Girl on Girl
 

For sometime now me and my boyfriend, have been discussing, girl on girl. Now I can't say that im totally against it, but it's still wierd to me just the same. I'm also concerned about others finding out in my home town, that'd be horrible being as its so small.. any advice?????

don't do it with someone in your hometown?

don't do it if it's just for the benefit of your bf

As a bisexual woman, I wouldn't want to have sex with someone who regards sex with a woman as "weird." If you're not attracted to women, don't do it.

I agree with sadeianlinguist. If you don't want to do it, don't let him push you into it. Otherwise, you're in for a rocky relationship. If you don't really find women attractive, don't just do it for the entertainment of your boyfriend...seriously.

I agree with the previous posters. If you find it weird or unnatural and you are scared of people finding out...Don't Do It! You are not only involving yourself, but another person and it wouldn't be fair to hurt someone else to please your bf. Also, you shouldn't be asked to do things that you feel uncomfortable with. If he loves you and you explain your feelings, he should respect those. Don't force something just because you feel like you should.

Would you say it's weird or more you're interested but scared to go there? I can fully understand that.

it depends on your definition of "weird".

is it "i don't think its right" weird ?
is it "i'm not sure if i'd like it" weird ?
is it "i'm totally cool with the idea, it's just new and foreign to me" weird ?

figure out exactly what your holdup with it is .. if it turns out you do have a problem with it, don't do it of course. if it turns out you have no problem with it but it's just weird because it's new, then maybe it's worth thinking about trying.

Here's what I'd suggest. Think about the situation if it didn't involve your boyfriend. Would you still be interested in being with another woman? If not, then it probably isn't the best choice. You don't want to be doing anything sexually that doesn't feel right to you, especially if you're doing it solely to please him.

It also depends on what you mean by "weird". Is this just your accepting what others might think, or is it how it actually feels to you? You should never do anything sexually that you don't feel comfortable doing solely to please your boyfriend.

This doesn't mean that you shouldn't try to please him, but your needs matter just as much as his, and if your needs aren't being met in some way by this, if it's not right for you, it isn't healthy. Don't do it.

If it excites you and you think you're going to get something out of it, by all means, go for it if you can find another girl who's willing.

Dealing with small town gossip is more difficult, and something I never managed to figure out. Your best bet is to do this some place private where it won't get out, but don't go into it assuming that it will always stay a secret. Three people are going to know about it, and it's very difficult for three people to keep a secret.

I'm very down with the girl on girl action, by the way, and think of it as the epitome of sexual interaction, but it's not for everyone. It's ok not to do this until and unless you feel it's right for you.

Gilda