A rant:

[TinniT]

i moved out of my parent's place over a year ago. They had a digital camera by Nikon that ceased to function over a year ago. In that time, I did some research on it and found out how to fix it. I was able to fix it and allow it to funciton. In that time, my father htough tthat he would ahve to buy another digital camera becase the repair expenses ould noth be woth it. I fixed it and copied all the pictures to my computer.

Today, my mother called me, sounding like a customer that I get everyday, demanding me to send her all the pictures on the disc, though i'd sent it many times to both my father's and mother's email addresses, only to be declined by their addesses.

Am I wrong for telling my mother, "mom, you sound like a customer that i've had all day, and you are calling me right after I got off of work. you sound very rude to me the way you are talking to me. i'm doing my best, but we have to be realistic. good night."

Truth in the matter. I got off of work right as she called. I no logner live with them. Their digital camera no longer worked until I fixed the camera nd my father allowed me to use it after. I haven't deleted the photos on it prior, my mother only requested it and they are gone.

I haven't setup an FTP site becuase they cannnot use FTP software.


Any suggestions for getting les feisty with my mother regarding tis?

[Lebell]

Burn them to a CD if they can handle pulling pictures from one, otherwise, any decent camera/photo store can make great prints from a decent resolution .jpg file.

Either way you can get mom off your back w/o pissing anyone off.

Best of luck!

[LewisCouch]

The only thing I suggest is to be more patient with your parents. It sounds like you have a great relationship with them, and they rely on your expertise. Although it can be annoying dealing with people who are technically challenged, this person is your mom. She deserves your undivided attention. Good luck!

[Dano069]

I second Lebell's idea. Burn them a CD or get prints made. As for being rude, I don't think you crossed the line. Everyone has a bad day, moms and dads included. I've been on both sides of the situation. Good luck!

[alkaloid]

Most ISPs don't let you receive huge emails and they have limits on the mailbox sizes so emailing them is not likely to work. Just burn a CD for them.

[tekaweni]

<b>alkaloid</b> probably hit it on the nail, too big of an email.

I'd say burn a CD and pop it in the post. Doesn't take much to keep the old folks happy. They're usually not as tech-savvy as us, my mom's the same.

[wry1]

A factor in your conversation with your mother might be the whole parent/child dynamic. It took a few years (and a few thousand miles separation) before my mother finally discarded the behavior she used with me when I was growing up.

Be kind, but be firm. If they're rude, tell them that it's not appreciated, and that you'll be happy to help, but not necessarily to converse with her/him at this time. Suggest that they call back later, when nerves won't be as frayed as they are right now - especially with you just coming off work (stressful environment that it is).

You're an adult, you have the right to be treated cordially - especially by those you've done (or are doing) favors for. But you also have to return that politeness....even when you're not receiving it at that time.

But you can still be firm about it!

A quick example: My parents came to visit me, and we went to Las Vegas and did some sightseeing at the Grand Canyon. On the way back, my mother picks a fight with my father, then nurses a grudge the rest of the way when he finally snaps back at her sniping. The next day, she's griping to me about it, and I told her that she's lucky that it's Dad she's married to.....if it had been me, she'd still be walking back from the Grand Canyon!

Again, I was civil, but firm.