12 year olds and thongs
 

My 12 year old daughter want some thong underwear, my wife thinks it is ok but I dont like the idea. How old is old enough to wear underwwear like that. Please help I dont want to fell like the the only one out here that feels this way. Thanks

I've got a daughter about that age and the thought of a thong for preteens is repulsive.

Too young in my eyes. To me, it's sexing up the younger girls too much, too fast. If parents let them, it's their choice, but my daughter would not be allowed.

The problem with kids today is not the kids, its the parents. That you even have to ask this question is rediculous.

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As for my daughter, when she's old enough to move out of the house, and start buying her own. 'Till then, it's white cotton "granny panties", with cartoon characters on 'em. I'm hopin' it'll encourage her to keep her pants on over 'em. ;)

12? Wearing a thong? Why? That's just crazy.

Chances are she doesn't have a job. Maybe she earns allowance or babysits. So how will she buy them? Right, she can't. So refuse to buy them. There are plenty of pretty underwear for kids her age to wear. She doesn't need a thong.

Kids these days :rolleyes: When did they decide to grow up so fast?

Stings a bit, but I feel the same way.

Amen. I just didn't say this, because I'm too PC in today's world.

Maxhooters- I'm gonna echo what everyone else here is saying. My children live in a world that the thought of me even considering such a thing is preposterous, and they know it. It's one thing to keep communication with your children, but another thing to consider the asinine. If my daughter wanted to do crack, and she asked me if it was okay, you think I'd consider it? Some things parents need to go "Archie Bunker" about. ;)

I'm concerned that your wife thinks it's OK for young girls to oversexualize themselves. You should have a serious discussion with her.

Im guessing that by the time I have children and God forbide, the trend is going to be no underwear at all... But if you are the one suppling the cash to buy her wardrobe, you have all the power in the world. And if that doesn't work, you could just chain her up in the basement.

Even not counting the "sexualizing" aspect of wearing thongs my Doc says they aren't as good for genital health. Cotten panties in any other cut are better. The thong part being smack against your anus will kindof rub bacteria in other directions and make it more possible for her to get other infections. Get her bikini, low cut or high cut, go ahead and let her choose something nice but I wouldn't let her get thongs. Also why should it matter what kind of panty she's wearing - she shouldn't be exposing them to anyone YET I should hope. Stay away from the thongs as long as possible.

You would think, but theres got to be something thats making her want the thongs though, and with the rate at which kids are learning/exploring sex at an early age, I wouldn't be surprised if she has in fact gotten the notion that its "sexy." I too agree that kids are growing up WAY too fast, and the only way that we can try and reverse this process is to start laying down the law. I'm disgusted when I go out somewhere and see 14 and 15 year olds wearing clothes so short even a prostitute would be embarrassed, and they had to start somewhere.

Tell her she can get a thong, but she can only wear them on her head.

God, that's funny.

I hope I can remember that line if my daughter starts asking.

I echo earlier sentiments, but the real question is why she wants to wear them. Since the purpose of thong underwear is to delete panty lines, or to accentuate one's ASSests...you need to clarify the intentions, not just the product.

I feel for you...lots.

*edited because I don't understand the question, and answered in a way that seemed to endorse sex with minors.*

maxhooters just curious...
what is your daughters attitude towards the opposite sex? is she boy crazy? or not interested in that yet?
these sound like ridiculous questions but i am just wondering about her motivation... is she doing it to show "things" off? or is she doing it bc she sees her favorite pop stars wearing clothes like that? either way she shouldnt wear them and maybe you should consider deflecting her attention elsewhere... maybe enroll her in gymnastics or softball...

When I was twelve the last thing on my mind was what type of panties I should be wearing. Seriously! I'm 19. It wasn't THAT long ago, was it? :confused: The ONLY reason that I could see such a young girl wanting/needing (it's even pushing the limit to call it 'needing' for this reason) is if she's in dance or something where a pantyline would draw attention. But even then, if she's onstage, not too many people will notice.

I agree with raeanna. Bikini, high cut, low cut, no thongs. She doesn't need the infections, she doesn't need to sexualize herself.



Send the girl my way, we'll have a chat. ;)

thanks I was looking for an explanation to the rash between my anus and my balls.

as for a twelve yr old? i don't think it's appropriate, i think it might be time for a serious talk between the parent(s) and the child. a 12 yr old shouldn't be wanting underwear like that. who are they gonna show them to?

any parent that would let a preteen wear a thong needs to get a second opinion, maybe from a psychiatrist.

if you say yes to thongs, it'll be g-strings before you know it.

buy her some thong flip flops and tell her thats as close as shes gonna get while she lives under your roof...

when i was 12 i still thought girls had cooties...

My 6 year old was talking about her "soul-mate" the other day and will soon be asking for sexy cloths. Thongs have a place and time and I cannot imagine either for a 12 year old. Only we can save our children from themselves and the media.

I agree that a twelve year old shouldn't be wearing clothing like that, but I have to admit I did.
My mom just figured out really quickly that I would wear them whether she liked it or not, so she just sat me down and explained that just because I have cool undies now doesn't make me an adult and I shouldn't be afraid to keep acting like a kid.
It worked. I wore the undies (although I got some shit from other females during PE), but I also understood what that meant. I think being open and honest with your kids is the best way to go.

Does something trivial like what kind of undies she's wearing really matter when she know's the difference between right and wrong?

12 is too young. 13 is too young. 14 is too young...etc.

Dont let anyone else tell you how to raise your kid and do what you feel is right. If it was mine then yes i'd sit her down explain some things and tell her not to wear it and if she does it behind my back then shes only devalueing herself. It kind of makes me sick to even have to discuss this about a 12 yr old. But im not a parent yet so what do i know.

Let your kid live and learn. Seriously though, what is WRONG with thong underwear?

It's not that thong underwear is wrong. It's the statement that it makes. I think the biggest question is WHY does she want to wear it?

Because she wants to fit in, and be cool.

It's people in society who construct what it means. It's just underwear, forget about it. Maybe she has a higher confidence about herself wearing it, or maybe it's more comfortable.

Leave people alone

she's 12. She doesn't NEED to be left alone.

I agree. My 6-year old has had too much discussion for too long, and now it's hell to get him to understand he is not an adult.
I've come full circle from a "anything is OK if they understand what's going on" to "no way, and you may not use that tone of voice in this hoouse!" I've don't want to be my dad, but here I am anyway....(Although I don't understand 12-year old girls, I see them milling about, and often I see them wearing clothes that make me (a complete stranger) want to ask these girls if they know what they are doing. I never would, but how would they react to "Are you trying to capture a man who only wants to screw you? That's what you get with an invitation like that!"
I don't care how old a person is, sexy undies feel sexy. I got silk boxers when I was about that age, and lemme tell ya, it changed my life! It was the innocent beginning of my sex life. If she's ready for a sex life, by all means, get her a thong.<- That was supposed to be an obvious joke..(sarcasm)
--And I also can't tell what is right anymore as far as parenting goes. I feel that we parents get a lot of mixed messages today, and there is no "right thing" to do. My son needs a "good whuppin" like nobody's business, but in this society I'm honestly afraid to, for my own protection and because a family therapist could get the idea that "abuse" or "violence" was the beginning of the problem rather than the last resort. Do what you think is right, and don't beat yourself up if she hates you for it. She needs a parent right now, not a freind.

I agree with skinbag, she needs some direction right now from a parent, I'm sure this discussion came about from friends or peer pressure so she's probably had all the advice she needs from friends on this matter.

This had to be a post just to get a rise out of everyone. Otherwise I think we would've heard some kind of reaction from the poster by now... He/she is just sitting back laughing.

I sure as hell am laughing. Oh wait, not really.

I know alot of parents that would let their kids wear thongs. Frankly, I find it rediculous. What would be the point of a 12 year old wearing a thong? Social acceptance? Personal maturity and gain? I mean seriously. If your daughter thinks that she will be a cooler person by having a thong, maybe you need to teach her how to bake cookies or make kool-aid.

Ok. Them's fightin' words. Although I see your point (hopefully) that there are better things for a girl her age to be doing than running around in thongs, I highly doubt that all a twelve year old could do would be bake cookies or make kool aid. I'm sorry, that just kinda got me goin'.. blame it on the PMS that I never get but decided to creep up on me. But she could also be playing sports, babysitting, hell, she could be workin' on cars with dad for all I care!!! A) Girls can do more than be barefoot in the kitchen B) GIRLS CAN DO ANYTHING BOYS CAN!!! (except write their name in the snow while they pee )


/rant


PS Sorry bout that.. I'm gonna go take a Midol now.

No way, no blaming it on the PMS! That is a cop-out... What I was saying was, teach them something! I spend alot of my time in the kitchen.. barefoot.. but that does not mean .. I totally lost my train of thought... .. shit.

Anyways, I don't doubt that 12 year old girls are unable to do anything but cook, infact I'd rather have a macaroni necklace then a t-bone from a 12 year old any day. Teach her how to change my oil, teach her how to babysit my kids, teach.. don't let them parade around in thongs, as if a 12 year old has a whole lot to flaunt. And if you really don't care, think about who a 12 year old with a thong is going to attract. I sure as hell know that I won't be checking out a girl that looks 12, even if she has a thong. Maybe not me, maybe another demographic might be interested in your 12 year old's thong. Remember that flyer about the convicted child molester? Yea.

I'd be surprised if 12 year olds could even cook.

If your kid is the standard 12 year old, no, just no.

Damn you, stole my idea!

And, as much as this is a little off topic, the reasons for wearing a thong often kind of make me chuckle. Speaking from a guy's perspective, often times, we can see a thong line just as easily as a panty line, because we DO look.

um, how the hell does a 12 year old "fit in" wearing a thong??? what group is she trying to fit in? why would other people know what underwear she has on? I suppose Gym class showers, but I'm not buying any of that crap. My daughter is 9, and I cannot imagine that in 3 years I'll be supporting any kind of underwear worn for other people's benefit.. Mommy wears thongs... but the kids, by damned, don't know about it....

I am sure she just wants some because her friends have them and she sees them as "cool".

I doubt a 12 year old has a hidden agenda when it comes to underwear.

No no and no.

A parent's job isn't to be popular nor to be her friend; it is to make decisions for your child and to intruct him/her until such time they can make decisions for themselves.

No more than I would let my 12 yo put on make-up, fishnets and highheels and hang out at the mall would I let her wear thongs.

Thongs are an adult decision and she is not an adult.

For God's sake, there will be plenty of time for her to be an adult later!

the only way to deal with this kind of thing is with humor. they can't fight you if they are laughing. if it comes down to an "i'm your parent, do it my way or else" kind of thing, you're hosed.

If my daughter, would have asked to wear
thongs at 12, the answer would have been No! When they turn 18 and leave to go to college, then it is their choice.

Its society. They want to be what they see on TV. They want to be Britney Spears and Xtina.... Kids are growing up way to fast in my opinion. Keep them locked in their bedrooms with no access to TV or the net till they are old enough to move out and make their own decisions.

;)

He he. LOL
It'd be nice if it was that simple. When children are isolated from society the rubber band effect comes into play.
Basically, you are holding them to one extreme and when they are let go the child will swing to the other extreme. My family and I went to a very conservative church when I was a child. The women wore ankle length skirts, didn't cut their hair, etc. Every child went from prim and proper to oversexed drug users shortly after their 18th bday.

Ive seen that alot, but that doesn't mean 12yr olds can act like 18yr olds. I think the problem is that there is no fine line drawn and every kid/parent matures at different times.

But 12yr olds aren't mature enough to be shaving, wearing makeup, and wearing clothing like that. The clincher, for me at least, is it's DISGUSTING.

ugh...nonononononono
no

did I mention NO?

I completely agree.
The jist of my post was that you can go to far one direction or the other. I'm not advocating 12 year olds acting like 18 year olds. Rather that they act according to the norms expected by our society. They simply are not mature enough to be wearing those types of underwear. Plus, it is disgusting.
A 12 year old should not be sexualized. They have the rest of their life for that.

Amen, brotha

I have two beautiful twin girls. I am gonna be in some serious shit here when they turn 15-16...... Ugh, don't even want to think about that!

As long as you know:D

NOOOOO way........... Thongs are like 16 and up they probably dont sale thongs in the little kid section shouldent she be shopping there still??? I would never let my kid where a thong, until she is 16, because at 16 it will be her own choice on to what she wears at each age she gets like special things like later bed times,more money for school clothes due to make up when she turns 15 and bra's.

I just dont wan't her growing up to fast.

No,No,No,and No.

I started wanting thong underware when I became concerned what my ass looked like when my pants were coming off.
Not everyone wears them,There are panties in several different styles.I have over a hundred pairs. Agree to pretty,but not skanky.. Lace,design,color,shape?..she is only 12.

Once I got a pair of thong panties I wanted to show them.and I did. I still do. but now its not always by choice exactly,I just have one of those asses where your thong shows,which is trashy too,
I guess.
Whatever.
No thong.Buy her a corset and a chastity belt.
Maybe she'll keep her panties to herself a bit longer.

Yeah I feel as everyone else here does. I wouldn't have it. They all grow up too fast as it is. The whole premise behind thongs is the sexiness factor. Sexiness and a 12 year old girl shouldn't be in the same sentence. No way as far as I'm concerned.

thongs arent meant to be seen under clothes, but they are meant to be seen in other ways.

catch my drift? its no good.

The only reason that i know of young girls wanting to wear thongs is b/c they want to show it. They're growing up way too fast these days. :(

I agree with the no.

MaxHooters, I think your choice of user name tells us more about you and your child-rearing ideas than it should. The very thought of a 12- year old girl wearing anything like that is pretty wrong.

I understand that you are trying to give her a choice, and make her feel empowered, but your job as a parent is to make those decisions for them until they are mature enough to make those decisions for themselves. As much as I can understand the potential need to combat peer pressure, you have to draw the line.

I'm in 100 percent agreement with you on this one.

My niece that I baptized is 13 years old and an athlete. At times she has to change in front of other girls and of course, like everything kids wear, judgement is passed on what kind of undwear is in. She told me other girls steal thongs or borrow their sisters thongs to "be cool". She also mentioned other girls had their thongs purchased by their parents.

Thankfully, "boy shorts" is another popular style that is cool to wear ... and that was the solution in her case.

I'm a 19 year old and my mother would've shot me if at the age of 12 i wore a thong. Only recently was i allowed.

ok let me clear one thing up real quick, and I dont want to go through this again but I will.

My name has nothing to do with it. I know you are thinking it has to with BIG BREAST but it does not. My name is Max and my last name starts with hoot, so when I was in school people called me hooter, (this was before the wing place) so I tried to go by hooter here but someone was using it so I put my name infront of it. so leave my name alone.

DITTO!! Kids want what they see, and if they see alot of MTV they are gonna want what the MTV chicks wear

Interesting (in reference to the origin of your name)

Could you explain why you think 12 year olds with thongs are okay? I'm curious about the reasoning behind your stance.
thanks

So, shouldn't your name be MaxHooter? Why the need to pluralize your breasts^H^H^H^H^H^H^Hname?

I dont,

I went to a bar the other day, its a respectable place, where the bouncer checks your id and stuff.
Nobody under 18 gets in, anyway, im there and i see this realy nice woman, she was wearing a miniskirt, a thong and a realy daring top, she had fairly large breasts and was aboud 5f tall.
We start talkin and coming closer.
at midnight she tells me she has to go, shes 13 and her dad comes to pick her up.

I almost had a heart attack, i could never tell the difference bedween her and the other women in there.

Do you want to see your girl in a situation like that?

No, no and no.

Oh, and NO!

12 years is way too young.

How'd she get in if the bouncer checks ids?

Why the hell is her father letting his thirteen year old daughter go to a BAR in the first place?

must have been a mature 13 yr old as anyone 12-15 yr usually gives away there age in the conversational skills..etc

Boy shorts may be the solution for your daughter too if you see so many problems with the thong. I don't. 12 is quite an age for a some girls.

My mistake. I misread your first post.
I'm going to rephrase my question. Can you explain why your wife thinks it is alright? Being that you are not her, it's completely understandable if you are not able to.

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I agree. I have a thirteen year old, and she has friends who wear these. However, my answer is, "No, not until you have a job, and are buying them yourself, and wearing them at your own house." :D

The issue, in my mind, is not what she thinks or why she wants to, bu the impression it gives to older boys. Thongs (again in my mind) indicates that the wearer is sexually active. This might not be the case in your (the readers) mind, but do you want to take the chance that a 17/18 yr old boy thinks that your 12yr old is sexually active ????

A big NO FUCKIN WAY to 12yr olds and thongs, they should come with a health warning (ie, Surgeon General's Warning:- "Wearing this garmet may result in you contracting a sexually transmitted disease" or "Wearing thongs increases your chances of becoming pregnant").

What age to draw the line . . dunno . . . just glad that I've got two boys . . .

S

I have heard testimony from girls that these ass-riding cloth string peices of butt-destruction are quite comfortable. I don't think I could handle wearing them myself though. Anyway, I think as long as the little girlie isn't wearing a short skirt to show off her "ASSetts" then what is the issue?

I don't recall, when I was 12, looking at any girl and thinking, "Damn what a sexy girl, I love that I can't see an underwear line."

I've not much of a problem with unseen underwear, because they are unseen. Hell, should these little girls have to wear underwear under their bathing suits. I think my little girl could go without underwear and I wouldn't care, so long as she keeps her pants on. I agree with previous statements, though to some degree. I believe it's foolish for little girls to wear things like 2-piece bathing suits like they need a better tan or to show of their lack of assets.

Underwear, though, are covered. Unless they are the ones that hang out of the pants, the most rediculous fad invention of the decade.

I just don't think that these thongs induce sexual behavior.

Herk

Oh but Herk --
The style of jeans and pants today is low-rise, (hip-huggers), it is also the "in" look to have these thongs showing, because of the cut of the pants. Therefore, they are quite visible, just from the top now. It's the new cleavage, the buttcrack cleavage, if you will.

Not to mention, on a windy day, when my daughter is wearing a skirt, she won't be accidentally showing off her "assets." Thongs just aren't about panty lines now a days. They're a mature fashion statement.

Why would you allow your daughter to wear a skirt? How do you quantify how much is okay to show? It is okay for the skirt to fly up and show panties, but not to fly up and show a thong. I just think it is tough to delineate between sheltering and protecting. There is a much broader spectrum of grey here than I think we are allowing for, or perhaps we are.

Bah, I dread my little girl growing up.

Herk

Well, because a thong shows the entire butt, panties cover it. Skirts and dresses are what girls, and little girls wear. Thongs are for mature customers. (18 and older, in my opinion)

I'm not going to let her wear a thong bathing suit to the beach either...

How I quantify:

Bare bum = No.

Covered bum = Yes.

I like to think that it wasn't toooo long ago that I was a teen/ preteen. Although I never have gotten into thongs I did want "sexy" underwear. However this did not make me any more or less promiscuous. In fact I did not have sex until college. Although I don't think young girls should be wearing short skirts and belly shirts I don't think her choice of underwear is going to cause her to suddenly act in ways her parents raised her not to. It may just be that all of her friends are wearing them or that she simple does not want panty lines. Your wife should communicate with your daughter and find out why she wants them. Then you can make a decision as a family

I like how this thread rages on, that's awesome.

Education, people. There is no substitue for education.

i cant believe how long this has been going on

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That or she'll take them off at the first opprotunity and go commando the whole day.

Then a thong is the least of your problems. First panties and next come the pants. Time for birth control.

No, no, no. I try to see the upside, and it's just not there

WOW. Why the hell would anyone want a 12 year old wearing a thong?

Seriously. Do not ever let her get it. She isn't old enough for thongs until she can make it to a store and sneak them past you.

I just figure there is already enough in the chicken to enhance other "things"

I echo accordingly

First thing to say is that Ii would not my 12 year old wear thongs.

That said I will tell you what she may be thinking. At her age she is thinking about the 'lines' that underwear display, hopefully she is not thinking 'sexual' thoughts as us adults tend to. Wearing thong underwear is like shaving legs, its an intro to adolesence.
She does not realize the message this states.

12 years old and thongs? lord I didnt start wearing them until I was 30 lol

funny story concerning my 11 year old daughter and thongs...
we were sitting a steak and shake one nite eating dinner..I cant remember how the conversation moved on to my underwear but all of the sudden my daughter says (in that kid voice that is the loudest in the world and when they inhale to say something its the cue for everyone around to be as quiet as they can so that the subject gets REALLY emabarrsed) "MY MOMMY WEARS THOSE THONG PANTIES, THEY GO UP HER BUTT" everybody in the place is snickering and Im as red as a stop sign..to which she added in the kid quiet voice...she would never wear them because she thought it would feel like it does if you get toilet paper stuck on your butt hehehe

but back to the original question
#1 I have issues with a mother that would actually consider letting her 12 year old do that..its NOT appropriate
#2 If she gets them to "fit in" does that mean she's going to have to PROVE shes got them on?

my child can pick her own underwear when she can pay for them along with the roof thats over her head

NOOOOO

and on that note, i was out mountain biking the other night and on my return trip home, I came acroos a couple girls probably 14 one had a thong on pulled half way up here back with jewels and what not glittering on it.. I must be old or something, cause I wa repulsed and though pretty much the same sediment i've read here.. Where are her parents and why aren't they parenting her.. I have 4 kids of my own - oldest is 11.. and i'd never permit that..

She is probably doing it not because she wants to show boys, or because she is maturing sexually. She probably wants it because she associates thongs with maturity. Not thongs with sluttyness. I mean, I wouln't let my daughter(not that I have one) where a thong, but you need to understand where she is coming from.

BTW
'Its cool to have the strings pulled up high past the waistline'
Silly lil girls

12 years old is way too young for thongs. 16 years old, maybe. But 12 is rediculous.

A 12 year old is too young to be wearing thong underwear. I am over 30 and I hate seeing women in there 20’s and older wearing those things.

If I wanted to see their choice of underwear, in public I would ask them. I do not care if women are wearing shorts, skirts, or pants I do not want to see their underwear.

I do not have any kids yet, but I will never buy my kid thongs. When she is through with college then if she wants to go and buy them that will be fine with me.

Hmmm, sounds very very nice. You're not 12 are you? LOL

I'm 18, and while I didn't start wearing a thong till I was 14 or 15, it seemed all the other girls were. I don't agree with a 12 year old wearing a thong. Give her a few years on that. If she's worried about panty lines, have her get a pair of cute boyshorts. If you don't know what those are, they're like a pair of daisy dukes but styled as undies. Not only are they very comfy, they're also way cute and elimanate panty lines. Tell her she can get a thong when she can drive herself to the store and pay for it with money SHE earned. Otherwise...oh well. I am so glad my parents protected me as much as they did from all the sexual explotation of the media. I was niave, but now I see that as a good thing.

I hope I am not taking you out of context, but I heartily disagree. A parents job is to be a childs friend. Obviously its not a one dimensional problem, but parents should not be dictators.

A parents job is to be a guide to a child on this wonderful ride we call life. Perhaps not so much when the child is 3, but when they are 11...they are perfectly capable of understanding...what is that....the preoperational stage right?....they understand abstract ideas, they understand right and wrong (as much as anyone else does anyway)....at this point in their life a parent ought to be, as I said earlier, a guide....be there for questions and guidance....

Im only 20, perhaps I will feel differently when im older....

You guys have gotta be joking right.

"When she can buy them, she can wear them." - Well folks, that will come soon enough. In three or four more years you will revisit the exact same conversation without such an easy out.

Except then at that point they aren't gonna GIVE A DAMN what you have to say about it.




Now listen to me. You need to find out WHY whe wants them. I HIGHLY doubt she wants them to "show off" or "attract boys" or whatnot. That just doesn't make sense for a child who is 12 years old.

They wouldn't have any reason to feel like that at this point.


Now the reason thongs were created was to remove visible panty lines, which is STILL probably not an issue at this age except mabye when she wears a thin skirt or pants that are too tight.

Here's what I suspect. She thinks its "cool" and probably doesn't even KNOW why. You are all thinking she really KNOWS why she wants them "oh she wants to show them off".

Some friend probably told her "hey its cool to wear thongs" and now she just wants to be "cool", or mabye she watched a little too much Brittany Spears and "wants to be like Brittany".


WHATEVER it is, it PROBABLY has NOTHING AT ALL TO DO WITH SEXUALITY. Don't shut her out and say no for a reason she won't understand. ALL THAT WILL DO IS MAKE HER REBEL LATER WHEN YOU CANNOT CONTROL HER.

Talk to her. Find out why. Then make a decision based on fact, not irrational fears.

Do you want your kid to hate you? Parenting isn't about being Joseph Stalin.

Do YOU (or your wife) wear thongs? You gotta look at the examples you are setting.

Don't be Hitler and dont be a hypocrite. Thats exactly why kids shut out their parents. It may not seem like a big deal now, but when shes 16 you are going to want to be able to TALK.

Chances are, you're NOT smarter than your kids. Stop thinking you are.


IF YOU CLOSE DISCUSSION ON THINGS LIKE THIS NOW THEN THOSE LINES OF COMMUNICATION WILL REMAIN CLOSED WHEN MORE IMPORTANT ISSUES COME UP.

My daughter is 13 and has never asked for thongs. However she tries to be picky and wants the sexy purdy ones. I refuse to buy them and I tell her it should not matter because NOBODY will see her panties!

I'm going to say, if for no other reason then I am sick of feeling like a dirty old man, tell her HELL NO. I got to the mall, and I see these 14 year old girls walking around with pants around their knees and thongs sticking up in the back, and I have thoughts that no man my age should about these kids. I have the self control to limit myself to TRYING not to look out of the corner of my eye, but there are some poeple out there that don't. Like the 14 year old boys. I remember what I was up to at that age, and trust me when I say, you want your little angel looking as drab and as far away from kids like I was as can be. You are the father. As hard as it might be, put the Daddy Foot down. After getting permision for the wife, of course. :)

I have 3 daughters 20,18,15 years old. My 18 year old would start wearing thongs withour us knowing around 13 years old. She has always been a handful, the other 2 girls do not even want to wear thongs.
My middle one was 15 when we found condoms in her room. She went to planned Parenthood and has been on the pill since 16. My point is this all kids are different. After a rough freshman and sophmore year she grew up, still sexually active, but now got good grades in 11 and 12 grade and is enrolled at a Cal State University. My 20 year old is still a virgin? All kids are different.

she wants to wear a thong...cause she's 12 and she wants boys to notice her!! Look at Britney spears etc.....everyguy on here is asking why.....but when you are out at a bar and see an attractive female walk by with the thong sticking out of the back of her low cut jeans....do you not turn to mush?? The issue here is that kids are growing up alot faster.....and I for one see it first hand.....hell go to the mall and you will see 13 year old girls who are more developed than 30 year old women!!!! Now I don't have a daughter and I can't say what I would do.....I just know I would be real careful, cause at the age it's all about defiance. If you outright say no, she will want to do it more, and maybe go beyond (commando?) It's scary stuff and nobody said parenting would be easy! I would ask why she wants one and go from there (cause if it's because boys are making fun of her cause they can see her undie line thru her pants....than maybe it's legit......but if it's because she wants everyone to see how grown up she is....than that's another story).