Sex with fat people (No offense intended!)
 

This thread isn't to offend anyone, but me and a female friend of mine were having a rather interesting discussion. Apparently, she read an article which stated that it's harder to have sex with an overweight person than it is skinny one because of fat getting in the way. I happen to disagree. Of course, since neither of us have had sex with anyone who could be considered "Fat", neither of us can say whether it's true or not.

So ummm... Can anyone say if this is true or not? Weird question, I know, but inquiring minds (Mainly mine) wish to know.

It can get in the way in cases of extreme obesity where even the basic mobility of the person is impaired by the excess weight. But in most cases it is possible for overweight people to have sex.

Now in terms of it making it "harder" to have sex, yes the extra weight will hamper movement and possible positions available.

You can of course do some experimentation on your own to verify this, I'm sure you'd be able to find somebody in a local bar willing to help you out.

Well, 60% of americans are overweight or obese. So it is an important question.
I'm 235 lbs, so I'm overweight. I was 265 last year. I've read that for every 30 lbs you lose, it's like gaining an inch of penis length. I'd agree with that to a point.
I'd like to lose another 30 lbs and see if it's still true. I'd be a stud!
Luckily, my girlfriend is in good shape, so I get as close as I need to.
I've had chubby girlfriends and felt sortof inadequate. They seemed used to it and were happy and appreciative, though.
Being overweight, you tend to sweat more. Fat people should open the windows. The skinny folks would be freezing, hehehe!

Would you know if you were having sex with a fat person? I mean, for all you know, you could be fuckin his/her bellybutton and not even know it!

I would definitely fall into the "chunky" range, but my husband loves (LOVES) my body and we have sex every which ole way. The only positions I've found that I wish parts of my body were smaller are the ones where I'm turned around (reverse cowgirl, doggie style, etc) because sometimes my ass gets in the way. However, I would much rather have some padding than be jabbing my husband's pelvis with my butt bones!

Which begs the question of if you don't know...does it matter? :rolleyes:

That comment made my day :lol:

Now, be nice! A fat chick can squash you like a bug!:lol:

Okay, okay, okay - hardeeharhar, clearly none of y'all have ever been overweight. Just remember what it'd feel like to read this if you were the fat person! Discussion of logistics is one thing, but be fair, mkaaayyy?

Thanks,
Your friendly neighborhood oversensitive type

JustJess is right. Keep the thread on topic. This isn't a fat people joke thread.

Sorry,

But seriously, I don't have enough information to elaborate on that as I did have sex with a big girl before but it was a little bit better than the skinnest girl I did. On the other hand, a girl with some meat is still better compared to big chicks. I wouldn't know if my opinion changes as the girl gets bigger in comparsion to skinny girl/girls with some meat.

This might warrent a research experiment...

How true. So, I guess some of us fat folks (I'm about 10 lbs over weight) don't really have a problem with it! :D

Do you really mean obese folks? What is obese? Just overweight fat folks? See? You must first find out what is considered the weight that can be considered "fat" or "too fat" to actually have sex....or good sex.

That makes sense to me. You can get full range of motion when you don't have that extra body mass getting in the way. Plus, squishiness can be quite a turnoff. I'm not saying everyone needs to be thin to be attractive but there is a breaking point for most people.

I'm a male weighing in at 300 lbs and 5' 9".
I've never had any problems with any positions - any issues are mainly psychological. I've worried in the past when ex's have wanted me on top - Ive been busy panicking "if I squish her... how on earth will I explain it to her family" :)

Most positions aren't a problem, from time to time, doggy can be difficult, but that's mainly because I have short legs... my partners have always had longer legs... I considered getting a copy of the yellow pages to kneel on (tee hee hee).

If this inch for 30lbs is true... well... i think it'll an interesting experiment.

:)

Personally, it's all the same to me... I'm more of a skinny person than anything and its more of the movement for me to enjoy the whole thing and with larger people there are a ton of more movement. But there are limitations, such as extreme cases where its imparing movement and positions... I love my positions.


So... Feelgood... brother ole pal... when do you think was the last time you had sex? Do you even remember if it was a skinny or larger person ;)

Grow up for a change asshole

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My wife and I are both "fat" and the only position not much fun is missionary;and that's bad???????

Marshall Im curious about your comment

just what were they used to and appreciative of?

Im fat...I have sex just fine

My range on the scale has varied much over the years. I've been very svelt and I've been pretty damn heavy. Sex while pregnant was the only time it's been a bit awkward, because of the belly, of course.

Other than that, I've always been an excersiser, and I've always been flexible, so that helps immensely no matter what weight I am; therefore, having sex when I'm nice and plump isn't much different than when I'm thin. Of course, the heavier you are, the more you exert yourself (getting out of breath, etc...). :lol:

What I meant was, even though I felt inadequate with a larger woman because I couldn't get as close as I'd like, the woman wasn't bothered by it.
Sorry for any misunderstanding.

Unless you're talking about so obese that the privates are hard to get to, I don't think it'd make much of a difference.

In fact, one girl i had sex with was so skinny that not only was it pretty much a total turn-off, but she couldn't take it. There's nothing quite so mood-killing as the girl telling you to not slam into her so hard. Seriously. And not because her vagina couldn't take it, because the physical hit of my thighs against her ass (doggystyle) was too rough for her frame.

THAT is shitty sex. Thank God neither of us wanted anything more (like dating), because that one experience was terrible, and I would not have sex with her again (and didn't). That, and I found out right afterward she is a bit of a racist.

The sex drive is so strong (usually) in humans that unless you are absolutely physically unable to have sex you will find a way.

I'm fairly thin (6', 175-180 lbs) and have had sex with overweight (50lbs+ over) as well as underweight women. There was no difficulty in either case.

I think the OP may have been referring to people who are morbidly obese. In that case, I have no experience to draw upon; but I'd be willing to bet they get it on just fine. ;)

I've been with quite skinny men and fairly obese men. I recall one guy who's spare tire was a spare tire x's 2. It hung down over his dick so far that I couldn't give head without him holding his belly. I gave up on him before we got very far. Total turnoff.

Overweight or just over the line of being clinically obese, doesn't make much difference in sexual positions. Some positions have to be modified slightly in order to get the penetration desired but it doesn't hamper much at all. Or in the case of obese women, it can be harder to find and stimulate the clit when there is too much padding around.

I do not enjoy men or women who are so skinny that they're bony. It's uncomfortable and somewhat unattractive to me.

No matter what size you are though, if you really care about the person then their extra padding isn't going to get in the way too much to stop you from having sex.

I've been skinny and now I'm ... not skinny (201lbs, 6'1"). I've been in long term relationships with someone in amazing shape and also with someone whose weight got in the way in bed.

If you can jog for 30 minutes without straining, it's easier to satisfy your partner in bed. It's hard to be a giver if you don't have the energy to move.

What our culture considers overweight looking doesn't have much to do with that though. It's all about being healthy.

Just to chime in... my wife and I are both overweight. Me by a good 60lbs and her by maybe ~80-100lbs. Our sex life is as good now as it was when we were skinny newly weds.

As a side note we are both in the process of getting in shape (we want to be around to see our kids have kids... etc.) and we have been finding as we lose weight our sex drive is increasing. Going from maybe 3-4 times a week... to 7-10 times a week. It's odd, I think it's more to due with increased energy

I don't think I could get off with a girl who is bigger than me (150 pounds, 5'9") however I don't mind at all a girl with a bit of a potbelly + some extra skin. In fact I usually appreciate the cushion :-). But a chick that can out-sumo wrestle me can present a problem.

I know that can be a problem too. I was a bit concerned when I lost my weight that it would have an effect on our sex life. But it's better imo. I'm more flexible and I can still take it hard.

I don't think being fat is a problem unless you can't find the hole or the dick. But having to lift up fat to give a blowjob would be a turn-off to me. I think that it would be a personal preference. There are many people out there and everyone is attracted to someone different. There is always enough lovin' to go around. Growing up in WV taught me that. I never understood how some of those women found a man or multiple men to get them pregnant 5 times.

Because we're all Heidi Klum in the dark.:lol:

When I was super-skinny (5'8", 113 lbs), my hip bones actually hurt the bf if he lain on top of me afterwards. When I was overweight (175 lbs), the issue was more my own self-image, so performance really suffered. Those that are truly obese aren't unaware and have probably been so most of their lives, so they work with it. I have friends that are large and they're freakin rabbits.:lol: Personally, though, the largest person I ever had was the spouse when he was hovering 220, so I don't have experience with truly large guys, but when he'd lie on me, I couldn't breathe-he treated that like a joke and would press down harder.
Raeanna: Lifting the belly? That'd sure be a sign to buy a treadmill, I think....what a mood killer!

I've been with a girl who was overweight (but not obese) and with a girl who is encouraged to gain weight as well. The only thing I have ever noticed is depth of penetration. Some positions that weren't very practical because of the depth are now quite different. I was never unable to do anything (even when we were both pretty over weight) but I have noticed a difference, even if slight.

The issue of being fit has more to do with good sex than being fat. I am 6-0 and an ideal weight would be 200. I have been up to 220 and sex was a chore, not because of weight but because I had let myself get out of shape. Both me and my wife started to eat better and exercise regularily in the last few years (we are in our late 40's). The sex is way better and way more gratifying now then when we were out of shape. Often the physical exhaustion got to me before full sexual gratification could.

Generally, most overweight people tend to be out of shape as well. Lack of exercise usually accompanies overeating to cause fatness or obesity. This is not always the case. My wife is still 20 lbs over but because of regular execise is in great cardiovascular shape and has great endurance.

I have found the same to be true, since we've both lost weight, and/or working out more. Energy levels are higher and self-confidence, I think is higher. I'm damn sexy, haha! Working out also balances your psyche so that helps stay in happy moods that lead to sex also...

Yes, it does make a difference to some extent. fat can somewhat get in the way by preventing you from coming as close together as skinnier people could. Missionary is probably the worst for this, the larger tummy keeps you farther apart. With a little alterations to your positioning you can 'get in' almost as far though. I have been with both skinny and fat girls and have always been quite satisfied with either one.

My wife has varied in weight by up to 20kg over the last 10 years, much of it as a result of pregancy (after the fact). She's not into sex as much when she "feels" fat, even though she might only be 80kg, which is far less than some of the people who have posted and have no issues. So on the concept of sex being different with a fat person, my experience suggests that if you're both psychologically okay with however overweight your partner is, the quality of the sex is going to reflect it. Don't forget the biggest sex organ is the mind!