saleenobsessed

I'm having a problem with my parents. They hate my boyfriend and they will not tell me why, they just say they have a feeling, but the truth is i've never been that happy. But heres the problem. last night we got to my house, my boyfriend and I, and my mom started to lecture and yell at us. Well my moms boyfriend basicly yelled at my boyfriend and told him to get the F*ck out of the house, and i like went to the door to leave. My moms boyfriend Grabed me and hit my side. When we let me go i ran to my boyfriend and my moms boyfreind said if i left the house i couldn't come back home. i ran out of the house scared to death, i didn't even put shoes on. I drove to my friend's house and talked to my mom there. she basicly told me if i told anyone that he hit me i couldn't come back home. What should i do.

GSRIDER

HOLY SHIT, why the fuck is she trying to protect him!?!?!?

That's bullshit and should not have happened to you.

Out of curiosity how long has your mom been w/ her BF?

How did he hit you? closed fist, slap, slam?

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Cynthetiq

IMHO if you don't like their rules, move out of their house.

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irseg

By all means get the hell out! Your mom doesn't deserve to have you around, and make it clear that you will have nothing to do with her unless she dumps her boyfriend. Force her to choose one or the other, because she can't have both now that he hit you.

And since your mom and boyfriend are obviously not very interested in defending you, I'd suggest calling the cops and reporting the guy. That, or get someone to beat his ass.

WarWagon

You made the right move in leaving the house. I would have personally called the police and told them exactly what happened. If you have a bruise or anything like that, I would also take several pictures. It sounds as though your mothers boyfriend has control over her and is manipulating her in one way or another, which is why she feels the need to defend him.

It doesn't matter if you were screaming at him at the top of your lungs or doing anything else for that matter, the INSTANT any man lays his hands on you is the instant that they've crossed the line. You don't deserve to live in an environment thats verbally abusive yet alone physically abusive, and they obviously dont deserve to have you around. I also think it would be a good idea to tell your story to your friends parents or another group of adults whom you trust.

mystmarimatt

Yeah. It's time to call in the authorities, that is in no way acceptable.

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raeanna74

Yes call the authorities. He has no right to treat you that way whether he's a parent, boyfriend or anyone. If he's treating you this way who knows what he may HAVE done or COULD do to your mom. You might be helping her out. If she won't let you come home there are many goverment rescources to help out teens, adults, and mom's alike in a situation like this. Just ask the cops to direct you to the right place. Ask your friends or your boyfriends parents if you can crash at one of their places until you get things sorted out. I wish you good luck and plenty of strength. Even if your mom and her boyfriend don't approve of your boyfriend at least he's not hitting you. They have no right to treat you that way. Hugs hon. I hope things turn out. It may be a long road but your even questioning this shows you have the strength to take it on.

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sexymama

I assume you are 18 or you wouldn't be a member of tfp. Do what you can to move out as you don't deserve that treatment. However, don't move in with your boyfriend -- your mom might just be right. Give that time before deciding.

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Yalaynia

Yeah I agree with everone else here. Call the police and get your boyfriend to stand up for you I am assuming that he was there to see this. Your mothers boyfriend doesnt have the right to say anything to you as to what you are doing much less lay a finger on you. Your mother is also very stupid for standing there and letting him hit you. Dont let your mothers threats of her telling you that you are not welcome back if you tell worry you it sounds like shes more afraid of what might happen to her if you do. I honestly do not think it would be smart for you to go home and try and work things out because hes done this once to you he very well might do it again and the results could be even worse. Tell someone now before that happens.

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saleenobsessed

I have been staying at my friends house for now, but im going to have to go home to get more of my shit. I can't move out right now until i graduate basicly. I dont know what to do. I'm reporting it today, but i do not have any physical bruises, but i do have like a swollen part on m y hip. He hit me with a closed fist. But I think my friend is sick of me staying at her house. MY boyfriend did see it and did defend me but now im out of ideas, i have no where else to go other than home.

denim

Report the bastid. If you're under 18, you mom can't kick you out as far as I know. If you're over 18... I dunno.

I find it amusing that they have a problem with your BF, but it's your Mom's BF who's hitting you. Sounds like a case of projection. Free your mom of her asshole BF!

If she just needs a cock, get her a vibrator. No, I wouldn't do that either. Still.

raeanna74

When you report it tell the cops about your predicament regarding housing. They should have some ideas or suggestions for you. They deal with this kind of situation more often than you may realize. There should be a shelter in town where you might get a hand in finding a place to sleep till you graduate. Good Luck.

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It sounds like you are old enough to be out on your own now, anyhow. If you are broke, get a job. I am sure that you could find another place to stay. Obviously your mom is listening to her boyfriend more than you and that her boyfriend is abusive and you shouldn't have to take that. I know it's scary to move out of the house and be on your own, especially if you don't know where you're going, but it's a lot better than being scared or abused by somebody, especially when you are in the same house as them. My advice- take the bold step of hightailing it out of there. You don't have to take the neglet.

powerclown

Just to play Devils Advocate, what if the boyfriend is a loser? As a parent, wouldn't you want to keep your kid away from deadbeats and troublemakers? What if he's a drug dealer? What if he slaps her around a little himself? Maybe her mom was just putting her foot down and trying to be a good parent, gasp!!!

That's the problem with these boards...you only ever hear one side of the story.

denim

The point is that her mom's BF hit her. Her BF didn't.

Jam

hows your boyfriends parents? do they have a spare room?

Zander

Go insane, don't listen to anything your parents say, and eventually they may start to respect you as a person. Do not depend on them for anything, get a job, live with a friend, do whatever it takes to let them know that they are not in control of your life.

agball

I am a parent and would advise you to seek some help from the athorities at your school. Dont know if this was your first abusive incident , but if it was its likely to get worse. Seek some help now before it get more violent. good luck & dont blame yourself