Tonight was one of the hottest nights in my short life - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

snowy · 02-23-2006, 02:28 AM

My SO and I slept with each other on the first date (though he insists it was the second date...he claims we went on our first date the night we met because we went to a different bar together after we met, but I still say that wasn't a real date). Why? Because, quite frankly, he and I had already spent an exorbitant amount of time talking (I mean hours) and I wanted some action! No, really. The physical chemistry was just THERE and I HAD to get his pants off...and vice-versa.

I know there are other women on this board who had similar situations when they met their SOs, so I am by no means alone :P

little_tippler · 02-23-2006, 03:41 AM

My ex and I slept together very shortly after we met. It was right for that particular relationship I guess. I don't regret it at all. We wanted to, and we did.

I'd rather wait a while if I can though. I agree it's great to get to know someone that much better before you have sex. Why? Because you're more connected and also, there's nothing like a little sexual tension to make things more exciting.

So, what I want to know is, what was so hot about your night? Details details!

ShaniFaye · 02-23-2006, 06:11 AM

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Originally Posted by crackprogram

So I pose the question, was there ever a time that you needed to have sex right then and there?

yes....unequivocally YES...on mine and Dave's first date

Jack1.0 · 02-23-2006, 07:06 AM

Even after 13 years of marrage there are times when I see my wife and have to have sex right there and then. It has nothing to do with "Blue Balls", she is just so damn exciting that if I tried to wait I would not be able to think of anything else. Hehe, with a little luck she feels that way at the same time!

abaya · 02-23-2006, 07:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Jack1.0

Even after 13 years of marrage there are times when I see my wife and have to have sex right there and then.

That is just awesome.

I wish every married couple could feel like that (though from the looks of most people on the TFP, most married couples here ARE like that!)

As for me and ktspktsp, we had sex pretty quickly after getting together. We had been flirting heavily for a couple of weeks, though, and he had been after me for a couple of months.

So I don't know if that counts as "right away," after all!

Toaster126 · 02-23-2006, 09:33 AM

Seems like the tone of the first post is that waiting is always better. It isn't. If both people want to have sex and are prepared to deal with all the concequences of that action, then there is no reason to wait that is logical.

ratbastid · 02-23-2006, 10:02 AM

What's right in a particular situation is what's right, period.

That said... There is something to delayed gratification that makes the prize that much sweeter.

shoegirl · 02-23-2006, 11:14 AM

Sometimes it's better to wait, but sometimes jumping right in is good too. Just depends on the people, I suppose. In this case, I'll definitely agree with the fact that there is a certain desire in waiting. The anticipation might just kill us, but that's part of the fun.

Crack · 02-25-2006, 05:56 AM

my previous statement that "Tonight was one of the hottest nights in my short life" was wrong. Thursday was actually, but I have a feeling that things are just starting to get good...

TheBrit · 02-25-2006, 04:18 PM

I've never experienced blue balls through an emotional link (Oh god I really want her), only through physical interaction that didn't lead to a release.

Although, yes, I have needed sex a few times, I think we all do at some point.

slimshaydee · 02-25-2006, 04:31 PM

If you have that moment of extreme passion, that's where I've always taken it to the next step. You want your first time with someone to have that raw passion involved, really making it a memorable experience. You don't want to pass up that moment otherwise the first time you do actually have sex, while it may be great, would have been much better in that moment.

Krycheck · 02-25-2006, 07:31 PM

I've experienced that once in my life.
I met up with my ex-gf from high school a little over 3 yrs ago. the second meeting we had we did it in her car "right there and then". Thank god she was only 5'1" and a 100 lbs

I have a feeling that will happen again to me soon....

smooth · 02-26-2006, 06:02 PM

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Originally Posted by crackprogram

Is the "blue ball" snydrome more prevalent in younger men (I am still only 26) than the old farts out there?

I think you see it in younger men because it's something they use on inexperienced women to give in to sex.
Sometimes used on married women to coax a BJ when sex is off the table, too...

I don't remember personally ever feeling it physically, but maybe I have...not saying it doesn't exist, just that "blue balls" happen less frequently than people claim, in my opinion.

and yeah, there's been times when I said no and felt good about it.

02-23-2006, 02:20 AM	#1 (permalink)
Crack Misanthropic Location: Ohio! yay!	Tonight was one of the hottest nights in my short life edit __________________ Crack, you and I are long overdue for a vicious bout of mansex. ~Halx Last edited by Crack; 07-09-2007 at 09:46 AM..

02-23-2006, 02:28 AM	#2 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	My SO and I slept with each other on the first date (though he insists it was the second date...he claims we went on our first date the night we met because we went to a different bar together after we met, but I still say that wasn't a real date). Why? Because, quite frankly, he and I had already spent an exorbitant amount of time talking (I mean hours) and I wanted some action! No, really. The physical chemistry was just THERE and I HAD to get his pants off...and vice-versa. I know there are other women on this board who had similar situations when they met their SOs, so I am by no means alone :P __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

02-23-2006, 03:41 AM	#3 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	My ex and I slept together very shortly after we met. It was right for that particular relationship I guess. I don't regret it at all. We wanted to, and we did. I'd rather wait a while if I can though. I agree it's great to get to know someone that much better before you have sex. Why? Because you're more connected and also, there's nothing like a little sexual tension to make things more exciting. So, what I want to know is, what was so hot about your night? Details details! __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

02-23-2006, 07:06 AM	#5 (permalink)
Jack1.0 Tilted	Even after 13 years of marrage there are times when I see my wife and have to have sex right there and then. It has nothing to do with "Blue Balls", she is just so damn exciting that if I tried to wait I would not be able to think of anything else. Hehe, with a little luck she feels that way at the same time! __________________ Jack1.0 ---------------------------------------------- I've learned to embrace my inner Geek. I haven't found anything else I'm good at.

02-23-2006, 09:33 AM	#7 (permalink)
Toaster126 Extreme moderation Location: Kansas City, yo.	Seems like the tone of the first post is that waiting is always better. It isn't. If both people want to have sex and are prepared to deal with all the concequences of that action, then there is no reason to wait that is logical. __________________ "The question isn't who is going to let me, it's who is going to stop me." (Ayn Rand) "The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers." (M. Scott Peck)

02-23-2006, 10:02 AM	#8 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	What's right in a particular situation is what's right, period. That said... There is something to delayed gratification that makes the prize that much sweeter.

02-23-2006, 11:14 AM	#9 (permalink)
shoegirl Addict Location: Ohio	Sometimes it's better to wait, but sometimes jumping right in is good too. Just depends on the people, I suppose. In this case, I'll definitely agree with the fact that there is a certain desire in waiting. The anticipation might just kill us, but that's part of the fun.

02-25-2006, 05:56 AM	#10 (permalink)
Crack Misanthropic Location: Ohio! yay!	my previous statement that "Tonight was one of the hottest nights in my short life" was wrong. Thursday was actually, but I have a feeling that things are just starting to get good... __________________ Crack, you and I are long overdue for a vicious bout of mansex. ~Halx

02-25-2006, 04:18 PM	#11 (permalink)
TheBrit Psycho	I've never experienced blue balls through an emotional link (Oh god I really want her), only through physical interaction that didn't lead to a release. Although, yes, I have needed sex a few times, I think we all do at some point.

02-25-2006, 04:31 PM	#12 (permalink)
slimshaydee If you've read this, PM me and say so Location: Sitting on my ass, and you?	If you have that moment of extreme passion, that's where I've always taken it to the next step. You want your first time with someone to have that raw passion involved, really making it a memorable experience. You don't want to pass up that moment otherwise the first time you do actually have sex, while it may be great, would have been much better in that moment.

02-25-2006, 07:31 PM	#13 (permalink)
Krycheck Sultana ruined my evil persona Location: Los Angeles	I've experienced that once in my life. I met up with my ex-gf from high school a little over 3 yrs ago. the second meeting we had we did it in her car "right there and then". Thank god she was only 5'1" and a 100 lbs I have a feeling that will happen again to me soon.... __________________ His pants are tight...but his morals are loose!!