Bedroom Woes
 

So I have a little predicament here. Lately in bed I haven't been lasting more than 5 minutes without having to bust. I've had no trouble before lasting more than 20 minutes. Its been pretty much since I've had my new gf. I've been with her for 2 months now. Shes on the pill and we usually do it w/o a condom until I have to bust, then I put a condom on. I've tried before to use a condom for the whole time and that still doesn't work. I go down on her and most times she'll come then we have sex and it won't last more than about 5 minutes. In the past when we first started having sex I didn't really have a problem making her come during sex. Now it seems impossible. She gets really close when I bust only because I'm going faster and harder. It seems as though thats the only way she can come now is if I go hard and fast, which would significantly cut my time down to easily a few minutes. I'm a little worried because this has never really happened to me before and its just been the past month or so that I havent been able to last too long. I'm looking for some advice on what I could do. Is it me? her? I'm kinda confused right now. I mean I'm glad I bust and all but I just want to last longer like I have in the past. I want to be able to make her come when we have sex and not only through oral. She has a little tiny vibrator but its broken. It seems like the only way I can get her off is through oral then having sex. Any suggestions and advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys.

-BigD

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Technically, it still wouldn't be from the inandout itself, it'd be from a position from which he could hit the clitoris as he's going. It's kind of hard to get the g-spot every time at the same time, which is a different feeling orgasm. (hit or miss kinda thing, literally).
Her orgasm is just as much a mindset as anything. Stress lately? Is sex the same routine each time? Sometimes fantasizing gets her there faster-that doesn't take anything from you, so don't be afraid to bring it up.
Relying on vibrators too much can have a negative effect in that might be the only way after using them a lot, so stick to hands, oral, etc.
As for you, does she go down on you? Try doing that first and right at the time you think you'll 'bust', stop her. You could even 69 that way and both stop before climaxing, then continue on to something else. She should also be manually stimulating herself while fucking( it's amazing how many girls don't). Once you feel you're ready, put yourself in a position where the skin just above your cock can rub and hit her clitoris. Takes some practice, but the results are very worth it.

Have you tried rubbing her clit while you're fucking? That might do the trick. Like ng said, many girls do not do this themselves, though I know not why. I've also found that lightly rubbing my penis on my girl's clit does the trick for her - feels good for me too.

I dont think shes been stressed lately. The sex pretty much is the same routine every time. We usually don't get out of missionary. Sometimes we'll do doggy. She usually doesn't go down on me before and it would usually take a while for me to bust from that (probably around 20 or 30 mins). We could try it though.

She doesn't manually stimulate herself when we're having sex. I've tried it when we get into doggy but she doesn't seem to like it because she usually tells me to stop.

Have you tried folding a pillow in half and placing it under her butt. It brings my pelvic area up right where it needs to be to have an orgasm without rubbing my clit. I just recently started doing this and it stimulates all the right spots inside and I usually have an orgasm before he does.

Have sex with her on top. That might do the trick.

Sounds like you two need some variations....
You might be rubbing her too hard or not in the right place so she says to stop. She really needs to know her own level of stimulation and the only way she's going to is to do it herself.
The fact that it takes you longer with oral is a good thing. Sex should be fun, it should be passionately hot. If what you're doing now isn't doing it for ya, it's time to experiment. Don't over-emphasize the goal of orgasm-have some fun just doing stuff differently.

We haven't tried that yet but she did mention that to me . I'm more than happy to give that a go and see how it works out. Maybe we'll try that tonight.


Tried it and it works to an extent. If I didn't have to bust so quick I know for sure she could orgasm because its happened when we first started having sex and I was able to last longer.

I went down on her last night for about 45 minutes and she came once. She was on the verge of coming a 2nd time but it just didn't happen. I was fingering her and licking her clit. I was hitting her G-spot but it was on and off. She'd get really close and I'd be hitting it then the next second I wouldn't be. Like ngdawg said its hit or miss and last night was a great example of this.

One thing that made our sex life better was when we stopped looking at climaxing as a goal. Just because she (or I) don't get off or do quickly, doesn't mean that it was not enjoyable. Matter of fact, since we started consciously doing this, sex has gotten 100% better. It also took some pressure off of me, and I've been able to last much longer.

Also, try a little variation when you are going down on her. My wife likes it a lot when i'm laying on my back and she is straddling my face. Gives her more control over excatly where and how hard she wants it. ANY variation in sexual routine is good- time, place, ....