Demonism

i was at a club last weekend, dancing with random girls, and i started thinking. if you're dancing with someone you dont know and get excited enough to get a little woody, do girls usually mind it? i was kinda trying to hide it but maybe some girls like it and i should let em feel it. i know it depends on the girl, but given that the girl is already dancing with someone who's name she doesnt know, it says something about her. what's the general concensus here about this?

Jinn

You hit it, right there. It depends. I doubt there's any sort of consensus. You'll have women and girls who don't appreciate it and think it a bit creepy, and you'll have women and girls who think it's absolutely fabulous. That said, my belief is that you'll find the majority believing that it's nothing unnatural and, while flattering, could easily become creepy if taken too far. One of those "sure, that's okay.. for right now.." beliefs.

But I could also be entirely wrong. Just my two cents.

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Sage

Holy Crap. I'm about the most liberal minded gal I know, but if some guy I didn't know came all up ons at the club with a hard on.... that'd just be creepy as hell. My suggestion? Keep it in your pants until she takes them off!

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Sharon

I know this sounds warped... but it depends if I find him attractive or not, and my mood. If I'm in a really weird mood, there's something about being with someone I don't find attractive.

Willravel

Not warped, funny!!!

This is an intereting question, though it does beg another question: what level of control do you have over yourself? Have you tried thinking of baseball and sandwiches? Does that only make it worse? If that doesn't work, try tighty whities. You can actually be charged with sexual assault for something as inncent as what you're talking about. Seriously.

Demonism

not coming up to you with a hardon, but getting one after dancing with you for a bit. i tried thinking of random crap but it doesn't do much. i mean it's not like a full blown erection, it's just a little woody, but it's something she can probably feel.

little_tippler

I think that most girls don't like that. I certainly don't. Dancing with a guy I don't know can be purely fun, with no sexual interest at all, just because I like to dance and if he dances well, why not? I wouldn't mind if I find him attractive and if he asks me for a drink I'll say yes, but a guy I don't know having a hard-on and flaunting it at me would scare me off. I'd find it a bit creepy and probably run. But of course, it depends on the type of dancing, and of club, and of girl, right?

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Aladdin Sane

My wife has the same fetish. She's strangely aroused by the thought of being touched by a gross stranger...

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PredeconInferno

I can't explain how much this made me laugh... I'm probably the only person that finds this funny, sorry

If I were a woman, I think I'd find it kinda creepy. However, it would have to be a situational thing. Is the guy completely blitzed? Is he attractive? If it were some slob I would have to say it's disgusting. However, if the guy looks clean then it might be acceptable. This is kinda weird, though, since I'm not actually a woman

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Seaver

Every woman I've asked say that as long as the guy didn't already have a hardon when he approaches her, and as long as said man is attractive.

Me? I dont try to hide it. Not one girl has been scared away, none have said anything.

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abaya

I hafta ask, what DOES it say about her? All kinds of girls like to go dancing at clubs. I mean, for myself, that whole era in my life that I went dancing at clubs and grinded with strangers was when I was a virgin in all senses of the word, and had only kissed one guy (we are talking from age 21-24 here). So I don't know how much you could say about me then, if the only thing you knew about me then was the shape of my ass.

At the time, I was exploring some new aspects of my sensuality, but I was also going for the fun and attention. If a guy went too far with his "attention" , that was definitely kinda gross, especially if I was just letting him dance with me for one song and then go back to the bar with my friends (yes, it happens). I suppose if I found him to be very hot, I would be a little less harsh... but I would NOT go home with someone like that, just because it would be a bit scary. But some of my friends would do something like that, and some would be very turned on by a cock pressed into their pants at a club. So, it really does depend on the woman.

Now, let me say that I love it when my boyfriend gets a hard on because of me... that makes my day/night/whenever. I never get tired of that action!

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snowy

Agreed. It's just creepy.

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Demonism

of course my assumption is not absolute. but generally girls that are willing to do that are more liberal than those who dont. besides, i'm not trying to take anyone home. unless she's funner or better looking than the others, i wouldn't even ask her name.

Seaver

No offense, but your assumptions are just wrong. I have not met a single girl who doesn't like to dance, and some of the staunchest virgins are the freakiest on the dance floor.

*Nikki*

I think if I like a guy enough to be rubbing up on him on the dance floor, then feeling a wood should be no problem.

However, if said guy is rubbing his wood on me.....um no. That is not good.

Eowyn_Vala

Umm, I think it's kind of creepy. I never did a lot of clubbing in college pretty much because of things like that. I love to dance and party.




I must second both! I have friends that would love it and probably do. And I love being responsible for my husband getting that way around me.

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MEAD

It's unfortunate that women find a guy getting an erection while dancing with them creepy. I do understand how it would be kinda weird, but if you are close enough to tell if a guy is popping one or not, you are close enough to cause one! At least have some sympathy for how easy it is for a guy get an erection, and dont totally discredit a man just because you managed to give him an erection at a club while dancing all sexy and close up on him. It doesnt mean he has any wrong intentions. It just means he's a normal healthly guy.

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joemc91

From personal experience sometimes I just can't help it. Especially if she starts grinding into me. If she gets turned off by that as she pushing her rear into me, then she probably shouldn't be trying to excite me like that, intentional or not. However, a few girls I know love that feeling and just keep dancing when that happens and sometimes continue that way for an hour or two (very uncomfortably I might add ).

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Bolla

Some of them (just the really nasty ones) might take it as a compliment to their attractiveness, because they take a long time getting ready to go out, but other than that most will think you're a perv. So hold your horses until your rifle is polished and ready for combat. Good luck!

Impetuous1

Hmm. I'm mixed on this one. I'm not really a dancing type of girl. Too uncoordinated. I have only danced up close like that with a previous boyfriend while I was drunk. I would never grind myself up against some dude I didn't know. After all, if he popped an erection I couldn't really be too surprised could I? It just wouldn't be fair. Plus why would you wanna grind up against some dude that you didn't find attractive? I think Demonism is probably alright if he continues to dance after he gets a boner. If the chick says its sexual harassment, what is she going to say when he says that she was grinding her ass on his dick and there are x number of witnesses?

Just make sure you watch her body language after you get an erection. If she indicates in anyway that she's freaked you should probably just find a new dance partner. Apologize and backoff at that point.

analog

I asked a friend of mine if, in his experience, women mind if that should happen. He said, "mind? Seriously? Why would a girl be dancing and grinding her ass into my crotch if she minded that something happened?"

And he's a man-whore. He's danced with a lot of ladies at clubs. If they're already dancing with you, and you salute them, a good 99% consider it job well done on their part. Why else would they be dancing and grinding their bodies on your crotch?

ASU2003

That is the same with me, I don't go out very often (~4 times a year), but I am a normal looking guy, and am healthy. I can't really control it.

I have had a girl dance/grind with me for an hour and a half. Let's just say some of the blood wasn't in the head on top of my shoulders. The biggest problem I had was that after, I got in my car and my balls were killing me from getting squashed by her ass.

pornclerk

Dude you never let the snake out unless he's sent an invitation. Otherwise it's just creepy.

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Impetuous1

I think he had more of a trapped snake in mind. Letting it out in a public place is a definite no no. Unless you're on a nude beach or the featured male stripper.

Paq

i dno't think he's "letting the snake out' just "letting the snake bump against the cage" kinda like jr high.

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Seaver

What kind of world are we in where a woman can grind up on your crotch for upwards of 30min moving in a very sexual way... and some men feel compelled to apologize for what occurs naturally.

I've never seen a woman apologize for getting wet on a dance floor (it DOES happen), why would we?

qtpye4u84

It really does depend on the lady. I get nervious, I feel sorry for the guy! After I feel something I don't dance too close to him anymore, so that he does not know that I know that he's gotten too happy I dont want him to feel bad.
I never liked it unless it was my boyfriend at the time. I would love to have my hubby do it now mmmmmmmmm.

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Sugar&Spice

I find it to be a tad creepy if I'm dancing with a guy and I can feel an erection. Most of the time I'm not even grinding on them and I will just happen to accidentally brush against that area and feel it. I don't like that. I especially do not like it if I am dancing, the guy grabs my hips, pulls me against him and grinds his erection against me. This is why I usually just dance with my friends that are girls. However, if I'm dancing with my boyfriend I will try to give him an erection because I want him turned on and thinking about what we will be doing later.

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qtpye4u84

lol. me too. But I did have this friend that would love it she would grab there manhood even if it wasent hard lol she was really freaky.

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Ratman

The first sentence of the OP is four words too long.

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Vincentt

What do girls think is going to happen when they grind their ass into a man's crotch?

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abaya

Umm, the girl doesn't always initiate it. I don't ever remember walking up to some random guy in a club and sticking my butt in his crotch.

However, there were MANY times when a random guy would come up behind me (when I was dancing with my girlfriends) and start grinding on my ass... which pissed me off and grossed me out, especially if the guy seemed desperate and horny. If the guy had a hard-on as well, he would have gotten an elbow straight to the stomach, if not lower.

If a guy approached me from the front and got my permission before going around to my backside, okay, I appreciate that, and I probably wouldn't mind if he ended up with a boner after a while.

Now, there's also the issue of what kind of dancing is going on. The OP didn't specify if it was always bump-and-grind, but let's say I go salsa dancing (which I have done) and end up dancing with some guy. If he got a hard-on while doing that, I would feel grossed out.

Sure, rubbing one's penis on a girl's backside with a few layers of clothing in between is going to induce an erection. But dancing with space in between and still getting a hard-on?... no, that's just gross (unless you're my boyfriend )

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JustJess

Okay, THAT, I can agree with. If it's not sexual rub against each other dancing, it's weird. If it is, it'd be weird if he didn't end up with a boner. And everyone has different standards/reasons to dance either way when out - no one's wrong for what they're comfortable with. 'Nuff said.

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Toaster126

No shit. It's not creepy if a guy gets an erection dancing. It's creepy if he starts dry humping you with it and you aren't into it. There's a difference, and it bothers me to see all these girls fail to acknowledge it.

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Prince

Precisely. This is what confused me so; the OP was talking about a hapless erection you can get from dancing up close with someone you find attractive. It's not like you can help it. Somehow a lot of women in this thread seemed to interpret that as some random guy dry-humping them...

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Jinn

The description provided by the OP gives me an image a man and a woman dancing, rather closely, and the man develops an erection. The woman notices it AFTER they've been dancing and reacts -- how?

I responded to that image in my original post. However, now it seems that the image has changed to a lone woman dancing and being accosted by an angry man with a raging boner, like a shaggy old dog mounting a random stray in heat.

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Sharon

Big time. I've actually gone as far as living out the fantasy a few times.

abaya

Actually, I did acknowledge it, and I think a few others did, too. My problem was that some of the guys on this thread assumed that girls were the ones "sticking their ass" in some guys' crotch, uninvited, and that this was causing a boner... and that the girl shouldn't be offended if that happens. Well, duh. They shouldn't be offended.

But that's not usually the case (though I'm sure it happens). My point was that usually the guy initiates it, and sometimes the guy doesn't get the idea that you're not interested in his boner (e.g. he chases your ass halfway across the dance floor) until he gets a couple of sharp elbows to the stomach.

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