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Old 02-25-2006, 04:57 PM   #1 (permalink)
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So my SO and I have been having sex for a couple months now, but last nite, during our second go at it for the night, I guess I must have bottomed out because all of a sudden she said it was starting to hurt her (so I immediately stopped). After talking more she said she thought I "hit the end of the road." Is it always painful? We weren't going at it that hard, but is it like other aspects of sex for women where it gets better over time or is it not good to "hit the end of the road"? (was doing her on top/missionary).

Anything I can do so it doesn't happen again? Is this normal? Thanks! <3 u guys.

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Old 02-25-2006, 05:08 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Yeah from what I hear it's pretty painful.
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Old 02-25-2006, 05:55 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Hitting the cervix can be harder or easier to do depending on the couple but most women don't like it...not usually that much trouble to avoid as long as you are careful with your positioning.
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Old 02-25-2006, 06:00 PM   #4 (permalink)
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it's painful when it happens, yes.

this can happen depending on the position and/or length of the man's cock. (and also can happen with sex toys as well)

Some women are more shallow than others. I've had it happen a time or two.

to avoid this issue... try finding positions that are comfortable for both of you and thrust easy until you know for sure where her comfort is.



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Old 02-25-2006, 06:02 PM   #5 (permalink)
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We are both pretty new to sex and are still trying to figure the best positions/movements.
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Old 02-25-2006, 06:31 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Another thing that is a big factor in this is how turned on your girl is. The more turned on you are, the more the vagina legnthens and the cervix moves outta the way to make room for the penis- if your girl isn't totally turned on before you start having sex, there's a bigger chance you'll hit something!

It HURTS when you hit the cervix, no doubt about it. That's an organ that really isn't supposed to move that much- it can really kill the mood for us because it goes from feeling really good to feeling really OUCH!

Oh, and if you're new to sex- check out The Guide to Getting it ON! by Paul Johannes. Best sex book EVER- I've recommended it to dozens of people and in tons of threads on TFP and haven't ever had anyone say they didn't like it or not learn something!
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Old 02-25-2006, 08:46 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I just ran this by my girl, because its completely different than what she tells me. She says most of the time a good cervix-banging session feels great. She says there are times when gentle is good, but they are few and far between.
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Old 02-25-2006, 09:05 PM   #8 (permalink)
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This happens to us sometimes. Usually it is in some of the deeper penetrating positions. From her reaction, it hurts bad. Some days it seems to bother her or happen more than others. My suggestion would be to experiment with different positions to see which ones bother her least?
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Old 02-25-2006, 09:52 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Some girls love that. Most seem to dislike it, though.
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Old 02-26-2006, 07:03 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Avoid having sex in the wheelbarrow position at all costs if you want to make sure not to hit the cervix.
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Old 02-26-2006, 07:45 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Doing doggy I hit bottom on the wife and it hurts her bigtime.

I had a gf once who loved it when I hit her cervix. She said it was like wonderful electricity at the bottom of her pussy, and that was fine with her.
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Old 02-26-2006, 10:56 AM   #12 (permalink)
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To my ex's supreme disappointment, I could not handle the cowgirl position for that very reason. Whatever the angle or initial depth of penetration he'd always hit after awhile. And it hurt. I bled like crazy every time, though somehow managed to hide that part. That was the only position in which he ever hit.
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Old 02-26-2006, 02:08 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I have heard it said that hitting the cervix is equal to kicking a guy in the balls for some woment. Its extremely painful to me, and doggy is the one position that it will ALWAYS happen for me.
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Old 02-26-2006, 03:06 PM   #14 (permalink)
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To my ex's supreme disappointment, I could not handle the cowgirl position for that very reason. Whatever the angle or initial depth of penetration he'd always hit after awhile. And it hurt. I bled like crazy every time, though somehow managed to hide that part. That was the only position in which he ever hit.
If it's cowgirl, wouldn't it be you hitting your cervix?
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Old 02-26-2006, 03:12 PM   #15 (permalink)
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^ Yes, but Mr. Man could never quite relinquish all of the control and usually tried to take over...
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Old 02-26-2006, 04:12 PM   #16 (permalink)
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I had this problem with my girl quite a bit, I think she is just "shallow". and of course, the fear of it kept her from relaxing during sex.

so after about 2 hours of searching through sex toy stuff, I came across EXACTLY what I was looking for, its a set of donuts that effectively shortens the usable length of the penis.

ordinarily I would not plug for products, but since I spent so much darn time looking for it, I will post the name, its called the "not too deep donut set" by semour butts.

it looks kind of stupid, but it has actually made a significant difference in our bedroom activities, she's more comfortable that she doesnt have to worry about me going too deep.
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Old 02-27-2006, 09:36 AM   #17 (permalink)
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i had a girlfriend who practically 'banned' me from doing it doggy style for just this reason. She said it hurt her a lot. I wanted to cry because she had a great ass too.
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Old 02-27-2006, 10:03 AM   #18 (permalink)
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I think of it this way when my girlfriend tells me to be more gentle: When it hurts, it's probably somewhat like the feeling you could get if you were to be kicked square in the perineum.

Think about it. =)
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Old 03-26-2006, 07:33 AM   #19 (permalink)
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I love the feeling of being bottom out. It's a little uncomfortable and sometimes painful, but I just feel so conquered and submissive - that more than makes up for it, for me.
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Old 03-26-2006, 09:15 AM   #20 (permalink)
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Waltert, what a good idea! I will suggest this to my best friend who has this problem.

Personally, I think deeper is always better but that is just me!

Also there are ring-shaped toys that have a vibrator in them too! You might give one a try. That might also have the effect of turning her on more so she will relax. Yes, the length of the vagina varies radically depending on state of arousal--it is like a reverse hard-on. Vaginas a weird.
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Old 03-26-2006, 09:17 AM   #21 (permalink)
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I guess this should reassure any guys nervous about their length.
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Old 03-26-2006, 09:19 AM   #22 (permalink)
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I guess this should reassure any guys nervous about their length.
There is nothing reassuring about a man hitting his woman's cervix and having her ball up in pain. Any guy who feels good about that obviously is sadistic and had issues.
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Old 03-26-2006, 09:59 AM   #23 (permalink)
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There is nothing reassuring about a man hitting his woman's cervix and having her ball up in pain. Any guy who feels good about that obviously is sadistic and had issues.
I think the post meant that having a shorter penis prevents it ever happening, so you ought to feel good that you'll never hurt her.

Or something.

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Old 03-26-2006, 11:32 AM   #24 (permalink)
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There is nothing reassuring about a man hitting his woman's cervix and having her ball up in pain. Any guy who feels good about that obviously is sadistic and had issues.
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I think the post meant that having a shorter penis prevents it ever happening, so you ought to feel good that you'll never hurt her.
You don't have to be 12" long... as this thread indicates it might be a bad thing.
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Old 04-03-2006, 09:09 PM   #25 (permalink)
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... it hurts... alot in fact the first time i used a toy i found out exactly how much... just make sure she is really com,phortable and ready
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