CubanCigar

So this girl and I have been hooking up (making out for, then blowjobs, then eventually sex) for about a year...we tried the relationship thing (in which during the 2 week period we said we love each other), but it didn't work out due to circumstances (i.e. college, not enough time to devote to each other, immaturity to some degree), so we're still hanging out/hooking up pretty consistently (1-3 times a week), but I'm still having problems just straight up asking her to come over just to hook up. Usually it's, "hey, do you want to come over to watch a movie?" in which we watch a movie then hook up. But due to our busy schedules, a whole movie at a time isn't feasible, so how do I transition it into asking straight up for a booty call? (And I've talked to her about it, and she said quote, "I don't mind being propositioned") It's just, for some reason, I have a stigma about just asking her to come over for sex, i.e. she might see it as me not respecting her, but though she has said before, "At this point I know I'm just not a peice of ass to you."

SO, blocktext out of the way, advice?

I'm thinking maybe, "Hey, would you like to come over for a quickie?" or something like, "I'm horny, can you take 30 min out of your night to come over?"

OOh, I just had an idea, we came up with the nickname for sex as "play monopoly" (or rather my roommate did), so I could ask her to, "come over to play monopoly." I might try that one, but other suggestions?

Sage

Why not just do it the old fashioned way?

"Hi! I've been thinking about you... would you like to come over and have some fun?"

Not superfulious, also not on the level of "Me have penis! You have vagina!"

Respectful, to the point, not degrading....

congrats on finding a friend with benefits!

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savvypup

But you're just change the 'booty call' call phrase from 'come over and watch a movie' to 'come over and play monopoly'.

Hey, how about a sexy text implying something. Mine use to be 'Have you seen my pussy? Here kitty kitty' Corny I know but it did the trick.

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ratbastid

I've had some success (and fun) lately saying, "Hey, wanna fuck?"

barenakedladies

YO BITCH.... LETS DO IT IN THE BUTT.


that always charms the ladies.

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Brewmaniac

"You up for fooling around?"

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Suave

Call her up, and say authoritatively "This is -insert name-. This is a booty call."

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dlish

"got a spare 2 minutes?"

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Daniel_

Planning on doing it twice then?

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World's King

"Hey... if you're not doin' anything you should come over. I just got the second season of Buffy from Netflix and I don't really watch 'em alone. I'll make some food... just some snacks... maybe you could pick up some vodka and mixers... or better yet... get some wine. We can make a night outta it."

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Craven Morehead

Hey, ya wanna have some fun tonight?

She knows what you mean.

ShaniFaye

That one has always worked for me

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visotech

"play monopoly" I like that, but as far as I remember when we played monopoly the games went for 4 hours hah

snowy

Yeah, really, you're just changing the terms.

She knows what you want when you ask her over for a movie.

Next time just say, "I could really use some fooling around tonight. Come over, will you?" That's all you need to say.

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MikeSty

Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?

Oh, wait.

gotekix

"You and me baby ain't nothing but mammals...."

CubanCigar

hence how it got it's nickname =p.

But one thing I didn't mention in the original post was that we usually plan hanging out in advance, like a day or a week even in advance, I just don't have the brass to call her up that day to say come over tonight (well, on occasion.) Basically I'm asking how to add spontenaity (sp), but you guys have already helped out, and more suggestions are welcomed, thanks!

Sage

"I was sitting in class today thinking about your fine body, wanna come over so I can make sure I remembered it correctly?"

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CubanCigar

Brilliant!

Suave

"I have this contest with a camel, and I have to get more humps than he does tonight. You up for the challenge?"

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Plummie

Classic!! That's a winner.

I do like the Monopoly inference because sex is game, especially with fuck buddies. It parallels real life, because the chase is a game itself and it has a hint of playfulness too. If you asked me to come over and play Monopoly, I couldn't refuse! Let us know how it goes..

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Jackebear

I always say to my fuck-friend, "I was wondering if you want to come over for a workout?".

Seems to work just fine.

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ratbastid

Ah, but it's a game that everybody wins!

Cimarron29414

Some people have real problems

Tell her you need her to schedule some down time for some hardware maintenance tonight. Ladies love the smart talk.

My wife and I call it doing laundry.

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Nothing says "you won!" like a raging case of syphillus.

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balinksi

So basically you are friends with privledges. So just tell you her you could really use a friend tonight. Or as someone else said Tell to come over for a little game of hide the sausage

Toaster126

Monopoly? I'm totally stealing that.

As far as neat things to say, anything that is respectful yet playful should work for you.

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analog

with my ex-turned-fuck-buddy, back when we hooked up:

Me: Hey, how's it goin'?
Her: Good, what's up?
Me: I'm horny, come over.
Her: Cool.
Me: Cool. See you in 15.
*click*

Redlemon

I know exactly where you are coming from. It is hard to get past that mental block, but it is worth it. I'm 18 years into my relationship, and my feeling comfortable directly asking for sex (rather than leading there through foreplay) really only came a few years ago.

Remember, sex is about communication, and if you can't ask for sex, how do you ask her to do that specific thing that really turns you on?

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wolf

There's always the Dangerfield classic " Hey honey, you wanna make $15 the hardway?"

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baronmandark

there's always "hey baby, me, you, my place, extrapolate."

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lilfle

i like that one
and the monopoly one too

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blahblah454

I liked that camel one. I am gonna use it on a friend sometime this week. I will let you guys know if it works.

Hardknock

I wanna fuck.

Direct.

To the point.

Always works.

Fia

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CaliLivChick

I just told my bf about this thread, then used the monopoly line on him... boy, was that good! *giggle*

thespian86

Ours is "sunglassing". So if I'm horny I feel very sunglassy. And if I feel like some attention I tell her the room is far to bright and we should put on our sunglasses.

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xepherys

lol, that's possibly the most creative way of saying it. Not my style, but definitely amusing!

Fohur2

Hmmm...me and a friend also use monopoly to refer to sex...guess it doesn't just make sense to us

hagatha

Its good to be direct. Sometimes when a man asks you over to see a movie, and you expect sex, you're surprised that it really was just a movie.
But maybe the larger issue is, do fuck buddy arrangements really work in the long run? Is there a danger of someone getting hurt if it goes on too long? And didn't you say that you both declared your love of one another early on? Has that changed?
Just curious.