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Evil Milkman · 09-18-2006, 11:25 PM

girl.

i've been in a relationship for 2 years with another.

right now i don't feel bad about it

nevermind, i do feel a little bit bad about it.

she kissed me harder than the girl i'm with. that's something.

feel free to delete.

insidious_machinae · 09-19-2006, 12:53 AM

I think this is actually an interesting start for a thread. Not sure if this has been done (most likely it has), but this could probably be turned into a "where do you draw the lines at cheating?" thread. Just commenting.

healer · 09-19-2006, 01:17 AM

What made you kiss the other girl?

Do you plan on telling your girlfriend about it?

Why do you feel bad?

analog · 09-19-2006, 02:08 AM

Do you consider that cheating? More importantly, would the person you're with consider it cheating if she knew?

Also: do you have any feelings for this other girl, or was it more for the thrill of something "different"?

Crack · 09-19-2006, 06:48 AM

How would you feel if your current girlfriend kissed another guy?

Personally, i'd consider it cheating.

Lucifer · 09-19-2006, 06:53 AM

it´s cheating if you think your current gf would´nt like hearing about it...

Charlatan · 09-19-2006, 06:56 AM

It's cheating... it's up to whether or not it matters.

My advice is this:

Think long and hard before you admit anything to your current GF.
Think long and hard about whether you actually want to stay with the current GF.
Then do what you want but be prepared to deal with the consequences (which could be anything from nothing but more getting your rocks off to getting your stone cut off).

ratbastid · 09-19-2006, 06:59 AM

If you can't or wouldn't tell your girlfriend, it's cheating. Cheating isn't measured in actions; it's measured in secrets.

Ustwo · 09-19-2006, 07:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ratbastid

If you can't or wouldn't tell your girlfriend, it's cheating. Cheating isn't measured in actions; it's measured in secrets.

Ding ding ding!

If you are afraid to tell her, or afraid of how it will make her feel its cheating, on the other hand you can have sex with her best friend, and if she approves its not cheating. Its not what you do, its what you hide.

Jove · 09-19-2006, 09:56 AM

Would making out with a random stranger in a different country, say Germany, while the gf lives in the States, considered cheating?

fightnight · 09-19-2006, 12:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MonomAnny

Would making out with a random stranger in a different country, say Germany, while the gf lives in the States, considered cheating?

I'm not going to dignify this with an answer, read above and you'll get the gist of how people feel about it regardless of where it takes place.

As for the OP, I agree with those above, your feeling of guilt is enough to tell me that you believe you cheated on her, and you should rectify it with her however you need to do that.

Sweetpea · 09-19-2006, 12:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ratbastid

If you can't or wouldn't tell your girlfriend, it's cheating. Cheating isn't measured in actions; it's measured in secrets.

exactly.

sweetpea

Gilda · 09-19-2006, 02:52 PM

I kissed Grace's sister-in-law in Atlanta a couple of weeks ago. Grace didn't seem to mind. Maybe that's because I kissed her in a somewhat more interesting place not long after. It would have been a difficult thing to keep a secret given that it happened in front of both of our wives.

Kissing isn't cheating. Deception is.

Gilda

hunnychile · 09-19-2006, 03:35 PM

A kiss is just a kiss. C'mon, what's the big deal, really?

Cheating is when you take her to bed and make wild love to her in every position possible.

Impetuous1 · 09-19-2006, 05:24 PM

I'm throwing my vote in with the secrets=cheating crowd. What you're talking about is a degree of cheating. Which in the end doesn't usually matter, since it still means that the person doing the cheating isn't really trustworthy.

joofoo · 09-19-2006, 05:50 PM

I have to agree with the majority here. The kiss in itself is not all that bad, but if you keep it from your SO then that is cheating... one lie leads to more, which leads to a bad relationship.

Gatorade Frost · 09-19-2006, 07:42 PM

I'm gonna have to disagree.

The kiss is cheating if you hide it.

If you tell her about it? It's still pretty much cheating so don't go in expecting to say "I kissed her" and have it no longer classified as cheating.

Jozrael · 09-25-2006, 04:36 PM

I think it's cheating.

My 2cents.

SugahBritches · 09-25-2006, 06:28 PM

I asked a man to kiss me once. And we did. Did I feel guilty? No. Do I now? No. Does the boss know about this? No. Was it cheating? Ummm.........I guess to those that have posted above me, it surely seems that way!

Why did I kiss him? I wanted to know if I was "kissable". I got my answer. No need to be kissed again, I guess. Although I sorely miss the kissing, I guess I can live without it.

Jozrael · 09-26-2006, 05:37 AM

Actually, I think I should rephrase. It would be cheating if I did that. It'd be cheating if my gf did that, based on the relationship I have.

Based on the relationship you have with your SO, it may or not be - each relationship is different.

But, for me, it would be. That's what I meant.

Johnny Rotten · 09-29-2006, 11:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ratbastid

Cheating isn't measured in actions; it's measured in secrets.

Man, if only I'd been armed with that pearl, once upon a time.

james t kirk · 09-30-2006, 07:19 AM

Don't tell your current GF as no good will come of it.

It may be as simple as getting caught up in a moment and everything will be back to normal, or it could be the beginning of the end. Impossible to say.

Unless you and your current GF have an open relationship, any admission on your part would only result in grief all round. Hence, it's your little secret.

Odds are your GF has kissed / sucked / slept with someone else too.

Rohwer · 10-02-2006, 10:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ratbastid

If you can't or wouldn't tell your girlfriend, it's cheating. Cheating isn't measured in actions; it's measured in secrets.

thats the best quote i have heard in a long time.

biznatch · 10-08-2006, 01:36 AM

for me...it's cheating. I would do as Charlatan said. Sit down, alone, and think.

Batski · 10-24-2006, 11:23 AM

I dont think it's cheating. I think it's just a bit of fun. relationship isnt prison, and it isnt a confessional box either.

09-18-2006, 11:25 PM	#1 (permalink)
Evil Milkman Addict Location: Illinois	i kissed a different girl. i've been in a relationship for 2 years with another. right now i don't feel bad about it nevermind, i do feel a little bit bad about it. she kissed me harder than the girl i'm with. that's something. feel free to delete.

09-19-2006, 06:48 AM	#5 (permalink)
Crack Misanthropic Location: Ohio! yay!	How would you feel if your current girlfriend kissed another guy? Personally, i'd consider it cheating. __________________ Crack, you and I are long overdue for a vicious bout of mansex. ~Halx

09-19-2006, 06:53 AM	#6 (permalink)
Lucifer Husband of Seamaiden Location: Nova Scotia	it´s cheating if you think your current gf would´nt like hearing about it... __________________ I am a brother to dragons, and a companion to owls. - Job 30:29 1123, 6536, 5321

09-19-2006, 06:56 AM	#7 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	It's cheating... it's up to whether or not it matters. My advice is this: Think long and hard before you admit anything to your current GF. Think long and hard about whether you actually want to stay with the current GF. Then do what you want but be prepared to deal with the consequences (which could be anything from nothing but more getting your rocks off to getting your stone cut off). __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

09-19-2006, 02:52 PM	#13 (permalink)
Gilda 32 flavors and then some Location: Out on a wire.	I kissed Grace's sister-in-law in Atlanta a couple of weeks ago. Grace didn't seem to mind. Maybe that's because I kissed her in a somewhat more interesting place not long after. It would have been a difficult thing to keep a secret given that it happened in front of both of our wives. Kissing isn't cheating. Deception is. Gilda __________________ I'm against ending blackness. I believe that everyone has a right to be black, it's a choice, and I support that. ~Steven Colbert

09-19-2006, 12:53 AM	#2 (permalink)
insidious_machinae Psycho	I think this is actually an interesting start for a thread. Not sure if this has been done (most likely it has), but this could probably be turned into a "where do you draw the lines at cheating?" thread. Just commenting.

09-19-2006, 02:08 AM	#4 (permalink)
analog Banned	Do you consider that cheating? More importantly, would the person you're with consider it cheating if she knew? Also: do you have any feelings for this other girl, or was it more for the thrill of something "different"?

09-19-2006, 06:59 AM	#8 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	If you can't or wouldn't tell your girlfriend, it's cheating. Cheating isn't measured in actions; it's measured in secrets.

09-19-2006, 09:56 AM	#10 (permalink)
Jove Groovy Hipster Nerd Location: Michigan	Would making out with a random stranger in a different country, say Germany, while the gf lives in the States, considered cheating?

09-19-2006, 03:35 PM	#14 (permalink)
hunnychile Alien Anthropologist Location: Between Boredom and Nirvana	A kiss is just a kiss. C'mon, what's the big deal, really? Cheating is when you take her to bed and make wild love to her in every position possible. __________________ "I need compassion, understanding and chocolate." - NJB

09-19-2006, 05:24 PM	#15 (permalink)
Impetuous1 Insane Location: Arizona	I'm throwing my vote in with the secrets=cheating crowd. What you're talking about is a degree of cheating. Which in the end doesn't usually matter, since it still means that the person doing the cheating isn't really trustworthy. Last edited by Impetuous1; 09-19-2006 at 05:27 PM..

09-19-2006, 05:50 PM	#16 (permalink)
joofoo Just A Guy Location: Kansas City, Missouri	I have to agree with the majority here. The kiss in itself is not all that bad, but if you keep it from your SO then that is cheating... one lie leads to more, which leads to a bad relationship. __________________ - joofoo

09-19-2006, 07:42 PM	#17 (permalink)
Gatorade Frost Rookie	I'm gonna have to disagree. The kiss is cheating if you hide it. If you tell her about it? It's still pretty much cheating so don't go in expecting to say "I kissed her" and have it no longer classified as cheating. __________________ I got in a fight one time with a really big guy, and he said, "I'm going to mop the floor with your face." I said, "You'll be sorry." He said, "Oh, yeah? Why?" I said, "Well, you won't be able to get into the corners very well." Emo Philips

09-25-2006, 04:36 PM	#18 (permalink)
Jozrael Junkie	I think it's cheating. My 2cents.

09-25-2006, 06:28 PM	#19 (permalink)
SugahBritches Insane	I asked a man to kiss me once. And we did. Did I feel guilty? No. Do I now? No. Does the boss know about this? No. Was it cheating? Ummm.........I guess to those that have posted above me, it surely seems that way! Why did I kiss him? I wanted to know if I was "kissable". I got my answer. No need to be kissed again, I guess. Although I sorely miss the kissing, I guess I can live without it.

09-26-2006, 05:37 AM	#20 (permalink)
Jozrael Junkie	Actually, I think I should rephrase. It would be cheating if I did that. It'd be cheating if my gf did that, based on the relationship I have. Based on the relationship you have with your SO, it may or not be - each relationship is different. But, for me, it would be. That's what I meant.

09-30-2006, 07:19 AM	#22 (permalink)
james t kirk Junkie Location: Toronto	Don't tell your current GF as no good will come of it. It may be as simple as getting caught up in a moment and everything will be back to normal, or it could be the beginning of the end. Impossible to say. Unless you and your current GF have an open relationship, any admission on your part would only result in grief all round. Hence, it's your little secret. Odds are your GF has kissed / sucked / slept with someone else too.

10-08-2006, 01:36 AM	#24 (permalink)
biznatch Junkie Location: France	for me...it's cheating. I would do as Charlatan said. Sit down, alone, and think. Last edited by biznatch; 10-24-2006 at 03:29 PM..

10-24-2006, 11:23 AM	#25 (permalink)
Batski Tilted Location: LOndon	I dont think it's cheating. I think it's just a bit of fun. relationship isnt prison, and it isnt a confessional box either.