02-10-2006, 11:25 AM | #1 (permalink) |
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Does this make me a pervert?
So I go into the bank today, and a girl is at the counter that I've dealt with several times in the last year or eighteen months. She's always very friendly, usually remembers my name, fairly cute, maybe about my age or a couple of years younger (I'm 27). She's always dressed cute, and one thing that I've noticed is that she often wears kind of low cut shirts. She is fairly thin and has maybe a B cup, possibly a C. I give her the cash to deposit and when she leans forward to count it several times *bam*, her shirt is gaping open. She had on a burnt orange colored bra, and when she bent forward it was enough that you could completely see everything, including her nipples. Now, I'm like any red-blooded hetero male in that I enjoy the female body. I'm not going to turn my head and make obvious goo-goo eyes at every attractive female that passes, but I do definitely notice them. I try not to ever be "that guy" who gawks and makes a fool out of himself though. But this time I just froze. I mean, the way I was standing, the place I was SUPPOSED to be looking was at her, and she was 2' away, so I couldn't hardly help seeing what I did, but I kept telling myself the polite thing to do would be to look away. I don't think she knew what she was doing/showing, but I couldn't help it. It was probably 20-30 seconds that she was like that, counting the cash three different times, and I was stuck like a deer in headlights, staring at her headlights. I'm pretty sure she didn't notice, and she continued to chatter away and be friendly like she always has been, and I was polite right back. But when I left and she said "Have a nice day", I wanted to say "You just made it for me!!".
WTF am I supposed to do in that situation? Women, do you think you do that without knowing sometimes, or do you almost always know what you are revealing? I half feel guilty, but it wasn't like I tried to manuever anything into place to get a peek down her shirt. Like I said, she often has low cut shirts on and you can notice cleavage when she would lean on the counter, but never before like that. Girls, what do you do or think when you catch a guy peeking?
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02-10-2006, 11:28 AM | #2 (permalink) |
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That doesn't mean you're a pervert. It means you have a pulse.
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02-10-2006, 11:31 AM | #3 (permalink) |
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Amen. She put up the billboard, you just read the ad.
By the way, I don't recall that I've ever had a teller count out 3 times for me... I think you were meant to see what you saw. Maybe you should ask her out!
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02-10-2006, 11:33 AM | #4 (permalink) |
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You're not a perv, well at least from this. She knows that she will be looked at, and wears stuff that promotes it. Most ladies that wear clothing like that know. If she were more self conscious, she would wear different clothing. Now for me, I would have been busted, because I couldn't stop looking even after she turned toward me.
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02-10-2006, 11:33 AM | #5 (permalink) | |
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A LOT. Well said, and I agree.
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02-10-2006, 11:35 AM | #8 (permalink) |
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Not really knowing any more about her mannerisms towards you, ... she is throwing out all the signs to you. Unless she is related to Tara Reid and has permanent nerve damage to her boobs, she knows where they are and that they were available for you to look at. I think she is flirting with you.
Now if the next time you see her and she starts counting your money ... if she turns around, puts her leg up on the teller desk and starts grinding, you should take the hint.
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02-10-2006, 11:36 AM | #10 (permalink) | |
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She got married maybe 5-6 months ago. I'm married too, and she knows. I don't think asking her out is in either of our future's.
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02-10-2006, 12:00 PM | #11 (permalink) |
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What you should:
1. Save $500 to be put into the bank 2. Give her $100 to count 3. She bents over to count and reveals 4. When she is finish and gets up, repeat step 2-4 until you have no more money
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02-10-2006, 12:02 PM | #12 (permalink) | |
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02-10-2006, 12:35 PM | #14 (permalink) |
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As a woman, I KNOW when I'm showing cleavage. I also know when you can see all the way down my shirt when I lean over.
I say, it was intentional- might not have been a display just for you, but it was intentional. Maybe her husband gets off on the thought of a lot of men leering at his wife all day... who knows? Make it a game- I like the "having $500 to deposit and having her count it out five times" trick
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02-10-2006, 12:37 PM | #15 (permalink) |
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I recall someone who I met for the first time up in Buffalo, NY who made it difficult for me to concentrate...
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02-10-2006, 12:42 PM | #16 (permalink) | |
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While she has done similar things before (though it was always just cleavage before, not her total bare breast visible), she always acts 100% innocent. She's always very friendly, but I never figured it to be in a suggestive way. I *think* I usually know when I'm being flirted with, and my perception wasn't that this time was that.................but it's kind of flattering if it was.
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02-10-2006, 12:42 PM | #17 (permalink) |
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I would have gone the ATM and withdrew some more money just to make another deposit... but then I already know that I'm a pervert.
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02-10-2006, 01:31 PM | #19 (permalink) |
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oh yeah man she wanted you to look, it's totally obvious.
What do you do in that situation is different for everyone. I mean she's counting your money so you have the right to observe the situation. She's not a nice chest and she's showing you the goods, not looking is like asking some men to cut off their arm. Personally if I were in that situation and married I would have asked her to check herself, and then kick myself for it afterwards LOL |
02-10-2006, 02:09 PM | #21 (permalink) |
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You're not a pervert (to reiterate what everyone has said). If I was counting cash for a hot chick and my little Jimmy was out, it'd be intentional (but something completly rude and out of character, espically considering I'm VERY happily married). The same is true for her.
Edit: the nickname "little jimmy" is supposed to be ironic, like a 300 lb. guy named 'tiny'. Last edited by Willravel; 02-10-2006 at 03:25 PM.. Reason: make sure I don't sound like a ponce |
02-10-2006, 02:52 PM | #23 (permalink) | |
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No, she was wearing a bra, but when she bent over her breasts were so perky that the bra hung loose from them, so that I could actually see down her shirt AND her bra. I don't think everyone got the show, because she had been sitting down, but the girl next to her temporarily stole her chair/stool when I came up, so she was standing there instead of sitting when I came up.
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02-10-2006, 03:20 PM | #25 (permalink) |
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You're not a pervert...yet. BUT, if you were to wear a spycam next payday, and allow US to make and informed judgement on her intentions... then WE could be perverts on your behalf!
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02-10-2006, 03:31 PM | #26 (permalink) | |
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02-10-2006, 03:37 PM | #27 (permalink) | |
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02-10-2006, 04:24 PM | #28 (permalink) | |
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02-10-2006, 04:27 PM | #29 (permalink) | |
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02-10-2006, 08:07 PM | #30 (permalink) | |
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02-10-2006, 08:36 PM | #31 (permalink) |
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I like the way people are responding. "Well it she was obviously flirting with you and knew it!" then next person "She probably had no idea she was doing it." Good thing everything is so cut-and-dried for some of you.
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02-10-2006, 09:00 PM | #32 (permalink) | |
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I think for this girl, it comes down to how she's behaved on other occasions. If she makes a habit of this, she's flirting. If this was a one-time only deal, you probably just got lucky. Gilda
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02-10-2006, 11:27 PM | #35 (permalink) |
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Yeah, I agree with everyone.
Even if it wasn't intentional or directly aimed at you, she definately knows she is eye candy for the men around her, wearing low cut tops and short skirts every day. I'm pretty well-endowed in that area too, but I don't like being oogled at much...which is why I tend to NOT wear low-cut tops most of the time. And if I do wear them, I go out knowing full well that men can see cleavage or more when at the right angle. You are not a pervert. You are a guy. And as long as she's not flipping out at you for staring, I don't think you need to be too worried. |
02-10-2006, 11:32 PM | #36 (permalink) |
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well... hmmmmmmmmm I would venture to say she might have known.
When i do things like that (and i do from time to time for various reasons) i know exactly what i'm doing and how much skin i'm showing. so, no, you're not a pervert sweetpea
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02-11-2006, 05:58 AM | #39 (permalink) | |
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Based on all of the other signs, I would agree that she is doing this intentionally. I wish the tellers are my bank were like that but they are all old crabby hags. The thought of any cleavage in there makes me ill.
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02-11-2006, 06:34 AM | #40 (permalink) |
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I tend to fall into the "She probably didn't know" camp. It would be very unprofessional to be flashing every single customer all day long, and I doubt that even she enjoys a steady stream of Borla-grade customers....
Wait a minute. Were you walking on your hands in the bank? If so, then she *definitely* knew. ;P
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