the only way to deal with this kind of thing is with humor. they can't fight you if they are laughing. if it comes down to an "i'm your parent, do it my way or else" kind of thing, you're hosed.

If my daughter, would have asked to wear
thongs at 12, the answer would have been No! When they turn 18 and leave to go to college, then it is their choice.

Its society. They want to be what they see on TV. They want to be Britney Spears and Xtina.... Kids are growing up way to fast in my opinion. Keep them locked in their bedrooms with no access to TV or the net till they are old enough to move out and make their own decisions.

;)

He he. LOL
It'd be nice if it was that simple. When children are isolated from society the rubber band effect comes into play.
Basically, you are holding them to one extreme and when they are let go the child will swing to the other extreme. My family and I went to a very conservative church when I was a child. The women wore ankle length skirts, didn't cut their hair, etc. Every child went from prim and proper to oversexed drug users shortly after their 18th bday.

Ive seen that alot, but that doesn't mean 12yr olds can act like 18yr olds. I think the problem is that there is no fine line drawn and every kid/parent matures at different times.

But 12yr olds aren't mature enough to be shaving, wearing makeup, and wearing clothing like that. The clincher, for me at least, is it's DISGUSTING.

ugh...nonononononono
no

did I mention NO?

I completely agree.
The jist of my post was that you can go to far one direction or the other. I'm not advocating 12 year olds acting like 18 year olds. Rather that they act according to the norms expected by our society. They simply are not mature enough to be wearing those types of underwear. Plus, it is disgusting.
A 12 year old should not be sexualized. They have the rest of their life for that.

Amen, brotha

I have two beautiful twin girls. I am gonna be in some serious shit here when they turn 15-16...... Ugh, don't even want to think about that!

As long as you know:D

NOOOOO way........... Thongs are like 16 and up they probably dont sale thongs in the little kid section shouldent she be shopping there still??? I would never let my kid where a thong, until she is 16, because at 16 it will be her own choice on to what she wears at each age she gets like special things like later bed times,more money for school clothes due to make up when she turns 15 and bra's.

I just dont wan't her growing up to fast.

No,No,No,and No.

I started wanting thong underware when I became concerned what my ass looked like when my pants were coming off.
Not everyone wears them,There are panties in several different styles.I have over a hundred pairs. Agree to pretty,but not skanky.. Lace,design,color,shape?..she is only 12.

Once I got a pair of thong panties I wanted to show them.and I did. I still do. but now its not always by choice exactly,I just have one of those asses where your thong shows,which is trashy too,
I guess.
Whatever.
No thong.Buy her a corset and a chastity belt.
Maybe she'll keep her panties to herself a bit longer.

Yeah I feel as everyone else here does. I wouldn't have it. They all grow up too fast as it is. The whole premise behind thongs is the sexiness factor. Sexiness and a 12 year old girl shouldn't be in the same sentence. No way as far as I'm concerned.

thongs arent meant to be seen under clothes, but they are meant to be seen in other ways.

catch my drift? its no good.

The only reason that i know of young girls wanting to wear thongs is b/c they want to show it. They're growing up way too fast these days. :(

I agree with the no.

MaxHooters, I think your choice of user name tells us more about you and your child-rearing ideas than it should. The very thought of a 12- year old girl wearing anything like that is pretty wrong.

I understand that you are trying to give her a choice, and make her feel empowered, but your job as a parent is to make those decisions for them until they are mature enough to make those decisions for themselves. As much as I can understand the potential need to combat peer pressure, you have to draw the line.

I'm in 100 percent agreement with you on this one.

My niece that I baptized is 13 years old and an athlete. At times she has to change in front of other girls and of course, like everything kids wear, judgement is passed on what kind of undwear is in. She told me other girls steal thongs or borrow their sisters thongs to "be cool". She also mentioned other girls had their thongs purchased by their parents.

Thankfully, "boy shorts" is another popular style that is cool to wear ... and that was the solution in her case.

I'm a 19 year old and my mother would've shot me if at the age of 12 i wore a thong. Only recently was i allowed.

ok let me clear one thing up real quick, and I dont want to go through this again but I will.

My name has nothing to do with it. I know you are thinking it has to with BIG BREAST but it does not. My name is Max and my last name starts with hoot, so when I was in school people called me hooter, (this was before the wing place) so I tried to go by hooter here but someone was using it so I put my name infront of it. so leave my name alone.

DITTO!! Kids want what they see, and if they see alot of MTV they are gonna want what the MTV chicks wear

Interesting (in reference to the origin of your name)

Could you explain why you think 12 year olds with thongs are okay? I'm curious about the reasoning behind your stance.
thanks

So, shouldn't your name be MaxHooter? Why the need to pluralize your breasts^H^H^H^H^H^H^Hname?

I dont,

I went to a bar the other day, its a respectable place, where the bouncer checks your id and stuff.
Nobody under 18 gets in, anyway, im there and i see this realy nice woman, she was wearing a miniskirt, a thong and a realy daring top, she had fairly large breasts and was aboud 5f tall.
We start talkin and coming closer.
at midnight she tells me she has to go, shes 13 and her dad comes to pick her up.

I almost had a heart attack, i could never tell the difference bedween her and the other women in there.

Do you want to see your girl in a situation like that?

No, no and no.

Oh, and NO!

12 years is way too young.

How'd she get in if the bouncer checks ids?

Why the hell is her father letting his thirteen year old daughter go to a BAR in the first place?

must have been a mature 13 yr old as anyone 12-15 yr usually gives away there age in the conversational skills..etc

Boy shorts may be the solution for your daughter too if you see so many problems with the thong. I don't. 12 is quite an age for a some girls.

My mistake. I misread your first post.
I'm going to rephrase my question. Can you explain why your wife thinks it is alright? Being that you are not her, it's completely understandable if you are not able to.

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I agree. I have a thirteen year old, and she has friends who wear these. However, my answer is, "No, not until you have a job, and are buying them yourself, and wearing them at your own house." :D

The issue, in my mind, is not what she thinks or why she wants to, bu the impression it gives to older boys. Thongs (again in my mind) indicates that the wearer is sexually active. This might not be the case in your (the readers) mind, but do you want to take the chance that a 17/18 yr old boy thinks that your 12yr old is sexually active ????

A big NO FUCKIN WAY to 12yr olds and thongs, they should come with a health warning (ie, Surgeon General's Warning:- "Wearing this garmet may result in you contracting a sexually transmitted disease" or "Wearing thongs increases your chances of becoming pregnant").

What age to draw the line . . dunno . . . just glad that I've got two boys . . .

S

I have heard testimony from girls that these ass-riding cloth string peices of butt-destruction are quite comfortable. I don't think I could handle wearing them myself though. Anyway, I think as long as the little girlie isn't wearing a short skirt to show off her "ASSetts" then what is the issue?

I don't recall, when I was 12, looking at any girl and thinking, "Damn what a sexy girl, I love that I can't see an underwear line."

I've not much of a problem with unseen underwear, because they are unseen. Hell, should these little girls have to wear underwear under their bathing suits. I think my little girl could go without underwear and I wouldn't care, so long as she keeps her pants on. I agree with previous statements, though to some degree. I believe it's foolish for little girls to wear things like 2-piece bathing suits like they need a better tan or to show of their lack of assets.

Underwear, though, are covered. Unless they are the ones that hang out of the pants, the most rediculous fad invention of the decade.

I just don't think that these thongs induce sexual behavior.

Herk

Oh but Herk --
The style of jeans and pants today is low-rise, (hip-huggers), it is also the "in" look to have these thongs showing, because of the cut of the pants. Therefore, they are quite visible, just from the top now. It's the new cleavage, the buttcrack cleavage, if you will.

Not to mention, on a windy day, when my daughter is wearing a skirt, she won't be accidentally showing off her "assets." Thongs just aren't about panty lines now a days. They're a mature fashion statement.

Why would you allow your daughter to wear a skirt? How do you quantify how much is okay to show? It is okay for the skirt to fly up and show panties, but not to fly up and show a thong. I just think it is tough to delineate between sheltering and protecting. There is a much broader spectrum of grey here than I think we are allowing for, or perhaps we are.

Bah, I dread my little girl growing up.

Herk

Well, because a thong shows the entire butt, panties cover it. Skirts and dresses are what girls, and little girls wear. Thongs are for mature customers. (18 and older, in my opinion)

I'm not going to let her wear a thong bathing suit to the beach either...

How I quantify:

Bare bum = No.

Covered bum = Yes.

I like to think that it wasn't toooo long ago that I was a teen/ preteen. Although I never have gotten into thongs I did want "sexy" underwear. However this did not make me any more or less promiscuous. In fact I did not have sex until college. Although I don't think young girls should be wearing short skirts and belly shirts I don't think her choice of underwear is going to cause her to suddenly act in ways her parents raised her not to. It may just be that all of her friends are wearing them or that she simple does not want panty lines. Your wife should communicate with your daughter and find out why she wants them. Then you can make a decision as a family

I like how this thread rages on, that's awesome.

Education, people. There is no substitue for education.

i cant believe how long this has been going on

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That or she'll take them off at the first opprotunity and go commando the whole day.