snowy

The title pretty much says it all. What bands did your ex kill for you?

In my case, They Might Be Giants are dead to me. My ex listened to them CONSTANTLY. I can't listen to them at all without feeling icky and gross, even 8 years ex post facto. This is really unfortunate as they make a lot of great kids music, but even their sound just makes me feel awful.

How about you?

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LordEden

Evanescence, didn't really like the band that much to begin with, but now it's TURN THAT FUCKING SHIT OFF NAO!

Can't stand to listen to it, ex listening to that and Avril Lavigne on repeat. Ugh.

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Sue

Gin Blossoms.

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Baraka_Guru

Not much.

Thankfully, she had terrible taste. I won't go into detail about her non-musical tastes though. All I can say is that she sometimes annoyed me with song that I would otherwise hate anyway. Oh, and she often made fun of my favourite stuff. (Yes, she was one of those.)

There is one track that reminds me of her. It's "Butterfly" by Crazy Town. She had this thing about butterflies. And there was something that happened in the end that cemented this song as a definite "ruined" for me. If it weren't for that, to me, the song would otherwise be interesting enough---though ultimately unimpressive and inconsequential.

EDIT: Actually, now that I think of it, I'm glad she couldn't stand Alice in Chains, Soundgarden, Nirvana and the Smashing Pumpkins. Fuck her. That shit was mine. It was like my garlic, holy water, and pure sunlight to her vampirism.

*Cranks "Man in the Box"*

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roachboy

portishead. she just liked them to death. no particularly bad memories. she just liked and liked and liked them. um...yeah.
pete yorn. different ex. same process. well that and i saw him get blown off the stage by the p-funk all stars. that didn't help. no it didn't

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dippin

1979 by the smashing pumpkins, most anything by 10,000 maniacs.

Plan9

Interesting. I didn't expect this thread from you, Snowy. I just figured you listened to grunge music and "Sounds of Nature" vol. 33 on repeat.

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And I just accidentally snorted Diet Dr. Pepper trying to imagine our lord and savior Roachboy listening to Crazy Town and being sad/nostalgic.

Yeah, I'm going to hell. Sorry.

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I dunno, I'm a real Grumpy Gus / Debbie Downer / Major A-hole about my former relationships in most aspects, but not the music. I love music. I refuse to let my former partners ruin any music for me. Even though it reminds me of them... I still listen to Aerosmith, Social Distortion, Queen, etc. I have a lot of fond memories associated with those songs and I'm not going to stop listening to them because the girl played swap-a-cock on me (in most cases). I think it's unhealthy to hold that kinda grudge. I feel that's like disdaining from Coke products because your exgirlfriend used to drink it all the time.

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Heh, this all makes me wonder if any of my former partners still listen to the Misfits and other horror punk music. Finding girls that like that style of sound is difficult. Eh, I figure my exwife still listens to it... she willingly went to several 'Fits / Blitzkid concerts with me and danced in the mosh pit with the best of them. I reckon you had to at least accept the Misfits and associated music to even be in a relationship with me. You couldn't really get away from it even when the music was off. The damn smiley Crimson Ghost logo was/is/will be everywhere. T-shirts, stickers, posters, flags, blankets.

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This thread would go along well with a "What music do you listen to during a breakup?" I'd vote for Vandals, 38 Special, and Vladimirs for that one.

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spindles

None that I can think of - perhaps I have killed a few bands for some of my ex's though. Not likely though - I don't think I played anything a lot that they didn't already hate

On a different note - I can't hear Romeo and Juliet by Dire Straits without thinking of my dead cousin (cancer, way too young). It got played at her funeral and the association has well and truly stuck.

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hunnychile

Procol Harum. Never play it ever again esp. Conquistador.

Oh and a few select Dead songs that should remain nameless. He was a major dick wad with the worst taste in music...ever.

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LoganSnake

None at all. My exes either liked my music or I didn't care if they didn't.

The music I liked hasn't been spoiled and the music I didn't like I've forgotten.

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Charlatan

I can't say that any music has been ruined by an ex... That said, whenever I hear Wicked Game by Chris Isaac or Heroes by David Bowie, I get nostalgic for a path that wasn't taken.

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Daniel_

Oddly enough, it's not the music she listened to with my that I went off - because she was a total philistine about music. In 17 years, she bought about 10 CDs TOTAL. I would regularly buy 10 LPs or CDs in a weekend!

As you may have realised, I have been a fan of "Classic Rock" or "Progressive Rock" or whatever it's called this week for some time.

When we split up, she took on all the enthusiasms of her new BF, including several I had been trying to engage her in for many years (like a love of live music). In her case, this manifested as a sudden love of seeing Jethro Tull perform at every opportunity. Consequently, for a couple of years, hearing anything by JT would irritate me.

Unsurprisingly enough, she soon tired of her fake love of live music, and soon after cheated on the BF.

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Wes Mantooth

I can't say that an ex ever ruined a band or music for me either. I have all sorts of music that reminds me of ex's but I can't think of anything that I just cant listen to anymore because of them. I guess when I was younger there was music that reminded me so much of a certain girl...or place that it was almost painful to listen to but in a way I kind of liked it that way. It gave certain sounds and albums whole new emotional range they wouldn't have otherwise.

For example I used to love REM just because I enjoyed their music. After a pretty intense relationship with a girl that seemed to play them constantly I can't listen to REM without being hurled through a gauntlet of emotions. And its not just emotions either the music is so tied to that point in my life that just a few bars and I'm drawn back to places we visited together, I can smell her perfume...the inside of her apartment, I can picture the exact color the foliage was when we first kissed. The relationship ended pretty badly with all the bitterness and hatred you could shake a stick at but somehow rellving those moments, good, bad and ugly...I don't know, there is a bitter sweetness to it and it transports me to another time in my life that has long since disappeared. The could be said for a dozens of different bands and albums, just different scenarios and journys attatched to each. Thats something I really like about music, the imprint it seems to leave on almost everything it touches.

I guess one could say that the experiences changed how and when I listen to certain things, but I no music was killed or ruined in the process. Enhanced maybe?

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settie

Sadly, my ex and I shared a lot of the same music tastes. Luckily, he didn't ruin them all.
I can still listen to them all, but a select few make me think of him...a lot. Haunting memories and whatnot. They are: Incubus, Alkaline Trio, Bad Religion, Bob Seger, Boxcar Racer, Dropkick Murphys, Eve 6, Jim's Big Ego, The Offspring, Reel Big Fish, Stealing Jane, The Suicide Machines, and Third Eye Blind.

little_tippler

I only have one ruined song. It's Destiny by Zero7.

This one song was very strongly connected to an ex and I have bad memories of him and our time together. I still annoyingly like the song but I avoid hearing it if I can.

Other songs will remind me of exes but only in passing. They are not 'ruined' since I still like them and am not put off by hearing them.

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Redlemon

Most of my GFs liked crappy pop music. I associate "Who's Johnny" and the movie Short Circuit with one short-lived relationship, but I can't say I liked the song in the first place, so no real loss.

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Xerxys

Reggae. I cannot stand that fuckin' shit.

mixedmedia

Zappa. I couldn't listen to Zappa for about two years after leaving my ex.
But it came back to me. Now when I listen to Zappa it reminds me of how much has changed for the better. It makes me happy. Jubilant, even.

Charles, Heroes makes me a little wistful even without emotional baggage.

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ZombieSquirrel

TMBG is my favorite band.... :-(

I can't listen to the Kingston Trio or The Recipe without being sad. It's not that they remind me of a horrible relationship. He's not a bad guy. It just makes me miss a part of my life.

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Pearl Trade

My ex loved Avenged Sevenfold. Got me into them, but kinda sucks to hear it now.

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noodle

An ex-friend absolutely killed Avril Lavigne (thank goodness) and Eminem for me by traumatizing me while I tried to sleep in her guest bedroom while she and her gross stalker boyfriend had loud obnoxious sex in the other room. Regularly.

I hate both of them almost as much as Avril Lavigne. Eminem was at least a little entertaining. The other three, not so much.

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yournamehere

That is a good song. Sia Furler's voice is magical.
But listening to the entire Simple Things CD will put you to sleep for sure.

Gotta go with the "none in particular" crowd. I only had one really bad, hateful breakup - but that was in the mid-80s, when there were no good bands anyway.

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hunnychile

You know what....I kinda hate it too. I worked with an illustrator (my boss) who played it ALL DAY LONG on the job. That made me go work elsewhere Fast. It's all so snoozy and the same tempo. BORING!!!!!!

(Though I love being in Jamaica, on the beach - relaxing.....a whole Other realm)

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PonyPotato

I listened to a lot of metal with one ex. I found it amusing then, I still do.. but I hardly listen to any anymore.

I can listen to a few songs associated with you-all-know-who, but not many anymore. I dumped a lot of the music he gave me because I had nothing to associate it with but him. I still listen to Cobra Skulls and the occasional Misfits, but Nim Vind and some others.. eh. I just can't do it. If I had liked the songs before him, maybe, but he introduced me and put some odd images in my head to associate with that music, and I prefer not to experience those memories anymore.

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Glory's Sun

pfft.

go listen to nickleback and shush yo mouth

I don't think any ex has ruined any music for me. I tend to go in spurts with music and listen heavily to different genres for a bit then switch it up to keep it fresh. Music is too good to me to let anyone abuse it and ruin it for me. Doesn't mean there isn't emotional attachment to some of it, but that's not a bad thing either. Music is supposed to invoke emotion.

The_Jazz

The Meat Puppets were playing when my first real serious girlfriend broke up with me and admitted she was cheating on me. Haven't been able to listen to them since.

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Plan9

HAHAHA... this says it all. Oh, I'm dying. See me dying?

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mixedmedia

exactly. I will not let some asshole come between me and my tunez.

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Charlatan

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thirdsun

Ok, I will break my usual lurking silence to comment on this thread.

I have an ex who owned, literally, every Delbert McClinton album he ever recorded. For 3 years I was forced to listen to the loudest, lousiest, booziest bar-scene "Blues" that I have ever had to endure. Now, any bar music or Blues music that approaches even a remote resemblance to Delbert McClinton will have me screaming for silence.

"I've Got Dreams to Remember" has become the nightmare I cannot forget...

thespian86

Jill Barber - which pisses me off.

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snowy

Well, certainly. In my case, I'd never listened to They Might Be Giants before the ex, and I will never listen to them again. They were "his" music. I have some mild associations with him and my music, but they've definitely faded a lot with time. The music I really love he could never ruin, like Pink Floyd's "Dark Side of the Moon", despite the fact we listened to that a lot together.

Charlatan's Venn diagram does a good job of illustrating the problem.

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Starkizzer

I don't really have an ex but Tool is really the only music smrt and I share. And NO ONE, I repeat NO ONE can ruin Tool for me!!! So even if the day comes when we call it splitsville, I will still have my music.

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telekinetic

I haven't had any music ruined by an ex, but I have had one ruined by a job...Muse's album Absolution was the only thing everyone working at my board game store could agree on, so it stayed in the CD player on repeat for MONTHS. I can't enjoy anything on this CD or really anything by Muse.

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Poppinjay

I have one associated with a breakup. Mazzy Star, Fade Into You was on constant spin as my relationship made like the Hindenburg.

Where I work, Miley Cyrus Party in the USA is on tight rotation and I hate the fucking song. And yet I can't look away. It's like a car wreck or Jim Cary movie.

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Toaster126

That's too bad. That's a really fine CD.

In my case, I don't let other people "ruin" music for me. Some songs will sometimes remind me of someone/something/somewhere, but even if my thought process goes negative, that's on me. I don't have anything I like that I've stopped listening to and to be honest I find the concept a little over-dramatic.

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Mync

The Cure for the longest, always use to listen to them together and there songs are pretty lubby dubby anyway haha. I got over it after a few years....

CinnamonGirl

Well, damn. *hides cd*





For the most part, nothing's really been ruined for me... but I'm not very fond of Blues Traveler or ELO anymore. "Evil Woman" is still great, since that was "mine" before we got together, but the entire Out of the Blue album just makes me go "...meh."

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Plan9

On the other hand, I'm glad that my ex partners reinforced my hatred of certain of girly/emo bands... Jane's Addiction, Savage Garden, Coldplay, etc...

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