Can you tell a girl likes you by the way she hugs you? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Jesus Pimp · 05-05-2005, 08:30 PM

Right now I really this girl that I met at a concert. Right now we're just friends. We're actually working on this public art piece together. Now I really like her but I'm not sure if she really likes me. Whenever we meet up to discuss the project, she always gives me these warm tight hugs. I notice she doesn't give her other friends the same kind of hugs. So I'm wondering is this some kind visual cue that she really likes me? Right now I plan on taking it slow with her and just being her friend, but I plan on asking her out on a real date soon. What do you guys think?

skier · 05-05-2005, 09:03 PM

To me it sounds like she's been trying to give you more subtle cues already, that you've missed and these hugs are a "bigger hint" for you. Go for it!

fallsauce · 05-05-2005, 09:51 PM

According to a list, the number one sign for knowing whether a girl likes you or not is if you buy her a drink, and she refuses, she's not into you. Take her to a bar and all will be revealed...

BTW, I'm a girl, and that's pretty true for me, so it holds some merit.

Jesus Pimp · 05-06-2005, 12:57 AM

Actually she's been asking me to buy me drinks. Each time I've refused. LOL! I'm not much of a drinker, not because I don't like her.

healer · 05-06-2005, 01:16 AM

I'd say she likes you dude! The same thing happened to me 1st year Varsity. I really liked this girl, and she gave the best hugs, but I assumed that she was just affectionate that way. Turns out she was really into me - but I only found that out after she'd moved to a new city.

*slaps forehead*

maleficent · 05-06-2005, 04:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Jesus Pimp

Actually she's been asking me to buy me drinks. Each time I've refused. LOL! I'm not much of a drinker, not because I don't like her.

Oh good lord you boys are dumb...

She asks to buy you a drink... Do need a 2x4 in the head? She's clearly wanting to get to know you better.

Here's a news bulletin for you-- bars sell things to drink other than booze...Tell her that aren't much of a drinker, but would enjoy spending time with her.

Janey · 05-06-2005, 05:44 AM

I think that guys want us to hint less, and be more forward. Actually make the first step of demonstrating affection (be it physical or verbal). My theory is that since we tend to be able to turn guys down, and they almost NEVER turn us down, that they are afraid of our power to say no. They therfore do not clue in when we throw encouragement their way (unless they are in their cups a bit, and have reduced inhibitions).

Unfortunately if we are too encouraging, we get labled as 'easy'.

maleficent · 05-06-2005, 05:48 AM

As we've said elsewhere... if there's something that females want - they should just ask for it... In this case, the young lady seems to be asking JJ out.., and because he's not a drinker... he keeps declining.. poor girl is gonna be afraid of rejection.

The guys have got to stop trying to figure out the signals, and guess whether or not something is a signal and just follow their instinct...

guthmund · 05-06-2005, 07:38 AM

Oh boy, whatta maroon.

I'm pretty dense, but when a gal asks you out for a drink (especially a girl that you want to get to know better), well, then you go out for a drink.

Men are so dazed and confused from years of trying to interpret the litany of mixed signals from a myriad of different women that when a clear signal is sent, we tend to short circuit ourselves while searching for the "deeper meaning."

hossified · 05-06-2005, 07:59 AM

when she hugs you, put your hands on her ass and see her reaction. If she laughs you're in there!

jorgelito · 05-06-2005, 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Janey

I think that guys want us to hint less, and be more forward. Actually make the first step of demonstrating affection (be it physical or verbal). My theory is that since we tend to be able to turn guys down, and they almost NEVER turn us down, that they are afraid of our power to say no. They therfore do not clue in when we throw encouragement their way (unless they are in their cups a bit, and have reduced inhibitions).

Unfortunately if we are too encouraging, we get labled as 'easy'.

Janey! You are a genius!! That is exactly it. This is my one hang up in life. I can handle just about anything that comes my ways: natural disaster, unnatural disaster, tragedy you name it. I just can't handle..... chicks. well sort of..

The worst is the "mixed signals" problem. I have made a fool out of myself many a time due to "misinterpreting" a girl's "signals". *groan*

In fact, I'm having the same problem right now and feel like I'm going to implode or explode, we'll see. Can't...figure....her....out... *scratches head* I feel like Stan from freekin' South Park: I want to vomit everytime I'm near this chick and I almost told her that too!

Oops, sorry to ramble, I'm going to bang my head against a wall for an hour or two....

Jesus Pimp · 05-06-2005, 07:28 PM

Ok here's the deal. She sort of has a boyfriend. They have been spending time apart. So it seems like their relationship isn't doing so well. That is mainly the reason I have been hesitating. I went to see her performance last night, and her boyfriend was nowhere in sight. I really want to ask her out, but not sure if it's the right thing to do at this point. Should I just go for it? I really like her. We're meeting again this weekend. Sorry I've been out of the loop for a year and a half.

kramus · 05-06-2005, 07:41 PM

Tell her you want to see her art. Show her yours. Go somewhere for a coffee and bring your sketchbooks. Go out for a drink that night. Later in the evening ask her to model for you. Accept and flirt

and my god man you could be too busy to post for a while

maleficent · 05-06-2005, 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by kramus

Tell her you want to see her art. Show her yours.:

Isn't that the equivelent of showing her your etchings... which in my day, meant - let's go back to my place and screw like bunnies...

Oh.... That was what you meant...

Slick

maleficent · 05-06-2005, 08:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Jesus Pimp

Ok here's the deal. She sort of has a boyfriend. They have been spending time apart. So it seems like their relationship isn't doing so well. That is mainly the reason I have been hesitating. I went to see her performance last night, and her boyfriend was nowhere in sight. I really want to ask her out, but not sure if it's the right thing to do at this point. Should I just go for it? I really like her. We're meeting again this weekend. Sorry I've been out of the loop for a year and a half.

This may be an unpopular stance, but here's my take... the fact that she's got a boyfriend isn't your problem. he doesn't appear to be in the picture right now... You are... Ask her out... Soon... If you don't, someone else will. If she's got this boyfriend and he's still in the picture, she will tell you and that will be that. You lose nothing by trying.

Beefimator · 05-07-2005, 04:27 PM

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Do need a 2x4 in the head?

I know you said that a little bit ago, but yes. That would make life much easier.

777 · 05-07-2005, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by maleficent

This may be an unpopular stance, but here's my take... the fact that she's got a boyfriend isn't your problem. ... Ask her out.

Forgive me if I sound totally clueless, but do you beleive it's cool to ask out a girl if we know she's taken?

maleficent · 05-07-2005, 08:12 PM

Sort of having a boyfriend isn't the same as having a committed relationship.

And yes, i actually do think it's OK, she's not married, and it makes it her choice as to whether to say yes or no...

piesen · 05-08-2005, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by healer

I'd say she likes you dude! The same thing happened to me 1st year Varsity. I really liked this girl, and she gave the best hugs, but I assumed that she was just affectionate that way. Turns out she was really into me - but I only found that out after she'd moved to a new city.

*slaps forehead*

Happened to me also
so dont wait
go for it buddy

spincycle0 · 05-08-2005, 09:21 PM

Go for it. If she has a boyfriend and he didnt come to her play, he's not much a bf anyway. That would have been your ideal opportunity, because she was probably pissed he didnt come out and support her.

superredhead · 05-09-2005, 09:59 AM

ASK HER OUT!!!!! the worst thing she could do is say no. plus, it sounds like shes giving you all the signs that she digs you too. she asks YOU out for drinks, she gives YOU hugs. c'mon now, wake up and smell the cream of wheat!!! ASK HER OUT!

skier · 05-10-2005, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by skier

Go for it!

quoted for truth, and repetition.

If her boyfriend doesn't have what it takes to keep his girl, it's his crappy loss. But if the girl you like doesn't end her current relationship (cheats on him with you), there is a much higher possibility that you'll be cheated on later in your relationship.

tradeoff? maybe. At least ask her to break up with her SO before you fuck.

K-Wise · 05-10-2005, 06:02 PM

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Originally Posted by maleficent

As we've said elsewhere... if there's something that females want - they should just ask for it... In this case, the young lady seems to be asking JJ out.., and because he's not a drinker... he keeps declining.. poor girl is gonna be afraid of rejection.

The guys have got to stop trying to figure out the signals, and guess whether or not something is a signal and just follow their instinct...

Or how about we just do away with the stupid "signals" and "signs" all together and just tell each other how we really feel already? I'd have had a LOT more relationships if that was the case. But for some reason it's always the man who has to put himself on the line and set himself up for rejection.

I don't care what anyone says about "It's not the end of the world..blah blah blah." It still sucks! And any guy saying it doesn't is a liar. Plain and simple. It's pretty selfish that we always have to be the ones to set ourselves up to be turned down. The only times I've ever ACTUALLY walked up to a girl and asked her number after she goes out of her way to get to know me I find out she has a b/f.

I've grown rather tired of games and don't really have the time or patience for them anymore. /end rant

To the topic at hand. I guess you should ask her out and see what happens man. Good luck

Asta!!

lindseylatch · 05-10-2005, 06:10 PM

Man, I'm not into stealin' chicks for other guys, but this girl is THROWING herself at you!! Go for it!
She's probably one of those girls that has a hard time not being in a relationship, so she sort of stringing this other guy along until she know's she's got you on the hook. (I don't mean that in the horrible way it sounds...)

kramus · 05-10-2005, 06:20 PM

I was girl shy and I was 16 when this amazingly beautiful hot bright little girl asked me out to the Sadie Hawkins dance (the traditional 'girls ask guys out' highschool dance night). I was 47 when I separated from her last fall. 31 years is a pretty good run IMHO. Your lady has asked you out. Take it for a ride man, home run World Series level could happen to You!

Lead543 · 05-10-2005, 06:24 PM

I don't hug boys I think are gross, and I don't hug boys when I have a boyfriend. I do hug boys who I think are cute and I do hug boys tightly when I'm rather fond of them. Ask her to do something low key, like drawing each other nude titanic style or coffee, whichever you prefer. Gooood luck!

K-Wise · 05-10-2005, 06:25 PM

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Originally Posted by kramus

I was girl shy and I was 16 when this amazingly beautiful hot bright little girl asked me out to the Sadie Hawkins dance (the traditional 'girls ask guys out' highschool dance night). I was 47 when I separated from her last fall. 31 years is a pretty good run IMHO. Your lady has asked you out. Take it for a ride man, home run World Series level could happen to You!

Thats awesome man!

Asta!!

soundmotor · 05-10-2005, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by lindseylatch

Man, I'm not into stealin' chicks for other guys, but this girl is THROWING herself at you!! Go for it!
She's probably one of those girls that has a hard time not being in a relationship, so she sort of stringing this other guy along until she know's she's got you on the hook. (I don't mean that in the horrible way it sounds...)

Hmmmm, anyone stop & think this might be a move to get BF to pay more attention to her? My own rule of thumb from the vault is this: BF = NG. Did not matter if they are in a committed relationship or an open one, it was an instant DQ for me. She is either in or out of the relationship. Anything in-between is not worth science'ing out as there are other girls out there with their heads on straight.

soundmotor

K-Wise · 05-10-2005, 06:43 PM

^ Yeah all of my past experiances with girls who already have b/f's but show (or at least I thought they did) genuine interest have ended bad. I'd hate to discourage him if he really does have a chance though.

Asta!!

Jesus Pimp · 05-10-2005, 07:59 PM

Thanks guys for your comments. I think I'm going to just go with the flow and see how things go. Well I had a double dose of her today. We met up for lunch. I showed her where I worked. She really liked the place where I worked. We then headed to a sushi restaurant. We talked way past my lunch break. I barely ate any food. Luckily my bosses are cool and know I'm trying to get with this girl. Later we meet up at a show to see one of our friend's band play. I remember why I hate bars. Too many fucking people. I hate competing with other people for someone's attention. Luckily I got sit with her during the show and talk. It was too damn loud though. I like more intimate settings. Her so called bf was nowhere in sight. He must not like to get out much. Well I get see her again on sunday.

kramus · 05-10-2005, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Jesus Pimp

Thanks guys for your comments. I think I'm going to just go with the flow and see how things go. Well I had a double dose of her today. We met up for lunch. I showed her where I worked. She really liked the place where I worked. We then headed to a sushi restaurant. We talked way past my lunch break. I barely ate any food. Luckily my bosses are cool and know I'm trying to get with this girl. Later we meet up at a show to see one of our friend's band play. I remember why I hate bars. Too many fucking people. I hate competing with other people for someone's attention. Luckily I got sit with her during the show and talk. It was too damn loud though. I like more intimate settings. Her so called bf was nowhere in sight. He must not like to get out much. Well I get see her again on sunday.

05-05-2005, 08:30 PM	#1 (permalink)
Jesus Pimp The Original JizzSmacka	Can you tell a girl likes you by the way she hugs you? Right now I really this girl that I met at a concert. Right now we're just friends. We're actually working on this public art piece together. Now I really like her but I'm not sure if she really likes me. Whenever we meet up to discuss the project, she always gives me these warm tight hugs. I notice she doesn't give her other friends the same kind of hugs. So I'm wondering is this some kind visual cue that she really likes me? Right now I plan on taking it slow with her and just being her friend, but I plan on asking her out on a real date soon. What do you guys think? __________________ Never date anyone who doesn't make your dick hard.

05-05-2005, 09:03 PM	#2 (permalink)
skier Rawr! Location: Edmontania	To me it sounds like she's been trying to give you more subtle cues already, that you've missed and these hugs are a "bigger hint" for you. Go for it! __________________ "Asking a bomb squad if an old bomb is still "real" is not the best thing to do if you want to save it." - denim

05-05-2005, 09:51 PM	#3 (permalink)
fallsauce Insane	According to a list, the number one sign for knowing whether a girl likes you or not is if you buy her a drink, and she refuses, she's not into you. Take her to a bar and all will be revealed... BTW, I'm a girl, and that's pretty true for me, so it holds some merit. __________________ "Hey little kitty with your tail dragging on the floor You could have a following in every town that you go" Electric Six - I Invented The Night

05-06-2005, 12:57 AM	#4 (permalink)
Jesus Pimp The Original JizzSmacka	Actually she's been asking me to buy me drinks. Each time I've refused. LOL! I'm not much of a drinker, not because I don't like her. __________________ Never date anyone who doesn't make your dick hard.

05-06-2005, 05:48 AM	#8 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	As we've said elsewhere... if there's something that females want - they should just ask for it... In this case, the young lady seems to be asking JJ out.., and because he's not a drinker... he keeps declining.. poor girl is gonna be afraid of rejection. The guys have got to stop trying to figure out the signals, and guess whether or not something is a signal and just follow their instinct... __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

05-06-2005, 01:16 AM	#5 (permalink)
healer Found my way back Location: South Africa	I'd say she likes you dude! The same thing happened to me 1st year Varsity. I really liked this girl, and she gave the best hugs, but I assumed that she was just affectionate that way. Turns out she was really into me - but I only found that out after she'd moved to a new city. slaps forehead

05-06-2005, 05:44 AM	#7 (permalink)
Janey Junkie Location: Toronto	I think that guys want us to hint less, and be more forward. Actually make the first step of demonstrating affection (be it physical or verbal). My theory is that since we tend to be able to turn guys down, and they almost NEVER turn us down, that they are afraid of our power to say no. They therfore do not clue in when we throw encouragement their way (unless they are in their cups a bit, and have reduced inhibitions). Unfortunately if we are too encouraging, we get labled as 'easy'.

05-06-2005, 07:38 AM	#9 (permalink)
guthmund big damn hero	Oh boy, whatta maroon. I'm pretty dense, but when a gal asks you out for a drink (especially a girl that you want to get to know better), well, then you go out for a drink. Men are so dazed and confused from years of trying to interpret the litany of mixed signals from a myriad of different women that when a clear signal is sent, we tend to short circuit ourselves while searching for the "deeper meaning." __________________ No signature. None. Seriously. Last edited by guthmund; 05-06-2005 at 09:08 AM..

05-06-2005, 07:59 AM	#10 (permalink)
hossified face f$cker Location: canada	when she hugs you, put your hands on her ass and see her reaction. If she laughs you're in there!

05-06-2005, 07:28 PM	#12 (permalink)
Jesus Pimp The Original JizzSmacka	Ok here's the deal. She sort of has a boyfriend. They have been spending time apart. So it seems like their relationship isn't doing so well. That is mainly the reason I have been hesitating. I went to see her performance last night, and her boyfriend was nowhere in sight. I really want to ask her out, but not sure if it's the right thing to do at this point. Should I just go for it? I really like her. We're meeting again this weekend. Sorry I've been out of the loop for a year and a half. __________________ Never date anyone who doesn't make your dick hard.

05-06-2005, 07:41 PM	#13 (permalink)
kramus loving the curves Location: my Lady's manor	Tell her you want to see her art. Show her yours. Go somewhere for a coffee and bring your sketchbooks. Go out for a drink that night. Later in the evening ask her to model for you. Accept and flirt and my god man you could be too busy to post for a while __________________ And now to disengage the clutch of the forebrain ... I'm going with this - if you like artwork visit http://markfineart.ca

05-07-2005, 08:12 PM	#18 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	Sort of having a boyfriend isn't the same as having a committed relationship. And yes, i actually do think it's OK, she's not married, and it makes it her choice as to whether to say yes or no... __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

05-08-2005, 09:21 PM	#20 (permalink)
spincycle0 Upright	Go for it. If she has a boyfriend and he didnt come to her play, he's not much a bf anyway. That would have been your ideal opportunity, because she was probably pissed he didnt come out and support her.

05-09-2005, 09:59 AM	#21 (permalink)
superredhead Crazy Location: Around So Cal.	ASK HER OUT!!!!! the worst thing she could do is say no. plus, it sounds like shes giving you all the signs that she digs you too. she asks YOU out for drinks, she gives YOU hugs. c'mon now, wake up and smell the cream of wheat!!! ASK HER OUT! __________________ yawn

05-10-2005, 06:10 PM	#24 (permalink)
lindseylatch Addict Location: Seattle, WA	Man, I'm not into stealin' chicks for other guys, but this girl is THROWING herself at you!! Go for it! She's probably one of those girls that has a hard time not being in a relationship, so she sort of stringing this other guy along until she know's she's got you on the hook. (I don't mean that in the horrible way it sounds...) __________________ "Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities" "If God did not exist, it would be necessary to invent him." "It is dangerous to be right when the government is wrong." -Voltaire

05-10-2005, 06:20 PM	#25 (permalink)
kramus loving the curves Location: my Lady's manor	I was girl shy and I was 16 when this amazingly beautiful hot bright little girl asked me out to the Sadie Hawkins dance (the traditional 'girls ask guys out' highschool dance night). I was 47 when I separated from her last fall. 31 years is a pretty good run IMHO. Your lady has asked you out. Take it for a ride man, home run World Series level could happen to You! __________________ And now to disengage the clutch of the forebrain ... I'm going with this - if you like artwork visit http://markfineart.ca

05-10-2005, 06:24 PM	#26 (permalink)
Lead543 Registered User Location: Calgary	I don't hug boys I think are gross, and I don't hug boys when I have a boyfriend. I do hug boys who I think are cute and I do hug boys tightly when I'm rather fond of them. Ask her to do something low key, like drawing each other nude titanic style or coffee, whichever you prefer. Gooood luck!

05-10-2005, 06:43 PM	#29 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	^ Yeah all of my past experiances with girls who already have b/f's but show (or at least I thought they did) genuine interest have ended bad. I'd hate to discourage him if he really does have a chance though. Asta!! __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

05-10-2005, 07:59 PM	#30 (permalink)
Jesus Pimp The Original JizzSmacka	Thanks guys for your comments. I think I'm going to just go with the flow and see how things go. Well I had a double dose of her today. We met up for lunch. I showed her where I worked. She really liked the place where I worked. We then headed to a sushi restaurant. We talked way past my lunch break. I barely ate any food. Luckily my bosses are cool and know I'm trying to get with this girl. Later we meet up at a show to see one of our friend's band play. I remember why I hate bars. Too many fucking people. I hate competing with other people for someone's attention. Luckily I got sit with her during the show and talk. It was too damn loud though. I like more intimate settings. Her so called bf was nowhere in sight. He must not like to get out much. Well I get see her again on sunday. __________________ Never date anyone who doesn't make your dick hard. Last edited by Jesus Pimp; 05-10-2005 at 08:03 PM..