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Ben to Boyfriend: Do you really want to know why I stopped hanging around with her?

Boyfriend: Oh, why couldn't you treasure her friendship blah blah blah blah blah

Ben: Because I wanted to insert my penis into her vagina. She played me, and DID NOT MENTION YOU AS A BOYFRIEND. Ergo, I think she is playing YOU too.

Boyfriend: Oh. I wrote you that e-mail so that you could patch things up with her so that she would stop being such a whining bitch. All I want is for her to stop complaining and for me to insert my penis into her vagina. Are you saying she is a psycho crazy man-eater?

Ben: Yes.

Dude, what the fuck is her boyfriend trying to do? He thinks you guys have damaged a great friendship. YOU NEED TO SET HIM STRAIGHT.

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Also don't be strange around her. SHE'S the one saying your friendship is over and then blaming you. You'd still hang out with her, right? You've got the other emotions expressed and sorted out, and you can go back to being friends, as far as you're concerned. That's what you've said here, right? So who's ending the friendship, really?

Looks like he did, from this post:

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So she didn't say she liked me. Oh well. The end. She did say, "I don't see why we still can't hang out."

Me: "It'd be kind of awkward wouldn't it?"

Her: "No, not really. Unless you think so."

Me: "yeah, kinda"

To paraphrase the rest, we are still friends but I basically said "have a good life. i'll call you for girl advice in the future."

So he basically cut her off, and doesn't really intend on continuing the friendship, it seems. If this was the goal, then he accomplished it. If it wasn't the goal, I have no idea why he said this to her.

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Originally Posted by Sultana

I think it's kinda odd that her boyfriend (or what passes for her boyfriend, I *guess*) is wanting you to spend time with her, even though he knows you have feelings for her. And that neither she nor he seems remotely concerned about your feelings AT ALL. They both just seem to want you around because it's convenient for her. If she was really your friend, and a mature person, she'd be a little less self-centered, I'd imagine.

I dunno. It's a strange situation all the way around, and I continue to recomend that you stay away from it and find others who think more like you do.

Uh, sorry for the confusion. It's not her "boyfriend" who wants me to spend time with her, just another guy friend of hers...

and Yes! I thougth of the same thing too! I mean, what the heck, the email *barely* talks about my feelings at all. And for all they know, I could be in a super sad mood from being rejected by her. Of course, I'm not even close to feeling like that, but they don't know that...

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Originally Posted by ratbastid

No no NO! Don't you dare feel guilty about this, you did NOTHING wrong.

Know why she's so upset? Because you called her on boxing you in. She had it all set up for you to be her bitch for the summer, to keep playing you like the guppy you are. You pulled the rug out from under that, and she's upset about it.

Yup, I had to put a stop to all this hanging out, because, as you guys were saying, I wouldn't be going anywhere I wanted to go in this 'relationship'.. thanks for the support, almost fell into a feeling bad moood :)

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Notice that she looks like the victim and you look like the bad guy. That's not an accident. She's going to set this thing up so that she comes off getting the pity and you get the scorn. You probably could have guessed that she'd do that beforehand, though. Don't play that game with her.

Well, I don't think she's that tricky of a person, but then again, maybe this kind of thing comes natural to girls.. although her blog is kind of secret (she didn't tell me the location, I googled it), so it's not like its a public show of grief or something..

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Also don't be strange around her. SHE'S the one saying your friendship is over and then blaming you. You'd still hang out with her, right? So who's ending the friendship, really?

Well, technically I didn't end it. On the phone she said 'aren't we still friends?' and I said "Duh! Of course we are!" But as berMuda pointed out above, my tone was kind of like ending it... but I intended to put a stop to all this hanging out in terms of my romantic intentions: meaning no more 4-5 hour hangouts, no more paying for stuff, no more thinking of it as a date.

That is, if we were to hang out again, I'd treat her just like any other friend, no more no less.

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Originally Posted by BigBen

Boyfriend: Oh. I wrote you that e-mail so that you could patch things up with her so that she would stop being such a whining bitch. All I want is for her to stop complaining and for me to insert my penis into her vagina. Are you saying she is a psycho crazy man-eater?

Ben: Yes.

Hahaha! Putting things in perspective.. :D

Look, I hate to say it but you've been done. The impression I got from her "boyfriends" email was that you are just keeping her company and that if possible he would even pay you to keep her company. I have a similar problem to you as to becoming a cuddle bitch but for your own sanity, RUN!!! Yes, you may have been friends but think of your cock. Its starved, it doesn't deserve that.