BCD

So I'm looking at a popular website for amateur sex pics and, much to my chagrin, I came across a picture that I am 99.999% positive is my younger sister giving a guy a blow job. Do I tell her what I found? If it were me, part of me would want to know so I could confront the jerk who posted the photo; however, part of me wouldn't want to know b/c I'd freak out and worry about it, yet not really be able to do anything about it since it was already on the net.

What do you think? Thanks.

Willravel

Step 1, remove eyes. Step 2, if your siste is underage, contact the authorities immediatally. Step 3, wash eyes in rubbing alcohol and hydrogen peroxide. Step 4, put eyes back in head.

Otherwise, I'd just try and forget it.

analog

I'd say unless you're absolutely, totally, completely, unquestionably positive... like you can tell it's in your house, the girl has a tattoo or scar or something definitive that you can see that matches totally... it wasn't her. No matter how much you think it is... it isn't. Just gotta let the denial set in nice and cozy... it's not her. It's not her. It's not her.

That, and there's absolutely nothing whatsoever that can be done about it. At all. Just believe it's not her, and move along, and hopefully the memory will fade. Bringing it up to her can only cause problems, there's nothing to be gained.

Also: though you're her brother, and I know you want to, it's not your job to judge her or hold her accountable for her past- just to love her as your sister. I'm sure there are things we'd all rather we hadn't done, they just don't all land on the 'net in picture form. Just let it be, and you'll all be a lot happier.

jth

I think you should tell her that you found it if it is indeed her. It will be embarasing for both of you however I would only do it because she might not be aware it exists.

IF she does know about it then so be it. There's nothing you can do about that. If she is not aware of it and does not approve then it's her responsibility to get it take down... since it isn't really your business what she does with her boyfriends/sex partners.

If she's underage, notify the authorities.

I've seen comprimising photographs of my sister once and I was pretty upset by it but I know that it wasn't any of my business. I've also seen images of people that I know pretty well on the web in very very comprimising situtations and despite my wanting to confront them about it know it's not any of my business.

that's just me though

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ngdawg

I would say something..."there's this picture that looks exactly like you"....
I posted a quite innocuous picture of me in a forum. Problem was that it was from an online album that had other not innocuous photos and I'd had a brain lapse in not realizing that someone in that forum could access those quite simply. A comrade from that forum pulled me aside one day and said, "about that pic-you do know that it was easy enough to see some others, right?" I pulled them all off that evening. Was he snooping a bit? Yes, but at least he was honest enough to say something.
Put it this way: if it was you in that picture and it was floating around, would you want to know?

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Bossnass

I once found a couple pictures of an ex girlfriend's younger (legal) sister online. They were pretty sketchy 'hidden camera' type. I tracked down her email address (from forwarded forwarded email) and sent an anonymous hotmail email that pretty much said "I think these are pictures of you, I don't think you know about them, I will not tell anybody else and wish to remain nameless". A few days later they were removed from the site and I had a two word email reply "thank you".

Dawson70

So what! As mentioned above....if she is not underage...let it go. She will choose as she wishes. Everybody knows the risk of digital photos and if people are willing to be photographed, then comes the risk of uploaded material.
Sorry if this seems insensitive, however I do not not the relationship between you and your family.

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Tamerlain

Both of my sisters are old enough that it wouldn't be illegal for pictures of them to be up on an amateur site. However, I would tell them just in case they weren't aware that the pictures were posted on the internet. It would be uncomfortable, but I would rather be uncomfortable now than feel like shit if, a few months down the road, she finds out about them from someone else when I could have done something about it. The situation could be a lot worse for her coming from some ex-boyfriend or asshole friend than her brother.

As her brother, it's your job to protect her, even if it will make you uncomfortable.

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healer

Amen, brother.

I'd just want to make sure she was aware of the pics. That's all. If she is then great. If not, then at least she can do something about it.

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Halx

Was is normal porn or was it "Hey baby, lets take pictures - I swear I wont post them on the internet" kind of picture? If your sister got paid to suck someone's dick on camera, you gotta sit there and deal with it. If someone exploited her by posting her pics on the internet without her consent, then you can kick someone's ass. In general, though, I would be a bit reserved when it came to "protecting" your lil sis.

So uhh.. where can I find these pics?

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analog

Protecting a person can also encompass things like protecting her honor, her dignity, and her respect.

And believe me, I'm all about protecting- 100%.

But who exactly are you helping by telling her, just so you can beat his ass? You're sure as shit not helping her. There's nothing to be done about the pics. They're out and they can't be taken back, and no amount of beaten-to-hell-and-back revenge is going to make them disappear from the internet.

Think about the impact of her knowing you know about this, and her having to face you, with that knowledge. She will likely feel ashamed, degraded, and as though you've lost respect for her, no matter how much you assert otherwise. You will have exposed a secret of hers against her will. There is nothing to gain from doing so.

Unless you can tell yourself for certain that would not happen, protecting her in this case may have to suffice with being the better man, and letting her secret remain her secret.

mixedmedia

I think you should tell her...in an accepting and reassuring way.

"Look, I know this sounds bad because I am admitting that I look at porn on the internet, but I came across this picture..."

Let her know that you don't judge her and are only saying something because you want her know if the picture isn't up there with her consent. Tell her, tell her where you saw it and leave it at that. Don't press her about it.

I'm not sure what sort of significance sex has in communicating with your family. If it's a subject that is a no-no to talk about, then it may make talking to her more difficult and may give you reasonable excuse for not mentioning it. But if it were me, I'd want my brother to tell me. Your mileage may vary.

I love your avatar by the way, BCD...I saw the real one in Houston a few years ago. It was overwhelming to stand and view it from the same distance he stood to paint it.

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tuffrr

I can't believe no one has asked for a link yet!!!

If it was me, I'd just try and ignore it. I feel that it would be none of my business, although if you do feel you have to tell her then the idea about an anonymous email is a good one imo.

So, what is the link????

Xazy

In Jewish religeon embarrasing someone is compared to killing someone. At the same time you should protect your sister.

I agree with Bossnass, you should send an anonymous e-mail, or some other method where she would for sure find and read it, and tell her about it. This way she won't feel an embarrasment in front of you, and it will not potentially harm your relationship with her.

Plaid13

I would say just ask her flat out. hey any chance there could be a picture of you giving a bj on this website? Maybe it is her and sh knows about the pictures but thinks its a private thing. Maybe its not her. But at least give her a warning and a chance to have the site remove the picture. Not like giving a BJ is something evil or something but i assume most people dont want that stuff on the web floating around on sites like that. If she does more power to her. And if she does know its there then she shouldnt be embarassed that you found it. So basicly its not her she wont be embarassed at all or it is her and she knows and shouldnt be embarassed or... it is her and she dosnt know and she can get it removed and stop it from embarassing her in front of coworkers or something worse.

Glory's Sun

Let your sister live her life. If she did this willingly then you'll just sit there and skip the pictures next time you're browsing the site.

Bill O'Rights

I wondered who was going to be the first to ask.


Actually....I'm surprised that it took so long.

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Kaliena

Don't be surprised, we just kinda respect you or something.

(also, I'm sure you've got a flood of PMs in your inbox )

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mixedmedia

lol, well if these guys can't find pictures of girls giving blowjobs on the internet then that is something to be ashamed of...or is there a certain thrill in seeing this particular picture?...inquiring minds want to know.

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Mister Coaster

Unless the pic is there without her knowledge, let it go.

Think about it, we all look at porn, and every porn pic out there is of someone who has a family (perhaps dysfunctional) and probably siblings. So what?

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Xera

so, you don't know if she gave her permission for this pic to be up and their is no way to ask without telling her that you saw it. I would ask her if she gave her permission to have her pic posted. I've dated guys before that wanted pics, that SWORE that the pics were just for him and that shared them with buddies. It made me feel dirty, and I appriciated the one buddy that was kind enough to let me know what was going on. It was ackward and embarrassing to be around that guy again, but I still was grateful that someone respected me enough to let me know what was being done to me. I imagine your sis might feel the same.

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dlish

every porn pic out there is someones sister, brother, mother etc.

if shes done it for the benjamins, then you reap what you sow. if she didnt, and shes not in an overly comprimosing position (ie shes got her clothes on) then you should ell her to see if she can remedy the situation.

if she IS in a comprimising situation, then i dunno..thats a tricky one. depends if youve seen ure sister nude before.

at the end of the day, if they are up there and they have been bought by this website, i dont knwo if she would have any rights to the picture. i guess theres a lot of issues about ownership to sort out. maybe seek legal advice. if she cant do anything about it..then shes f&^%$,..no pun intended.

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Lasereth

Are you crazy??? Why in the world would you EVER tell your sister that?? Everytime you see her from now on she'll think "he saw me sucking a penis." That's it. Every single time. Like it or not, that's what will occur, even if you had good intentions. The anonymous e-mail is a good idea, easily the best in the thread. I seriously would not tell her up front. How about this: what if it's not her. Then you just asked your sister if she has sex pictures on the Internet and seemed serious about it. OK CREEPY.

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zed wolf

My turn! My turn!
Mmk, my thoughts being a really open minded guy, you found pics of who you think is your sis giving a bj, cool. Kinda pervy maybe bit if my sis had pics like that on the net I'd look at them.
There is nothing wrong with pictures like that even if they are your sister. You were looking at amature porn on the internet, you know what? I bet alot of them girls you were looking at had brothers just like you, or sisters. These are not just nameless porn goddesses with no family, they have moms dads grandparents aunts and uncles. they are people just like your sister. While you were looking at the other girls were you ashamed for them and there brothers and sisters?
If it was your sister, oh well, its quite normal and nothing to be ashamed of.
If she did not know the pictures were posted on the internet, you can be pretty sure she knew about them when they were being taken. Your sister probably likes sex, blow jobs and being eaten out just as much as you like all these things.
Should you tell her? I would. there is nothing wrong with you seeing her in that manner. is it embarrassing? yeah, but only because you have been taught by society how you should think and behave.
Now, if she didn't know the pictures were posted feel free to help her have them removed from the site and if possible punish the party responsible for posting them. That sort of thing should not be done without the permission of the models involved.
There, now you have my 2p. I hope you haven't found my thoughts too offensive. And I'm also curious as to a link to the pics, posibily rude of me yes, but millions of guys including you her brother have already seen them, why not me and the rest of TFP too? At least I'm honest and open minded about it.

The_Jazz

I like the anonymous email thing myself.

If I were single, I'd ask for your sister's number, but since I'm married now, I'm too classy for that kind of thing.

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Blackthorn

Spot on reply. You always post with sense that seems to go well beyond your years unless of course you are much older than you look.

I've got a pretty open and direct relationship with my sister and I can tell her dumb things like..."Hey I found this pic and I was wondering if there's any chance at all it it's you?" That said I would ask that question in the form of it's cool sis if you know about it but just in case you didn't know -- you / we might want to do something about getting it taken down. It should be just that simple.

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Jinn

She needs to be notified in the event that she is unaware of their cyber-posting. There are many personal things which I would not want archived on the internet for all to see, regardless of having done them.

She does NOT need to be mocked, ignored, or even "protected." She needs to be notified.

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Cimarron29414

I would do the anonymous email. Isn't there a site called "annoyingcoworker.com" or something that lets you tell people stuff anonymously?

My first thought was, if her own brother isn't even 100% sure it's her then it probably won't damage her future because she could simply deny it was her. Based on that, why freak her out.

Moral to the story, no cameras and no audio recordings - ever!

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abaya

Wow, at least people are being honest on this thread! Compared to what went on in the thread where the woman asked if she should become a prostitute, and several people jumped down her throat... (even though half of them would have liked to see a video of her activities, I'm sure), I'm glad to see none of that going on here.

People generally choose to be photographed (unless it's hidden camera stuff), and yep, in this day and age, you're likely to show up on the internet at some point. That said, I agree with Jinn. Unless you're absolutely sure that your sister did it for money and she wanted it to be posted on the internet (which you don't seem to know, for good reason!), I don't see any harm in sending an anonymous e-mail type thing. If she doesn't care and did it in full knowledge of what would happen, she'll ignore the e-mail. If she didn't know, then she can deal with it on her own. Either way, your conscience is relieved.

Now, about sharing it with other people on this board... haha, that's up to your personal ethics, I suppose!

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Daniel_

Just remember that if she's internet savy, or you have a style of writing that she'll recognise, she'll maybe find out it's you.

If you are going to send her a mail, go to another town, and visit an internet cafe.

Set up a new hotmail account.

Send her the message.

That way, when she checks the email headers for IP addresses, and then uses whois (or whatever) she won't see the same IP that her loving brother uses.

Just one question...

How long did you look at the picture before you realised it was her?

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Jinn

Oh jesus, I can't even imagine. Just have this mental image of a guy half way there, stopping, staring, vomitting on his keyboard, instantly going limp, and starting to cry uncontrollably.

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Tamerlain

I didn't mean "protect her" by beating up whoever took the pictures or holding her hand and telling her how wrong it was if she allowed the pictures to be taken. Protection isn't always the stereotypical big brother coming to the rescue.

If she knows about them and is comfortable with it, then great, no harm no foul. If she doesn't, then you are protecting her by letting her know about them. Protecting someone doesn't always have to be beating up whoever hurts them or acting "big brotherish."

As her brother it's the OP's job to protect his sister from something that could be harmful/hurtful/embarassing/etc.

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zed wolf

Am I the only guy here that wouldn't be horrified at seeing his sister naked?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not weird enough to go up to one of my sisters and try to get her to strip or let me watch her give some other guy a bj or anything but in my opinion a sexy and attractive girl is still a sexy attractive girl even if she happens to be your sister. maybe a bit weird because of the sister thing but still....

Daniel_

Zed...

Are you from Alabama?

(JK)

Don't know how to answer this, I only have a brother...

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zed wolf

lol, nope. not in Alabama. I am just not ashamed of sex and nudity. I don't think it is embarrassing or wrong. also there is a difference in not minding if you see someone naked and trying to get somewhere with them. I have no sexual interest in any family members. However, its utterly absurd to place family members on sexual purity pedestals just because they are family members. everyone likes sex, even if they are your sibling and you should not be ashamed embarrassed or horrified by that. I just think America is way too sexually uptight. I mean really, if it weren't for sex you wouldn't be here! are you ashamed that your parents had sex? They may have even liked it too! Hell, there might even be pictures of them liking it!
Oh, and this wasn't aimed at any particular poster, its just my thoughts on the situation!

digme

I used to be really protective about my sister in high school. Really got upset when my friends told me how hot she was and how they wanted to date her. Eventually I realised that she could take care of herself and all this protectivism was just getting between my sister and I.

Now, I don't know how I would feel about seeing my sister on an amateur site, but I would try to forget it as soon as posible.

Nimetic

I think this fits my views. Although I have no need to see this girl... I've seen others.

Yeah.. look if it's ok for you to look at pics of girls on the net, well it must be ok for your sister to be there. Assuming that she is not really young or being hurt in any obvious way.

Besides... there're also a lot of people out there with similar faces...

Daniel_

Back when I was young and impressionable, and my grandmother was old and not dead, I accidentally said "fuck" in front of her.

I was agast, and appologised immediately.

She said something that gave me pause.

"Don't worry dear - by my age, I've heard words like 'fuck' and even said them from time to time. For God's sake, I'm your grandmother, so I must have DONE it at least once"

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james t kirk

LOL

I was wondering who would be the first to say this. And low and behold it was you.

Must admit though, the thought crossed my mind since "she's not my sister"

Dr Rico

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Ah, tears in me eyes, I tell ya, Halx.

I'm in the "Don't ask, don't tell" mode at this moment. Then again, if it were the holidays and everybody were gathered around drinking hot rum and stuff, Dutch Courage might lead me to talke her aside and say:

"Lookee what I found! You have a Doppelganger!"

But failing that, I'd let it go. Unless she was a kid. Then I'd be inclined to get involved.

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