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AnyOtherDay · 11-14-2006, 06:10 PM

I just want to ask a question to make sure everything is ok. I have a girlfriend and we use ky nearly every time we have sex. I can finger her for hours and she will still be dry. I can eat her out and indirectly use my spit as a sort of lube, but only on a few occasions has she been naturally wet. I think the really weird part is that when she comes there is a wet spot covering half the bed...

Now I am fairly new to the sex thing, only being 22, but the other few girls I slept with were way easier to get wet and stayed wet throughout sex. So I was wondering if her dryness is something I should worry about, and I was wondering if any of you girls will give me tips on making her wet.

Toaster126 · 11-14-2006, 06:58 PM

Everyone is different.

She could also be a post opper.

timothy4testes · 11-14-2006, 07:44 PM

ya thats not that wierd... its just the way she is, also she may have a low sex drive and is making herself have sex with you to make you happy, but that doesnt matter cuz some girls are hard to get in the mood and dont get into the mood till halfway through fucking

JumpinJesus · 11-14-2006, 09:12 PM

I'm not a woman so I can't speak for them, but I have found in my experience that some women don't get as wet as others.

My only concern would be attempting insertion without some type of lubricant. I can't imagine that being very pleasant for her.

snowy · 11-14-2006, 10:00 PM

For me, it all depends on which buttons get pushed and for how long. Certain buttons+longer time=wet, wet, wet. But if a guy doesn't give me the kind of foreplay I need, then it's not gonna happen. Personally, fingering doesn't get me off. Perhaps you ought to try some other methods of foreplay--massage, stroking other areas of her body like the insides of her thighs, more attention to her breasts, etc. The best thing you could do, though, would be to ask her what works for her. Most likely, she knows.

As Toaster said, we're all different.

joemc91 · 11-14-2006, 10:08 PM

I dated one girl who was actually the one whoo initiated about half the time, so it's not like she wasn't in the mood. The first time we went at it she said she is always dry and needs plenty of lube. I guess it's just that each girl is different. I wouldn't worry about it, even if it is sort of annoying.

analog · 11-14-2006, 11:41 PM

There are a ton of factors- the bottom line is that the dryness, by itself, is not indicative of anything "wrong".

Birth control can affect natural lubrication- either up or down- significantly. Some women just naturally don't get all that "wet". Some get extremely "wet".

And even in those categories, there are those who seem to be always wet, those who get really wet during intercourse or direct stimulation, and those like a girlfriend I once had that would get VERY wet at the slightest stimulus, genital or otherwise- she'd get very wet if I said certain words, or from the most passive of physical contact on a lot of her body.

Also: a female's ability, or lack of, to ejaculate and her natural lubrication have nothing to do with one another.

So what you've got is a girl who just doesn't naturally produce a lot of lubrication, but does ejaculate. *shrug* It happens, man- keep up the lube and the good work. lol

digme · 11-15-2006, 09:04 PM

Yea, just get the largest bottle of lube you can find and don't be shy about using it.

waltert · 11-15-2006, 09:33 PM

or just wait until she's on her period =P.

pocon1 · 11-15-2006, 09:47 PM

nothing to say

surferlove007 · 11-20-2006, 11:40 PM

I think it depends on the time of the month. Women naturally have some discharge that helps during sex, I tend to use spit to get the ball rolling (no pun intended!) I've actually found that sex during my period is pretty nice because of the extra liquid and such.
Like mentioned above, everyone is different. Are you using condoms? If so then they tend to dry out pretty easily making it somewhat uncomfortable for both parties if not moistened quickly. There are vaginal suppositories that women can insert to help keep things wet in Vaginaworld, they're similar to yeast infection type meds, although typically older women who are going through/gone through menopause use them I've heard. Do some reading, don't take my word for it.

Jozrael · 11-21-2006, 05:47 AM

No offense, but isn't it mildly gross having sex during your period? I'm a virgin, but I'd imagine that it's a little weird and unhygienic to have sex during that time. My gf tells me that in the future she does not want to have sex during that time because of it. I'm not necessarily opposed to it with a bit of cleaning up, because a whole quarter of her life is spent going through her period. But...having sex because you're in your period seems a bit odd to me. Any opinions?

Mister Coaster · 11-21-2006, 07:19 AM

Sex during a woman's period is not "strange" or unhygenic. Many girls get more receptive (horny) during that time of the month, others have the opposite reaction. My wife has a bit of a hangup about it, mostly because she thinks I'll somehow be offended or turned off, but I'm not. The only real concern is cleanup, put down some old towels first.

paulskinback · 11-21-2006, 09:05 AM

Are you seeing my ex?

jerseyboy · 11-21-2006, 07:09 PM

Is it possible that some meds she is taking might have an effect on this. Perhaps she should talk to her gyno.

JustDoll · 11-23-2006, 05:45 PM

how long have u been with her for?
maybe she still isn't totally entirely comfortable with you. like as in....not completely able to relax while having sex with you.....

or maybe ...thats just my own personal experience...:/
But its all good nowwww.. !

11-14-2006, 06:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
AnyOtherDay Upright	Oh My... your dry... I just want to ask a question to make sure everything is ok. I have a girlfriend and we use ky nearly every time we have sex. I can finger her for hours and she will still be dry. I can eat her out and indirectly use my spit as a sort of lube, but only on a few occasions has she been naturally wet. I think the really weird part is that when she comes there is a wet spot covering half the bed... Now I am fairly new to the sex thing, only being 22, but the other few girls I slept with were way easier to get wet and stayed wet throughout sex. So I was wondering if her dryness is something I should worry about, and I was wondering if any of you girls will give me tips on making her wet.

11-14-2006, 06:58 PM	#2 (permalink)
Toaster126 Extreme moderation Location: Kansas City, yo.	Everyone is different. She could also be a post opper. __________________ "The question isn't who is going to let me, it's who is going to stop me." (Ayn Rand) "The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers." (M. Scott Peck)

11-14-2006, 09:12 PM	#4 (permalink)
JumpinJesus Junkie Location: Chicago	I'm not a woman so I can't speak for them, but I have found in my experience that some women don't get as wet as others. My only concern would be attempting insertion without some type of lubricant. I can't imagine that being very pleasant for her. __________________ "I can normally tell how intelligent a man is by how stupid he thinks I am" - Cormac McCarthy, All The Pretty Horses

11-14-2006, 10:00 PM	#5 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	For me, it all depends on which buttons get pushed and for how long. Certain buttons+longer time=wet, wet, wet. But if a guy doesn't give me the kind of foreplay I need, then it's not gonna happen. Personally, fingering doesn't get me off. Perhaps you ought to try some other methods of foreplay--massage, stroking other areas of her body like the insides of her thighs, more attention to her breasts, etc. The best thing you could do, though, would be to ask her what works for her. Most likely, she knows. As Toaster said, we're all different. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

11-14-2006, 10:08 PM	#6 (permalink)
joemc91 Insane Location: Chicago	I dated one girl who was actually the one whoo initiated about half the time, so it's not like she wasn't in the mood. The first time we went at it she said she is always dry and needs plenty of lube. I guess it's just that each girl is different. I wouldn't worry about it, even if it is sort of annoying. __________________ I prefer desert wines to dessert wines. Dry and red

11-14-2006, 07:44 PM	#3 (permalink)
timothy4testes Loser	ya thats not that wierd... its just the way she is, also she may have a low sex drive and is making herself have sex with you to make you happy, but that doesnt matter cuz some girls are hard to get in the mood and dont get into the mood till halfway through fucking

11-14-2006, 11:41 PM	#7 (permalink)
analog Banned	There are a ton of factors- the bottom line is that the dryness, by itself, is not indicative of anything "wrong". Birth control can affect natural lubrication- either up or down- significantly. Some women just naturally don't get all that "wet". Some get extremely "wet". And even in those categories, there are those who seem to be always wet, those who get really wet during intercourse or direct stimulation, and those like a girlfriend I once had that would get VERY wet at the slightest stimulus, genital or otherwise- she'd get very wet if I said certain words, or from the most passive of physical contact on a lot of her body. Also: a female's ability, or lack of, to ejaculate and her natural lubrication have nothing to do with one another. So what you've got is a girl who just doesn't naturally produce a lot of lubrication, but does ejaculate. shrug It happens, man- keep up the lube and the good work. lol

11-15-2006, 09:04 PM	#8 (permalink)
digme Crazy Location: madison, wi	Yea, just get the largest bottle of lube you can find and don't be shy about using it.

11-15-2006, 09:33 PM	#9 (permalink)
waltert Insane	or just wait until she's on her period =P.

11-15-2006, 09:47 PM	#10 (permalink)
pocon1 Banned	nothing to say Last edited by pocon1; 07-06-2008 at 09:10 PM..

11-20-2006, 11:40 PM	#11 (permalink)
surferlove007 Junkie	I think it depends on the time of the month. Women naturally have some discharge that helps during sex, I tend to use spit to get the ball rolling (no pun intended!) I've actually found that sex during my period is pretty nice because of the extra liquid and such. Like mentioned above, everyone is different. Are you using condoms? If so then they tend to dry out pretty easily making it somewhat uncomfortable for both parties if not moistened quickly. There are vaginal suppositories that women can insert to help keep things wet in Vaginaworld, they're similar to yeast infection type meds, although typically older women who are going through/gone through menopause use them I've heard. Do some reading, don't take my word for it.

11-21-2006, 05:47 AM	#12 (permalink)
Jozrael Junkie	No offense, but isn't it mildly gross having sex during your period? I'm a virgin, but I'd imagine that it's a little weird and unhygienic to have sex during that time. My gf tells me that in the future she does not want to have sex during that time because of it. I'm not necessarily opposed to it with a bit of cleaning up, because a whole quarter of her life is spent going through her period. But...having sex because you're in your period seems a bit odd to me. Any opinions?

11-21-2006, 07:19 AM	#13 (permalink)
Mister Coaster Big & Brassy Location: The "Canyon"	Sex during a woman's period is not "strange" or unhygenic. Many girls get more receptive (horny) during that time of the month, others have the opposite reaction. My wife has a bit of a hangup about it, mostly because she thinks I'll somehow be offended or turned off, but I'm not. The only real concern is cleanup, put down some old towels first. __________________ If you have any poo... fling it NOW!

11-21-2006, 09:05 AM	#14 (permalink)
paulskinback Insane	Are you seeing my ex? __________________ 'Everything that can be invented has been invented.- - 1899, Charles Duell, U.S. Office of Patents. 'There is no reason anyone would want a computer in their home.' - Ken Olson, 1977, Digital Equipment Corporation

11-21-2006, 07:09 PM	#15 (permalink)
jerseyboy Insane	Is it possible that some meds she is taking might have an effect on this. Perhaps she should talk to her gyno.

11-23-2006, 05:45 PM	#16 (permalink)
JustDoll Upright Location: T.dot	how long have u been with her for? maybe she still isn't totally entirely comfortable with you. like as in....not completely able to relax while having sex with you..... or maybe ...thats just my own personal experience...:/ But its all good nowwww.. ! __________________ It's like you slit my throat, watched me bleed to death, and asked my dead body why I was screaming in so much pain.