Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community  

Go Back   Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community > The Academy > Tilted Philosophy


 
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 06-28-2005, 08:10 PM   #1 (permalink)
Upright
 
Adoptive Parents

Has anyone on here adopted a child? Anyone in the process of adopting a child? My wife and I are in the process at the moment. Just got our referral. Excited and a bit scared.
MrStench is offline  
Old 06-28-2005, 09:25 PM   #2 (permalink)
Junkie
 
Moderator Emeritus
Location: Chicago
I have friends who have adopted two beautiful little girls from China - the second they spent many weeks in China during all those problems with SARS

These two people are absolutely wonderful parents, tried going the conventional have a baby route but after 4 invitro tries, they gave up on that only to find they were too old to be considered for adoption of a child (they weren't even looking for a baby) in the US.

They are the most amazing family, the girls are healthy and thriving, and the elder one, was developmentally delayed (probably from being in a crib in an orphanage for the first two years of her life) My friends honestly couldnt imagine thier lives without these two beautiful little girls...

Congratulations to you and MrsStench, I hope the process is a smooth one and that you get your addition to your family soonest... Much happiness to you..
__________________
Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.
maleficent is offline  
Old 07-01-2005, 10:40 AM   #3 (permalink)
Psycho
 
Location: Right behind you...BOO!
I have not been down this road, nor do I personally know anyone who has, But I wish you all the luck in the world I think this is a wonderful choice for people to make when they have love enough in their hearts to share!! I hope all turns out well! And as for being scared, welcome to being a parent...hehe!! Congrats on the referal, and keep us posted!
__________________
Smile It makes people wonder what you're up too!
Hash_Browns is offline  
Old 07-01-2005, 11:07 AM   #4 (permalink)
peekaboo
 
ngdawg's Avatar
 
Location: on the back, bitch
Congratulations! I have 2 nephews privately adopted and a friend has 2 children from Korea. My spouse and I had begun adoption before I got pregnant through G.I.F.T. procedures. Don't sweat the Home Study, find support groups if you can and ask a lot of questions.
Good Luck!
__________________
Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.
ngdawg is offline  
Old 07-01-2005, 11:21 AM   #5 (permalink)
Zeroed In
 
hambone's Avatar
 
Location: CA
Awesome man. Both my sister and I are adopted. Parents couldn't have a baby (3 miscarries, lots of depression).

Don't let anyone try to make you feel like you are not the child's real parents. I consider to myself to have 1 mother and 1 father, the people I grew up with. I am extremely lucky that the woman who gave birth to me chose to put me up for adoption though.

Best of luck
__________________
"Like liquid white from fallen glass,
Nothing to cry over"
hambone is offline  
Old 07-01-2005, 02:52 PM   #6 (permalink)
Gentlemen Farmer
 
j8ear's Avatar
 
Location: Middle of nowhere, Jersey
My wife and sister in law are both adopted, as my in-laws couldn't have kids for one reason or another.

They have never known anything different, never had the facts hidden from them, and are a very tight knit, intact family without any unusual issues.

They have one set of parents are are both extremely grateful for the gift that their parents gave them.

After all they were "chosen...," my wife in fact by her older sister

So...with that said,

Congrats to you and your growing family.

You have given some lucky child a special gift. I encourage you to pass your generosity on, as I am a firm believer that "nurture" trumps "nature" supremely.

-bear
__________________
It's alot easier to ask for forgiveness then it is to ask for permission.
j8ear is offline  
Old 07-07-2005, 06:01 PM   #7 (permalink)
Alien Anthropologist
 
hunnychile's Avatar
 
Location: Between Boredom and Nirvana
Mr. Stench, Please keep us posted...I was adopted at the age of three and I am a happy well adjusted adult with the knowledge that yes, in fact, I was twice blessed! You will have so much fun and fullfillment being a parent...all of us here wish you much joy & great happiness.

Let your child know (when your babe is ready) about being adopted that the fact of "being chosen" can heal many wounds and give your family much solidarity. I am loyal to the death to my parents - the only ones I've ever known. It was God's plan and Love in Action. Bless you All and enjoy every minute together! Thank you for sharing!!
__________________
"I need compassion, understanding and chocolate." - NJB

Last edited by hunnychile; 07-07-2005 at 06:06 PM..
hunnychile is offline  
Old 07-08-2005, 07:11 AM   #8 (permalink)
I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot!
 
raeanna74's Avatar
 
Location: Upper Michigan
I admire those who choose to adopt. It is a roller coaster ride to go through the adoption process. I've seen several families who were made through adoption and they seem to be some of the most grateful people. They are thankful that they were given the opportunity to care for their children. Keep us posted.

Hubby (Dei37) and his sister were both adopted when they were infants. He was only a week old when he went home with his parents. They never hid the fact from the children that they were adopted but made the kids fully aware that they were wanted so much and chosen to be adopted. I believe hubby feels quite loved. Both of them have met their birth parents with the blessing of their adoptive parents. Both of them seem to appreciate their adoptive parents even more because of it. In their situation it was the best thing for them to have been told they were adopted from the start.
__________________
"Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama
My Karma just ran over your Dogma.
raeanna74 is offline  
Old 07-10-2005, 04:01 PM   #9 (permalink)
Banned
 
Every time I think of adoption, I think first of Steve Martin in The Jerk, after his mom tells him he's not their natural son, and he very surprisingly screams out, "I'M ADOPTED?!?!" *

Best of luck to you on it, people willing to adopt are very important.

*If you've not seen the movie, it should be noted for your reference that Steve Martin is white, and the entire rest of the cast playing his family, is black.
analog is offline  
Old 07-11-2005, 06:18 AM   #10 (permalink)
YKK
Crazy
 
Location: Toronto, ONT
My Mother and Uncle are also adopted. My wife and I plan on fostering children in the future, when our daycare is stable and we live in a place we want to be.
__________________
We're all black sheep and we know it..
So don't fsck it up for the rest.
-- Sick of It All; Yours Truly
YKK is offline  
 

Tags
adoptive, parents

Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 01:27 AM.

Tilted Forum Project

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2024, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0 PL2
© 2002-2012 Tilted Forum Project

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 76 77 78 79 80 81 82 83 84 85 86 87 88 89 90 91 92 93 94 95 96 97 98 99 100 101 102 103 104 105 106 107 108 109 110 111 112 113 114 115 116 117 118 119 120 121 122 123 124 125 126 127 128 129 130 131 132 133 134 135 136 137 138 139 140 141 142 143 144 145 146 147 148 149 150 151 152 153 154 155 156 157 158 159 160 161 162 163 164 165 166 167 168 169 170 171 172 173 174 175 176 177 178 179 180 181 182 183 184 185 186 187 188 189 190 191 192 193 194 195 196 197 198 199 200 201 202 203 204 205 206 207 208 209 210 211 212 213 214 215 216 217 218 219 220 221 222 223 224 225 226 227 228 229 230 231 232 233 234 235 236 237 238 239 240 241 242 243 244 245 246 247 248 249 250 251 252 253 254 255 256 257 258 259 260 261 262 263 264 265 266 267 268 269 270 271 272 273 274 275 276 277 278 279 280 281 282 283 284 285 286 287 288 289 290 291 292 293 294 295 296 297 298 299 300 301 302 303 304 305 306 307 308 309 310 311 312 313 314 315 316 317 318 319 320 321 322 323 324 325 326 327 328 329 330 331 332 333 334 335 336 337 338 339 340 341 342 343 344 345 346 347 348 349 350 351 352 353 354 355 356 357 358 359 360