MrStench

Has anyone on here adopted a child? Anyone in the process of adopting a child? My wife and I are in the process at the moment. Just got our referral. Excited and a bit scared.

maleficent

I have friends who have adopted two beautiful little girls from China - the second they spent many weeks in China during all those problems with SARS

These two people are absolutely wonderful parents, tried going the conventional have a baby route but after 4 invitro tries, they gave up on that only to find they were too old to be considered for adoption of a child (they weren't even looking for a baby) in the US.

They are the most amazing family, the girls are healthy and thriving, and the elder one, was developmentally delayed (probably from being in a crib in an orphanage for the first two years of her life) My friends honestly couldnt imagine thier lives without these two beautiful little girls...

Congratulations to you and MrsStench, I hope the process is a smooth one and that you get your addition to your family soonest... Much happiness to you..

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Hash_Browns

I have not been down this road, nor do I personally know anyone who has, But I wish you all the luck in the world I think this is a wonderful choice for people to make when they have love enough in their hearts to share!! I hope all turns out well! And as for being scared, welcome to being a parent...hehe!! Congrats on the referal, and keep us posted!

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ngdawg

Congratulations! I have 2 nephews privately adopted and a friend has 2 children from Korea. My spouse and I had begun adoption before I got pregnant through G.I.F.T. procedures. Don't sweat the Home Study, find support groups if you can and ask a lot of questions.
Good Luck!

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hambone

Awesome man. Both my sister and I are adopted. Parents couldn't have a baby (3 miscarries, lots of depression).

Don't let anyone try to make you feel like you are not the child's real parents. I consider to myself to have 1 mother and 1 father, the people I grew up with. I am extremely lucky that the woman who gave birth to me chose to put me up for adoption though.

Best of luck

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j8ear

My wife and sister in law are both adopted, as my in-laws couldn't have kids for one reason or another.

They have never known anything different, never had the facts hidden from them, and are a very tight knit, intact family without any unusual issues.

They have one set of parents are are both extremely grateful for the gift that their parents gave them.

After all they were "chosen...," my wife in fact by her older sister

So...with that said,

Congrats to you and your growing family.

You have given some lucky child a special gift. I encourage you to pass your generosity on, as I am a firm believer that "nurture" trumps "nature" supremely.

-bear

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hunnychile

Mr. Stench, Please keep us posted...I was adopted at the age of three and I am a happy well adjusted adult with the knowledge that yes, in fact, I was twice blessed! You will have so much fun and fullfillment being a parent...all of us here wish you much joy & great happiness.

Let your child know (when your babe is ready) about being adopted that the fact of "being chosen" can heal many wounds and give your family much solidarity. I am loyal to the death to my parents - the only ones I've ever known. It was God's plan and Love in Action. Bless you All and enjoy every minute together! Thank you for sharing!!

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raeanna74

I admire those who choose to adopt. It is a roller coaster ride to go through the adoption process. I've seen several families who were made through adoption and they seem to be some of the most grateful people. They are thankful that they were given the opportunity to care for their children. Keep us posted.

Hubby (Dei37) and his sister were both adopted when they were infants. He was only a week old when he went home with his parents. They never hid the fact from the children that they were adopted but made the kids fully aware that they were wanted so much and chosen to be adopted. I believe hubby feels quite loved. Both of them have met their birth parents with the blessing of their adoptive parents. Both of them seem to appreciate their adoptive parents even more because of it. In their situation it was the best thing for them to have been told they were adopted from the start.

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analog

Every time I think of adoption, I think first of Steve Martin in The Jerk, after his mom tells him he's not their natural son, and he very surprisingly screams out, "I'M ADOPTED?!?!" *

Best of luck to you on it, people willing to adopt are very important.

*If you've not seen the movie, it should be noted for your reference that Steve Martin is white, and the entire rest of the cast playing his family, is black.

YKK

My Mother and Uncle are also adopted. My wife and I plan on fostering children in the future, when our daycare is stable and we live in a place we want to be.

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