Too Close to Home?
 

I live in townhome style apartments, and the adjoining apartment next to me has been vacant for some time. This past weekend a pair of really cute girls moved in. I introduced myself and I talked with them for ten minutes or so. I thought it went pretty well and was thinking of asking them over for a beer, but was away from my home much of last night. My question to our ever so wise members here, is have you ever asked out or dated anyone that lived so close to you? Were there problems? Did it seem weird? I’m guessing that they signed a one year least, so what ever happens I’m stuck next to them for the next seven months.

What could it hurt to invite them over for a beer? That part just seems friendly to me. Then just see if anything naturally progresses from there. Don't be too pushy, or you're just that "creepy guy next door".

I agree with Bill O'Rights that it can't hurt to ask, but you could invite them out for a beer instead. They might feel uncomfortable going over to a stranger's apartment. Then again, what do I know?

I don't think you'd have anything to lose, other than mebbe some odd looks in passing if things didn't work out. If I were you, however, I'd do my best to be extra nice to them if you did go out, so they wouldn't have a reason to TP your car/house or leave nasty messages on your door!

Thanks for the feedback so far. I like sapiens idea of asking them out, but I hoping to catch one of them outdoors while I was sitting on my porch drinking a cold one, that would seem more natural. Its amazing the power of beer. The first couple of months the only neighbors that I met were the ones that my kids played with. Then I started sitting on my porch a month ago and sipping a cold one, and have met a lot more people. Sage is right, I really have nothing to loose, cept have to be extra careful with them midnight booty calls. TP and nasty notes I could handle its the dead boiling rabbits and sludgehammers Im worried about

Still one to hear from anyone who has dated anyone that lived extremely close to their house, and how you handled it.

You're in a tricky situation. Personally I never would have relations with someone so nearby. A friend of mine didn't care.. unfortunately she was psycho and he could never get away after that.

IMO get to be good friends with them and then do the hot freinds they'll inevitably introduce you to.

I dated a girl who lived on the floor below mine. I had no problems with it, but I think that was because we broke up after she moved to a different apartment complex. I also dated a girl who lived in the dorm next to mine during my first year in college. I treated those relationships no differently than any other. One thing I made clear in the beginning though was that my apartment was still my space and just because the girl lived close to me, she was not entitled to start living in my apartment. I kept my apartment mine and her apartment hers.

However I also agree with Seaver. Become good friends and then date all the hot girls they know! If they have no hot friends then date one of them.

ample,

i think you're easily in the clear to ask them over for a beer, or take them out for a drink, particularly if they are new to the area.

i'd take anything that sounds like "date" or "hook up" or "fuck" or "booty call" very carefully until you know her / them a little better. i'm not saying months, but maybe not try to get naked the first time you hang out, etc. you could end up with a stalker, you could end up with a pissed off neighbor, you could end up with a great girlfriend who is always at your house. depending on what you're looking for, any or all of these may be welcome...but....

i've never done it, but a friend of mine did many years ago. it was really weird for everyone else, but it worked out great for him, despite the fact that they broke up a few times during. i think they're getting married / are married / were engaged. but he kind of treated her like shit, and she apparently liked it.

edit: forgot a 'not'..and some other words

I’m feelin’ the try friends vibe from most of you and let it progress from there. That is usually not the approach I like to take. It seems harder to get intimate with someone after you have become friends first, but maybe that is what should be done in this situation. I like the date all the hot girls they know idea too.

I’ll put on that Ample charm tonight or tomorrow night and let you all know how it went.


Thanks again for everyones input, much appreciated.

Yeah I don't like being friends with someone before I date them either, but for slightly different reasons.

Anyways, good luck with whatever route you choose.

be friendly without being friends...

I dated a girl who's loft window looked into my loft window - so , in effect, we had adjacent bedrooms - we'd post notes on the glass for each other.

That said - we were 9 years old... :lol:

In the South, it's common to deliver a housewarming gift (even if it's just a six-pack) personally. I like the concept.

I imagine they'll send clear signals on what they think of you. If they request your help with a stuck toilet valve at two in the morning, while they're wearing negligees, and then they start a pillowfight ...

Oops! Sorry, got carried away.

Play it by ear, and as someone said, be the nice guy that either THEY like, or that hooks up with one of their hot friends.

Try not to get caught peeping in their window, either.

Hell if they're both hotties and they're living together, they must be up for some 3-way action with the neighbour

oh wait, i've watched too many pornos

play it by ear, leave a house warming bottle of wine outside their door this week with a note attached saying something along the lines of welcome to the area hope this makes the move a bit easier, your name.. apartment number whatever... call me if you have any problems

bingo... as Homer J. Simpson said: "Then you just sit back and watch the money roll in!"

I didn't read all the way through, so I'm not sure if its been said yet. You need to watch it if you want a 1 on 1 relationship. If its 2 girls, and you start just hitting on both of them at the same time you're in for trouble. I remember I made that mistake once, and any chance of being with either of them ended when one said 'you know, you cant date both of us'. My advice, corner the one you're more attracted and invite her for a beer, then if she brings up the other one, tell her to invite her friend along too. Just make sure to concentrate on 1 and only 1.

I said I would keep you all updated on what happen. Well nothing happen, havent seen them. Two days ago I notice a "sorry we missed you" type tag on their doorknob, and it still was there this morning. This weekend, Im hoping to see one of them outside, and start something from there.