![]() |
Measuring Success
I have two very wealthy doctors in my family. One is a Physician, whereas the other is an Orthodontist. Both make close to a million in gross income. Naturally speaking, they have amazing houses, drive beamers, are able to put a significant amount into their 401k, designer clothes..u get the idea. Needless to say, they are successful, happy people.
How do you measure success? |
If I get through the day having successfully applied the life lessons that I learned the day before, that is success to me.
|
1) Doing what you want
2) Enjoying it Notice how money and possessions have little to do with it. |
Quote:
|
I know multimillionaires that are some of the most miserable fucks you'll ever meet. They hate their lives. I know one guy, though, that is also much wealthier than I (and I do pretty well) that is the happiest person I know because he realizes what's important. That's why he's home for dinner with his kids every night that he's not traveling and calls during dinner when he is.
Money only equates to sucess when you limit the terms to business only. If you expand the definition at all, you'll figure out very quickly how unimportant money is in a successful life. |
A nice pair of boots.
|
I have two degrees. I live on my own. I pay my own bills. I'm 27. I'm healthy. I do what I love for a living. I have a close knit family that supports me.
I'm an Obsessive Compulsive Alcoholic. I've spent time in jail. My life is controlled by my probation officer. I've suffer from extreme depression. I'm on the verge of tears most every day. What do you think? Am I successful? I think I am. Because despite all the bad stuff. I still have the good. |
Quote:
To look at it from another angle. Think about Maslow's hierarchy of needs. What's the highest rung? Self actualization. It has nothing to do with material wealth. |
Success is mindfulness every moment
Success is a word for past events, events which probably dont have the relationship to one another that we imagine to have created that imagine event- misquotations from reality - an idea that hinders, because of its attempt to gauge and analyze, present reality |
Success is being able to help others while not being a burden to to anyone.
(I'm thinking there are many definitions of this.) |
Quote:
Here's the thing about people with all the exterior signs of "success"--there's NO freedom for them in that. They're always compensating for something, and the more they compensate, the bigger that thing they're compensating for gets. They HAVE to succeed. They're DRIVEN to succeed, and COMPLETELY out of control about it, and they're TERRIFIED about what would happen if they didn't succeed. This isn't to say that everyone else on the planet isn't driven and terrified too, because we all are. It's just, on really "successful" people, it's easy to forget about that because the surface looks so good. But it's all a big show to distract from how desperately their duck feet are paddling beneath the surface. Quote:
|
Props to World's King, its good to hear that you are getting on the right track. Effort is half the battle, the other is lady luck.
I hate the amount of studying that is required out of the medical profession, but God damn it has success written all over it. Ill be 31 before I start making real money. Those who are happy with their careers, how did you guys decide on them? In my opinion, a career is a major part of your life, and in order to be happy in life you have to be happy with your career. Am I wrong in thinking this way? -----Added 22/8/2008 at 04 : 02 : 52----- Quote:
Some deep points you brought up in this post. Have an analysis on your conclusion? It's just, on really "successful" people, it's easy to forget about that because the surface looks so good. But it's all a big show to distract from how desperately their duck feet are paddling beneath the surface. |
I consider it being content. To me that means having REAL friends, family being able to pay bills, and of course my wife and daughter.
I consider myself successful. |
Quote:
I am also OCD. Success for me is letting go of a situation. Not being annoyed if all the people on the plane have put their seatbacks and tray tables up when told to do so. That's a biggie with me. I wish I could channel that compulsion into excercise or writing. |
Happiness is the measure of success. That, and perhaps mindful gratitude. If one is truly happy, with oneself and one's life; if one is frequently if not constantly aware of savoring the joys and bitternesses of this world...then one is successful.
|
Quote:
|
Quote:
|
Without money, you cant take vacations. Cant buy the luxury items. They bring happiness.
I mean a life without money with your daughter/son, wife...would be pretty dull. Its living like Amish people except you don't have the tasks that they did to keep themselves occupied. |
Quote:
What you're saying is that life is only worth living if you have money, and that's just not true at all. Let me peel back the curtain just a bit for you since your youth and inexperience is showing: I probably make as much or more money than your family members. I also work incredibly hard to get it. I travel 3 or 4 times a week and habitually work 55 hours+ each and every week unless I'm REALLY busy when it goes to 75+. As you can see in my signature, I have 2 young kids. I don't for a second think that I'm successful in anything but a strictly financial sense. I am successful because I have those boys and my wife. Frankly, as much as I love my job, I'd quit in a second if I didn't know I'd be seriously unhappy without a job like that. My family defines me more than any monetary thing ever will. I can also state as fact that there are several board members who make SUBSTANTIALLY less than I do that are as happy or happier than I am with my life. Things do not bring happiness. Someday you'll grow up enough to realize that. If you really think that joy in life comes from material possessions, your parents did a poor job teaching you priorities. |
Quote:
If someone who could see the future told me that I would never be able to go away on vacation or ever afford luxury items for the rest of my life, I wouldn't be concerned about my happiness or the happiness of my family. It's people that create happiness, not anything you can buy. This is not to say you can't have happy experiences using lots of money; but I do say having lots of money isn't necessary to a happy life. There are many examples of this. |
Quote:
|
Quote:
|
I have a job that I'm overqualified for three times over, I have no car, and I'm 24 and still live with my mom. On any given day, I'm more likely than not to be at least content, but I wouldn't call myself happy or successful. Maybe it's about living up to my potential, which I'm clearly not.
|
Quote:
I've been on all sides of this equation at one time or another during my lifetime. Happiness hasn't a thing to do with a prestigious occupation or the car you can drive. I've switched occupations several times over the years, trying to find my own place of happiness. At my tender age, I plan to be back in school before the end of this year so that I can do what I've always wanted to do. When I was married and had a good-paying "career", everyone though I was so happy and successful. My ex and I were expert at our roles because we were able to accomplish what we thought we were supposed to achieve. Truth is, we were both utterly miserable. I finally was able to recently purchase a home, but my purpose is to have an investment to leave for my children. I have had many weeks where I had to ask my daughter to limit how much milk she drank in a day because I couldn't afford another gallon. Am I successful? I think so. I've done a fine job of raising my girls to be strong, independent and respectful young ladies. I'm loved by the three of them and a wonderful man. My parents view me as successful, because they're proud of the job I've done with my children. Although I don't have much materialistically, I give as much as I can of myself. These are the things that matter. Your question should be rephrased. How much money would make me successful? :rolleyes: |
Yeah, I have been thinking a lot about the posts, and in general conversation with my parents, friends. Yes, they are very materialistic but they are only looking out for me. Being miserable with money > being miserable without money. One of the things I think that I have done wrong is I have searched for happiness incorrectly. I never fully gave anything a shot, and that is why I am not sure what makes me happy (too complicated to explain lol). I am 21 (almost 22) and I think its a good mature time to correct my mistakes, and enjoy the search for happiness.
Thank you all for this thoughtful thread. Hopefully I can take this discussion and amend my life. -----Added 24/8/2008 at 06 : 49 : 57----- I am going to Alaska...sike but that is a really good movie. (Into the Wild) |
Quote:
Although that certainly IS what passes for success for most people, if we really tell the truth about it. |
Having the liberty and resources to whatever whenever
|
"People who think money will make you happy don't have money" -David Geffen
|
Originally Posted by levite
Happiness is the measure of success. That, and perhaps mindful gratitude. If one is truly happy, with oneself and one's life; if one is frequently if not constantly aware of savoring the joys and bitternesses of this world...then one is successful. Hapiness cant be the metrics all the time. Some times you take a goal or ambition knowingly the pain and suffering involved. For example working for cancer patients. I am sure it will be lot of tough, unhappy and sad moments. But if you had made meaninful difference to few peoples lifes I think that is still successful. It is a corner case thou. You set your goal. There is no standard. If you meet your goals you are successful. |
I agree with curiousbear. I measure happiness as success. Success to me is being my own person, having independence, doing what I want to do, and having a balanced, happy life. Am I successful right now? Not by my standard. BUT, I am trying. Sometimes, all you can do is try. This is cheesy but I used to have a favorite childhood cup that said "You can be a winner if you try!" So, in that respect, I am successful just in my efforts. People need goals in life if you want to truly participate in life, and not just be a spectator.
|
The word "success" implies that there exists some measurement criteria or rules...much like keeping "score".
I perceive that it may have been the intent of the original poster to discuss what other's interpretations of the criteria/score are. In my opinion, the word "success" has almost no significance...the word "happy" carries more weight, which seems to be the common thought. |
love, peace, happiness, freedom, and choice.
|
Success, to me, is measured by happiness. Do what I want, enjoy doing it, make money out of it, and make other people happy in the process.
Does something like this exist? I'm still looking. |
If money makes someone happy, like the OP, who am I to say that's not so?
I find I need more than just money (which I don't have yet, still being in college) to keep me happy. I would be quite sad if I was alone. My SO makes me a success. |
If you wake up in the morning and usually think "YEAH! I can't wait to see what happens today!" then you are successful. If you wake up in the morning and usually think "Crap, another day I have to make it through" then you are not.
Money, social status, relationships, are not a factor (other than if they make you say "yay" or "damn") |
success isn't the same as happiness. That's why the words are not one and the same.
What does the word success mean exactly? Success at what? Success comes from having goals and achieving them, whatever they may be. They will be different for everyone, so I can't say what I could say is success to anyone else. Generalized success in my personal life, to me would mean feeling that I have a good base of dependable and loyal friends, and an SO who I can trust implicitly and whose company I enjoy 99% of the time. Also, the emotional support of my family. Generalized success in my professional life, to me would mean a job where I am not exploited, that I thoroughly enjoy, where there is flexibility, dynamics, and creativity. Also, there has to be a pleasant work environment. The pay check allows me to live comfortably and engage in my favourite hobbies, and to provide for my family. That's it. I have no idea if I'd be happy with no money. That would mean a total adjustment of my life up to the present, and I can't say what I'd wish for if I was in that position. The same goes for if I had bundles of it. Would I be happier than I am now? I don't know because I've never been there. Success can't be considered proportional to the amount of money one has, that is obvious. I'm not sure it can be proportional to the amount of happiness you feel either. Either you feel successful or you don't. Sometimes the highest achievers aren't happy. When I say the highest achievers, I don't mean millionaires, I mean people who set goals and are able to attain them quite often. They are successful at achieving their goals, but whether they are happy or not depends on their state of mind in that moment, I'd say. Halx put it well, but I'm not sure how doing what you want automatically excludes money/possessions. |
Success to me is learning what you love, and then applying that knowledge everyday [for better or for worse, whatever gives you kicks]. At 18. I consider myself a success, especially some of the stuff I've seen and done, things that some people go their entire lives oblivious too.
|
All times are GMT -8. The time now is 06:38 PM. |
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2025, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0 PL2
© 2002-2012 Tilted Forum Project