lindalove

Last time I fooled around we were out of condoms, so we did oral and stuff like that. We were both getting so heavily in the mood for sex, though, so he slipped inside for a moment without moving and he went nuts.

It felt different for me but I couldn't tell much without the action, but he said it felt so much better without it and he wished I was on birth control.

So is it better? If it is I think it'd be worth the half hour trip to Planned Pregnancy for cheaper birth control.

How is it different?

Daniel_

FIRST....

DO NOT PUT A NAKED PENIS INSIDE YOU, OR NEAR YOUR VAGINA UNLESS YOU WANT A BABY. A penis can get you pregnant without coming into you - live sperm can "leak" out of the penis in what many people call "pre-come".

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From a guy's perspective, it is much more sensual. There is just more feeling - no matter how good a condom is (and some are very very good - I should know, it's my job to test them) there is always some feeling removed by having one.

I have spoken to some women about it over the years and some can tell the difference, but others can't. At least one woman has told me that she could feel much more when her partner ejaculated, for example.

There are other considerations before using hormone BC however - messing with your body's hormones can have lasting consequences - read some of the historic threads on it - there's been several discussions in the Ladies Lounge about it.

So - in short - most guys think naked sex is better, and some girls agree. Some women find that naked sex is crap because they are not as relaxed and safe feeling, which is an important consideration.

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Borla

Both me and my wife like it better bare. Since she has been on the pill for years, we only use condoms on the rare occasion she misses one, or has to take an antibiotic that may mess with it.

Since it's only once every 12-18 months or so we have to use condoms for a few weeks, it's really not a big deal. I definitely wouldn't want to flip-flop those proportions though!!

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noodle

yes. after numerous broken ones and "fishing expeditions" for the pieces, my ex and i gave up. i didn't feel much of anything with the condoms. but, i've been on the pill since i was 14 so i figured we were covered since we were both negative for everything. he was fastidious about pulling out, too. much to my chagrin.

however, when i moved, my mother (who was helping with the move) found multiple condoms that we had pulled onto our heads, over noses, and breathed into them subsequently shooting them off into no-man's land behind the dresser. his head was too big, so every one broke. my mother didn't believe me for about six months that that was how they got there. but that's basically how we both felt about them.

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tecoyah

Well.....I didnt get snipped due to masochistic tendencies.....if that tells you anything

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Seaver

Yes, from everyone I've talked to (and personal experience), its not even a comparison with or without condoms.

My GF absolutely LOVES feeling me cum inside her, just rush will often push her into orgasm. As she puts it, sex with a condom is like eating food with plastic wrap on it. You still get full, you just dont enjoy it nearly as much.

My first time sex ever I lasted 40 minutes. It's just... numb for me. My first time without a condom I lasted a whopping 2minutes. Now I've gotten it to the point of being able to decide when I (or she) wants to cum, through various techniques, but the feeling is as good as ever.

So does it feel better absolutely? However dont try to find out until you get on the pill. Only get on the pill if you're comfterble with it.

Willravel

I SECOND!!! This is absolutely true. Wrapt it up and take the pill unless you're 110% ready (financially, maturity, relationship-wise, etc.).

For me, it doesn't matter. I've had maybe 8 or 9 years of experience with condoms and 3 years without. For me, the condom only means it'll take an extra 2 seconds before I'm having sex. The difference of feeling is insignificant compared to the whole experience.

One thing I've learned...don't use the ribbed ones inside out. They don't work that way.

ngdawg

Oh Gawd, yes, nekkid is better....

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snowy

Yes, bare is much better. Mmm.

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cellophanedeity

It feels much better without a condom.

But... if you're not okay with the idea of hormonal contraception, or you don't fully trust your partner, then don't even think about it. Too much risk involved for the improvement. Hell, it's not as if sex with a condom is bad or anything

captobvious

My girlfriend and I both agree that it's better without condoms. It's just a more intimate experience when it's flesh to flesh contact. However, as others have mentioned make sure you still use a condom if you miss a pill or are taking any medication that may affect the pill.

Sugar&Spice

I think it is so much better without a condom. And he definitely enjoys it a lot more too. Plus, when I know he is going to cum inside of me, it gets me to the point of orgasm so much quicker.

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feelgood

And that's coming from a woman that has waaaaaaaaaaay more experience than any of you combined!

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Yep, I've said it before and I'll say it again. Do not take ANY risks with sex unless you are completely and totally ready for any consequence... e.g. getting pregnant. My bf and I use a condom every time, even though I have been on hormonal BC for as long as we've been together. We won't take any risks until we can handle the results, even though we know how great it feels to have sex sans condom.

Yep, this is true. It does feel great without a condom... but it feels pretty damn good with a condom, and once you get into the habit, it doesn't really matter. And it's not like my bf ever has a problem cumming with a condom on!

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absorbentishe

Yes, neked is waaay better (from a man's perspective). It used to feel like wearing a rain coat, well maybe not that bad. Now that I've had the plumbing disconnected, it's soo much better, and she agrees. She totally love the feeling of me coming inside better than anything else.

TexanAvenger

Those tendencies just came extra, huh?

Babes can comment on this too, but even the first time we didn't use a condom she said it was a LOT better without. I, too, will attest to the fact that it feels much better. I wasn't completely averse to using a condom when that was our only form of birth control, but now we'd both much rather not.

Plummie

For me, as long as I'm in a trusting, monogamous relationship with one person (and we get tested together) then I prefer not to use condoms. It feels so much more intimate and the pill is effective. However if it's a brief encounter with a man I'm not in a relationship with, then he MUST wear one.

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cementor

Being a pleasure unit and no longer a baby maker, it is no comparison! Commando is far superior!!

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Grasshopper Green

I hate condoms (they irritate my skin), so I think naked is way better.

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Jinn

Condom vs No Condom..?

That's like comparing apples to TEN MILLION DOLLARS.

No contest... I echo the 40 mins to 5 mins sentiment, however..

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Sweetpea

better without condoms...

However, pregnancy isn't a happy thing until you're ready.. so if you're going to go bare, please please please get some birth control... also, get tested for STD's if you haven't already.

sweetpea

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Proper Question:

Does it feel better having sex with children sleeping in the other room, or before you had kids?

COME ON NOW...

Don't even think about having unprotected sex (I am saying 100% birth control here) before you are ready to buy cribs, birthday presents, and leave money under the pillow for the tooth fairy.

Who the fuck cares if it feels better? You are still having sex. That is like comparing an Acura NSX to a Porshe 911.

You are still having a fantastic ride. Live it and love it.

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fresnelly

It's more than just a difference in contact sensation. Without a condom, you respond better to a woman's movements, and take a more nuanced approach. A guy with a raincoat on, is more likely to pound away like there's no tomorrow.

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taboo

i agree with BigBen

nitelyfe

bare is better ... the sensations alone make it easy to keep going all night

analog

Yes. Yes! A thousand times, yes!!

hehe...

But seriously, just make sure you have a form of birth control (like the pill) if you're not using a condom. Also keep in mind that the pill, like the condom, is not 100% effective, and things can still happen.

But yes, the difference in feeling is night and day. It's INSANELY better- for the men. Many women notice the difference, but the positive of it might only be slightly more pleasurable... and many women swear by it. Many of those women are very thankful they're in monogamous relationships where they can let the man go without a condom, rather than a woman who is just dating.

So... it varies from woman to woman... but i've never heard a guy say it doesn't feel a million times better.

abaya

YEP. The two in combination are damn good prevention, though. And if you ask me, going bare might feel "a million times better," but I can tell you that getting pregnant (at least for me) would make all those millions worth nothing, in the end!

The enhanced sensation is great, but hey... those parts evolved for reproducing more than for giving pleasure. It's SUPPOSED to feel better without a condom, since more babies get made that way! evolution...

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mandy

oh yes...better without.

a wholllleeee lot better.

blizzak

all sentiments here echoed exactly. My gf is on the pill but cause i'm paranoid, I always pull out anyways. Precum, etc is obviously still a risk but I figure much less of a risk cause of the sheer volume difference. Anyone have any thoughts on such probability?

Last time I checked, with perfect usage, the pill has about 99.7% effectiveness. According to that site, it means that about 0.3% of women who use the pill perfectly for a year will still get pregnant in that year. Very very low percentage, but still a risk involved...

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Jackebear

Oh yeah....my SO has an I.U.D., so once we had the requisite blood tests, we started riding bareback. Once you go bare its bloody hard to go back to the rubber.

For me, I can't stay hard for long with a rubber coat on...maybe 5 min., while I can go 40 plus min. while bare.

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kutulu

Women are only fertile a few days of the month. If you get to know your cycle through reading, tracking it on a calendar, and seeing the color and consistancy of our secretions you can tell when you are close to being fertile, when you actually are and when you no longer are. The rest of the month you can happily bang away.

innovis

I'd say I would rather not even bother to have sex if I had to use a condom.

Then again I'd say 90% of the non-intercourse hookups I've had I would have rather not bothered with as well.

YMMV

Grasshopper Green

This is how I became pregnant. I was very in tune with my body before I got pregnant, I was very regular and knew when I was ovulating. One month, my body decided to ovulate early...and now I have a 4 year old.

After reading some statistics, on average, the rhythm method has a 75% effectiveness rate. Not nearly good enough if you are serious about not getting pregnant.

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Biffaloo420

I could answer that in one word...ABSOLUTELY!

Vaultboy

Nekkid is way better. I also echo the 40/5 minute experience of Seaver. With a condom, I'm often so disconnected physically that I have to use my imagination to heighten the experience for me, and I have to force the sensuality that comes naturally without. Otherwise you just bang away and wait for the eventual friction to do its thing. I always feel that women get the shortest end of that stick, however, since bareback also allows you to feel and respond better to her vagina.

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Sage

I think the suggestion of the rhythym method was mentioned as being useful to use in conjunction with the pill- not as a sole method of BC.

I really don't understand all the paranoia associated with the pill.... every doctor/OBGYN I have ever talked to says that the failure rate is really as close to zero as you can get IF you are very anal about taking it EXACTALY the same way every day. Hell, for that matter... forgo the pill and get an IUD as soon as you can!

And yes, it feels better.... as a woman, I can say that the difference between having sex with a condom and having sex without is like... eating soup out of a can vs. eating homemade soup. Both satisfy, but one is just so much more complex and enjoyable.

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Prince

It is significantly better without the rubber. It's like I don't feel much at all with the raincoat on.

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World's King

I like it better without but I do always have protection in bed... My Walther PPK is always under my pillow.

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Justsomeguy

Better without a condom? Of course. But, shouldn't that make sense? Otherwise, almost everyone that has the ability to obtain condoms would pick them up.

However, asking if it feels better with or without a condom really should never be asked. Instead, ask if it feels better to have the clap or not. Or, does it feel better to change a diaper or to play your PS2? The answer the the final two questions will really provide information to answer your question!

Also, as stated by previous posters, you should also ask if you are willing to have a baby with the person at this time. Of course, this really applies to sex with anyone at anytime regardless of protection. In which case, if you have sex with someone and are not ready to have a baby, you should make sure you feel comfortable with an abortion if necessary.

filtherton

I would love it if you were the new james bond.

That being said:

HAVING SEX CAN MAKE YOU PREGNANT, CONDOM OR BIRTH CONTROL OR WHATEVER. It has been my experience that the properly executed pull-out method is a lot better at preventing pregnancy than the BCP.
If you aren't ready to have a kid or an abortion, don't have sex. Abstinence is the only 100% effective form of birth control.

That also being said:

It definately feels better without a condom on.