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IC3 · 10-19-2003, 10:47 AM

I had no idea of where to put this...Move if necessary..Thanks.

Something has been bothering me and I think I have it figured out, but not totally sure.

The girl that I have been sleeping with has been kept a bit of a secret from certain people..And one of those certain people found out that we were sleeping together.

When she found out, She was pissed. At first I was confused, Why would she be pissed off and stop talking to me cause I was sleeping with a girl that she doesn't even get along that well with? She totally ignores me when we may happen to see eachother at a friends house or where ever. It's not like I was keeping this a huge secret from her...It's just that I never really talk about the girls i'm sleeping with to other girls.

The only thing I can think of is that she liked me before she found this out...Why else would she act like I don't even exist anymore?

Last weekend, I am sitting out on the step of my buddy's place and I see lorissa coming up the sidewalk...She walked right past me without even saying anything. I have had enough of her little attitude. My friend is not even dating this chick and he is so pussy whipped by her...He will do anything for her. She is a very attractive girl...But i am not gonna bend over backwards just to make lorissa happy.

I really enjoyed hangin out with her and she was pretty cool, But I am seeing a whole new side of her...I don't think there is anyway of me fixing this.

So does this sound like maybe she had a little crush on me or something? If not, Then why else would she be pissed at me?

I would like to fix things between us, but I doubt it will work.

Oh ya...And the girl that I was sleeping with is gone now, She was the one who told lorissa about the 2 of us...After I asked her to just keep quiet about the whole thing.

Baldrick · 10-19-2003, 11:12 AM

Sounds like you got caught in the middle of a spat between the two of them - throw logic out the window. If Lorissa thinks so little of you to play the hate/ignore game, simply because you were seeing one of her "enemies", do you really need her friendship?

sexymama · 10-19-2003, 01:16 PM

Talk to Lorissa. Ask her what she is feeling and really listen. Maybe it is about your "bed buddy" -- maybe it is something completely different. You'll never know if you don't ask.

rainheart · 10-19-2003, 01:37 PM

That is just bullshit, don't put up with her attitude. If she wants to be immature about it and ignore you like you've done something unspeakably terrible to her, then take the aggressive stance and just don't put up with her shit.

Make her come to you and say that she's sorry, imo that seems like the appropriate conclusion to come to.

Journeyman · 10-19-2003, 02:08 PM

I can see your point, but the enemy of my enemy is my friend, what is the friend of my enemy?

I'm curious as to what the girl you're sleeping with did to be so hated by your friend.

IC3 · 10-19-2003, 05:10 PM

Ok...Lorissa is my friend and Katrina is the girl that I was sleeping with.

It's not that they hate eachother, They just don't hang out...I get the feeling that lorissa doesn't like her too much...But we have all partied together...So they can't hate eachother too much.

I don't really care about katrina, She pissed me off when she opened her mouth...If at all possible, I would like to try and patch things up with lorissa....I am still pissed at lorissa for being so childish...But I want to find out why she is acting the way she is.

Katrina is the one that didn't want certain people knowing about us...And I respected her wishes by not saying anything, Then she turns around and opens her mouth when I asked of the same thing from her...I hate when people do that.

guthmund · 10-20-2003, 12:01 AM

I think you're just in the wrong place at the wrong time, little brud'ah.

Katrina broke the "code of silence" to tell a girl she doesn't like? Sounds like she did it on purpose. Maybe she "sixth-sensed" Lorissa's crush on you (women seem to have an uncanny ability to do this) and told Lorissa just to hurt her. Lorissa is naturally upset because a-you didn't tell her; b-you did with Katrina, who Lorissa doesn't really like either.

Of course, I'm neither a mentalist, nor do I know any of you guys personally. I am just a guy on the Internet who, at times, is just as full of shit as everyone else.

wry1 · 10-20-2003, 08:44 PM

You need to stop dating girls, and start dating women.

There is a difference....

Girls get into these petty little bitch-fests and tend to do the whole hate/ignore or overdo it with the affection when there's a scene to be made. Women, on the other hand, are more reserved with their behavior - but if you piss them off, you're gonna' know it, buster! Look for some maturity in your next girlfriend/bed-buddy/FWB...whatever. It makes a whole lotta' difference down the road.

10-19-2003, 10:47 AM	#1 (permalink)
IC3 Poison Location: Canada	Friend is pissed at me I had no idea of where to put this...Move if necessary..Thanks. Something has been bothering me and I think I have it figured out, but not totally sure. The girl that I have been sleeping with has been kept a bit of a secret from certain people..And one of those certain people found out that we were sleeping together. When she found out, She was pissed. At first I was confused, Why would she be pissed off and stop talking to me cause I was sleeping with a girl that she doesn't even get along that well with? She totally ignores me when we may happen to see eachother at a friends house or where ever. It's not like I was keeping this a huge secret from her...It's just that I never really talk about the girls i'm sleeping with to other girls. The only thing I can think of is that she liked me before she found this out...Why else would she act like I don't even exist anymore? Last weekend, I am sitting out on the step of my buddy's place and I see lorissa coming up the sidewalk...She walked right past me without even saying anything. I have had enough of her little attitude. My friend is not even dating this chick and he is so pussy whipped by her...He will do anything for her. She is a very attractive girl...But i am not gonna bend over backwards just to make lorissa happy. I really enjoyed hangin out with her and she was pretty cool, But I am seeing a whole new side of her...I don't think there is anyway of me fixing this. So does this sound like maybe she had a little crush on me or something? If not, Then why else would she be pissed at me? I would like to fix things between us, but I doubt it will work. Oh ya...And the girl that I was sleeping with is gone now, She was the one who told lorissa about the 2 of us...After I asked her to just keep quiet about the whole thing.

10-19-2003, 11:12 AM	#2 (permalink)
Baldrick We are everywhere... Location: Barrie, Ontario	Sounds like you got caught in the middle of a spat between the two of them - throw logic out the window. If Lorissa thinks so little of you to play the hate/ignore game, simply because you were seeing one of her "enemies", do you really need her friendship? __________________ You can be young only once, but you can be immature for the rest of your life...

10-19-2003, 01:16 PM	#3 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	Talk to Lorissa. Ask her what she is feeling and really listen. Maybe it is about your "bed buddy" -- maybe it is something completely different. You'll never know if you don't ask. __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.

10-19-2003, 05:10 PM	#6 (permalink)
IC3 Poison Location: Canada	Ok...Lorissa is my friend and Katrina is the girl that I was sleeping with. It's not that they hate eachother, They just don't hang out...I get the feeling that lorissa doesn't like her too much...But we have all partied together...So they can't hate eachother too much. I don't really care about katrina, She pissed me off when she opened her mouth...If at all possible, I would like to try and patch things up with lorissa....I am still pissed at lorissa for being so childish...But I want to find out why she is acting the way she is. Katrina is the one that didn't want certain people knowing about us...And I respected her wishes by not saying anything, Then she turns around and opens her mouth when I asked of the same thing from her...I hate when people do that. __________________ "To win any battle, you must fight as if you were already dead" -Musashi

10-20-2003, 12:01 AM	#7 (permalink)
guthmund big damn hero	I think you're just in the wrong place at the wrong time, little brud'ah. Katrina broke the "code of silence" to tell a girl she doesn't like? Sounds like she did it on purpose. Maybe she "sixth-sensed" Lorissa's crush on you (women seem to have an uncanny ability to do this) and told Lorissa just to hurt her. Lorissa is naturally upset because a-you didn't tell her; b-you did with Katrina, who Lorissa doesn't really like either. Of course, I'm neither a mentalist, nor do I know any of you guys personally. I am just a guy on the Internet who, at times, is just as full of shit as everyone else. __________________ No signature. None. Seriously.

10-19-2003, 01:37 PM	#4 (permalink)
rainheart Psycho	That is just bullshit, don't put up with her attitude. If she wants to be immature about it and ignore you like you've done something unspeakably terrible to her, then take the aggressive stance and just don't put up with her shit. Make her come to you and say that she's sorry, imo that seems like the appropriate conclusion to come to.

10-19-2003, 02:08 PM	#5 (permalink)
Journeyman Like John Goodman, but not. Location: SFBA, California	I can see your point, but the enemy of my enemy is my friend, what is the friend of my enemy? I'm curious as to what the girl you're sleeping with did to be so hated by your friend.

10-20-2003, 08:44 PM	#8 (permalink)
wry1 Loser Location: Far too far from my Angel....	You need to stop dating girls, and start dating women. There is a difference.... Girls get into these petty little bitch-fests and tend to do the whole hate/ignore or overdo it with the affection when there's a scene to be made. Women, on the other hand, are more reserved with their behavior - but if you piss them off, you're gonna' know it, buster! Look for some maturity in your next girlfriend/bed-buddy/FWB...whatever. It makes a whole lotta' difference down the road.