Why do i get off pissing people off a.k.a being a smart ass?
 

I'm 24 now, all my life I've always been a smart ass, always challenging and arguing with people over things until they give up. For some odd reason I seem to enjoy it. I get this andrenaline rush almost. This obviously cannot be good or is it? What can I do?

No,

It's generally not good. It makes it hard to get and keep a good job and hard to keep friends.

It sounds like you enjoy the thrill of competition. That in and of itself is not bad, you need to find another outlet for it.

i don't see how it can be a "bad" thing unless you take it too far and lose friendships over it or hurt other relationships. otherwise, it's fun. i do it all the time... i guess i'm just an ass at heart, but argueing is fun, especially with friends if it's kept lighthearted.

As anyone who knows me well, I can attest , have a sharp and wise as way of looking at things, but being over 40 now, the one thing to learn about this behavior is, there is a time and a place for it.

use more self control, calm down when you get that urge...think about how other people might think about you or feel when you do this or let one of your friends tell you the truth about what they think about you 'getting off' when you piss other people off.

Try something that's more fun and much harder than pissing people off by being a smart ass. Try to learn to be a massive smart ass, who doesn't piss people off. It's much more fun.

An example. Lori is a friend of mine, none of our friends get along with her sister Chris. If they even look at her cross eyed, she goes into fits. The girl is really really hard to get along with, or joke around with. I had all their jaws hanging on the floor because the very first thing I said to her was basically that she didn't have much of a chest compaired to her sisters. Then I proceeded to spend the rest of the night making fun of her. She loved it, I didn't say any of it in a mean spirited way, was laughing the whole time, making fun of myself and her both. I blew everyones mind, there's no way that she would have taken a single one of those comments from anyone else, but I made hundreds of them.

I pissed off tons of people learning how to be this way, but now days I can get away with so much it's amazing, and fun as hell too. Every once in a while when I go over the line, and someone is having a bad day, they get a little pissed about it. I don't want to really make anyone mad, or hurt their feelings so I try to apologize usually. The only thing is, I don't usually get the chance, they almost always apologize to me before I can tell them I'm sorry. It blows my mind, they feel really horrible usually, and I'm the one that's being a dick or smartass.

The only thing I'd say is that you should consider closely why you enjoy pissing people off. It might be related to some kind of inferiority complex. I'm getting rid of a friend of mine right now because he refuses to see this, and it's gotten really annoying. Put a leash on it, and bring it out in the presence of people you don't like. More effective that way. I used to be a massive smart ass, but got my ego knocked down a few bars, and feel better.

its fine if you dont like having any friends.

I'm the same way. Its because youre smarter than them and they never appreciate the depth of the jokes that you make. I fixed it though, use that creative energy to charm the ladies instead. It works alot better.