amandachenee

We're TTC our first... Any Suggestions???

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Daniel_

Have lots of sex?

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shakran

Stop using the condom?

Charlatan

I am confused. TTC, in my world, means: Toronto Transit Commission.

If it's your first ride on the TTC I'd say take the subway to King and then get off and take the 501 streetcar to Broadview. The ride along the top of the Don Valley is nice.

I don't know what to make of the sex comments.

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shakran

Trying To Conceive

Charlatan

I don't understand the need of an acronym for that.

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Dilbert1234567

no more facials, vaginal cream pies only for you...

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shakran

What you're really saying is "I don't understand why people think text messaging shorthand is necessary in an environment that allows unlimited post lengths."


I agree. WTF itz dum m8

Daniel_

TTC is common shorthand on many parenting sites.

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analog

Many groups like to make shorthands or lingo for things that seem unnecessary to the rest of us... this can be seen in almost any grouping of people with similar interests/activities, like people in various areas of business, medicine- pretty much any group of people.

Of course, my opinion on that practice is that it's largely so those people can feel special, like they belong to an exclusive club. For some, I can kind of see this practice/mentality... but for a group whose admission requirement is breeding or the mere desire to do so, I can't personally see a reason for wanting to do so, unless it's the same sense of group superiority that all other groups feel when using self-created lingo or shorthands...

// Please remain calm- this is only an opinion. Were this an actual emergency, opinion masks would fall from overhead. Make sure to affix your own mask before assisting children, or others. Even though the bag may not fully inflate, opinion is flowing.

Charlatan

Acronyms are fine when you are chatting on a site that is dedicated to a specific topic or your are in an industry that uses that acronym. It makes communication efficient.

However, when you step out of that world, its just confusing.

Try living here where they have acronyms for everything, including people's names.

"I was speaking with NKY about JBR and how he won't take the MRT to SMU."

It's bad enough having to concentrate to understand the Singlish but when the letters start to fly, I am totally lost.

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ngdawg

Wow....this went off-topic a bit I tried a woman's forum, but they kept using all these acronyms and I have no clue what they were...'DH, DS', that TTC and several others....

Anyways....most doctors won't even talk to you until you've tried a year or more. You can get OTC ovulation kits for starters. Don't have sex every day-try every other day or third day. Don't douche! Eat healthy, cut back on alcohol.
And most important-relax. Practice is most of the fun.

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Daniel_

DH = dear husband
DS = dear spouse

Funny that people here have jumped on an innocent request for advice with criticism of the code it was presented in.

I never saw anyone trashed for using SO in a sexuality thread.

/hijack

As for trying to conceive (as requested in the OP - an abreviation it took me a while to work out initially) the answer is to have sex close to the time of ovulation.

Basal temperature measurements and mucousal changes are the most reliable method of tracking ovulation, but require care and attention to daily recordings.

I was tld by my doctore that 85% of healthy couples conceive within 12 months - if you don't catch at once, don't worry too much.

If either of you are overweight, do something about it now.

She should cut back on caffeine and start taking folic acid suplements.

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ShaniFaye

wow, way to go people, lets make the new person feel really welcome why dont we? I bet I could go into the car forum or the tech forum or the weapons forum and find many abbreviations I would have no idea what the fuck they meant.

as for the OP, relax and enjoy the sex, the more stressed you get each month that the stick doesnt indicate a positive result the harder its going to be on you. I was one of the lucky ones, when I was TTC I was one of those that got preggie the first time, but when we tried for a 2nd time it took 7 years for the doctors to figure out I'd stopped producing progesterone after my first child causing me to develop PCOS.

Dont make the sex a timed scheduled event, yes there are certain times of the month you NEED to do it but try to still keep it spontaneous. Talk to your GYN, who knows your medical history and get suggestions from them on what supplements an such to take. for example, Like Daniel said above, the folic acid....I myself have to be careful with that because of my hemochromatosis and really have to watch anything I ingest because of it (and could not take prenatal vitamins because of it too). Your Dr will be the best judge of what you need to do

good luck!!!

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Cynthetiq

to be fair, the mods that posted here could have easily just locked the thread and asked the OP to start the thread again since it doesn't really even hold muster to any of the posting guidelines.

Six words, one of them an abbreviation for three more, with nothing to add like "We have tried..." "Doctors have said" "We've not gone to a fertility specialist..."

someone TTSLRNTTC for 22 years and successful at it.

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hunnychile

How exciting!!

Best of luck with your new beginning of your own family! Seems rather wonderful and spiritual to hear this possitive affirmation of Love & Life on Easter morning.

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Cynthetiq

oh right.. i was so caught up in making my own acronym I neglected to say...

Good luck TTC!!!

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Dilbert1234567

well the OP hasn't been back yet, so the two are hard at work making a baby. good luck Trying To Conceive.

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sillygirl

All it took for us was for him to say, "I want a baby" and then BAM! Pregnant.

I think the biggest thing (and it's been said a few times) is try not to stress out about it. Your body will react to teh stress and kind of try to 'protect' itself.

Good luck!

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huh???

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yournamehere

Too many TLAs on this thread!

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Dilbert1234567

TTC

better yet, the master list of TLA

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Trying To Screw Like Rabbits Not Trying To Conceive

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Yep.

The path of least resistance seemed to be the assumption that the TTC abbreviation would be understood in this forum of parenting (which is why acronyms and such work well in their specific, other areas of the TFP), and that conversation would then follow. When several people in succession were left scratching their heads about the meaning of the meager OP, that's when it was pointed out how very meager it was to begin with. Had there been more to go on, we'd have been able to discuss unabated by the confusion over the abbreviation.

We definitely should be fair to the new poster, but I think fairness would also dictate that you use common language in a new setting until you're sure of the vernacular. Having no memory of ever seeing "TTC" in any forum here, let alone this parenting forum, in the 5 or so years i've been here, I can safely and positively say that "TTC" is not part of the common language- hence the confusion.

This same confusion would occur if I went into tilted living and posted "COPD pt c hx CHF c/o SOB, denies c.p.- should tx be CPAP or O2 via NRB & transport?" It's just not the right lingo for the place, that's all.

Daniel_

I've never seen TTC in TFP before, but I knew what it meant.

I'm not sure about anyone else, but when I see a shorthand I don't understand, I tend to google it.

That was how I found out what OPW and FTW meant when I kept seeing them in TFP.

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SecretMethod70

Alright, I think the point has been made. No reason to harp on it any longer. Yes, the thread starter could have not used the TTC acronym, and could have created a more substantial post to initiate discussion. On the other hand, once shakran explained what TTC meant (in post #5 no less), there's little reason the discussion about the acronym needed to last through another 20 posts. Furthermore, Daniel_ also makes the excellent point that a quick trip to Google would have explained it for everyone as well. Simply searching for "ttc" yields the proper answer by result #4 - a link to www.tryingtoconcieve.com. Basically, no one is without fault here.

So, how about we end the discussion about the TTC acronym here? If you want to have a discussion about the worth of specialized acronyms on internet forums, feel free to create a thread elsewhere on TFP - perhaps in General Discussion. It seems like it may be a lively debate. As for this thread, let's try and discuss what the thread starter was asking about: tips for conceiving.

amandachenee: What have you already tried? How long have you been trying? I think that information would likely help people make appropriate recommendations.

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shesus

There are many sites that give more than enough advice on trying to get pregnant. The highlights of that is:

1) It takes an average of 10 cycles to get pregnant and as was mentioned earlier you won't be given fertility help until at least a year I believe.

2) Get on a healthy diet (not to be confused with losing weight) including a multi-vitamin with folic acid and exercise. Many women's vitamins have folic acid included.

3) Have sex, sex, and more sex. No lube or saliva because that can hinder the swimmers. Also, the woman should lay on her back at least 5 minutes after so gravity doesn't interfere. Supposedly the best position is woman on the bottom.

Now those are general and I'm not a dr, just another woman TTC and getting info off the internet. Most important thing is to relax and have fun! What is meant to be will be.

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amandachenee

Ok People... I'm back! Sorry for posting and then leaving! It's been a BUSY weekend (like most are for us)... especially with all the BMS (Baby-Making Sex) that's been going on. LoL.

Sorry to have caused such an issue (Just assumed that since I was in the Parenting Forum that people would know what I was talking about... My Mistake!)

Anyway, I was diagnosed with Endo, and I have a history of it in my fam... and after the diagnosis was made I did a TON of research on it. Talking to aunts who have it or have had it, they have said to try to get preggers on my own first, and if I have no success, THEN look for help. I saw a different doc than the one who had made the diagnosis (the original wasn't covered under my insurance when it kicked in, so I had to switch docs) and this new one recommended surgery - said he'd like to do it by May 1. I'm not big on that... Doesn't sound like too much fun, so my hubby and I decided to move up the baby-making a few months (we were originally going to start trying in June), and if I'm not pregnant by the end of June/beginning of July, I'd have the surgery.

It was a spur-of-the-moment decision to try now... I used one of the online ovulation calculators... and if they're right, I was ovulating this weekend... So I'm hoping it sticks!!! If my TOM comes when it's supposed to, I'll probably go get an ovulation detector, just to know for SURE when to try... But I'm hoping that it will work...

Funny that when so many people get pregnant without even trying, or even WANTING to... and the people who DO want to have a baby often have issues... Just a thought...

Thanks for the advice though... I am taking folic acid and prenatal vitamins... But since we started 'trying' I haven't really enjoyed sex... Maybe I'm trying too hard?

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Dilbert1234567

welcome back! glad to hear you 2 are being productive. and you know, the journey is half the fun.

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sillygirl

Stop trying and enjoy the sex!! Otherwise, really, look at what you're missing out on! You'll have plenty of stress after a baby comes, enjoy the sex now while you don't have to worry that the kid'll wake up and interrupt!

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lurkette

You're going to get sick and tired of everyone telling you to relax, but it's the best advice you're going to get. Remember that something like 80% of couples get pregnant within a year of starting to try...a year seems like a long time, but give yourself time, be patient, and relax and enjoy the ride.

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sillygirl

Better words were never spoken.

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amandachenee

I'm super tired and I've been feeling icky the past couple of days. Obviously it's too early to be feeling any symptoms of pregnancy, but a few of my friends (the few that know) think that's why I'm feeling less-than-stellar.

Any moms out there - how long did it take you to 'feel' pregnant???

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Daniel_

My ex-wife was obviously (to me) showing signs in the week before her missed period - although she denied it.

The key ones are tender or swollen breasts, changes to the vaginal secretions (your husband may comment that you have a different odour/flavour) and stomach tenderness etc.

Basically, she got PMS type signs, even though she never normally got them.

An hCG urine test with a very low detection level (around 10mIU/ml) is capable of detecting conception 5 days BEFORE a missed period, however, be aware that many women test positive and then fail to develop a pregnancy, as the embryo did not implant.

Best thing to do is test a week after a missed period.

And lay of the non-functional sex (i.e. no letting him ejaculate anywhere but in your vagina).

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lurkette

With many OTC pregnancy tests, you can start testing around day 8 post-ovulation. So if you know when you ovulated, you can start peeing on sticks and see what happens. However, having just watched a good friend go through all this, I would wait till your period is a day or two late to test. You avoid several days of disappointing negatives if you are pregnant, and you're likely to have a high enough hcg level by then to show on almost any OTC test. Some tests are sensitive enough to pick up positives on day 8 PO, but you're better off waiting (and saving your money on those expensive little sticks) till you're fairly sure of getting a positive if you are in fact preggers.

Good luck! Fingers crossed!

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Daniel_

It's not expensive when you work for a company that makes hCG tests.

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sillygirl

at about 8 weeks is when I found out I was pregnant. The only reason was because I was having these vicious cramping pains and had no clue. Took a test so when the doc asked I could say, "yes, and I'm not pregnant". Came back positive. In hindsight, I'd been feeling sleepy, but I'd chalked that up to the new job and 60 hour work weeks. Been feeling pukey, but I figured that was because of the lack of sleep and stress from the new job.

I didn't FEEL pregnant until I couldn't eat certain foods anymore because the smell made me vomit.

It's different with everyone. Some people pretty much continue life as normal- don't have food aversions or nausea. Most of us aren't that lucky.

However, you can kind of con your body into thinking it's pregnant by mentally focusing on it all the time. I'd wait until your period is a week late. Remember that stressing over it can cause you to be late though.

*crosses fingers for you*

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*Nikki*

I thought DS=Dear Son not Dear Spouse at least that is what it means on the parenting BB I frequent.

Anyhow, it took me like once or twice having sex to get pregnant. I just looked at the calendar and counted 14 days forward from my last cycle end and had some sex and BOOM there it was.
I remember around the time I was supposed to get my next period, I had cramps for many days but no period. That was when the implantation was occuring.

Redlemon

"So, do you two have children?"
"No, but we've been practicing real hard."

And back on-topic, if you are science-minded, my wife was a big fan of "Taking Charge of Your Fertility: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement, and Reproductive Health", by Toni Weschler.

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