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Four Fingers 12-06-2003 12:30 PM

The one thing your parents forgot to say.
 
How would you react if you discovered tomorrow that you were adopted as a baby? Is it really important for you to know that the ones that raised you are also your biological parents?

anti fishstick 12-06-2003 12:56 PM

well my mom raised me as a single mom for the first 3 years of my life. then married a man i call 'dad'. but he had to go thru all the paperwork to legally adopt me. i'm half adopted! i've never met my biological father.

spived2 12-06-2003 01:30 PM

No way that I'm adopted. I look just like my dad and we both share a lot of the same interests.

Averett 12-06-2003 01:37 PM

No way, look just like my Dad. I'm exactly like my dad's side of the family.

World's King 12-06-2003 02:05 PM

I am way more attractive then my parents. It's possible. It doesn't matter but it is possible.

Cherry 12-06-2003 02:17 PM

No, I've managed to develop the neuroses of both parents.

I was definitely hatched. ;)

Bloodslick 12-06-2003 02:17 PM

I have too many shared features from my parents to be adopted. Don't think I'd care. They're wonderful folks who tried as hard as they could to understand me, and still do.

Rodney 12-06-2003 02:23 PM

I share features from both my mother and father -- mom's coloration, eyes, and mouth; dad's nose, height, fine hair, and height. So it's not likely. If I was told that I was adopted, however:

1) It wouldn't surprise me. My family keeps secret. My mom married briefly and divorced before meeting my dad, and she kept it a secret from my sister and me until we were in our 30s. Like we cared, but she thought it was a great shame.

2) It wouldn't bother me. You are the children of the people who raise you, if they commit to being your parents. That's how I feel. If I knew I had a biological parent out there, I might wonder. But honestly, he or she would be a stranger. I wouldn't bother unless I was having weird health problems and wanted to find out if my line had hereditary problems. Even then, I'd be fine working through intermediaries if that was the best way to go.

The_Dude 12-06-2003 02:47 PM

I'm pretty sure I'm not adopted.

Evil Milkman 12-06-2003 02:50 PM

It's an odd day when I'm walking in a grocery store or something and someone doesn't ask if I'm my mom's kid. No, well, not really, but I really look like my parents.

skier 12-06-2003 07:33 PM

i don't really look like my parents, but i really wouldn't care if i were adopted- they are the people that raised me, cared for me, stuck it through thick and thin, and are still completely supportive of all my efforts. I love them utterly and completely. They are my true mother and father (even if I were an adopted kid)

Mr. Spacemonkey 12-06-2003 07:47 PM

I highly doubt I'm adopted. But if I did find out that I was adopted, I really don't think it would mean shit. Parents are the people that raised you as far as I'm concerned. I might be a little curious as to who my biological parents are but I don't think I would care if I ever met them.

SabrinaFair 12-06-2003 08:57 PM

Couldn't be. Too strong a resemblance; daddy's strong build and high forehead, mama's colouring and smile, my grandmother's nose. Not only do I look like my mama, but I look like my mama's mama and my mama's sisters. If I hear, "Are you one of them Price girls?" one more time...

I wouldn't care if I were adopted though. My parents are cool. Like, I'm the girl with the cool parents who always have an open door to their kid's friends and know when to back off. I'm really grateful that I have them as parents.

amonkie 12-06-2003 11:34 PM

I know I'm not adopted when I'm with my two older cousins, and everyone asks us if I'm their sister- family resemblance runs pretty strong.

forseti-6 12-06-2003 11:48 PM

It sure would explain a lot....

Jam 12-07-2003 02:33 AM

i have an identical twin.

slimshaydee 12-07-2003 04:09 AM

I'd kick their ass, then get my ass kicked for kicking their ass.

Harshaw 12-07-2003 06:56 AM

I look just like my dad. I looked through his old high school year book once, it was a little scarry, he looked exactly like I did.

yellowgowild 12-07-2003 10:28 AM

I would love it if I didn't carry my family's genetic predisposition towards asthma and complete lack of commen sense, but the signs are there. I can feel my parents in my blood.

diddagirl 12-07-2003 04:29 PM

Yeah I definitly know I am not adopted.......look exactly like my sis and bro. But if I was.. I dont think I would care. I echo what everyone else says, that your parents are the people that raise you. The ones that care for you, and love you, so whether they actually gave birth to you are not, seems irrelevant to me.

numist 12-07-2003 04:59 PM

Wheres the option for: "I wish I was adopted so I'd know that I have a real family waiting for me somewhere"?

Meh, I'm not adopted, but I can dream, can't I?

skysooner 12-07-2003 07:20 PM

Adoption is a great thing (my sister is just about to adopt a girl from China). However, I am biological. I look a bunch like my dad and have my mom's brains.

frozenstellar 12-07-2003 10:19 PM

i'm not adopted, neither is my older brother - if it wasnt for the 3 years between us, we'd pass for twins. however, my younger brother i'm convinced is adopted.

doesnt look like mum or dad - no similar features (hair, eyes, face, height.. nothing)
doesnt have any character traits similar to them
both me and my older brother are both well above average intelligence - he struggles at everything except sport (none of us excel at sport except for him)

either that or my real brother is out there someone because they got switched at birth.. *shrug*

phredgreen 12-07-2003 11:32 PM

i have many of the strange traits that belong to my mother's side of the family, and i have my father's build, so i'm pretty sure i'm my parents' child.

analog 12-07-2003 11:49 PM

Biological here.

If it turned out they weren't my real parents, it'd probably fuck me over quite a bit, because they've done a lot... A LOT... to help me out, and if they weren't blood, i'm not sure i could mentally reconcile such kindness and giving.

MSD 12-08-2003 11:05 AM

I checked up on 60 various genetic traits for a bio class, and all matched perfectly. I look like both of my parents, and have the same blood type (O-)

punx1325 12-08-2003 01:00 PM

I have pictures of my birth so I'm pretty sure I'm not adopted.

seaker 12-08-2003 06:02 PM

My father told me I was shit on a rock and the sun made me grow. Knowing my parents, I don't think they would have scraped shit from a rock so I am more than likely theirs. I think I would have loved being told I was adopted...with parents like mine...I spent alot of time thinking about what it would be like to have different ones.

Not having been adopted, I'm not sure if I would "need to know". From so many of these shows that reunite family members, it sure seems likely that there is an underlying curiousity, something you can't put your finger on, but you know there's something missing in your life. Curious...

CS733t 12-08-2003 10:10 PM

It wouldn't really affect me, other than the fact that my father passed away...I'd be interested to know i had another.

absorbentishe 12-09-2003 06:16 AM

I don't think it would bother me if I were adopted. A good friend in HS was, he was way better off, and his adoptive parents were super cool. Now, I look too much like my brothers to not be my parents child. Lucky me, or lucky my wife, how ever you'd like to take that.

dy156 12-09-2003 07:38 AM

You can pick your friends and pick your nose, but unfortunately you can't pick your relatives.

I'm my parent's biological son, and for awhile, I wished I had been adopted. My parents have lots of financial and mental and physical health problems. And there's a family history of heart problems.

Then I realized, when God was handing out souls, I could have been given to parents in a lot worse shape than middle class white folks in America, regardless of their other issues, and I have alot for which to be thankful.

Sho Nuff 12-09-2003 08:55 AM

My mother often cringes when I walk into a room because I look so much like my father. "My god you look so much like him i just want to punch you in the face." We walk, talk and dress alike often. Plus we both love caddies and we love the ladies. That may not be genetic but reinforces the genetics none the less.

ashap 12-09-2003 09:57 AM

I don't think it would matter to me. I'd rather have a good family experience whether it be biological or adopted. I know quite a few people that may have done better with adoptive parents rather than their natural ones. Oh well - go figure.

Reese 12-10-2003 05:33 AM

I'm a clone of my dad. Only way to tell us apart is the beard and hair color.

There's something I find funny though. People always say my half-sister looks like my dad before they know she's not his biological father.

I've always wondered if I would treat a full sister or brother any differently than my half and step sisters. I don't think I would :/

la petite moi 12-10-2003 10:12 AM

No way I was adopted. I get my fat genes and my round face from my mother, and my weird green eyes from my dad.

Jonsgirl 12-10-2003 04:48 PM

Nope. I'm 150% my parent's child. I don't think it'd matter too much if I did find out I was adopted, though. I love my parents and they love me, and that's good enough.

macro 12-10-2003 11:48 PM

I look like my mum's side of the family and my brothers look like me. There could be no way. I'm sure life would be different for me if I was...for better or for worse.

Dano069 12-11-2003 12:09 PM

I am adopted
 
Last year, at age 40, I found out I was adopted! My brother, who's 46, found out at a family wedding, where the alcohol was flowing freely. (He was also adopted. We are NOT related in any way, different birth parents for each of us) Now, my dad died in '79 and mom died in '91. You THINK that someone would have said something in those 11 years between when mom died and we found out.

I've found my birth mom, but, she doesn't want anything to do with me. Not that THAT is gonna stop me! :D I sent her a Christmas card with a family (my family) photo and my work number right after Thanksgiving. Haven't heard back from her yet.

As for how I felt, it was pretty funny to start with. My brother has red hair and looks nothing like me. We used to joke with one another growing up that he was the milkman's kid and I was the beer driver's kid. Most amusing, in a sick, twisted sort of way. Oh well, at least I'm not related to any of my crazy aunts! :crazy: ;)

Cycler 12-11-2003 05:26 PM

Well I know I wasn't adopted, maybe cloned from my father but even if I was adopted I wouldn't care my parents did a spetacular job.

seethreepo 12-11-2003 05:47 PM

I wasnt adopted but my parents tell me I am ...


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