bmp3388

As of late, I have been talking to an ex of mine (from about 4-5 years ago). Back then, we decided to break it off, but to remain friends. For years, we would still get together and go at it all night. The sex was great, so I couldn't say no. This girl would even go as far as to pay for me to travel 200+ miles just to come see her for a weekend. A little over a year ago, she started dating a guy, and they are still together today. Here's where the dilemma really starts. He is a complete ass to her, beats her, throws her around, spits on her, calls her names, the works. She claims she wants to break it off with him, and has "been trying to" for about 2 months. She and I got together about a month and a half ago and had a loooooong night of sex. I didn't really intend on it happening, things just sorta flowed. Since then, we have gotten together every time she is in town. Now then, here's where I need some advice. Should I keep it goin, considering what kind of a guy he is and the fact that she wants out, or should I stop it?

KirStang

As of right now, I would be more concerned about her safety in relation to her bf, rather than worry about the 'correctness' of her being with you.

DEI37

Yup, agreed totally. Get her taken care of physically before you take care of her sexually.

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mixedmedia

Frankly, I'd be worried about her state of mind and fitness to be emotionally involved with if she were being treated that badly by her boyfriend and then having "sex all night" with you when she's in town.

Like the previous two posters have said. Help her get out of the situation she's in, then concern yourself with a sexual relationship with her. Otherwise you could be contributing to the instability of a confused and delicate psyche. Just my opinion. Good luck.

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BlackKittyKat

I too agree with the others you need to worry about her safety than the great sex you guys are having.

Help her get out of the situation she is in before something serious happens.

Psycho Dad

Sounds like she is in a bad place with this guy. If that is the way he treats her now, what is going to happen if he finds out what you two have been up to? Cool it with her and be more concerned with getting her out than getting her off.

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oFia

Help her. Support her so she can get out of the situation she is in - then think about the sex. Watching her in an abusive relationship and not doing anything to help her out is worse than whether or not you should continue having sex.

healer

She, first and foremost, needs to break it off with that ass of a guy she's been seeing. If you care about her enough to help her do that (if she can't do it by herself for whatever reason) then do it. She needs to get away from this guy ASAP.

Once she's safe, you can reevaluate where you two stand.

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Xazy

It is not always best to just jump in, if she has battered wife syndrom she may have to hit rock bottom before being willing to get out.

777

Technically bmp3388, you 2 are cheating

And it would be best that you suport her for the up coming break.

Good luck.

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