slimshaydee

Ok so the girl I broke up with over a month ago is starting to be really nice to me again after being a total bitch for about a month. About 2 weeks ago I sent her a txt saying "you're a lying little bitch get out of my life" and I ignored her reply of "wow, what?" after that. Furthermore, I subsequently blocked her on msn and didn't talk to her for 5 days or so until she said txted me and said she wanted to talk about what happened. Turned out she started seeing a guy about a week after we broke up (I already knew this I was just pissed off she lied about it) but now she says they won't work out.

Anyways, pretty much every time I come on msn she's on and she messages me straight away saying stuff like "hiiii " and "I'm so borrreeeeddd I need entertainment". Further to this the other day she told me how she went out on saturday to this place that's really fun and how we should go some time. The next day I was talking about how drunk I got on the weekend and she's like "yeah we should get drunk sometime together!".

Tonight she has gone even further saying stuff like "I feel like cuddles" and when I told her she wasn't being entertaining enough she said "how can I entertain you my entertainment used to be sex and bjs". I told her I'd give her a hug when I saw her on friday and she's like yeah hugging is in I hug my friends all the time.

Anyway here's where I need some advice from you lovely folks here at tfp. I still have feelings for her, but not to the extent I used to have and I know that I could develop them back to the level I felt for her before if we start to hang out again. However, I am unsure as to whether she is geniunely interested in getting back with me or she's just feeling a little lonely, which may result in me getting hurt again. What should I do?

Cynthetiq

and you originally broke up because?????????

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pornclerk

Wow. You need to get this person out of your life...and fast. She is completely toying with your emotions. I don't understand why girls will dump a guy and then be all nice to them and ask them to hang out. When I dump a guy, I don't speak to him.
There are a couple of reasons why she may be acting the way she is. First, it could be because maybe she regrets breaking up and tries to flirt a little to see what you will do. The second reason is this: maybe she does it because she knows you are still hung up on her and she uses that to toy with you and lead you on.
Regardless, I would say let her go. You don't need someone in your life who is bitchy to you one day and then completely nice to you the next. I would rather be alone than have a friend that makes me miserable.

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Toaster126

Run far far away and don't look back.

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shoegirl

Yup. Just remember you broke up with her for a reason. Don't let her try to win you back over just because she's acting interested. Good luck!

xepherys

Well, first of all, how old are you? I don't mean that in a cocky way, either. Realistically, part of being young (say high school through college) is to just see what happens. That's the time that it's best to experiment with sex, relationships, and pretty much everything else. If you really dig her, but don't have quite the same feelings for her as before, go out with her again. Just don't get too involved unless things really change. Why DID you break up with her? How long had you been going out?

Yeah, she may be an emotional vampire. Even if so, she may not KNOW that she is. Hooking back up for a bit could be a good experience for both of you. Or, maybe not... but then you'll know. If you dig her, and you THINK she might be into you again, it might be worth a chance. Just be honest with each other and see what happens.

dalnet22

That's exactly it. There's too many girls out there to get involved again with someone you broke up with.

Mantus

Bad. Games. Need for validation. Run.

slimshaydee

I'm 21, she's 19.

We broke up because she said she doesn't feel the same anymore. We went out for about 6 months.

analog

What he said.

Cynthetiq

so what's to stop her from changing how she feels again?

if you are good with flippant attitudes like that, then go for it. I however cannot.

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genuinegirly

time to find someone new.

and have fun.

you don't deserve someone who is going to throw you away when they become bored with you.

She is just reaching out for anyone right now. Let her reach for someone else.

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Kesmai

run away but first tell me... is she bangin

longbough

I agree with genuinegirly.

walk away.

But I think you knew that already. You probably put up with a lot before you were driven to cut her off ... It's best not to look back and to find someone else.

the tough part that you're alone ... you might be tempted to contact her out of simple convenience to fill the emotional/sexual void that she left behind.
The problem is that she'll leave you with a bigger void when she gets the itch again.

Johnny Rotten

That's a red flag. You're not under any obligation to be her boredom repellant. In fact, it sounds like you don't owe her a thing.

Admittedly, I also have a pet peeve for people who IM or phone me because they're bored. I'm usually *not* bored and hate getting dragged into someone else's boredom.

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CaliLivChick

Yeah, if you can't keep your heart out of it, stay away. If you were able to keep your heart out of it, I'd say it sounds like she'd be a great fuck buddy. But since the likelihood of that is slim, stay away. Ignore her. Tell her "no". Thanks, but no thanks. Hasta la vista, baby.

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