Does this make me a pervert?
 

So I go into the bank today, and a girl is at the counter that I've dealt with several times in the last year or eighteen months. She's always very friendly, usually remembers my name, fairly cute, maybe about my age or a couple of years younger (I'm 27). She's always dressed cute, and one thing that I've noticed is that she often wears kind of low cut shirts. She is fairly thin and has maybe a B cup, possibly a C. I give her the cash to deposit and when she leans forward to count it several times *bam*, her shirt is gaping open. She had on a burnt orange colored bra, and when she bent forward it was enough that you could completely see everything, including her nipples. Now, I'm like any red-blooded hetero male in that I enjoy the female body. I'm not going to turn my head and make obvious goo-goo eyes at every attractive female that passes, but I do definitely notice them. I try not to ever be "that guy" who gawks and makes a fool out of himself though. But this time I just froze. I mean, the way I was standing, the place I was SUPPOSED to be looking was at her, and she was 2' away, so I couldn't hardly help seeing what I did, but I kept telling myself the polite thing to do would be to look away. :o I don't think she knew what she was doing/showing, but I couldn't help it. It was probably 20-30 seconds that she was like that, counting the cash three different times, and I was stuck like a deer in headlights, staring at her headlights. :eek: I'm pretty sure she didn't notice, and she continued to chatter away and be friendly like she always has been, and I was polite right back. But when I left and she said "Have a nice day", I wanted to say "You just made it for me!!". :lol:

WTF am I supposed to do in that situation?

Women, do you think you do that without knowing sometimes, or do you almost always know what you are revealing?

I half feel guilty, but it wasn't like I tried to manuever anything into place to get a peek down her shirt. Like I said, she often has low cut shirts on and you can notice cleavage when she would lean on the counter, but never before like that. :o

Girls, what do you do or think when you catch a guy peeking?

That doesn't mean you're a pervert. It means you have a pulse.

Amen. She put up the billboard, you just read the ad.

By the way, I don't recall that I've ever had a teller count out 3 times for me... I think you were meant to see what you saw. Maybe you should ask her out!

You're not a perv, well at least from this. She knows that she will be looked at, and wears stuff that promotes it. Most ladies that wear clothing like that know. If she were more self conscious, she would wear different clothing. Now for me, I would have been busted, because I couldn't stop looking even after she turned toward me.

I like that.

A LOT.

Well said, and I agree.

i do not see anything wrong with it at all. we are men!!!!

If she's going to be that careless, then woohoo for you, I guess. ;)

Not really knowing any more about her mannerisms towards you, ... she is throwing out all the signs to you. Unless she is related to Tara Reid and has permanent nerve damage to her boobs, she knows where they are and that they were available for you to look at. I think she is flirting with you.

Now if the next time you see her and she starts counting your money ... if she turns around, puts her leg up on the teller desk and starts grinding, you should take the hint.

If you thought she is cute and then didn't care, I would be worried. In this case, not so much.

It sounds a little staged to me. I find it hard to believe that she wouldn't have some concept of what you were seeing.

She got married maybe 5-6 months ago. I'm married too, and she knows. I don't think asking her out is in either of our future's. :p

What you should:

1. Save $500 to be put into the bank
2. Give her $100 to count
3. She bents over to count and reveals
4. When she is finish and gets up, repeat step 2-4 until you have no more money :D

Ah, I didn't realize. It would be wrong to ask her out. But I stand by my remarks that she meant for you to look.

i have been known to flash guys without actually knowing that im doing it but then again i am very... distracted

As a woman, I KNOW when I'm showing cleavage. I also know when you can see all the way down my shirt when I lean over.

I say, it was intentional- might not have been a display just for you, but it was intentional. Maybe her husband gets off on the thought of a lot of men leering at his wife all day... who knows?

Make it a game- I like the "having $500 to deposit and having her count it out five times" trick :)

:) I recall someone who I met for the first time up in Buffalo, NY who made it difficult for me to concentrate...

While she has done similar things before (though it was always just cleavage before, not her total bare breast visible), she always acts 100% innocent. She's always very friendly, but I never figured it to be in a suggestive way. I *think* I usually know when I'm being flirted with, and my perception wasn't that this time was that.................but it's kind of flattering if it was. :o

I would have gone the ATM and withdrew some more money just to make another deposit... but then I already know that I'm a pervert.

Oh no, she Absoluty wanted you to see that no doubt in my mind

oh yeah man she wanted you to look, it's totally obvious.

What do you do in that situation is different for everyone. I mean she's counting your money so you have the right to observe the situation. She's not a nice chest and she's showing you the goods, not looking is like asking some men to cut off their arm.

Personally if I were in that situation and married I would have asked her to check herself, and then kick myself for it afterwards LOL

Just try to hang around and see if she does it with all the customers.

Also, maybe I read wrong, but didn't you say she was wearing a bra AND bare breasted? How is that possible? :p

You're not a pervert (to reiterate what everyone has said). If I was counting cash for a hot chick and my little Jimmy was out, it'd be intentional (but something completly rude and out of character, espically considering I'm VERY happily married). The same is true for her.

Edit: the nickname "little jimmy" is supposed to be ironic, like a 300 lb. guy named 'tiny'.

Perve? NO. Lucky bastard? Yes. :cool:

No, she was wearing a bra, but when she bent over her breasts were so perky that the bra hung loose from them, so that I could actually see down her shirt AND her bra. :o



I don't think everyone got the show, because she had been sitting down, but the girl next to her temporarily stole her chair/stool when I came up, so she was standing there instead of sitting when I came up.

I don't think it was intentional. I'm pretty well endowed and sometimes I don't notice gapage.

You're not a pervert...yet. BUT, if you were to wear a spycam next payday, and allow US to make and informed judgement on her intentions... then WE could be perverts on your behalf!

HAHAHAHAHA!

Yeah, I keep editing the post because it seems to give people the wrong idea. Yes, I was trying to wax rhetoric about my grandiose size, whilst still trying to seem conservative, reflective, and helpful. It's a dangerous game, trying to be both modest and reserved while still being a dude that likes to show off. In some way this post is about a similar duplicity in perception. Yes, she's hot and wow we love to look at breasts, and yet no, we are respectful people and adults so we should look away.

I agree! I think it was intentional. But, then again, I'm a pervert :)

It's ok, Will. I'm only 2 inches, but I hear most women can't take much thicker than that.

Ah you got the ever rare and elusive V.A.A., the visual access angle, also applies to skirts.

/jeff
V.A.A.
"You know what's great about skirts? When a woman's wearing a skirt, you know, you know that somewhere in that room, shifting all the time, there is the V.A.A.: the Visual Access Angle. A clear line of sight back to base camp."

I like the way people are responding. "Well it she was obviously flirting with you and knew it!" then next person "She probably had no idea she was doing it." :lol: Good thing everything is so cut-and-dried for some of you.

I ain't got no cleavage to display, so it doesn't happen that way, but I do occasionally get a guy taking a little extra time checking out my legs when I'm wearing a short skirt. I dress how I dress because I like how it makes me feel. I don't mind guys checking me out, it is a little flattering, but I'm definitely not doing it to impress the guys.

I think for this girl, it comes down to how she's behaved on other occasions. If she makes a habit of this, she's flirting. If this was a one-time only deal, you probably just got lucky.

Gilda

Well, its now your turn to treat her, next time you go to the bank, have your pants unzipped with your dick out. See if she stares at it like you did.

:p

5. Go to the ATM and withdraw $500
6. Repeat

I think we should add a poll to this thread: She knew vs Clueless

Yeah, I agree with everyone.
Even if it wasn't intentional or directly aimed at you, she definately knows she is eye candy for the men around her, wearing low cut tops and short skirts every day.
I'm pretty well-endowed in that area too, but I don't like being oogled at much...which is why I tend to NOT wear low-cut tops most of the time.
And if I do wear them, I go out knowing full well that men can see cleavage or more when at the right angle.

You are not a pervert. You are a guy. And as long as she's not flipping out at you for staring, I don't think you need to be too worried.

well... hmmmmmmmmm I would venture to say she might have known.

When i do things like that (and i do from time to time for various reasons) i know exactly what i'm doing and how much skin i'm showing.

so, no, you're not a pervert :)

sweetpea

It's interesting to see that it's split between "she knew what she was doing" and "she might not have had a clue". :p

I guess I should just be grateful I had a lovely view for a while. :D

If you really want to know her intentions, next time you should say,

"Your nipples are showing."

and see where it goes from there...

And if it wasn't intentional, no more happy deposits.

Based on all of the other signs, I would agree that she is doing this intentionally. I wish the tellers are my bank were like that but they are all old crabby hags. The thought of any cleavage in there makes me ill.

I tend to fall into the "She probably didn't know" camp. It would be very unprofessional to be flashing every single customer all day long, and I doubt that even she enjoys a steady stream of Borla-grade customers....

Wait a minute. Were you walking on your hands in the bank? If so, then she *definitely* knew. ;P

Hard to say. I have issues with my shirt buttons opening on their own, so I don't wear those often. I work with kids, so I don't wear low necklines. Maybe I'm out of the loop. However, I have been known to wear intentionally low necklines when "out" that tend to gape a little. But at work?

Wait... she's a bank teller and had to "bend down" to count the cash how many times? Yeah, she knew. :lol:

it's more fun to just flash truck drivers on the interstate. :D

A few years ago, I was at a conference at some "classy" hotel in Palm Springs... The concierge was a blonde, rather stacked woman who was wearing a silky open necked top... Each time she bent over -- which was quite frequent... she was basically giving a peep show... only her boobs were completely on display...

The hotel was a little drafty - so there's no way she didn't know... It was intentional...

The bank teller-- knew... you just know when you are flashing the world...

Exhibitionists are everywhere... :)

Not walking on my hands!! :lol:



Her top was scooped low, not buttoned up, for those that were confused by the term "gaping", or not sure. It was gaping away from her chest, not between buttons. :)

If I see any kind of unintentional boobies like that, I also freeze solid like a deer in headlights. There's just nothing I can do about it.

I have sometimes been heard to remark, "I can see your boobs" if the girl is someone I know well enough to know they won't freak out on me... but a total stranger? I said it once, thinking she'd maybe be embarassed but it would give her a chance to cover up on her own terms vs finding me staring, but she called me an asshole for staring. THEY'RE OUT! ON DISPLAY! I wouldn't go to the Louvre and turn my gaze away from the paintings! I wouldn't go to the beach and turn my head as the run rises before me!

Not a perv. Just a lucky man, scoring one more point for Team Guy.

...my thoughts entirely!

omg that was funny... :lol:

ever get your hair cut and washed? at the place I go to get my hair cut the wash it first and all of the people that work there are female. so when I'm leaning back so my head is in the sink and the cutters bend over to wash my hair..... yeah same problem. I try to just stare at the ceiling cause otherwise I feel bad :P

Oh she knew alright. I also like the idea about having her count out several hundred singles the next time you are there.

Ah, customer service.

I do the same thing if I see a good angle to see up a womans skirt or down a shirt, I find myself locked in on it. Nothing I can do about it, its like my brain has a video recorder and its recording every lacy panty, every breast, every bit of unmentationables that I should not see. Then it plays it back when I jerk off. It gives me something to concentrate on when I jerk off. But I am a pervert and I know it.

you are a pervert! thats just horrible! hehe i could never of said that in person without laughing.
If she has a job bending over like that alot all day im sure she knew. most likely got a kick out of it. if it was me i would of asked her if she knew what she realized she was flashing me then asked her to recount it again just in case. =)

This thread has given me an idea!

We could just open up a chain of banks where all the bank tellers are strippers. Or go-go dancers. You know, women that are smart enough to handle your money and hot enough that you want to see them do it.

Then we could charge a 'handling' fee for every 'deposit' and 'withdrawl'!!!!

alright, i'm done. thanks and good night. Am I a pervert if all i do is try to figure out ways of cashing in on other people's perversions?

No, but it does make you exploitive.