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Old 04-08-2006, 08:25 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Apparently I look like a virgin

I was over at “Krista’s” a girl I just started seeing a week or two ago, house. Krista, her sister, and I were watching TV and chatting. Out of know where, Krista’s sister asks me, “Are you a virgin?” I am not, and I told her so, and commented how random her question was. Krista knows I am not a virgin so it’s not like she wanted to know and had her sister ask me.

A few days later I was talking on the phone with Krista and asked her, “Do I look like a virgin?” Without heisting and quite frankly, she said, “Yes.” I told her I was just curious and then commented how random her sister’s question was.

So anyways…

What makes someone look like a virgin? The first thing I thought of was Steve Carell in “The 40-Year-Old Virgin” marching around his house with a baritone and painting action figures. Ouch. I don’t look like Steve Carell so that theory is out. I dress pretty much normal, somewhat preppy at times. I usually wear a t-shirt or polo and jeans or khakis. I take care of my looks, but I don’t overdo it. I am 5’8” and 175 pounds. My score on www.hotornot.com is 5.2 out of 10.0 so I am basically average looking.

So what could possibly make someone ‘look like a virgin?’ I never heard someone being labeled as looking like a virgin before. I could just ask her, but I think it’s too early in our relationship.
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Old 04-08-2006, 08:43 PM   #2 (permalink)
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heh, interesting topic..I've gotten that too.
I think in my case it's because I'm always very nice and courteous to people,
so they think that I'm "inexperienced".

Let them think what they want. Who cares. Only you know what a cat you can be in your own privacy . And anyways, men get turned on by the idea of just fantasizing about a girl who "looks" like a virgin hehehe, and maybe isn't! It's like the good girl gone bad! lol
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Old 04-08-2006, 09:15 PM   #3 (permalink)
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It could be uptight mannerisms, or you could be missing body language/sexual cues/undertones/etc., or maybe you seem uncomfortable when talking about sexual stuff.

There's lots of little things that people pick up on that leads them to believe what they do.
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Old 04-08-2006, 10:48 PM   #4 (permalink)
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By the way, it's a pretty rude question. What business is it of hers? Would she give you a list of all the guys she's gone to bed with?

Your girlfriend can ask that question -- but not anybody else.

The best answer to Krista's sister would be: "No, and I'd prove it to you -- but I'm interested in your sister."
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Old 04-09-2006, 01:59 AM   #5 (permalink)
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By the way, it's a pretty rude question. What business is it of hers? Would she give you a list of all the guys she's gone to bed with?

Your girlfriend can ask that question -- but not anybody else.

The best answer to Krista's sister would be: "No, and I'd prove it to you -- but I'm interested in your sister."
Ditto on the prying question. She should have been at least asking her sister if anyone.

As for a look? I dunno, I have a friend who is approaching the 40 year virgin mark. She doesn't look like one, but she definitely acts like one. She acts very prude and is easily embarassed by sexual innuendos to the point of extreme discomfort.
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Old 04-09-2006, 03:29 AM   #6 (permalink)
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So what could possibly make someone ‘look like a virgin?’ I never heard someone being labeled as looking like a virgin before.
Don't take it so hard, it could be worse. People tell me, that I look gay!
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Old 04-09-2006, 03:39 AM   #7 (permalink)
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It's probably more about how you act than how you look. It's probably not anything obvious, either. like skier said, it's mostly about non-verbal cues people get from how you interact with people of the opposite sex (or same sex, as the case may be).
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Old 04-09-2006, 04:09 AM   #8 (permalink)
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I think it was a test either the sister was seeing if she could fuck her sisters boyfriend or it was set up by your girlfriend to see if you could be trusted.
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Old 04-09-2006, 05:46 AM   #9 (permalink)
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Going by looks alone, I would think that everyone could look like a virgin...you know, since everyone was once.

Don't worry about it. It was a rude question and none of the sister's business. If your girlfriend likes you enough to be with you, then that's all you need to concern yourself with.
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Old 04-09-2006, 06:04 AM   #10 (permalink)
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At least you don't look like a slut.


Trust me... it's not cool
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Old 04-09-2006, 09:19 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Thanks for the quick replies. I have a dirty dirty mind, so I am not anywhere uncomfortable talking about sexual stuff. She isn't my girlfriend (yet). But, I was nervous that night, so maybe that had something to do with it. And yes, I am a 'nice guy' but I picked this specific girl up by Plan9's thread "Getting Girls 101" so its proof that it works.
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Old 04-09-2006, 09:38 AM   #12 (permalink)
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Don't take it so hard, it could be worse. People tell me, that I look gay!
I feel ya bro, I really do.
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Old 04-09-2006, 10:08 AM   #13 (permalink)
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Thanks for the quick replies. I have a dirty dirty mind, so I am not anywhere uncomfortable talking about sexual stuff. She isn't my girlfriend (yet). But, I was nervous that night, so maybe that had something to do with it. And yes, I am a 'nice guy' but I picked this specific girl up by Plan9's thread "Getting Girls 101" so its proof that it works.
Just a small logic nitpick, it's not proof it works because you can't know if you would have gotten her anyway, being yourself.

I'm guessing what her sister did was stereotype. Basically, however you were acting (or maybe she was flirting with you and you didnt pick it up, there is often competition between sisters) she associates that behavior with "not getting any" and therefore virgins. Again stereotyping that if you are a virgin it must not be on purpose, rather because you can't get any. I really doubt it has anything to do with how you look physically because as someone mentioned, everyone was a virgin at one time or another.
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Old 04-09-2006, 07:27 PM   #14 (permalink)
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At least you don't look like a slut.


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Old 04-10-2006, 05:24 AM   #15 (permalink)
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It's how you are acting, not how you look. Girls can tell when a guy isn't getting any. They are usually overly hyper, overly reactive to situations, and act, in general, very immaturely. At least that's what I've noticed. They also have a superiority complex thing going on. Not all guys act like this, but a lot do. Just something I've noticed over the years.

You may be acting similar to one of these traits.

You might not be, however. They might just call you a virgin because it gets them off. Who knows.
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Old 04-10-2006, 07:33 AM   #16 (permalink)
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Don't take it so hard, it could be worse. People tell me, that I look gay!
No doubt.

Nothing kills the mood quite like a "....but...you're gay, aren't you?" from the girl you've been flirting with all night.
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Old 04-10-2006, 07:51 AM   #17 (permalink)
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funny thing about that, women don't percieve gay men as a threat, so they let their guard down quicker. Kind of gets you in under the radar, by the time they find out that you are straight, they've been chatting to you all night!
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Old 04-10-2006, 11:14 AM   #18 (permalink)
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I think it's more about your overall demeanor than anything that determines how people perceive you (in this case as a virgin). I never really had this problem because girls always thought I was a virgin since the 9th grade. I attribute it to the fact that I speak with an open mind and have a "rico suave" kind of look.

My advice would be to not worry too much about it. Everyone has their own opinion, even if it's wrong. So let that girl's sister think whatever lets her sleep at night.
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Old 04-10-2006, 11:19 AM   #19 (permalink)
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Don't take it so hard, it could be worse. People tell me, that I look gay!
You mean you aren't?






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Old 04-10-2006, 06:16 PM   #20 (permalink)
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I got the opposite. Everyone thinks I am a big slut and I am pretty much the complete opposite. I have slept with one person in my life and that was a good 3 years or so ago. The girl I am kind of "with" right now doesnt believe me that I have only slept with one person. Funny thing is I have known her for 2 years. I hate people thinking I am a slut.
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Old 04-10-2006, 11:24 PM   #21 (permalink)
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It's how you are acting, not how you look. Girls can tell when a guy isn't getting any. They are usually overly hyper, overly reactive to situations, and act, in general, very immaturely. At least that's what I've noticed. They also have a superiority complex thing going on. Not all guys act like this, but a lot do. Just something I've noticed over the years.

You may be acting similar to one of these traits.

You might not be, however. They might just call you a virgin because it gets them off. Who knows.
I have to agree.Looking back at myself.Guys that are virgins tend to be stand-offish on dates, as opposed to guys who have had sex are generally more physical(trying to kiss or hug or generally touch a girl..like on a first date for example).A perfect example would be my girlfriend vs a female friend of mine.

The girlfriend knew immediately I was a virgin, when we first met.Around my girlfriend I was nervous, goofy, and basically what Redjake described.

Around the female friend I had no interest in, that I'm not afraid to touch and generally cut up with(and who I can say anything around), she thought I was a slut, and got laid all the time.


Basically confidence.
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