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Old 02-10-2006, 11:25 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Does this make me a pervert?

So I go into the bank today, and a girl is at the counter that I've dealt with several times in the last year or eighteen months. She's always very friendly, usually remembers my name, fairly cute, maybe about my age or a couple of years younger (I'm 27). She's always dressed cute, and one thing that I've noticed is that she often wears kind of low cut shirts. She is fairly thin and has maybe a B cup, possibly a C. I give her the cash to deposit and when she leans forward to count it several times *bam*, her shirt is gaping open. She had on a burnt orange colored bra, and when she bent forward it was enough that you could completely see everything, including her nipples. Now, I'm like any red-blooded hetero male in that I enjoy the female body. I'm not going to turn my head and make obvious goo-goo eyes at every attractive female that passes, but I do definitely notice them. I try not to ever be "that guy" who gawks and makes a fool out of himself though. But this time I just froze. I mean, the way I was standing, the place I was SUPPOSED to be looking was at her, and she was 2' away, so I couldn't hardly help seeing what I did, but I kept telling myself the polite thing to do would be to look away. I don't think she knew what she was doing/showing, but I couldn't help it. It was probably 20-30 seconds that she was like that, counting the cash three different times, and I was stuck like a deer in headlights, staring at her headlights. I'm pretty sure she didn't notice, and she continued to chatter away and be friendly like she always has been, and I was polite right back. But when I left and she said "Have a nice day", I wanted to say "You just made it for me!!".

WTF am I supposed to do in that situation?

Women, do you think you do that without knowing sometimes, or do you almost always know what you are revealing?

I half feel guilty, but it wasn't like I tried to manuever anything into place to get a peek down her shirt. Like I said, she often has low cut shirts on and you can notice cleavage when she would lean on the counter, but never before like that.

Girls, what do you do or think when you catch a guy peeking?
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Old 02-10-2006, 11:28 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Old 02-10-2006, 11:31 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Amen. She put up the billboard, you just read the ad.

By the way, I don't recall that I've ever had a teller count out 3 times for me... I think you were meant to see what you saw. Maybe you should ask her out!
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Old 02-10-2006, 11:33 AM   #4 (permalink)
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You're not a perv, well at least from this. She knows that she will be looked at, and wears stuff that promotes it. Most ladies that wear clothing like that know. If she were more self conscious, she would wear different clothing. Now for me, I would have been busted, because I couldn't stop looking even after she turned toward me.
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Old 02-10-2006, 11:33 AM   #5 (permalink)
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I like that.

A LOT.

Well said, and I agree.
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Old 02-10-2006, 11:34 AM   #6 (permalink)
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i do not see anything wrong with it at all. we are men!!!!
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Old 02-10-2006, 11:34 AM   #7 (permalink)
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Old 02-10-2006, 11:35 AM   #8 (permalink)
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Not really knowing any more about her mannerisms towards you, ... she is throwing out all the signs to you. Unless she is related to Tara Reid and has permanent nerve damage to her boobs, she knows where they are and that they were available for you to look at. I think she is flirting with you.

Now if the next time you see her and she starts counting your money ... if she turns around, puts her leg up on the teller desk and starts grinding, you should take the hint.
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Old 02-10-2006, 11:35 AM   #9 (permalink)
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If you thought she is cute and then didn't care, I would be worried. In this case, not so much.

It sounds a little staged to me. I find it hard to believe that she wouldn't have some concept of what you were seeing.
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Old 02-10-2006, 11:36 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Amen. She put up the billboard, you just read the ad.

By the way, I don't recall that I've ever had a teller count out 3 times for me... I think you were meant to see what you saw. Maybe you should ask her out!

She got married maybe 5-6 months ago. I'm married too, and she knows. I don't think asking her out is in either of our future's.
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Old 02-10-2006, 12:00 PM   #11 (permalink)
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What you should:

1. Save $500 to be put into the bank
2. Give her $100 to count
3. She bents over to count and reveals
4. When she is finish and gets up, repeat step 2-4 until you have no more money
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Old 02-10-2006, 12:02 PM   #12 (permalink)
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She got married maybe 5-6 months ago. I'm married too, and she knows. I don't think asking her out is in either of our future's.
Ah, I didn't realize. It would be wrong to ask her out. But I stand by my remarks that she meant for you to look.
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Old 02-10-2006, 12:11 PM   #13 (permalink)
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i have been known to flash guys without actually knowing that im doing it but then again i am very... distracted
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Old 02-10-2006, 12:35 PM   #14 (permalink)
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As a woman, I KNOW when I'm showing cleavage. I also know when you can see all the way down my shirt when I lean over.

I say, it was intentional- might not have been a display just for you, but it was intentional. Maybe her husband gets off on the thought of a lot of men leering at his wife all day... who knows?

Make it a game- I like the "having $500 to deposit and having her count it out five times" trick
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Old 02-10-2006, 12:37 PM   #15 (permalink)
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Old 02-10-2006, 12:42 PM   #16 (permalink)
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As a woman, I KNOW when I'm showing cleavage. I also know when you can see all the way down my shirt when I lean over.

I say, it was intentional- might not have been a display just for you, but it was intentional. Maybe her husband gets off on the thought of a lot of men leering at his wife all day... who knows?

Make it a game- I like the "having $500 to deposit and having her count it out five times" trick

While she has done similar things before (though it was always just cleavage before, not her total bare breast visible), she always acts 100% innocent. She's always very friendly, but I never figured it to be in a suggestive way. I *think* I usually know when I'm being flirted with, and my perception wasn't that this time was that.................but it's kind of flattering if it was.
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Old 02-10-2006, 12:42 PM   #17 (permalink)
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I would have gone the ATM and withdrew some more money just to make another deposit... but then I already know that I'm a pervert.
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Old 02-10-2006, 12:44 PM   #18 (permalink)
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Old 02-10-2006, 01:31 PM   #19 (permalink)
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oh yeah man she wanted you to look, it's totally obvious.

What do you do in that situation is different for everyone. I mean she's counting your money so you have the right to observe the situation. She's not a nice chest and she's showing you the goods, not looking is like asking some men to cut off their arm.

Personally if I were in that situation and married I would have asked her to check herself, and then kick myself for it afterwards LOL
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Old 02-10-2006, 01:58 PM   #20 (permalink)
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Just try to hang around and see if she does it with all the customers.

Also, maybe I read wrong, but didn't you say she was wearing a bra AND bare breasted? How is that possible?
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Old 02-10-2006, 02:09 PM   #21 (permalink)
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You're not a pervert (to reiterate what everyone has said). If I was counting cash for a hot chick and my little Jimmy was out, it'd be intentional (but something completly rude and out of character, espically considering I'm VERY happily married). The same is true for her.

Edit: the nickname "little jimmy" is supposed to be ironic, like a 300 lb. guy named 'tiny'.

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Old 02-10-2006, 02:25 PM   #22 (permalink)
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Old 02-10-2006, 02:52 PM   #23 (permalink)
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Just try to hang around and see if she does it with all the customers.

Also, maybe I read wrong, but didn't you say she was wearing a bra AND bare breasted? How is that possible?

No, she was wearing a bra, but when she bent over her breasts were so perky that the bra hung loose from them, so that I could actually see down her shirt AND her bra.



I don't think everyone got the show, because she had been sitting down, but the girl next to her temporarily stole her chair/stool when I came up, so she was standing there instead of sitting when I came up.
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Old 02-10-2006, 03:08 PM   #24 (permalink)
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I don't think it was intentional. I'm pretty well endowed and sometimes I don't notice gapage.
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Old 02-10-2006, 03:20 PM   #25 (permalink)
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You're not a pervert...yet. BUT, if you were to wear a spycam next payday, and allow US to make and informed judgement on her intentions... then WE could be perverts on your behalf!
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Old 02-10-2006, 03:31 PM   #26 (permalink)
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Edit: the nickname "little jimmy" is supposed to be ironic, like a 300 lb. guy named 'tiny'.
HAHAHAHAHA!
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Old 02-10-2006, 03:37 PM   #27 (permalink)
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HAHAHAHAHA!
Yeah, I keep editing the post because it seems to give people the wrong idea. Yes, I was trying to wax rhetoric about my grandiose size, whilst still trying to seem conservative, reflective, and helpful. It's a dangerous game, trying to be both modest and reserved while still being a dude that likes to show off. In some way this post is about a similar duplicity in perception. Yes, she's hot and wow we love to look at breasts, and yet no, we are respectful people and adults so we should look away.

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Old 02-10-2006, 04:24 PM   #28 (permalink)
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Amen. She put up the billboard, you just read the ad.

By the way, I don't recall that I've ever had a teller count out 3 times for me... I think you were meant to see what you saw. Maybe you should ask her out!
I agree! I think it was intentional. But, then again, I'm a pervert
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Old 02-10-2006, 04:27 PM   #29 (permalink)
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Yes, I was trying to wax rhetoric about my grandiose size, whilst still trying to seem conservatice, reflective, and helpful.
It's ok, Will. I'm only 2 inches, but I hear most women can't take much thicker than that.
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Old 02-10-2006, 08:07 PM   #30 (permalink)
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No, she was wearing a bra, but when she bent over her breasts were so perky that the bra hung loose from them, so that I could actually see down her shirt AND her bra.
Ah you got the ever rare and elusive V.A.A., the visual access angle, also applies to skirts.

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Old 02-10-2006, 08:36 PM   #31 (permalink)
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I like the way people are responding. "Well it she was obviously flirting with you and knew it!" then next person "She probably had no idea she was doing it." Good thing everything is so cut-and-dried for some of you.
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Old 02-10-2006, 09:00 PM   #32 (permalink)
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Girls, what do you do or think when you catch a guy peeking?
I ain't got no cleavage to display, so it doesn't happen that way, but I do occasionally get a guy taking a little extra time checking out my legs when I'm wearing a short skirt. I dress how I dress because I like how it makes me feel. I don't mind guys checking me out, it is a little flattering, but I'm definitely not doing it to impress the guys.

I think for this girl, it comes down to how she's behaved on other occasions. If she makes a habit of this, she's flirting. If this was a one-time only deal, you probably just got lucky.

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Old 02-10-2006, 09:38 PM   #33 (permalink)
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Well, its now your turn to treat her, next time you go to the bank, have your pants unzipped with your dick out. See if she stares at it like you did.

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Old 02-10-2006, 10:00 PM   #34 (permalink)
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What you should:

1. Save $500 to be put into the bank
2. Give her $100 to count
3. She bents over to count and reveals
4. When she is finish and gets up, repeat step 2-4 until you have no more money
5. Go to the ATM and withdraw $500
6. Repeat

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I like the way people are responding. "Well it she was obviously flirting with you and knew it!" then next person "She probably had no idea she was doing it." Good thing everything is so cut-and-dried for some of you.
I think we should add a poll to this thread: She knew vs Clueless
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Old 02-10-2006, 11:27 PM   #35 (permalink)
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Even if it wasn't intentional or directly aimed at you, she definately knows she is eye candy for the men around her, wearing low cut tops and short skirts every day.
I'm pretty well-endowed in that area too, but I don't like being oogled at much...which is why I tend to NOT wear low-cut tops most of the time.
And if I do wear them, I go out knowing full well that men can see cleavage or more when at the right angle.

You are not a pervert. You are a guy. And as long as she's not flipping out at you for staring, I don't think you need to be too worried.
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Old 02-10-2006, 11:32 PM   #36 (permalink)
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well... hmmmmmmmmm I would venture to say she might have known.

When i do things like that (and i do from time to time for various reasons) i know exactly what i'm doing and how much skin i'm showing.

so, no, you're not a pervert

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Old 02-10-2006, 11:55 PM   #37 (permalink)
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It's interesting to see that it's split between "she knew what she was doing" and "she might not have had a clue".

I guess I should just be grateful I had a lovely view for a while.
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Old 02-11-2006, 01:54 AM   #38 (permalink)
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If you really want to know her intentions, next time you should say,

"Your nipples are showing."

and see where it goes from there...
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Old 02-11-2006, 05:58 AM   #39 (permalink)
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If you really want to know her intentions, next time you should say,

"Your nipples are showing."

and see where it goes from there...
And if it wasn't intentional, no more happy deposits.

Based on all of the other signs, I would agree that she is doing this intentionally. I wish the tellers are my bank were like that but they are all old crabby hags. The thought of any cleavage in there makes me ill.
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Old 02-11-2006, 06:34 AM   #40 (permalink)
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I tend to fall into the "She probably didn't know" camp. It would be very unprofessional to be flashing every single customer all day long, and I doubt that even she enjoys a steady stream of Borla-grade customers....

Wait a minute. Were you walking on your hands in the bank? If so, then she *definitely* knew. ;P
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