Finally did the dirty...
 

Well,

Sexymama and I finally did the anal thing after some trepidation on both our parts and you know what? We both liked it.

We washed well, then cleaned her out with several bulbs of water, then we spent a long time playing, during which time I penetrated her rear with some of our smaller toys while masturbating her.

Then, I told her I wanted to fuck her ass and to my surprise, she said, "yes".

More lube and I was in!

I took it slow since I wasn't sure how she was feeling about it, but to my surprise she said she was enjoying it! Next thing I know, we're going at it hammer and tongs!!

Anyway, it was a great Father's day present and one I think we'll repeat...

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Congrats! I am glad you enjoyed it!

Woo-hoo! Welcome to the world of anal sex. :)

It's taken me a while to get used to it, and then another while to enjoy it... but I am getting there. It sure does help to have some clitoral stimulation at the same time, whether from him or from a vibrator that I'm holding. :thumbsup:

Cool! Congrats! I did it with my fiance just the other day... though she doesnt enjoy the after effects (soreness, discomfort), she still likes to keep me happy.

How long did you work up to it?

My gf and I have the desire but we still are nervous and very sensitive about it. We do a fair amount of anal play and she likes my finger(s) inside her but it seems to vary time to time whether or not she can handle.

We had one mistake a few weeks ago where we were both over eager and did it before either one of us was ready.

Did you start with some finger play and work your way into? Anyone else have any first time stories they want to add?

Glad you had a happy father's day!

Hammer and tongs? That's a phrase I haven't heard before. What would be your definition?

I dunno, my interpretation involved a picture of the only person I've ever seen with a hammer and tongs; a blacksmith.

Have you ever seen a blacksmith hitting a piece of metal? He HAMMERS THE SHIT outta that thing before he's done.

That's my interpretation, but I hadn't heard it either. :)

It's a common phrase in England.

Glad you enjoyed your backdoor lovin'

I wanted to add that, as a woman, my comfort with the idea of anal sex improved GREATLY once I asked my boyfriend to go through with it first (e.g. me using a dildo on him).

I was not about to go along with a double standard, and would not let him put such a large object in my ass if he didn't know how it felt, first. There is no way I would have done anal without reciprocity on his part... it's just not fair, otherwise.

That said, from the time we started having vaginal sex, to the time we actually had anal sex, took just over a year. During that time there was a lot of finger and tongue play, as well as trying different-sized dildos (for both of us, of course). Lots of lube, of course; we recommend Maximus for anal. Basically, take as long as it needs to take... just relax and get used to each other. :)

Is Maximus a brand of lube?

Also, how did everyone prepare for it on the actual night? I know Lebell said they did some cleaning with bulbs of water beforehand, what did everyone else do?

Yeah, Maximus is a brand of lube. We got it at Toys in Babeland (now known as Babeland, I think), but you could probably find it online somewhere.

There are a few other threads about this, with more helpful tips... but I'll say that the best preparation is probably no preparation, other than her suggesting the idea first. My bf never, ever asked me to have anal; I knew that he wouldn't mind trying it out, but he didn't ask. Which meant a lot to me.

Finally, one night, I just up and asked him if he'd be interested (I think he'd been rimming me for awhile)... of course he was. :lol: So we basically used a progression of fingers/smaller dildos, with increasing amounts of lube, to the point where I thought I'd be comfortable with his penis. I didn't clean myself out or anything (though he prefers to do that, if I am going to use a dildo on him), mostly because I am known to have a squeaky clean colon. :lol: But I think I would have been more tense if I had cleaned myself out... just the whole fear/expectation thing building up. It was better to just take it gradually, and he kept asking me how I was doing every other minute, which I appreciated. The whole thing was very slow and non-pressured.

That said, the first time (and probably next 5 times) were NOT comfortable. I did not like it, at all. Finally, one night after getting noticeable tipsy, I suggested anal again... this time, he paid attention to my clit (it had been a bit ignored before), which, along with the tipsiness, greatly enhanced my pleasure. It's gotten easier and easier since then, though of course I don't recommend being full-on drunk or anything. Just whatever it takes to relax a bit and not be afraid.

Way to not answer the question.

Congrats. Glad it worked out well :-).

With previous GFs anal sex has been a semi-regular thing and I absolutely love it. With my current GF we have both almost abandoned the front because it always ends up too painful for her (and cause the normal way is still so much fun heh).

We start out ok but after a few minutes it gets too painful for her. Doesn't matter how fast or slow I go or how much lube we use or how prepared we are on the night. Feels great for a few minutes then gets really painful, I guess when the muscles start rebelling. My understanding is that there is two main muscles that both rebel and spasm for a bit which can be quite painful but they are supposed to stop after a few minutes and we always have more than a few minutes play beforehand. Hmm... might try this Maximus I've been using Wet Stuff which was recommended but may be dodge. Or maybe its an NP-Hard problem.

I can't believe you've never heard the phrase 'hammer & tongs' before. Wow ... !

It is a wonderful thing anal isn't?! Here's to many more happy times! :thumbsup:

Congrats!

I love anal sex!

Hope you will be able to both enjoy it often now ;)

Sorry - the previous post hit the nail on the head, as he was striking while the iron was hot.

The english language is full of blacksmithing allusions (like the two I used above).


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Awesome to hear. My wife and I have been doing it for something like a year and a half now, and have been together for almost 4. KY Liquid is your friend, as well as alcohol if your lady drinks. It helps to relax, well, everything. For us, it was after a fancy party one night, we were both a little buzzed, and just kind of agreed to do it. I had mentioned it in the past to her, but at first she absolutely refused. Then we started watching some anal porn, and she started to enjoy watching it, then we moved on to some playing. For us, the best way to warm up is for me to go down on her and finger her, then start rimming and fingering her asshole at the same time. That way, you're already in the area, and it's not such a surprise. Nowdays, my wife really enjoys anal. I think it's more of getting over the 'icky taboo' mindset for most people than anything else.

Hope this helps!

Lots of thoughts are going through my head. I really did enjoy myself and am glad that this was a first for both of us -- it made things more special.

I am not huge on direct clitoral stimulation. A-matter-of-fact, we started out by playing with an anal, clitoral, vaginal vibrator. Lebell had to take it out as the clit thing was really hurting me! I was scared he would stop. Happily, he didn't. He used a bullet with an attachment for my anal and fingered my vagina. After I came, he asked if he could "fuck" my "ass." I was scared as my ex tried it once when drunk and that HURT! But I said yes. I was already well lubed, but Lebell added more. He slowly slid in me. I concentrated on relaxing (hard to do!) Once in he moved slowly and I relaxed more. I soon realized that I wanted something in my vagina as well, so I started to finger myself -- but it was too late. Next time I will have a vibrator ready for sure.

Rest assured, we had such a good time that Lebell was able to wash up and get it up soon after, satisfying me again too.

I was sore for a couple of hours -- kind of like when you take a hard poop. But by the next morning, it was nothing.

I am looking forward to fucking Lebell in the ass and in having him do me again, and again, and again, and . . .

I've enjoyed it for about 10 years now... with KY and me playing with myself, it's a very, very pleasurable experience. =) It's a different kind of stimulation, and it gets me going in a very different way from vaginal sex. I would recommend trying it to anyone, because you won't know if you like it until you try it.

I understand it is a blacksmithing\metalworking allusion. I don't understand what the definition or usage is.

Just to step in as a translater here, when Daniel_ said...
...he we referring to the post immediately above his first post in this thread, which read...
Does that help?

Also, a quick Google of the phrase along with the word "slang" reveals the definition "With a lot of noise or effort".

Leave it to the Obsessive Librarian to come up with the goods... :D