break ups and nude photos
 

Alrighty... well as the name implies I'd love to hear abount all your experiences and adventures about said topic... but heres a question that I just came about in my own situation. A bit of background... me and my ex gf were togther for a bit over a year, great girl, great time, great relationship. period... Now I think this is commen with most couples,, but I may be wrong, but I have quite a few nude photos of her, and even a few quick videos of us in bed. She knows all about them, so no secrets there.. however we've been apart now for about 2 months.. and she now asked me to delete them off of my computer. It's not like she doesnt like the idea of me looking at them,, but she doesnt like the idea that they are "out" there... meaning that by some small chance they could get on the internet, ect.. which to me is a pretty small, next to nill chance. But I respect her and so with a sweaty palm and sorrow in my heart, I will delete them.:sad: However it got me thinking,, would you delete them?.. would you tell her you will,, then keep them knowing that she won't ever be on your computer again... or maybe print off hard copies to stash elsewhere first? or how about stash a few away in some deep folder on your computer to look up on those lonely nights.. so how about it?.. what would you do? or what have you done? I'm honestly thinking about maybe printing one or two off to keep in a safe place...but we'll see:thumbsup:

delete, delete, delete... first, out of respect, second so it wont bite you in the ass down the road, you never know what could happen and they could get out.

any pics i have of a current flame are stored password protected and encrypted (128 bit AES), the slack space on my hard drive is wiped after i view them, as well as the other places viewed pictures lurk. I don't take chances with their privacy. after things are certainly over, i do delete them.

Send em to me, I'll hold on to them and make sure they don't get in the wrong hands. :)

But seriously, I would keep em if you still have feelings for her in a good way. It's memories even if she's nude. would you delete pictures of a ski trip you took or something like that? to me it's the same. either you delete em all or keep em all.

Tough one, I have to agree with MexicanOnABike that they are your shared memories and I would not delete reguler pictures. But I feel that nude pictures differ. They were taken with a different understanding and agreement from reguler vacation pictures. And while I would love to keep a picture for the memories, I think it would be wrong to. So yeah after a few long looks i would sadly delete them.

I had this similar experience just a couple of days ago when I was organizing photos. Our breakup wasn't clean and simple and frankly it just hurts too damn much to look at them, so I did the delete, delete delete thing.

I'd keep them hidden or locked until 1) you dont want to look at them anymore or 2) you're dating someone else. #1 is about respecting yourself. #2 is about respectng the new girl.

i guess you might have a very different relationship than i've ever had with an ex, but i really can't imagine asking her if i can burn her nude photos to a CD so i could safely "check them out" later. after breaking up, the last thing i would think she *really* wants is you looking at her nude. i would definitely delete them. maybe crop out the head from a photo where appropriate to remind you of the times, but that sort of vulnerable imagery should be deleted if that's what she asks for.

frankly, i might burn them to a CD, and give her the only copy of the photos that are just her. delete the ones with both of you. that's essentially what i did with an ex of mind a long time ago, which is the only time its really come up.

I think your exactly right. I would love to keep them, and I like the idea of burning them to a cd so that they are "off" my computer but I could still look em up every now and then. I would however delete them, and or not want to look at them once I started going out with somebody new. That isnt fair at all to the new girl and I would definitally feel as though its a form of cheating. Besides, hopefully i'll have pics of the new girl to replace them with.. :thumbsup: We did have a very clean and healthy breakup, we still talk once a week or so. I love to look over old photos and remember good times, and these photos I don't think are too different in that respect. Thanks for the insight and opinions!!

Thank you.

make sure you encrypt the data on the CD, just to be safe.

Agreed. As much as it sucks to get rid of them, that's what happens when you breakup, you lose something that you previously enjoyed. It's not fair to her to "cheat the system" and still get to enjoy her naked if she's cut that part of her out of both of your lives. Simply put, if she has asked you to delete the material, then you owe her the respect to do as she has asked. If her only concern is that it is still on your computer, then you could ask her if she would be comfortable with you putting it on CD. But in general, I would say the best course would be to do as she asked and delete it. Since she's the one in the more vunerable position, it has to be about what she wants and not what you want.

wait wait wait. now your making this convoluted. does she just want them off your computer or does she want it so you never see them again? I think youre trying to find a loophole so you still technically have them and in the long run, you will be lying to her if you still have them.

I only say this becuase I have an Ex who has (or had, i dont really know now) photos of me, and if i found out he said he deleted them but instead only backed them up on a CD, well thats betrayal and youe only going to burn her just as much as you would if you kept them on your computer.

Think about it.

I'm going to guess the break up was good. :P

This is all about respect for other people.
Whether you are involved with them or no longer involved with them.
Whether you like the person or not.

It is not about getting rid of them before you get together with someone else.
It is not about shared memories like the pictures taken of the two of you in DisneyWorld.

These pics were taken i(I am assuming) during private moments between the two of you. There was an underlying trust that was involved in taking and keeping these pictures that had it basis in your relationship.

Now that the relationship (the way it was) is no longer there that underlying trust and connection between the two of you, that ensures that these pics remain private, that formed the basis of your realtionship is no longer there.

She asked you to delete them.
Becuase you still have some relationship with her the decision should be easy. You do as she asks.
I could understand if there was some sort of animosity that you would not want to do as she asked but then, that is the reason she does not want you to have them anymore.

Would I get rid of them? Now that is a completely diffeent story. :)
Just kidding, I hope that I would be able to do as asked but I can't say for sure.

When a friend decided to end it, he said, 'well, I guess you'll want your pictures back', to which I said I'd given them to him, he can do what he wants with them. And that's really the crux-doing what is asked once the relationship ends. She is uncomfortable with them being 'out there' now that it's over. Since you still speak, you should ask permission to put them on cd's, but I would think cd's are a bit more vulnerable than on a computer, even if they are coded.
Also, keep in mind that 'delete' doesn't eradicate them forever. I've reformatted and mistakenly 'erased' many files; I used a recovery program and obtained over 44,000 'deleted' files, more than half in original form.

there is a wonderful program called Sdelete, it was made by sysinternals which has been bough by microsoft, basically, you can clean a file, or with the -z argument you can clean the slack space on your hard drive (all the non used space)

http://www.microsoft.com/technet/sys...y/SDelete.mspx

if the are encrypted well the risk is minimal, i use winrar to protect them, it's 128 bit AES encryption, you can brute force the password, however, as long as you use a decent length password that is not a dictionary word or words, you should be good.

If he already knows how to encrypt, pw, etc., and she's aware of that, I'm of the feeling she's just uncomfortable with him seeing her in an intimate nature now that they're not intimate.
I used to keep all my stuff on zipdisks-I liked them because you could erase and reuse or store, but since I don't know about encryption, etc., they were not a wise choice. Now everything I do is passworded and buried in folder/folder/folder-no passwords are saved anywhere but my head( which sometimes gets me confused since I have several).
One mistake I did make was linking my personal site to the 'business' one-long since unlinked-and placing a single image from an online album into a forum, which someone later pointed out to me that also had some not-for-everyone pix(which he found by right-clicking the posted photo and getting to the album). There was a "Duh!!" moment I quickly had to fix-no one wonder all those guys were so happy to see me when we met up. :D

I'm not saying he should keep them, he should definitively get rid of them, I'm just noting storage for current SO's

I have a fairly large collection on a few CDs somewhere.


Not that I really need them. It's just fun to have them around.

I don't know how old you are, jusolson00... but if the pictures you have of her were taken when she was younger than 18, you will probably want to delete them just so you won't be convicted of having child pornography. There was a case in Florida recently where two teens were convicted of just that (they were dating, ages 16 and 17, and took pictures of each other) even though the pictures were never released publicly. So you never know... better to be without a few nude pictures than to be a registered sex offender for the rest of your life. Here's an article on it:

http://www.mercurynews.com/mld/mercu...y/16732849.htm

Let me take this space to tell you a quick story.

I dated this one girl for a while, she really fucked me over.

After we split up it dawned on me, not only did I have dirty pictures of her, but I also had the email address for her church mailing list.

The devil himself appeared before me.

There was a very long battle before I finally deleted the pictures.
But, I was so close to doing something pretty evil.

Anyway,

Just thought I'd share a story.

Memories are all you get.

I was gonna comment about this too, though I thought that case was kind of messed up. They weren't sent to anyone and yet they were found so I guess it's possible but yeah.

Anywho, if she wants you to delete the photos you definately need to. It would be nice if we all got to keep such pictures but you shouldn't lie to her and keep them even though she may never know. You just need to go out and find a new girl to take pictures of.

If you're the type of guy that takes his computer to someone to fix, delete them (they will and do search your hard drive, don't let them tell you they don't). And never ever ever leave your HD in your pc if you get rid of it (at least without running a utility like wipe drive). But, one way or another, be honest of your intentions.

I would use WinZip or WinRar and create a password protected file. If you have a safe, burn it to CD and stick it in there. Name it something plain and put some other documents on the CD or hard drive.

You shouldn't look at them when you are with a different girl, but if you are single again, it would be ok.

Tell her you nuked 'em but keep them stored away for future reference.

Telling it like it is ...

:)

Exactly my point!.. now I know what the "right" answer is and its wayy to easy for other people to say "you should definitally delete them no matter what!".. but lets be honest... when you have such a strong emotional bond with that person and she leaves you, or vice versa, people don't always do what is "expected" or "right". This is the point of the post... knowing what "should" be done.. but doing othewise for whatever motives you may have.

'for future reference' makes you sound like a pervert.

Couple of quick things: First, before writing off the responses as though the people are full of shit, you might want to consider that many of us have been in this situation and deleted/returned...then again, some of us (King) have a small library. Point being, don't assume that the people telling you to delete them are blowing hot air; they might actually mean it.

Second, are you seriously keeping these pictures because of a "deep emotional connection." Really? I assumed you were going to beat off to them. I don't know, for that deep emotional connection junk I usually have letters or emails or straight up memories. I'm not saying you're full of shit, just thought it was an interesting way to defend the practice of keeping the pics. Good luck either way.

I have nekked pics, but those were from before the days of my owning a digital camera, so they're hard copy. However, I have a set, and she has a set, and I didn't ask her to throw her's away. The way I look at it, she's in them too, so if she's proud enough to show someone else, cool with me. Also, I was thinner back then, so they're HAWT! I'd be proud to show them off! :D

I'm with NG on this one... if I've given you (you being a SO) something, it's yours. Obviously, I have enough trust in you (in this situation) to have nekked pics taken, I trust your judgment and trust that you'll have enough maturity and respect to treat them they way you'd want nekked pics of you treated.

Why? Most people have pictures of old loves - be they spouses or otherwise. Some of the pics are fully dressed, some are at the beach, some are nude.

Is staring at a wedding photo or remembering via a picture Christmases or holidays past less or more emotional than looking at a nude picture of an old flame? What's the difference between imagining sex with an old flame and using a visual prop to enhance that memory?

Most people, while masturbating or even during coitus with someone else, may visualiza, at one time or another, an old flame.

I see no difference between the situations.

But thanks for the judgment nonetheless.

hey highthief, but you're positing that there's no difference between the associations most people have towards pictures of themselves nude, and the vulnerability that goes along with it, and a picture hanging out with friends at the bar or something. i would think that goes to the very spirit of why someone would ask for these specific photos to be deleted. i don't know, particularly right after a break up, most chicks i know wouldn't want to think about me pulling out a dvd of them naked, or sucking my dick, and slapping the monkey around to it. or potentially showing them to a bunch of friends one night, bragging about how crazy that chick was in bed. no seriously guys, i'll show you...if the girl takes the attitude of "well, they're yours - do with them as you will..." then hey, go for it. if she asks you to get rid of them or return them, then i think that's a reasonable request. you don't think maybe it sounds it *little* perverted to keep spank material from your ex girlfriends?

it was the lexicon used, 'for future reference' just sounds bad.

I dunno... never been in a video, so that particular situation couldn't happen yet, but my ex's do talk about how crazy I am in bed... they wish their current SOs weren't so vanilla. :thumbsup: And if there were a video of me (which there may be some day), and it were being shown in the way described, I'd be cool with it, because I'm proud of the craziness. :D

No, I think its part of a normal sexuality. Now you *could* make an argument that if you have a SO who is into having nude pics or vids made of them then that is a little perverted (though i wouldn't but I suppose some people might) - but how is keeping the pics after the relationship is over be construed as perverted if the initial photoshoot wasn't?

Look, its pretty basic to me - if you're uncomfortable with there being sexy pics of you out there, don't pose for them to begin with. This may involve abstention from alcohol, recreational substances and some adult relationships, in some cases. Consult your physician first.

;)

wow, considering that I know of one person with naked pics of me and after all these comments from the guys, fuck it, im never letting a guy take pictures of me nude. Ive lost a bit of confidence in honesty on this subject.

What if you went to an exgirlfriend's house and looked in her window and jerked off while she was dressing? That's not perverted simply because you've jerked off while looking at her when you were dating?

It's perverted because you no longer have that intimate bond that you had while dating. If you aren't willing to delete the pictures of a girlfriend after you stop dating her, I sincerely hope you tell her that BEFORE she gives you any nude photos.

You may not think it's gross and perverted to continue jerking off to pictures of old girlfriends, but many women do.

You want the truth, you can't handle the truth. :lol:

You could just always have him take pictures that didn't have your face visible. It would just be body parts at that point.

If I had to guess, I would say 10% of guys would delete them, 85% would save them and probably forget about them, and 5% would post them on-line.

Today, any picture that is taken of you should be assumed to be immediately available on the internet. So, if you don't want nudes of yourself out there, don't allow them to be taken. I know you want to trust boyfriends and such, but unfortunately that's just not realistic anymore. If you truly believe that your trust is unbreakable, you take the risk of letting them be taken and later on finding out that the trust left with the breakup.

She asked him to delete them. What's to debate? It makes no difference what anyone else feels about it. Either you do the right thing or you are a lying putz. Yes, it truly is your choice in the end. What's more, you know it isn't right. Otherwise you wouldn't be bringing the question here soliciting for apologists. Pffft.

worst day ever was when I gave an 8mm cassette to an ex ... I thought I would get it back, never did. deleted a bunch of stills too. Wish I still had them. after sharing that intimacy, and all the fond memories that go along with it, my visually orient brain would sure appreciate the actual reminders of the sweetness that was shared. I wouldn't trade those memories for anything.

I missed that part. If she asked you to delete them, you don't really own them, and you should do right and delete them.

To me this says she doesn't want him to have them. End of story. One cannot keep them without being a, well, a putz.

I suppose the difference is that what you describe is an illegal act, being a Peeping Tom and that the potential for interaction exists, both with the person beeing viewed and the public.

If it's just you, a photo, and 4 walls, I see no difference between that and thinking about an old lover while masturbating. And I'd argue that the majority of people do that at some point. So we're most of perverts, I guess.

Would I need to delete every picture that I have of her because I might fantasize about her, or imagine what she looks like naked under her clothes?

Interesting thread. Actually had to think about this one.

I agree that the 'right' thing to do would be to delete them. I don't know whether I would or not, right off the bat.

However, by the time I would get in another relationship, I would. I wouldn't want my wife to have naked pictures of an ex lying around, so I can't really expect myself to get away with that either.

If the relationship didn't end horribly and she was a sweet person, and it was an all-around good relationship, I'd probably keep them for a while, so long as I was single. Not to beat off to (that would seem weird somehow), but as something to use to cling on to the memories with in an unhealthy fashion.

just a quick thought, let her encrypt them for you, that way, if you ever get back together, she can unlock them and they are not lost.

So if she's really nice, and mature enough to end the relationship gracefully, you'd not do what she specificially asked you to do?!?

Would you guys also make a copy of her house key when she asked for it back, because you really like to hang out there when she's not around?

Edited to add:
I don't think it would hurt to ask her to clarify what she wants, and if she's just concerned that the photos would end up in distribution, offer her some alternatives and tell her why. If things are as good between you as you say, maybe she'll trust you and relent.

Heh, do guys ever ask for compromising photos to be deleted after a break-up? :lol:

I actually thought more people would have thought like this.. however it seems that about half of you are on one side of the issue while the rest of us reside in that hazy gray area. To me I agree that the pictures hold sentimital value and I value those memories just as much or even more so as the ones of us on vaction, with family, ect... I also find it extremely interesting to those who look at this with the attitude that keeping them is "perverted" and comparing it to looking at her through her window, or making a copy of her house key. Now while i respect their opionion I can only hope they respect mine. I do not keep them soley for the purpose to beat off too, I can easily close my eyes and remember our times together. I don't need the photos for that. My idea for this post was to explore the ideas of knowing what to do (In this case I think most can agree that if she askes you delete them that the "right" thing to do would be to delete them) and fighting that inner most desire to hold on them, even if she doesnt understand why. They say that being in love makes you do crazy and illogical things. Well maybe this is one of them. Its easy to say on the outside to forget and move on, which is happening, but the world doesnt work that black and white.
Does this then mean that I'm going to have to delete her pictures of her at the lake in a sexy as hell red bikini??!!?:eek: say it isnt so...:)

I say keep the photos. What she doesn't know can't hurt her.

(Just so long as the photos don't end up on the internet.)

That's all well and good, but I don't believe your sense of sentimentality about these pictures outweighs her wish to have them deleted.

There was once a time when honesty and character counted for something.

that just makes me sad.

i'm not sure i fully understand your point with this thread julosen. are you trying to validate the decision or point of view that not deleting the photos is understandable, or simply to acknowledge that it can be difficult to do? i think there are a lot of things you might not want to do when you end a relationship, but you still have to do them. to me, its part and parcel of ending the relationship. frankly, i remember in situations like this....i didn't want the pictures any more. the relationship was over. that's just my point of view, so perhaps its not worth going into within the context of this thread.

Why does it make you sad? If a woman gave me nude pictures of herself while we were dating then I don't see why she should care if I have them or not after the ensuing break-up. She gave them to me, so they're mine to do with as I please. If she was that concerned with the pictures, then she shouldn't have given them to me in the first place.

That's the way I see it.

well i hope that you tell every girl this when any girl offers you photos becuase 90% of them would hear this and immediately change their mind. Gifts like that do have an expiration on them and the date is set to "if and when we break up". Why? Becuase if you two could not manage a relationship then you obviously dont deserve soemthing like that either.

As for corcern of the pictures - we're always concerned. They are gifts that can be turned into blackmail in the blink of the eye.

I'd delete them if asked, out of respect for the relationship we once shared.

There are pictures of me out there that I'd prefer never came to light, but there's little I can do about that now.

Yep. When you delete something, the computer marks that area of the hard disc as available. The file stays there, intact, until the computer overwrites that space, which may take a very long time.

Over time, it becomes harder and harder to recover as it gets overwritten. Defragmenting will accelerate this process somewhat, and reformatting does a more thorough, though not perfect job if done only once. Whenever we get rid of an old computer, we reformat the hard drive twice before anyone else gets it to prevent anyone getting our personal information.

word. my guess is that its not an implicit understanding that the pictures will remain with you, regardless of the relationship. people are obviously different, as evidenced by responses in this thread. however, if the discussion of how this situation was to be handled didn't occur before the relationship ended...i just really can't see myself asking my ex if i can keep nude pics of her after the relationship is over. the whole point of breaking up is to move on...why would she want you hanging on to something that intimate. as i said, i might make her a copy and give it to her, as memory of her youth or whatnot. i'd just keep the memories for myself.

it makes me sad that if a woman who you at one point loved and cared about asked you to get rid of a private object that the 2 of you created as a couple, that you would not just refuse, but down right lie about it.

I agree that deleting permenantly (fileshredding) is the right thing to do. It would be tough. I have several gigs of homemade pictures and movies of my wife, if we were to ever split it would be very hard to let go. But if that's what she wants it would be the right thing.

Now, are you a horrible person if you lie and keep them anyway, probably not. Long as you're not an asshole and send them to your friends or post them on the internet anyway. But you would be lying, and you'd have to live with that.

Keep 'em, look at 'em every now and then. Sometimes you'll feel bitter, sometimes you'll think "good memories" but you never know when you might need them for blackmail.

for anyone that needs to clean the slack space on a windows box, the cipher command has a nice utility built in. delete any file you want gone, then open the run command from the start menu and type "cipher /w:c:" where c is the drive you want wiped, it will do 3 passes, and make it all nice and clean.

just keep them, their your photos you can do with them what you want.

though out of respect, don't leak them on the internet and make sure the files are encrypted.

And finally, when you are ready to let go like when you find someone new, you can perhaps delete them as your own little moving on ceremony.

until then, I don't see any harm in keeping the pictures, it's not really hurting anyone.

if she asked you to delete them, you should comply with her wishes. I don't see where the confusion is here.

I'm not sure where your confusion is.

I doubt you've done everything ever asked of you, have you?

Other people have a different world view, and it is one that hurts no one.

So what if you never dated the girl? She just sent them to you to tease you?

Hmmm. Guess if she asks you to delete them, you should, regardless. If not, fair game. :)

And again, if you don't, and just keep them to yourself, are you a horrible human being - I'd say no. Not over that. You're not hurting anyone. But you are lying if you said you would and then don't do it. If you can live with that, even if no one ever finds out, well that's your decision to make not mine.

for things as important as privacy i do. all photos of people who have asked me to delete them have been deleted, nude or not.

some of you guys make me sick.



and to World's King, if she asked me to delete them, they'd be gone.

I dunno...I'm in my first relationship where we take nude pics therefore I wouldn't know how to respond. I think you should respect her and delete them and be done with it. Probably just clean cut everything and move on. Plain and Simple. Up time to get my laundry!

As ever, another fine, well reasoned contribution from you towards having a meaningful discussion.

:shakehead:

what a great question... Personally, I do have some "private" photos of ex's, I also keep/have photos of all the girls I have been "intimate" with... I rarely look at them, but I do have them stored away in a "hidden" folder... maybe one day I will delete them, but it is nice to go back to that folder once in a blue moon and think back at some fun times... thats about all

if she's ur ex, you don't HAVE to listen to her, that's why breakups exist.

If you want to respect her wishes and delete them, that's perfectly fine and dandy, if you want to keep them for urself as memories, I really don't see the harm in that.

I don't see how the decision HAS to be one way or the other...either decision seems perfectly fine and normal to me, I don't see the 'horribleness' of it all.

There are things that are truely horrible in this world, keeping nude pictures of ur ex for memories sake is not one of them.

My ex broke up with me just last month. I'm still trying to get over it and I'm going crazy.

Out of respect for her and mainly because I was still in love with her, I deleted them from my computer. But the pics were also in my email account because she had sent them to me. Those I couldn't bear to delete myself so I gave her my password and allowed her to delete them.

It is a rough time... You did what would be considered honorable-but I don't know if I could bring myself to the same situation. If she is never going to see the computer again, and you promised not to leak them out to the net then I figure there would be no harm in keeping them, provided it will not in cause you to over obsess over her. The memories I have are some of the most important things I posess...

As far as this topic and pics of my ex gf goes, she was a dancer and wanted to be a pinup model. It wasn't really hard to get photos but when we broke up (because of her cheating on me with one of her ex's she was still in love with) I couldn't bear to look at her in that manner any more. So I deleted my personal pictures.
The memories of the friendship we shared still remain, and we will chat from time to time. We are just friends now, and it isn't too bad. I stayed mature about it all. I had my time to be upset and with time it passed. I could never go back to looking at her like that... I just don't want to.


I am still haunted by the one I fell in love with. It was mostly my fault that the breakup occured: young, stupid, noncommitted. I pay for it, I feel, every day.

So I can only hope your situation ended amicably, because if it didn't you will continue to drive yourself crazy until you are able to make your peace with her. In the end, if you are not meant to be together again you will find solace in her finding happiness. It will not be a fixall to the situation, but if you can just see that she is where she is good it will make your days easier.

Until then, you will need to find something to displace your mind. Catching up on old times and going back to those grass roots days where you were happy , before her, can get you over it.

This time is critical, mentally. Some people find getting new hobbies, like working out, martial arts, writing etc to displace that time you used to spend with her is quite therapuetic.

I wish ya the best with it.

this thread has some interesting polarity to it, one side condemning the other as horrible, nasty people.

I've known people who have kept things from their past relationships for years...

personally if my gf and I broke up, I'd probably keep my private pictures of her until I am ready to delete them....honestly, I probably wont even be able to look at them...and will just keep them until I start dating another girl seriously.

they sure as hell arent going on the internet or out on public display.

if that makes me a bad person, well then I guess I'll have to live with it.

Funny story:

When I was in University - oh say late 1980's - long before digital cameras, I was dating an incredibly beautiful woman. We decided to take poloroid photos of each other in the buff.

I think I had about 3 or 4 or her in the nude, a couple of grainy penetration shots, and she had about 3 of my dick (which she put in her locker down at McMaster -discretely behind a poster.

Anyhoo, I had showed her where I hid the photos of us in the event that I was killed by a bus.

One time, we had one of those temporary break ups. One of the first things she said to me was, "I want the photos back". I said sure, but I want my dick pics back too.

I remember she stormed off and I got to thinking that she would make an end run around me and head up to my parent's house. I called my sister and told her a half truth - "If she shows up at the house, don't let her in".

Well she showed up all right, not 5 minutes after I called and told my unsuspecting FATHER that she was there to pick up a book from my room.

Of course he let her in, I'd been dating her for 2 years by that point. She made a bee-line for the hiding spot, picked up her task, and hit the road.

I'll give her credit where credit was due.

We ended up getting back together, but the photos went up in smoke.

It was good in that I am sure that given the nature of our eventual break up (brutal) that I would have done something really stupid with those photos that I would surely regret now.

It was bad because I lost something that I can not recapture. I think I was 20 and she was 19 when we took those photos. We were young, beautiful, and sexual innocents. So much has happened to me since then. I wish I could take a look at those photos now from time to time. I loved her so much it wasn't funny.

Like the guy said, all I get is the memories.