pimpstar

I'm new here and found this forum a great place to get advice and tips, so i come here to ask you guys

Me and my Girlfriend had sex for the first time around last month, was a xperience but the odd part was that she didn't bleed and she told mee that it was her first time as well, so i was lik okayy mayb we didnt do it well. Than around last week we went at it, again and this sex was great, was long and fun, but yet again she didnt bleed and didn't officially lose her virginity, I again asked her about it and she was like i dunt no but i am for sure that it was her first time doing it as well, cuz i realli trust herr.
So i come to yu guys to know if there is a reasonable xplanation to why she didnt bleed.

Also i want my girl to hav an orgasam, what is da best method for her to hav one?

Jinn

1) You using a condom?

2) She doesn't have to bleed to lose her virginity. Many girls break their hymen from menstruation. Some girls lose it riding a bike. Some girls never lose it. Some girls lose it and don't bleed. Nothin' wrong if she doesn't bleed.

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pornclerk

When I lost my virginity I didn't bleed at all. That's not really a reliable way to tell if a girl is a virgin because the hymen doesn't always bleed when broken.

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pimpstar

I was using a condom,
My girl doesnt no if she ever bleeded, shoodnt she know that tho.
And also wat is the best/pleasurable method of having anal sex?

MrFriendly

Sex is a pretty person thing dude, so if you want to be able to make your girl orgasm, you both need to be open and communicate, try different things and experiment. Help her to help you as it were.

As for Anal, lube, lots and lots of lube :-)

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waltert

my girlfriend's hymen broke when I fingered her, and she bled then. she may have fingered herself before and broke her hymen, who knows...

personally, I wouldnt worry too much about it...as long as she's STD free.

as for anal sex, most girls would say not having it would be the most pleasurable method. its likely going to hurt her alot.

they make lube with a numbing agent to reduce the pain for her, and if you're bent on trying anal sex, I would try using a finger/toy first to get her used to having something in there.

cadre

I didn't bleed my first time. Not all women do.

And I agree that if you want to know how to make your girl orgasm you need to ask her. Just experiment and have her tell you what works and what doesn't.

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Hektore

Many girls have their hymen broken during sports growing up, in fact the number of ways it can be broken prior to their first time is pretty high, so don't be surprised.

Give oral a go around, search here for the threads here that talk about it, then ask her if she is ok with it. Oral can be pretty satisfying for the male partner, in fact sometimes I prefer it. Also, if you're seriously interesting in learning how your girl works, check out www.clitical.com, especially the "for guys" link on the left.

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Glory's Sun

my eyes are bleeding after reading that spelling...


Anywhooo, I think it's best to stay away from anal until you two are more comfortable and experienced in the vaginal penetration first.

yelizaveta

I didn't bleed my first time, and neither did it hurt. it's a perfectly normal thing, some women just don;t have hymens by then..I don't remember any time previously that i could have broken a hymen if i had one anyway...

Daemon1313

The only virgin I ever had sex with didn't bleed when we had sex the first time.

As far as pleasing her, oral. In the sexual sense and the communication sense. Try stuff, with her permission, and see what she likes.

As far as anal goes, key is taking it slow and work your way up to full on anal sex. Talking about licking, fingers, toys, etc. and lots of lube. Also, if she isn't comfortable with it, she will never enjoy it.

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KellyC

Consider yourself lucky. Both of us bleed and it ain't pretty.

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Locobot

omg! she's totally cheatin on U dood!!! that wasn't her first time and you're a fool to think that.

Sultana

Since when is bleeding the official standard of "losing" virginity?

If you really trust her, then why are you asking total strangers for a "reasonable explanation"?

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MSD

First of all, please try to write something resembling proper English. Second of all, do they teach you anything in sex ed these days? Third, you should know this kind of stuff by the time you're out of high school, how old are you?

cadre

High school sex education is abstinence style these days. I find they don't teach anything important and leave people paranoid and uneducated.

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yelizaveta

I totally agree with this. There is so much wrong with abstinance only education! it has worsened the problem of teen pregnancy where it's taught. However, i don't think that it's the predominant form of sex ed in america, even though Bush supports the abstinance-only programs(how's that for enforcing his own christian beliefs on a secular nation?)

cadre

Oh, you could be right. I just know that almost everyone that has been through sex ed recently has learned very little. However, if Bush get's his way it will be. As my professor said last night "he's on a mission from God" lol.

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World's King

I'm pretty sure if this guy paid this much attention in English he didn't pay fuck all attention in Sex Ed.

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Ample

vibrator! I can't believe nobody mention this. I'm sure a lot of young women especially ones that are not sexually active would be reluctant to openly talk about using this with their partner. With my experience, plenty that are sexually active even still don't openly feel right talking about it. My last girlfriend who was 33 NEVER talked about in casual conversation with any man before me, at least that is what she told me.

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pornclerk

Those were my exact same thoughts, but I didn't want to be the first to say it...

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hunnychile

***Smartest response to this entire post! ***

ps - Hope you two newbies have discussed birthcontrol as well as safe sex...

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Hektore

I don't know...I paid way more attention in sex ed than I ever did in english class because, lets face it, sex is way more interesting than grammar and spelling.

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pimpstar

LOL, hahaha thanks for the advices, and my badd for my english, its just that I am used to using alot of slangs and not talking proper. I asked cause I wasn't really sure that a girl can break the hymen without knowing that she has broken it.

Dun't really go to classes and even if I do dun't pay attention, btw I'm 16 and live in Toronto where Bush can't do jack shit. Also they don't teach on how to make your girl have orgasms and how to do proper anal.

spectre

I think that just about explains everything.

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Carno

^ Hahaha.... Too funny.

cadre

Funny how his grammar and his spelling didn't improve right? But yeah, that does explain alot!

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Glory's Sun

I think I'm going to preserve this thread and show it to my kids when they get in school. Maybe they'll pay attention so they can actually write a sentence at 16 y.o.

Bill O'Rights

Hmmm…It explains a lot…
This, I think, explains much much more.

Ummm…no…that’s what college dormitories are for. I don’t pay taxes, so that the Clearasil Kid can learn how to plug Peggy Sue up the pooper. I will gladly pay for education on safe sex, pregnancy, anatomy, etc. How to make your girl have an orgasm is on your nickel.

But, from the looks of things, someone’s tax dollars were wasted anyway.

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Charlatan

There is a time and a place for everything... that time and place is college.

I am just disturbed that junior is from Toronto... I suppose it takes all kinds.

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ngdawg

Toronto, great that it is, is, unfortunately, not immune to grammatically challenged and sexually ignorant teenagers....*sigh*

"bleeded"????? That's like, 3 letters more than 'bled'

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