personality and what you find attractive about her.

Disclaimer #2: I have no idea what facebook is and how it works.

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The_Jazz

I think that this is code for "I want pigglet and World's King to send me lots and lots of cock pics, preferably ones with their cocks stuffed in each other's asses." I could be wrong about that. My bad if I am.

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mixedmedia

Well, no, I wouldn't particularly enjoy pictures of them fucking each other.

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Glory's Sun

wow.. this thread has taken quite the.. ... .... interesting turn.


If you don't know where she's at then yeah I guess you could just send her a quick Hey.. message on Facebook.

You're walking a fine line. If you search for her and find out where she's at IRL, then you'll still look like a stalker. :shrug:

Are there no other chicks around you??

The_Jazz

Ah, then never mind. Everyone as you were.

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World's King

Who wants to see my cock?

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The_Jazz

And with that, this thread has lived up to all that the title promised.

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pig

someone say cock pictures?



and jazz, that insinuation was just wrong. i think i can safely speak for king on this one too.

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blade02

I'd say atleast look her up on facebook. See what type of stuff she has in her profile. Girls don't say "Look at me, I'm single" because they DONT want attention. Then I'd send her a little something, going like "hey, haven't run into you around campus in awhile" or something like that. To me that shows you atleast remember her and have paid attention to her in the past. How she reacts to this is totally based on if she is attracted to you or not. You'll be a slimeball if she is not attracted, or really sweet for remembering her is she is attracted.

Charlatan

Damn! I should have read the entire thread first *before* I PMd a picture of my cock to mixedmedia...

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mixedmedia

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spectre

I think Charlatan just set himself up to have to send a pic now, and mm may just end up with her inbox overflowing with cock pics because of this thread.

*looks around* *sends a pic to help flood the inbox*

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mixedmedia

Never let it be said that mixedmedia ever turned down a good cock picture.

As long as you boys realize that I'm only using you for cheap thrills...

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pig

hold on.....you'll use us for cheap thrills? now that is fantastic news!

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The_Jazz

I stand corrected. Now we've reached full potential.

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World's King

"Cheap Thrills" is my middle name.

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mixedmedia

....he says with a high-pitched giggle that borders on hysteria...


Much like this thread, I believe that all men should live up to their fullest potential.

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pig

mixed, i hear what you're saying, and i'm liking it...

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mixedmedia

Mine too! It's a small world after all...

instantly apologetic for putting that song into the, ehem, head of TFP, ehem, members

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biznatch

This thread is infinitely more interesting than last time I checked it.


I guess I always get more interested by something when it includes sending dirty pictures through the internet.

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