09-17-2005, 07:44 AM | #41 (permalink) |
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well, the first meeting was not especially meaningful or resonant at all.
She works for my company, in the office building next to mine... through my job I had to speak to her sometimes but I didnt really notice her for a while. After she'd been there a while I thought she was pretty and she seemed pretty nice, although she could used to harrass me a lot to get stuff done for her she was never rude about it. The first thing about her that really struck me was - she was promised a free meal by her boss for meeting sales targets, and me and a guy who works for me do a lot of technical work to bring onboard the people she sets up accounts for... and she said she thought we should both be invited to, and her boss said no, so she said she didnt want a meal if we werent in on it. I told her she was being stupid and she should just take it... but she never got offered it again... Anyway, on the night of my works party - some people may remember a pic I posted, I wore a sarong and won the "fancy dress" prize for it. My prize was some girly bottle of drink... and I gave it to her, and then we drunk it together, and obv both were drunk, and at the end of the night she ended up coming back to mine. In the morning we sort of talkied about it, and I told her that I had been thinking about her for some time (which was true at that point) and we started dating... then we had an argument that kind of spiralled out of control. IMO she is quite a materialistic person, and she is very ambitious and disciplined. I am pretty much the opposite, Im lazy, not ambitious, and the least driven, most easy going person you could meet, and I also have a depressive streak. She basically said a lot of shit about how my life was going nowhere and i just wallowed in self pity, I didnt nothing to help myself out, I was wasting my potential... probably she was aout 75% accurate in what she was saying, but I took it personally and just sort of said "well, since Im such a loser why are we going out?" Cos we work in the same place, I made an effort to stay civil and friendly, and so did she... and think she was genuinely concerned about how things were going for me too.. we went to the movies together a couple of times just as mates... and a few weeks back she had a thing at her house, and she invited me, but it was casual. I was supposed to go but I had to work till 10 pm (having started at 7am!) - and she hit me up about 9 and was like "so, where are you?" and as much as I felt like just going home, having a few beers and crashing out, like the last thing I wanted was to be around people... I went over after work, and I wound up being the last person there. I think I was so worn out, so dispirited and uncertain that night... I wasnt even like "oh Im so depressed" I just felt like I didnt know what to do... I knew I wasnt that happy with my life, but I didnt know why and I didnt know what to do to change anything.... and we stayed up for ages talking, and rather than getting at me and nagging me she was really understanding. A lot of people say Im a good listener, but I felt like it was the first time maybe in a few years I had someone actually there I could actually talk to. Anyway, I bounced that noght and it was like there was a new kind of intimacy between us to a degree. I didnt speak to her at all that week (not deliberate, just didnt see her) - and then on the FRiday I had to go to a black tie event, in London. I hired the gear, but I couldnt figure out how to do the bow tie... I didnt want to ask any of the people I'd come with cos they'd all the rip the piss out of me, so I called her up and told her she was the only person I couldnt think of who wouldnt laugh at me for asking. So she told me, and we talked for about 15 till I had to go downstairs for the thing... the dinner was pretty dull, afterwards I stood around on my own for like 2 hours just watching people in the bar, then met up with the people I came with again and drank till like 4 am, but I wasnt really that wasted. When I got back to my room I just had all these feelinds of tenderness and was thinking about her, so I sent her a text saying I loved her (tacky... I know). She texted me back at about 8. Everyone from my company got taxi's back (despite being like a 3 min walk from Bond Street Tube Station) Bu tI walked up into town, bought her a little present, and then walked across to Tottenham Court Road and caught a tube to Liverpool street and got the train back. Called her when I got back in around lunch, and on the Sunday I took her to a BBQ I was going to, and we've being going out since that. So, there you go... no instant spark, no eyes meeting through the crowded room stuff... but a true modern love story.
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09-17-2005, 01:22 PM | #42 (permalink) |
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JJ and I met in college. I was engaged at the time, but having many problems with the long-distance aspect and my ex-fiance's drinking problem. JJ and I were friends for 2 years, but I was always attracted to him in a 'more than friends' way. Then on my birthday, we all went out. I got really drunk and confessed that I really loved him. The next day I broke off my engagement. Two years after that we were married and here we are today 4 1/2 years later. Eight years fly when you're having fun!
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09-17-2005, 09:02 PM | #43 (permalink) |
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I remember seeing this hottie in one of my classes in college and thinking that I had to find some way to get to know her. I didn't know how to approach her and felt like a complete fool when attempting any conversation with her. I found out she was engaged and my hopes were dashed. She began confiding in me about her issues and I listened and did everything I could to be around her, even if it meant spending 3 hours in a science lab studying rocks between classes.
Then, about 2 years later, she invited me to her birthday celebration. I almost didn't go because I was sulking over the prospect of her marrying someone else. She called me on the phone and told me to get my ass in a cab and get to her party. I did. She drank a lot and started telling her friends that she loved me. I soared. The next day we met for coffee to discuss what we were going to do about it because it didn't feel right that she was engaged. She broke off her engagement and we started dating. 2 years later we were married. That was 4 years ago. It seems like 4 months.
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09-18-2005, 07:05 AM | #44 (permalink) |
Getting it.
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She was working as a waitress in a cocktail bar, when I met her. I picked her out, I shook her up, and turned her around, turned her into someone new.
Now five years later on she's got the world at her feet, success has been so easy for her. She shouldn't forget it's me who put her where she is now... and I can put her back down too.
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09-18-2005, 08:38 AM | #45 (permalink) |
Eat your vegetables
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I was the teacher's aide in Turbotom's senior english class. We were friends for years before we hit it of in a relationship sense. That's not an interesting story at all.
I guess I should add the fact that I was a shy girl who had a crush on him for 2 years before that, just couldn't find the nerve to introduce myself. We were on track together: he was a high-jumper when I was a hurdeler. We were both involved in the music program: he was a band guy when I was in choir. We both attended every football game, and I sat within 5 feet of him nearly every time. Similar interests, but I hadn't put myself in a place to meet him. We didn't really talk, even when I was his TA. I was too busy correcting papers, and I figured he was dating someone. The end of the year came and I had him sign my yearbook. Probably looked odd, he was the only one from that class that I asked to sign. Like a message from heaven above, he somehow decided to leave his e-mail address! It took me about a month to even write! But we became friends through e-mail and ICQ, met his other friends, found a place in his life (albeit minor), and we were still in contact when he went to the bay area for school and I went to another state. Ended up back in town about the same time, we were among the few of the group of friends that was in town. So we hung out nearly every day. Good fun, for a while I gave up on having a relationship, was satisfied with being his friend. But then, unexpectedly, I got attached. It was horrible because he wasn't interested at all. Eventually I started dating other people, at which point he missed having me around, wanted to hang out more. After a few months he finally decided he was ready for a relationship, but I wasn't. Few months of utter chaos for me, constant devotion for him. But that chaos is over, I have figured out what I want. Now, here we are. Together, happy, and trying to figure out life together. Terribly boring story compared to some. But dang, i love this guy and count myself lucky each day that I wake up and realize it's another day that I get to spend with him. For a while there I had given up on the thought of a relationship, figured the friendship was good, didn't want to spoil it. So glad it turned out to be more.
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09-18-2005, 09:10 AM | #47 (permalink) | |
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09-18-2005, 09:11 AM | #48 (permalink) | |
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09-19-2005, 07:07 PM | #50 (permalink) | |
Eat your vegetables
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Don't cry...
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09-19-2005, 07:23 PM | #51 (permalink) |
Condensing fact from the vapor of nuance.
Location: Madison, WI
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I met both my girls on the same night. It was after hours at the comic book store I owned at the time. I was a Storyteller for a Live Action Vampire the Masquerade game, and they had both arrived from out of town to play, having received from a friend one of the mass flyers we had sent out to drum up interest in the game. I was running a Non Player Character that night I had devised to help set up the plot-a hardcore Provisional IRA supporter of the Brujah clan that was trying to undermine the Prince in town (the Prince being The Man of the Vampire world in this game).
I was dressed all in Military BDU's with a bunch of chains and padlocks attached as my costume, and a beret on. Since I speak Gaelic pretty fluently, and have a brogue, it was a natural character for me to play. After the game, we traditionally all went to Perkins to have breakfast at 3 or 4 am, and they started talking to me, as they had a passing interest in Irish politics and culture. The rest, as they say, is history.
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09-21-2005, 07:52 AM | #52 (permalink) |
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Saw my wife across a crowded rink and asked a friend who she was.Next week I asked if I could skate with her and a month later we were engaged. Ten years in, 2 l'il girls later and still going strong. I cannot imagine where my life would have taken me if we hadn't met but I don't ever need to find out either.
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09-21-2005, 05:38 PM | #53 (permalink) |
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One girlfriend I met over the internet. Techinically, we met in a Yahoo chat room. That was back in '97 or so, when it was relatively cool (enough) to chat in a chat room like that (and be 16 years old). We had a great friendship for about 2 years. She lived in Idaho, myself in Florida. In '99, I got with my first girlfriend who I went to school with... that was a nightmare and, after 5 months, finally broke it off (she was abusive and stuff to me). The very next day, while talking to my online female friend, I asked her if she'd be my girlfriend. Three and a half years later, she moved down to live with me. Unfortunately, we only lasted a few months after she moved here, but it's because we "grew up" apart from each other. After a bit, no hard feelings.
Girlfriend number 2, I met at work. From my first day of work, I had an instant love and lust for her... she was wonderful. Well, I worked there for almost a full year before we started going out. She left her (shitty, neglectful) boyfriend to be with me. It lasted 5 months and we broke up for small reasons, basically just weren't compatible (or so I thought... a few months ago, I wished I could have her back, but she's married and moved on and away). After we broke up, we had regular (upwards of 3 or 4 times a week) sex for more than a year. After that, came... Girlfriend number 3 and I met, again, at work (different company by then). She was unhappy with her boyfriend for quite some time, I tried to help her out, she ended up leaving him because of multiple reasons (one of which being the fact she could all but prove 100% he cheated on her... but he was an idiot, and a bad liar, and it was obvious he had). The day after she broke up with him, I took her to get some food after work and sit and chat, which we'd actually done several times before. She vented, I comforted, we ate, we drank. I can take a lot of alcohol, she's a lightweight. She wasn't feeling up to driving, so I said "let's just go watch a movie or soemthing at my house, you know i'm literally one minute around the corner, and you'll have water and we'll chat some more, and when you're good to go, i'll bring you back to your car. You can't drive 25 minutes home with being tipsy like you are." She very much agreed with me, and accepted. We got through part of the movie, and we both agreed we were tired. We decided to go lie down. Well... I wanted to have sex with her, she wanted to have sex with me... it'd been like 2 months without it for me, but something like 6 months for her... and after lying there in the darkness for about 10 minutes, things started happening. We were togther from then on for about 6 months, and then broke up. I still can't figure out exactly why, and right now I'm waiting to see if I can get her back. She's dating someone else right now, only been together for like 2 weeks. I hate to say it, but I hope it doesn't work out... because I think she'd let me come back. I've recently realized that I really do miss her... not just "company", not just "being with someone", but HER. |
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