So are you happy?
Are you happy with your life? Perhaps this is the most important question of all, that only you can answer.
For me I'd have to say yes, I'm happy. |
I am as happy as I can be. I do my best to be positive, but it is very difficult given all of the highly negative things that exist around us.
Being happy isn't easy...but I do my best! |
In the end, yes.
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totally man.
I don't see any sensible alternative either. I've always thought it was suspiciously self-serving not to be... |
No, I am not. Hopefully some positive change will come about. As of right now, it seems that I'm doing far too much to please others, rather than doing what will make me happy.
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Yes I am. Thanks for asking. :)
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I'm okay. Things could be better, they could always be worse. That being said it has been a long time since i've had one of those moments where i felt that everything was truly right in the world. That's probably more a matter of choice than anything else though.
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Yes, but not with some others.
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Absolutely yes! I love life -- even the hard times as that is the time I'm growing. But the memorable/fun times are best of all.
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Nope, not at all. I only have myself to blame though.
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Not really happy yet...I'm sastisfied with my life though. I wish to find happiness real soon :D
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There is no such thing.
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I am at a point in my life where I am on autopilot, waiting for the next great thing to take me away.
There isn't anything in my life that enables me to be truly happy right now. That's really all there is to it. I mean, should I decide to lower my standards of life, I could be happy, but I feel I deserve more, and I refuse to accept the fact that what I am currently dealing with, is what I have been "dealt". |
As of right now I'm not. I'm a lonely person, however its my fault I'm not happy.
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Heh, what a depressing thread. Bleeeeeeeah.
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I am, but I have a tendency to find happiness in the small things. Usually the large events that we normally think would ensure happiness, just add a different form of misery.
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I think Art and mr. sticky have something there... Though I am not a full time practicer of their beliefs quite yet... I am unsatisfied with my career, but very happy with most other parts of my life. Hopefully I can fully answer yes to this question soon...
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One can never have a happy life. It is the nature of happiness to always be beside sorrow. One can’t exist without the other therefore in order to experience happiness one must first experience a proportional amount of grief.
I believe that those who claim to have happy lives are are simply using selective memory or lying. |
No. I just have standards for the concept "personal happiness" that differ from yours.
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I'm fairly certain that being happy is a choice. It just depends on whether you choose a perspective that allows you to be happy in the face of suffering or a perspective that forces you to suffer regardless of circumstances.
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I never said I wasn’t happy. I am happy, at the moment for example though yesterday was a rather depressing day for me. If I get laid on Wednesday as I hope too then ill be in an even better mood, though I will feel worse the next day because of my mixed feelings towards this awkward relationships, so perhaps ill just go and hang out with my friends instead which will make me happy.
That’s just the way things are. You can’t escape grief, without it there would be no joy. If everything made you happy the novelty of the feeling would soon wear off and you would become bored with it. Why do you think great artists and unimaginably rich people suffer from bouts of depression? There is no such thing as permanent happiness. There is no such thing as a mostly happy life. |
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(Note my Will Shattner cadence) Perhaps you are just oversensative. My life hasn't been all Roses, but I'm still happy. I remember all the pain but pain is fleeting. |
Sounds like Mantus is talking about something we might relate to as the Greek tragic mode of existence. Living in the tension between the Dionysian and the Apollonian.
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Why do you people find this prospect troublesome? If happiness was easy to attain and keep then it would have no value. |
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Happiness has no value beyond the owner. I can't give you my happiness and you being happy doesn't make my happy supply worth less. Its not supply and demand, it just is, and if you need pain to know when you should be happy thats kinda sad. (but I'll manage to stay happy and hope you find it someday too) |
En contraire,
Air is easy to get. When you wake up in the morning do you feel happy at your first conscious inhalation? No. But go snorkeling and stay bellow water for a minute. When you come up air never tasted so sweet. Now trying having an astma attack. What euphoria you feel when the lungs are clear at last and you are able to take a deep breath. The two example of happiness mentioned above would have never happened if air did not become scarce. The person had to suffer in order to be happy. This happiness won’t last though. Air becomes a common substance once again and the novelty quickly wears off. Further more. You can give happiness. Haven’t you ever been happy for some one? Haven’t you ever been around a perky person and picked up their mood? Now you say that you being happy doesn’t make my happiness worthless. That is wrong as well. Happiness may be just a byproduct but so is oxigen. Every human on this planet wants it and will do anything to make it happen. If you are happy I will envy you, I will want whatever it is that makes you happy and vice versa. If I am happy with my new car and find out that you have a better car my happiness will be diminished, because the value of the object which made me happy is lowered in my mind. If I am dating a girl and meet a more beautiful girl my happiness in the first relationship will diminish, this is why people break up, because they find some one better that will give them more happiness. Quote:
Any object you have you have only gave you happiness because you didn’t have it before. Most of those object you had to work hard for. You lover had to be won. The relationship has to be sustained and allot of commitment has to be put into it. Further more you are always in fear of loosing the one you love. A warm summer day is only made beautiful because one has to work in the office for 40 hours a week. A walk bearfoot on the beech is wonderful because the weather wont permit it for the other half of the year. A quiet morning is only blissful because you have to be driving though rush hour in an hour. The first hot summer day brightens your mood because you just had to live though a bitter cold winter. The first big snowfall make you giddy because you just had to live though a hot summer. Everything comes at a price, the price is not always obvious but it’s always there. If happiness were as easy to get as air then you would not even know you had it. Like air and everything else the only way we can see the value of it is by feeling the lack of it. |
At the moment? No, I'm definitely not...but, changes are coming up, and I intend to make the best of them.
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Mantus, how is it that you are convinced you can tell someone else what is true for them?
We're talking about a subjective state here - and you're discussing it objectively. |
Perhaps he is being a buddhist: Life is suffering and all that.
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True happiness is a state of mind, and an understanding of the reasons for adversity. I am happy with my life. If only because I know this is where I need to be.
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Totally happy. I have been blessed with opportunities and sometimes the good sense to recognize them. This has all lead to having far more experiences and things than I ever would have thought possible. And the funny thing is that I appreciate everything more each day, even though I am getting older.
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when you've been arrested in the past 6 days, happiness isn't close in sight. but i gotta say that i was very happy until i was arrested, which is why i was arrested for in the first place. but i'll be back there soon, real soon.
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Well I finally came up with the appropriate response after all this time:
Whatever makes you happy. After all that is what is important, if what works for you does the trick then this is not the thread to push my ideas on you. Perhaps I will make a thread on the concept of happiness later on and we can discuss it then. |
Remember, the most important part is to keep your endorphin levels high.
If reality is a viel of tears, simply close your eyes and smile. |
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Wow that was a long post |
You are right, Shpoop that is a contradiction.
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yes.
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Yes I am happy I have a great wife, I like my job most of the time, and I have a very possitive mental attitude. :)
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well looking at the big picture i consider myself a blessed person, im young still and my family is great so yeah im happy :D
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To tell you honestly no. I'm trying to get my life back in order though and I think that the current track I'm on leads to happiness in the end.
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No. My life is like pushing on doors that say "pull," building sandcastles right before the tide comes in, rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic, putting band-aids on bulletholes, bringing knives to gunfights...you get the idea.
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Honestly, I have to say no. But at least I think I'm starting to get an idea why. I feel like my life lacks momentum - I see some people around me moving in a forward direction, trying new things and see how this makes them "happy". I think about all the things that I could do to achieve momentum towards happiness and try to do them; from little things like lifting weights and gardening to big things like wonderful sex or learning a new language or musical instrument. There is no way you can click your finger and "be happy" in an instant but the littlest things can get you moving from a standing start to a state of greater happiness.
So I guess you could say I'm in the contradictory position of being fairly unhappy but nonetheless optimistic about my prospects for happiness. |
umm, as of lately, no. but i'm not sitting back and doing nothing about it, i'm sick of that. I'm doing what i can to stop merely existing and to start living, and then maybe from living, like really living i'll find happiness again :) like the true, can't wait for the next thing to come along passion for life again... :D
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I'll be (semi) happy for the next week and a half, because finals are over! I'm getting my ass out of Ohio and going home to play with my cars!
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I'm rather content, unless I do something completely stupid and wind up pissing myself off.
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For the past year or so I haven't been happy really. I think it seems to coincide with my moving out here to Los Angeles. I haven't felt very in control of my life since I moved out here.
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Absolutely.
Yeah, I get stressed about the little things... an exam mark I dont like here, money issues there, but in the end, when it comes to the really important things, like family, friends, loved ones, I know how lucky I am, and its those people who make me truly happy. |
I may be wrong, but doesn't the word 'happy' come from the same root as 'happen'? A person is 'happy' when they are not fighting against what is and what is happening. They accept what is, whether it is good or terrible and so don't live at that moment in conflict with existence.
While we're at it, I read the other day that the word 'Islam' comes from the root 'to submit', and that 'Muslim' means 'one who submits' - to God (the same God as for Jews and Christians...and I suppose ultimately everyone...). |
I'm not particularly happy, yet not particularly unhappy. I couldn't even tell you if I'm going up or down now. I suppose I'll keep on existing and see how it goes.
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