Anal play for men!
 

I'm curious. When I was younger, I used to try anal play while masturbating, but I could never get it to feel good. I never found the spot. Meanwhile, I hear about how lots of guys enjoy it, and even read those stories about that mythical spot that just gets everything going right. I just... am not finding it. I want to, to expand the possibilities and such, but I guess I need some... guidance.

Anyone with some experience in this area wanna help me out?

The spot isn't mythical. Slowly feel your finger being 'pulled' in with the muscle movements, not too deep though. You have to curve your finger to the front (toward your balls in case you're confused) once it's in. Then apply some pressure. And don't pull your finger out quickly, I've heard that's not a good thing.

*pauses for a moment*

*looks at shesus tentatively*

...show me?

OK, OK, fine. I'll fuck you in the ass Halx. :)

But seriously, some people just aren't interested in that paticular hole. While my objections are more from a "poop comes out there" idea, others just aren't excited by it. And you know what? That's okay. It doesn't make you any less of a person or less sexually enlightened or whatever.

Err.. but... uhh. I wasn't addressing the societal implications of anal play. I know how uneasy it makes men to suggest it. I'm simply asking for technique, accounts from experience, and advice.

well halx, my experience is that it burns. maybe its just hair getting pulled out or something, but i had a heck-of-a-gal try it on me a few times when giving me oral. you know, just not so much. i don't give a damn about the social implications...but i will not stand for a true master of the blowjob to sully her work by making me feel like i've got icyhot on my sphincter. this will not stand!!!

^ Haha... Icy hot.. That shit burns, I can't imagine it on my asshole.

Sorry, but that was only a virtual class, not an actual one. ;)
I'm sure if you explain to a willing lady she would try it out for you. I learned the technique several years ago at a sex toy party. I wasn't shown just told exactly what I told you. Then the lady attempted to sell butt beads, but those were a bit too scary for me at the time. Good luck!

i can't say i've ever conducted the side-by-side test ("right babe. first the finger. ok, that sucks. now the icy hot. yep, sucks. wait, that still sucks. hold on, it sucks more. jesus, water won't even take this shit off. god, this sucks")

i've had icy hot on my balls through seepage from a groin muscle pull. that's not cool. not one bit. icy hot in my rectum? fucking shoot me now.

I've mentioned it in other threads on this topic but the best toy out there for prostate stimulation is the Aneros.

http://www.aneros.com/images/newaneros3.gif

With a little practice you too can have prostate orgasms.

I've heard good things about a gadget called the anerous (sp). It's a rather small clamp-shaped item that tickles the prostate, and apparently can do the trick without even touching it once inserted. I don't have first hand experience, but I always have wanted to try it.

Charlatan beat me to it by mere seconds!!!

Who said to use icy-hot? Youch.
You should use clean fingers or a bit of lubricant either self-produced or store bought. If it burns, wash your hands or maybe it's just not for you.

use icy-hot??? no one is advocating that craziness.

The reason it burned when your girlfriend stuck her finger up your ass is because you weren't relaxed and/or she didn't use any lube.

(did I just call you a tight ass? :D )

If you have longer fingernails use a latex exam glove...and lots of lube either way. Shesus explained it pretty well. Sometimes it takes a little while to, uh, become accustomed to your surroundings. But if you feel around gently you will notice a little spongy, roundish shape just a few inches inside the anus. Gently massage that either with or without genital stimulation...and wonderful things will happen. :)

Thanks for that aneros tip, guys...*running off to buy one*

*later*
Found this interesting review of the Aneros so I thought I'd share it...

http://www.vibereview.com/browse/item/Aneros

Interesting stuff.. giving me ideas.

However the icy-hot is right out.

Right. What you need is time and plenty of lube. A good lube, on the thick side, like Maximus. Also, disposable latex gloves can be a good idea since they make for a smooth surface, no fingernail issues.

What she said :)

Abaya got me an Aneros a while ago. I tried it, and it felt pretty good, though nothing like the great reviews I read. It seems that it needs practice. I should give it another try..

I have no advice other than what shesus said, curving the finger is very important (as is not have sharp nails)

When I do it to Dave for some reason I have an easier time using my index finger rather than my middle one

I would think having it done to you would be easier on you and more enjoyable that trying to do it yourself...you could relax more

The worst thing that can be said about the effectiveness of the Aneros is that it will intensify any orgasm you have while it is in. It takes a lot of time and patience to be able to have prostate orgasms.

I've only managed once or twice. I am not that patient.



(edit: there's only one worst thing... I just got distracted while writing it... :lol:)

Two worst things?

For a visual reference of the results of a properly done prostate milking, watch Road Trip. :thumbsup:

I've tried anal play while masturbating, but the feeling of having something in my ass overwhelms any pleasurable sensations I get even from the masturbation, so I gave up on it pretty quick. Might be willing to try it again if I could find a way to guarantee that whole "prostate stimulating a mind blowing orgasm" thing. But my gf ain't up for sticking her fingers up my ass and I can't seem to get the proper angle, so no dice for me.

I tried it. It was hard and unforgiving and my anus tried to suck it in but was stopped by the part that touches your perinium (sp?) That was quite painful as that portion of the toy was badly finished and had flash lines that weren't smoothed. Hard plastic and my anus don't mix.

of course, what do you think keeps gay guys going? The heightened sense of fashion?

Sometimes I think that could very well be the reason. Not all gay men engage in anal sex, you know.

mandy and I engaged in some anal play the other evening. It wasn't the first time she'd put her finger in my ass, but it was the first time I told her to go looking for the 'spot'.

I can only describe the feeling as weird, but a good, pleasurable weird that keeps you curious as to what it could develop into. I definitely want to try it again.

I've read one too many tales of men just getting their prostate glands touched and then going off like Old Faithful. If there's any truth to it, I wanna get me some!

A small, soft silicone dildo is much nicer than the Aneros, I think. I haven't used the Aneros myself (though I did get it for my husband, as he said earlier), but it's definitely hard plastic and not very giving. The silicone dildos that came with our Bend Over Boyfriend kit were just the right size for experimenting, and DAMN do they hit the spot. Believe me, guys... coming from a woman who's seen it happen, you WANT to try and get that p-spot to activate.

Here is a silicone dildo from Babeland that is perfect for the p-spot (we haven't tried it, but it looks fun):

http://www.babeland.com/page/TIB/PRO...-toys/TR348090

Also, for beginners (both men and women):

http://www.babeland.com/page/TIB/PRO...imers/TG348060

Halx, have you tried getting a little help from your lady finding it? I've found the spot for more than one guy who never managed it on his own.

I never found "a" spot. Just the whole area adds to the experience for me.

A strap-on dildo always works well. I am currently experimenting with the aneros, but not having much luck so far.

Hmm...did I kill the thread? I am using the Aneros in conjunction with the cb3000, but my partner is not receiving the same level of prostate stimulation as when I use my fingers or a dildo. Any ideas what I may be doing wrong (I am using plenty of lube).

You didn't kill the thread - you posted on Friday night, and all the potential readers were busy, I expect.

:oogle:

Hi Kali

I find that my SO's fingers work better than anything because she can manipulate.

I find the use of a strapon good for other reasons. In my experience it's more related to power play. And the Aneros has always been a solo toy for me. I have used it occasionally with a partner but have always found that it works best when I can take my time and just concentrate on myself.

Phew, thanks Daniel. Charlatan, thanks for the feedback. The strap-on is always a hit, the role reversal, the optics, etc.

prostates and uteri
are analogous organs

True but in my experience that's a pretty small group.

Funny, my experience is the opposite.

Many of my gay friends do not like anal play. It's just off the menu.

I would be willing to be that if Halx was my 'boyfriend' I wouldn't be real interested anyways *shudder*

That Aneros thing looks like the Unspeakable Symbol that Prince changed his name too. Looks like there was a name for it afterall.

All these toys and techniques are wonderful, but let us not confuse the fact that anal play and finding the "male 'G' spot" are not necessarily the same thing, nor do they have to correlate to one another.

Having the prostate stimulated cannot be compared to plain anal stimulation as far as intensity, but the same can be said for the difference between stimulation to the head of the penis as opposed to the testicles... Both are terrific, but only one will get you off.

The body and it's parts are a buffet. You should try them all.